GUYS--Do you want a male or female REAL doctor

For me, a meaningful exam experience is about being powerless and submissive to the examiner. I like thinking about the fact that the doctor knows what is going to happen during the exam before he enters the exam room while I have to wait and see how it evolves. This creates an anxiety level that is exciting. I also like thinking that the examiner is going to compare my naked body to others he has seen as well as his own. I think male examiners are going to be more critical of another male than a female examiner would. I also prefer an older and very authoritative examiner. Therefore, I prefer a middle aged male examiner.

Doctor Bobby, I agree with you totally. The Female practitioners seem to avoid men's issues or just do a quick cursory exam. I know a man that died of Prostate Cancer because of this. I kept telling him, "Go to a Real Doctor and get that taken care of, all she is going to do is give you those pills." He was gone a few months later. This Female Doctor thing is alright for Political Correctness but when a guy needs male issue care he better get it .

Physical I do not think it is ok to accuse lady doctors of not being "real doctors". I have had problems getting on with some lady doctors but I have never thought they were not as able as the men and I am sure they know just as much. Some lady doctors looked after my husband when he was injured years ago and they were very good with him. Please keep your sexist comments to yourself.

The doctor's gender should not matter at all when treating a patient. Both male and female doctors receive an equal amount of training and education. If personal gender bias affects how they care for their patients, they have NO business wearing that lab coat.

"What about the straight males out there, would you mind if the doctor is a male or female"

I don't mind male doctors, but I tend to shop for female doctors & specialists. My dentist, previous dentist, gastroenterologist, dermatologist, candidates for my upcoming primary care physician, & of course masseuses, are all female.More comfortable (& used to) being nude in front of womenEnjoy being touched by womenAn incidental erection while being examined by a woman could be taken as a compliment to her, & in turn, a compliment to my manhoodWomen tend to have smaller gentler fingers for the rectal exam (not a big fan of rectal exams)

"...really into Mother/Son medical experiences. Is this kind of weird for me to have these feelings?"

No. Especially if your mother was there in the room during a lot of your physicals, medical experiences, etc. Or was asked by the doctor to do any follow up activities on her own. Her presence during exams & procedures & role in follow up observations or activities made her part of the process, and thus part of your fetish.

I WISH my attractive 40 something Indian female doctor would do a thorough genital exam.

I haven't had the pleasure of a good-looking female med pro touching and looking at my goodies since I was in my early 20s. It's rather frustrating and kind of depressing, actually.

I WISH my attractive 40 something Indian female doctor would do a thorough genital exam.

I haven't had the pleasure of a good-looking female med pro touching and looking at my goodies since I was in my early 20's. It's rather frustrating and kind of depressing, actually.

As a concerned patient, i don't see why you can't ask your doctor to perform a genital exam, expressing concern that you'd like a professional assessment to make sure everything's alright. Sometimes patients misdiagnose their own health, thinking things are alright. Example: I thought it was acne that was on my shoulder that i popped as a zit, but never quite healed. And I had what i thought was a bruise on the back of my hand for a good 10 years or more, though i couldn't remember how i got it.

Both turned out to be cancer. The skin on my hand was cut out down to the bone, as in, i actually looked down & saw one of my phalanges. My shoulder had to be stitched up twice as long as it was supposed to, with lots of oozing blood in the recovery process.

If your doctor is not willing to do a thorough exam to your satisfaction, it might be time to find one who will.

As a concerned patient, i don't see why you can't ask your doctor to perform a genital exam, expressing concern that you'd like a professional assessment to make sure everything's alright. Sometimes patients misdiagnose their own health, thinking things are alright. Example: I thought it was acne that was on my shoulder that i popped as a zit, but never quite healed. And I had what i thought was a bruise on the back of my hand for a good 10 years or more, though i couldn't remember how i got it.

Both turned out to be cancer. The skin on my hand was cut out down to the bone, as in, i actually looked down & saw one of my phalanges. My shoulder had to be stitched up twice as long as it was supposed to, with lots of oozing blood in the recovery process.

If your doctor is not willing to do a thorough exam to your satisfaction, it might be time to find one who will.

Agreed. I just don't want to push the issue and cause her to think I have some sort of prurient interest ( although I do kinda- LOL ) . I do have a couple of legit concerns, so it's not just for cheap thrills. I have a variocele in my left testicle that periodically bothers me, skin tags on my left inner thigh, and periodic pain and soreness after ejaculating. I would also rather incorporate it into my physical rather than take a day off just for those complaints.

