The 69 Myth

I think 69 is wonderful, but I cannot concentrate enough to cum. Much like what you described. I enjoy the feeling of a tongue on my clit very much, but with a cock in my throat, I cannot orgasm ever.

I don’t see 69 as end game sex, but more as kind of transition sex.

@JasonInVA

That is a great description - "transition sex". When we did it, we always went form a "69" position to one or the other concentrating on giving the other an orgasm - or leading into vaginal or anal sex. Hard to concentrate on your orgasm while trying to get your partner off. But "69" is still great foreplay - visual, smells, etc.

Although it surely is nice to be on the receiving end, I can never fully be satisfied with my partner without knowing she is satisfied and happy first and foremost. When in my 20s, my first major flame was a virtual nympho and, with her, I learned to delay my climax until she had hers. I even learned to climax multiple times without losing my erection, delaying it until I desired it. 69 has always remained a fav treat for me and I totally forget about my own receiving experience with her beautiful clit, vulva, and anus brushing against my face, while savoring her scent and delicious juices. I almost never climax with 69, knowing that my partner will next expect to be penetrated.

I like it with the lady on top and I do think it is more of foreplay than being able to get off at the same time. I never had it happen and I think there is just too much going on with smells,sights and feeling to get there. It does make for a hot warm up though.

I do like a 69 with the Lady on top. I have had several 69's where we both cum at the same time but this is not the norm, most time the Lady cums first as I like to make sure she does have an orgasm. Some times we would finish by her sucking me off and others with penitration.

69 is OK - but there's too much going on to really enjoy it. I like to focus of giving or receiving oral. Not at the same time.

I have had simultaneous orgasms a few times, only because I waited to release until she did. The real excitement is getting there. We were always clean and the ass licking got me turned on as much as the tongue on clit and in pussy. Then while resting a lot of manual playing led to further delights.

I've looked back over this thread and haven't seen too many gay guys chime in. There is something about 69 between men that lends itself to simultaneous orgasms IMHO. My buddy and I go from soft to hard to cum to soft again in rhythm. I think that being two dudes ramps us up together and helps us achieve the climax together. Maybe I'm just lucky, but this is my experience.

Soixante neuf, the French do have a way with words.

I'm not very good at multitasking. I can't give and receive at the same time. At least, I can't do it well. I prefer to concentrate on one or the other (or one, THEN the other).

This is one thing I don't multi task well. It is usually much better in my mind than in reality.

As Susie so adeptly states, the chances are slim that you will climax together but you concentrate on him and I am sure he will work on your end. LOL!

We just did it the other day.. the side twist was we both had our fingers in each others ass! She'll never admit it, but she loves anal. Ended with me dumping a lot of cum down her throat...

we both had our fingers in each others ass! She'll never admit it, but she loves anal. ..

Indeed. Just like my wife used to be. She liked it so much, but never a word about anything anal afterwards ...

When we first got together 69 was part of our usual routine. And it was extremely gratifying. But as time went by I could tell my wife wasn’t enjoying giving me a bj. Finally I asked her. She said she’d keep doing it but really didn’t enjoy it. That did it for me. I couldn’t enjoy something she really didn’t like. So no bjs anymore. No bjs no 69. Sad. I miss them both.

It has only happened once with my partner . I'm talking simultaneous orgasm via 69. Lying on the bed on our sides her with cock in mouth me with tongue aided by fingers down at her pussy. We both came off together, what a moment, it was awesome. Unfortunately it has never been repeated.

We usually fellate each other separately as she's not a big 69 fan. Too hard to concentrate on doing two things at once I believe.

Multi tasking, its a bit of a myth!!!

Usually when I'm in 69 position it's taking turns cause simultaneous is tough to concentrate and enjoy at the same time.

But I will say that I love anal 69. Only did that with two women but it was awesome. Naughty, naughty girls!

If I'm able to do it then the guy is terrible at oral. Typically if a partner is amazing at their oral sex game then I am not focused enough to give a proper blow job.

I prefer taking turns vs trying to multi-task. Also prefer the ‘giver" to be in front rather than the classic 69 position. Taking turns to maximize pleasure to each other is better - at least for us.

