Request for relief in hospital.

I... anyone who thinks its even remotely possibly to ask healthcare workers of any description for sexual relief needs theyre head examined.

It shows you have no respect for the people or the profession.

You'd probably be "amazed" at many of the expectations that we encounter as nurses. i find this discussion fascinating because it demonstrates that, even though some of the expectations i encounter as a nurse are way out of line, there are some people who have those expectations and consider them okeedokee. i can't remember the last time i was shocked or surprised by a patient or their friend/family member.

There are some in our society that have an entitlement attitude and they are clueless when it comes to boundaries. To me it isn't the notion of presenting a proposition that is outrageous, i think sex is natural and normal. It's the presumption and entitlement attitude that some people have when they express their needs or wants that i find obnoxious.

So.......When did we turn Medical care facilities into Brothels ???

WE DIDN'T

This is a hypothetical discussion in case you didn't notice.

ORIGNIAL POST

"I have heard stories that you can request sexual relief in some hospitals ie nurse giving masturbation,no guarantees that you will get a pretty nurse to adminster the important task ! ......I have read stories of it happening also in private hospitals and nursing homes,what could be more natural and relaxing for the patient to keep them happy."

The original post seemed to imply that "masturbation" service was available in some hospitals and nursing homes based on STORIES he read. I assume those STORIES were FICTION vs non-fiction. The original poster is no longer active on ZITY so we can't get a source reference. Maybe in a Holistic Clinic??

I have seen articles about an increase (or simply more awareness) of sex and STD's in retirement homes. Looking forward to my turn.....

Theres another way:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ldy4LOgvUCw

Theres another way:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ldy4LOgvUCw

Where can I buy one?

Where can I buy one?

It mentions that a portable sperm extractor could be the next device, presumably cheaper than the $13K the hospital one costs!

Well no I don't think Nurses should (or are ever likely to) offer sexual favours, but @roscoe did raise an interesting point a while down this thread about hand relief for those facing a lifetime of inability to masturbate.

That comment jogged by mind about a UK disability documentary a few years back in which the main wheelchair bound character we follow briefly mentioned some Nordic country where this service is offered, adding ‘Well that’s what I call service!' in a humorous tone.

Google couldn't find that, but did find a Taiwan charity called Hand Angel offering this service to those who would never be able to themselves:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Raz-5vDpHoA

https://www.elitereaders.com/hand-angels-taiwan/

https://closeronline.co.uk/real-life/opinion/hand-angel-charity-vow-help-physically-disabled-people-masturbate/

It's food for thought, that someone willing should be able to help disabled people reach orgasm in a safe, non-exploitative way.

Maybe I should add this to my “ activity repertoire ” lol

You have to find the right hospital. I think the Catholic ones show some promise especially the one called “Our Lady of the Blessed Hand Job”

Oh my goodness…that machine would be an amazing addition to my bedroom… get me one LOL

Maybe I should add this to my “ activity repertoire ” lol

@Secret_sub If you need practice, I'm sure you would find a lot of volunteers here!!

@Secret_sub If you need practice, I'm sure you would find a lot of volunteers here!!

@Rigel LOL

Theres another way:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ldy4LOgvUCw

@Public_Enema,

After looking at this video and subtitles, I’m frankly surprised that any guy too embarrassed to provide his own semen sample(s) by hand to the hospital or clinic would be willing to use this machine. In my early 20’s I gave 3 separate semen samples a week apart to a NYC sperm bank in the 1970’s with no problem during any of them, using their usual locked private donation room. I’d have been much more self-conscious about it if they offered me that machine to help me.

Eric

Kinda believe this is fake - at least as a medical device - or if true, is there really a market for them?? Seems maintenance/cleanliness would be a burden on the staff.

Imagine, lining them up like treadmills, or urinals in a restroom and trying to have a conversation with someone next to you while screwing a fake vagina. All the while wondering who used it just before you!!

This reply posted in this thread in 2018:

Not masturbation, but anyone that has seen Road Trip knows you can get Professional Assistance from a nurse. 😜

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-rtUvlR1pZE

I never saw this movie, but the clip is written and filmed to show the horny 20-something patient asking for relief and the nurse telling him she’s giving him a brief prostate massage.

1) this is a movie, but here we’re discussing real life and real licensed nurses.

2) even if she did give him a transrectal prostate massage, if it ever leaked out that she had done it, I think she’d be hard-pressed to explain why she really did it and why she should be allowed to keep her job and nursing license.

Eric

Theres another way:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ldy4LOgvUCw

That looks more like a sex toy than a medical device. I might consider installing one at home!!!! 😄

That looks more like a sex toy than a medical device. I might consider installing one at home!!!! 😄

@Rigel,

More power to you if you have $13K lying around! I never had any interest in devices like that, so I’ll pass on one of these at home and stick to being old school. Much more fun for me.

Eric

Theres another way:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ldy4LOgvUCw

When I clicked, the ad before the video was about men wanting to increase their penis size. I clicked again to see what other ad would pop up but it wasn't as interesting, it was from Capital One.