I'm having my yearly checkup on Tuesday. It will be a new doctor since my pervious one retired in August. I was once again presented with the choice of male or female and I still picked a male.

Excluding my stint in The Air Force I have been seeking care from 2 female doctors since I was a teenager. I have become accustomed to being treated by a woman doctor-that's just the way things have turned out. I have sought some specialized care from other male doctors. I guess I am gender neutral about it. What is important is competency and respect above all.

I've had mostly male physicians and nurse practitioners administer my physical exams. The only physical I received from a female (nurse practitioner) recently was pretty disappointing as she neglected to check my prostate. I feel that's an essential element for a physical for a male past the age of 40 with a history of colo-rectal cancer in his family. Is that an unreasonable expectation? That being said, I would definitely be willing to try another female doctor.

My mom died from colon cancer. At annual exams starting when i was 33, the doc would strongly encourage me to get a colonoscopy, even though i was that young & some insurances don't want to cover that for a patient under a certain age. (finally got my first one a few weeks before i turned 39)

My dad died from prostate cancer. At annual exams starting when i was 40, prostate checks were offered, suggested, recommended.

Doctors usually ask during the exams if you have any questions or concerns. That's the time to mention concerns about your family's history, and your concern that your prostate has not been checked. If she has some reason for not wanting to do it, whether she says she doesn't perform them, or the insurance won;t cover it, whatever, then maybe it's time to move on to a new doctor.

i personally would prefer my prostate be checked by a female with smaller fingers, as opposed to a male with big fat fingers. So i'd keep searching til i'd find one. For me that exam tends to be painful & not enjoyable.

I do have a couple of legit concerns - a variocele in my left testicle that periodically bothers me, skin tags on my left inner thigh, and periodic pain and soreness after ejaculating

These issues should be included on the form or any paperwork you're given prior to the exam, so they have a head start how they'll like to address it, or be ready to address it, equipped or whatever. Then during the exam, the doctor should prompt you with questions or concerns, & that's the time you should be bringing these up that you mention. If the doctor fails to ask you if you have questions or concerns, you should go ahead by the end of the exam and mention them. Up until that point, you've basically had a "wellness exam", but without addressing the real issues, you're not getting the most out of your exam.

I realize these are very sensitive issues that may be rather difficult to bring up, but she has no way of knowing the issues you have unless you say something. For skin tags, she may refer you to a dermatologist, & apparently some insurances don't cover skin tags.

Odd thing is, in my email correspondence with her office prior to my scheduled visit, I voiced all these concerns. Yet she never mentioned them at my exam. Perhaps I should have been more assertive, but I didn't want her getting any wrong ideas.

I mentioned them again in an email last week, and the advice nurse on duty replied that I should schedule another appointment with her as soon as possible. My variocele is documented, as well as a past bout of prostatitis, so they know I'm not just blowing smoke up anyone's ass.

Could it be that my doc is overly concerned with MY modesty, and therefore won't broach the subject unless I myself bring it up? I just turned 46. No hernia check, no prostate check, no ball check. What am I missing here? What's wrong with this picture?

About 20 years ago I had an Asian female doctor that I was rather smitten with. I always behaved like a professional patient, but would see her for every little thing. Is it possible she could have put something in my medical record that said "this guy is nice but rather sketchy- watch him!" ?

My HMO is Kaiser Permanente and my doc is a general family practicioner. Could that have something to do with it?

You are the consumer. This is WHY you pay for the insurance. You need to speak up.

You are the consumer. This is WHY you pay for the insurance. You need to speak up.

I was about to say the same thing. Find another doctor that you feel does a more thorough exam.

Odd thing is, in my email correspondence with her office prior to my scheduled visit, I voiced all these concerns. Yet she never mentioned them at my exam. Perhaps I should have been more assertive, but I didn't want her getting any wrong ideas.

Perhaps because you've repeatedly mentioned it she's already got the 'wrong' idea? If I were in her position (I'm neither female nor a doctor, so clearly not), and a patient kept dropping hints like that, I would be very suspicious of their motives.

Perhaps because you've repeatedly mentioned it she's already got the 'wrong' idea? If I were in her position (I'm neither female nor a doctor, so clearly not), and a patient kept dropping hints like that, I would be very suspicious of their motives.

Considering my past documented medical history, I don't why why she'd think that. I DO have a testicular variocele, I DID had a past bout of prostatitis, I did experience premature ejaculation issues when I was in my 20s- all that stuff is on record. I also stayed completely limp during both my exam and my ultrasound ( both by attractive female staffers, no less ) .

All that combined should prove that my concerns are legit, regardless of whatever lingering fantasies might be in my head.