I’ve loved 69 with all the women I’ve been with because I get off on her pleasure. That said, the only one who could mutual orgasm with me every time we had sex was my ex who cuckolded me. She loved being filled with cum at all times, and would sleep with nearly every guy she met. I got to hear all the stories while she sat on my face with her cum-filled cunt. We both enjoyed when she would take off her creampie panties with a sticky gusset and make me wear them on my face while she rode me.

Our 69 sessions were amazing too because she could deep throat me, and she loved doing it. I loved seeing how far I could stick my tongue up her ass. The last time we had sex, as a kind of goodbye, she came over to my place, we chatted a bit, and eventually started getting undressed. She knew the drill and turned around as I laid on my back, and I peeled her panties to the side and started licking her. After getting my tongue further inside her pussy, I started tasting that distinctive chlorine smell, which prompted me to excitedly pause for a second to ask her “when was the last time you got fucked and filled?“ to which she replied “last night” (it was about lunch time that day). That made us both very excited; me knowing she was still getting the sperm she so desperately craved regularly, and her, feeding me this semen from her slutty hole, knowing it was the last time we would be intimate, making me clean her out and not letting me fuck the cum deeper into her like I usually would. I told her “thank you for bringing me his cum“ between breaths, alternating sucking her clit, trying to get the last bit of cum out of her, and plunging my tongue deep into her ass. Eventually, we were both reaching the point of no return, her hips gyrating ever more and me thrusting up into her throat, I asked where she wanted my cum, at which point she pushed her head down hard, forcing me into her throat all the way, and squeezed my balls quite hard as I felt her hole start to pulsate in my mouth, squeezing out one last drop of the load she had taken last night. She started moaning as I began pumping cum directly into her esophagus.

One of the best orgasms of my life.

I've found it virtually impossible to mutually orgasm in a 69 position. But I do it anyway because it is fun.

When my wife and I have sex she wants to have multiple orgasms and it's my job to see that she does. So if we're 69ing, always with her on top, that's foreplay. We will go until she gets off, then we'll rest for a while and watch some porn. After she comes her clit gets numb and it takes a bit before she is ready to go for #2. So for us 69ing has never been about mutual orgasms. It's just about her getting off the first time.

There is a far greater chance in 69 that the male will climax before the female. I know men you don't until you want to. LOL! Right, and I got some beautiful oceanfront property in Arizona that I will let go for a song and dance. It's just the way it is and I am not insulting your sexual powers. Here is something that works for us. The female gets on top but doesn't concentrate on the male until she gets worked up. No, it's not a guaranteed cum together thingy because the odds are against you but it does increase them. How would you like to see me on TV as Dr. D, Sex Counselor?

It is hard to climax simultaneously but I find that some give a take in this position still has its place and benefits. Having my face stuffed in my partner’s pussy greatly enhances a blowjob, even if I focused on her and brought her to an orgasm first or waited until after I had finished to do so.

69 is awesome but don’t be so focused on simultaneous climax. Cum when you cum, if one of you cums first, enjoy your orgasm then enjoy your partner’s. Giving pleasure is almost as good as getting it.

I cant offer a true or false fact on this subject since I was never one to let the position go to fruition. The problem being that I love licking a woman to orgasms and always moved out of 69 positions to better service her! 😜

The thing is, because of the uncomfortable position, I don't see myself going it long enough for climax.

@Pecan_nutjob : The uncomfortable position makes it easy for me to lick my wife to her orgasm, than we turn around and I relax and cum short time later

I like the woman on top. I love to stick my tongue up inside her vagina and suck the clit. It is so intense for her that she cannot concentrate on me. So she has the orgasm first. Then she pulls my balls out to the side and sucks them. That’s when I lose it. Awesome!

I suspect it isn’t a myth for everyone.

But personally I think a 69 is grossly overrated. It is similar to sex in the shower. Both are appealing to the imagination but not so fun in practice. I like to be kissing and looking into the eyes of my partner much of the time. To be as far away from her as possible and looking the other way is counter productive in my view.

But as ever, each to their own!