Does libido decrease with age?

This is an interesting question, based on pure observation and with due respect to those females that have maintained or seen more libido in later age. It seems men's libido increases as does their willingness to explore and experiment with their sexuality. You can see that by the far higher number on this site and similar ones. I know mine has grown and my wife's has diminished.

I feel like my sexual hunger intensifies the older I get, so it's a definitive NO for me.

I feel like my libido has remained rather consistent/constant as I approach 50, and I truly hope that it stays this way or intensifies in the coming months and years. I'm more in touch with my sexuality, wants, needs, and desires now than I have ever been and expect all of these to continue to improve.

I am mid forties and I have a very high libido it got more intense after I had my tubes tied . I hope that my passion for passion continues for sometime yet .

Definitely has not decreased for me!

64 years old and still ready to go 3 or 4 times a week. Actually, my erotic interests have become more varied with age.

I masturbate much less than I used to but unless I have taken some medication that dulls my libido (I have had several medical issues in recent years) I am still pretty damn horny often multiple times a day.

In fact in at least one way I have increased with age. Most of my life I have had a very difficult time having an orgasm during sex and would need to pull out and be finished off with a blow job hand job combo. We are busy and often are unable to make time for sexual fun but do at times just look at each other and she will be like "Now" ? Than straight off to have a quickie. Not much foreplay, just a pull of her panties and get down to business kinda situation.

Now I can often finish from sex alone. I am the opposite of the stereotype of a young guy having no lasting power and just getting off after a few thrusts into a girl.

I am now able.. At least quite regularly to have proper sex for a decent amount of time and than ejaculate during sex like most people do. I always wondered why this was difficult for me to do. I'm thinking maybe it just took the right girl to make it happen. I'm happy I married her.

I think about sex just as much now as when I was in my 20s. However I don’t masturbate as often.

In my case most definitely! Interesting though, at 74 I feel like I'm going full-circle - returning to my interests at 13; when my source of erotica and material to masturbate over were the numerous ads in catalogs and women's magazines showing girdles and swimsuits. I knew little about real sex back then - it was simply images of women wearing these garments and the way crotch fabric looked that excited me.

Erections, yes, but libido, no. Still going strong at 67, just requiring more kink gear (sneakers, rubber clothes, restraints, enemas) to stimulate orgasms now with bad ED. Still enjoy every orgasm, especially during enemas.

Eric

The last several years my libido and, creativity have drastically increased, as has my participation in more intense and sometimes longer scenes and sessions. It seems I want to do things I have not experienced ,and I'm making good use of the teachings and experience I have been fortunate to garner.. Life is better being retired with less stress.

I’m an 18 Year old stuck in a 65 year old body! I am enjoying my kinky side, always looking for new things to try.

I wondered if it wasn't the libido that decreased but the attention that decreased. If one receives less sexual or intimate attention from their partner does that decrease their interest in sex? Life and health can get in the way of the amount of attention that is given.

As a late bloomer, I would say my libido and sexual appetite are INCREASING rather than decreasing. I may not be as energetic or flexible as I was earlier in life but, at 60, I feel like I am finally giving myself the permission to really explore my sexuality. I think it all begins in the mind anyway!

I wondered if it wasn't the libido that decreased but the attention that decreased. If one receives less sexual or intimate attention from their partner does that decrease their interest in sex?Life and health can get in the way of the amount of attention that is given.

Yes! So very true - a vicious cycle where I pay less sexual attention, and in turn then receive less, and so on and on. My problem is the more familiar I am with someone, the less I find them sexy because they appear like family, and in that role it feels incestuous, despite my knowing that is not - my sexual desire is gone.

I saw that I first posted a response here almost a decade ago, not quite though. Anyway, my answer still stands if by libido one means interest and desire for sexual activity of any kind. A

And my answer was, that while the physical recharging between activity/orgasms may be getting longer, the desire for and interest in sex sometimes feel stronger and more intense than in middle age. Is that because of a 'going out with a holler' mentality, a 'last hurrah'? I don't think it's that though, more like finally coming to grips with one's own personal quirks and predilections and just accepting them for what they are. And then being able to finally do what you can to enjoy them in real life.

As a late bloomer, I would say my libido and sexual appetite are INCREASING rather than decreasing. I may not be as energetic or flexible as I was earlier in life but, at 60, I feel like I am finally giving myself the permission to really explore my sexuality. I think it all begins in the mind anyway!

anna - I think you're right on many levels. With age, you reach a point of not caring, or not having the time to care much anyway. If something is fun then why not do it? 'You're a long time dead' as they say. But as a lady at 60, can you share with us whether you've managed this feat after the age of menopause with the help of HRT or without it? You have my respect whichever way you chose.

@BulgeInPants

anna - But as a lady at 60, can you share with us whether you've managed this feat after the age of menopause with the help of HRT or without it? You have my respect whichever way you chose.

No HRT just enough lube that I should buy some stocks in the company!

To paraphrase Bob Bloch, I have the libido of a fourteen year old boy. I keep it in a jar on my desk.

The sex drive is still strong at 70, however the ability to perform has diminished considerably. Nothing wrong with my digital and oral skills, however.

I posted earlier that my libido/desire hasn’t decreased at all. Like others I still feel like a 14 year old. At 71 fortunately no loss of erection capability but climaxing is harder to achieve. That is sort of a blessing, I can enjoy the process longer. ?

I, too, am seeing my libido increase over time. I'm now hungrier than ever...

I would also say my libido has increased with age. I'm as horny now as I was when I was a teenager. Can't keep my hands off my wife. Masturbate nearly every day.

Read Zity with a throbbing erection a few times a day. ?

Likewise! Hence my Username...

I posted earlier that my libido/desire hasn’t decreased at all. Like others I still feel like a 14 year old. At 71 fortunately no loss of erection capability but climaxing is harder to achieve. That is sort of a blessing, I can enjoy the process longer. ?

Interesting to read - I'm the reciprocal; at 75, no problem reaching a powerful climax*, but erection capability has tapered off. *Use of Flomax has caused retrograde ejaculations which take the fun of shooting shooting a big load.

@reddevil It's been said many times on this site: IT SUCKS GETTING OLD!!!!

I never thought as a man I would even say this but as I cross 50 starting to have little less interest in it.

No I am 64 and I have less libido than when I was 20.

Difficult to ejaculate more than once a day.

At 68, I have the feeling that my libido is the same as when I was 15 or 20. I am still as much turned on by a nice loiking girl. But my physical ability to express this libido though sexual activities has probably diminished. LOL

I think my libido has remained the same for many years. I either have sex or masturbate daily. Sometimes more than once for masturbation. I'm no retired and have more time to enjoy.

I am 69 and think about sex a lot during most days, just as I did when in my 20's. Masterbation is a regular thing, several times a day but these days not always to ejaculation. Also over the past year I cannot get the full hard erection that was normal for me, other than waking up in the early morning with it as present as ever, but during the day no way no matter how much I want one.

For me, the intensity of sexual pleasure hasn't changed much at age 73 although I find that I don't need sex as often as I did when I was much younger. However, to my great disappointment, my wife's libido has greatly diminished. She is very close to my age. I love her deeply and we have a wonderful, compatible relationship. But I honestly don't know how to handle the fact that she simply doesn't need or want erotic intimacy any more. Is she just supposed to pretend? Am I not supposed to notice this change? I feel as though something important and beautiful has vanished forever.