I think the age factor plays a part, along side the physical, I know that when my bad knee aches and I'm tired and not feeling too sexy, I feel my age more and my labido less!
Doesn't help that my husband at 46 has near enough given up wanting anything sexual these days, and I do wonder if it's age, or does he just not fancy me anymore?
That in itself makes me feel worse, then the labido takes a dive, and I guess it's a self forfilling prophecy.. The more he rejects me, the less I care.. Until we no longer make the effort.
It's a huge shame, as I am an extremely sexual person, and have had to have extra marital affairs to relieve my need for sexual attention, the need just to be touched, needed and wanted in that way is still there.
It does make me sad that after 28 years together he can ignore that side of our relationship. Believe me I have tried discussing it. He just seems to have turned his sexual side off.
The rest of our marriage is fine, and we are happy, but it does feel like I am living with my brother at times!