I DO have a testicular variocele, I DID had a past bout of prostatitis, .

Any kind of follow up or attention to these issues you want or feel you need, you can make that the purpose of your visit. As one suggestion, schedule an appointment to specifically address those areas. See what happens.

Then eventually the doc may incorporate them into your regular physical, knowing you are concerned to closely monitor these things. if you're told that you have to monitor & them them know if there's a problem, but you don't experience a problem, then i don't know what to tell ya.

Some months back my former landlord, a very nice man, died from prostate cancer. I'm wondering if I should tell my doctor this. And then make a point of telling her that she has permission to do whatever she needs to do, because I could care less about privacy or modesty- I'm trying to stay alive.

Would much rather a female doctor!

ILuvLadyDocs - If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't.

Think about it from her position. A currently asymptomatic male patient who has a past issue with a variocele and prostatitis has had a friend die of prostate cancer and is inviting her to carry out an intimate examination which most men would shy away from and isn't necessarily clinically indicated.

Now it might be she doesn't consider it necessary and hasn't explained this, but have you considered that she might just be suspicious that you're getting a thrill out of it, or that she feels threatened by the number of suggestions you're dropping that you want her to do an unnecessary intimate exam?

The last thing you want is an entry in your medical notes that suggests your intentions are not genuine. Whilst I don't know how things work in the US, I can imagine if a doctor here suspected your motives weren't innocent, you'd be deregistered from their practice PDQ and it would have a consequential effect on which doctors would accept you as a patient in the future.

You don't want that, do you?

ILuvLadyDocs, i think tjc is right. However.......

There are ways you can approach the subject safely & seemingly innocently. You can ask your doctor if she thinks your landlord's death from prostate cancer could have been prevented from being checked up until what stage before it would've been too late. You can ask your doctor if she knows what percentage of males in a given age bracket get prostate cancer. You can ask your doctor how you might develop prostate cancer if you don't have a family history.

Basically a safe approach would be from a naive desire to be educated (regardless of whether or not you already are,). Then let your doctor take it from there. But like tjc is advising, i wouldn't make an overt invite for her to do something contrary to her normal procedure. Not likely to have positive consequences

I've seen her twice ( with a one-year interval in between ) and never once popped a boner in her presence. I think that my limp wiener, combined with a totally normal heart rate and pulse, as well as my matter-of-fact demeanor, should kill any perv / creeper vibe. Not to mention that I stayed limp during my testicular exam and ultrasound.

I've complained twice about my condition via e-mail, but haven't mentioned it since. I never mentioned it AT ALL during my office visits with her. I also haven't seen her since, and don't expect to until my next physical a year from now. If I were a true medfet creeper, I'd be bothering her constantly for stupid little intimate shit.

Years back when I had my PE issues, I attended a men's sexual health seminar that my HMO was putting on, and even got a Viagra prescription. I also had a cytoscopy from a male doctor when I had a rather nasty bladder infection. All that stuff is on record. With my past medical history, I think that more than establishes my legitimacy as a patient, don't you think?

Thanks to feminazis, religious nuts, and our glorious Puritan heritage, men are hated and feared ( along with our anatomy ), and all our motives are considered suspect. These days a guy can't even hug his own daughter, or visit a female doctor for an intimate health concern, without somebody looking at him funny and the whispers starting.

Fucking humans. People are always talking about saving the human race. As dumb, backward, and ignorant as we are sometimes, why even bother?

I would prefer to have a female Doctor for my testicular and rectal exams.

As a straight, some might (falsely) say homophobic, male, my primary care doctor is male. I find his examining my genitals and performing a DRE humiliating. I believe being examined by a woman would actually be less embarrassing than being examined by a man. However, it would undeniably add a sexual dimension, which is not the same thing as an erotic dimension. Anyway, for that reason, I would feel weird changing to a female PC physician. I know that it would be a total non-issue for the doctor. And, no I would not have any tendency to get an erection.

One of my doctors, a specialist, who has occasion to examine me intimately is gay. It is interesting to me that his examining me is less embarrassing than my very hetero PC guy doing it. No, though he is my favorite doctor because of his competency and courtesy, I do not have any interest in the gay guy, either.

OK how do you actually know the sexual preference of said doctors?

OK how do you actually know the sexual preference of said doctors?

In one case, I know him and his family personally. The other, I know people who know him well. Surely, there are people in your community whose sexual orientation you know or are, at least, reasonably certain of. No?

Don't really care as long as they're professional and know what they're doing

Don't really care as long as they're professional and know what they're doing

Exactly, that is the way it should be!