I hope anyone who gets one enjoys it. I just wonder what happens if you're not able to pull out or turn it off. It may be better to just use one in a clinic. That way it's less embarrassing than having an EMT come to your home.

This device is Chinese. Not sure if it is actually in use as a medical device or what. Might be interesting to try it. I wouldn't care if they were all lined up with others. Chinese aren't too bashful. After all, their public toilets are all open with your goodies and everything else hanging out for others to see. I did a tour there once & unless you were at a major hotel , you either used them or held it.

@CassieST

The device commercial is after the Capitol One.

It seems to be a clinical masturbation machine and looks to be petty well designed. The user stands in front of the machine, insets their penis into the silicone sleeve, and the machine massages them to orgasm. In addition to in-and-out motion, the sleeve appears to squeeze the use's penis. Could be fun

Idk what country you are in but here in the USA you might get slugged if you ask a nurse to do that having nurses in the family

@BulgeInPants i believe it’s Amsterdam that issues free passes to the disabled to visit sex workers . Countries outside of the US have successfully tackled Universal healthcare , sexual reproductive health ,STDs( currently STDs are at epidemic level in US , the CDC has issued multiple advisories in the last year about it) and even prostitution and porn , for “normal” people arranging a certain scene with a sex worker is recorded and distributed by the government Doesn’t matter what your kink somebodies asked for it before . And of course in other countries sex workers are respected career, union jobs , with regulations protecting hygiene and health of all involved and even retirement .citizens from some other advanced nations see the US as never having matured from a prohibition era underground sleazy speak easy ,for all our all alledged “Freedom “ living wages, honorable comfortable retirement , healthcare are still luxuries the politicals can’t wrap there heads around providing to its citizens .

Interesting conversation regarding nurses providing “relief” for men in the hospital. Not certain about that “relief” but there are other ways for female nurses and men to interact. I had big-time heart surgery and after the operation was placed in critical-care for two days and then transferred to another less intense room. The critical care nurse checked me every few hours and once I was sort of awake she began a wipe-down sort of bath. And she made certain to spend time on my private parts. And yes I was able to provide an erection to which she claimed “beautiful” you will be moved out of critical care shortly.

I guess it really boils down to whether your health plan is a HMO, or PPO. 🤷‍♂️💦🍆

That's what urban myths are - stories told so often, with no verifiable evidence they are factual, that some folks believe them.

No doubt, there is the occasional nurse, aide, or other hospital employee willing to lend a hand, so to speak, but that would be a personal choice on the part of the hand lender. 😂

On the other hand (did I REALLY say that? 🤪) the chances of being verbally (at the very least) chastised for requesting such assistance is probably astronomical.

Never have, nor would I ever request something like that from a healthcare worker (especially after some of the sadistic nurses that I have met over the years). Although I will admit that on one trip to the urologist (after being put on medication for prostate enlargement that is notorious for causing erectile dysfunction) after admitting that I was having a very hard time getting it up, the urologist wanted a semen sample. My reaction was to raise an eyebrow and say “just how do you propose that we come up with that?”. Her response was to go off of the meds for 24 to 48 hours, produce the sample, and go back on the meds. 6 weeks later, I was able to produce a sample for them.

3 years ago, I had both knees replaced. Afterwards, the put me on a nursing home because I lived alone and didn't have someone around in case I fell or something. About 3 days after I was there an aid came in and said she was going to give me a bath.

Since I was I'm mu chair, she put my walker in front of me and helped me stand up and took off my gown (yes, i was standing naked). She stood behind me and proceeded to wipe me down, head to toe. With a soapy warm cloth, rinsing after each area. When she reached my crotch, she washed my butt. Then reached underneath to do my scrotum. It felt really good and gave me an instant hard on. She she then reached around and did my belly and my penis. She paused briefly as I was hard, and then gave me about 4-5 strokes with the washcloth. I don't think she was trying to get me off, but I was so stimulated at that point that it very well could have happened. I sat down and she covered me and did my legs and feet. As she moved me around, I know she got a good view of my still-erect penis. I really was hoping she would finish me off, but didn't. ☹️

@BulgeInPants i believe it’s Amsterdam that issues free passes to the disabled to visit sex workers .

It is a bit more nuanced than that. This is an issue that easily lends itself to dramatization and hyperbole.

It seems two things are being conflated. First that the disabled are allowed to spend their benefits as they wish and that includes visits from or to sex workers if they so wish. No one has a say in how the disabled spend their government income.

It also touches on whether a doctor prescribed sex worker visit/therapy can be reimbursed by the health insurance as has happened in the past. It turns out that no, this is no longer done.

https://www.mic.com/articles/85201/the-surprising-way-the-netherlands-is-helping-its-disabled-have-sex

https://skeptics.stackexchange.com/questions/27392/does-the-netherlands-goverment-fund-hookers-for-the-handicapped#:~:text=In%20the%20Netherlands%2C%20citizens%20with,chance%20to%20explore%20their%20sexuality.

https://www.dutchnews.nl/news/2022/01/questions-over-state-funded-sex-care-for-people-with-a-disability-in-amsterdam/

There are also private organizations that offer sex services for the disabled. But these are not government funded. They are private companies and from the article (201😎 their fees are comparable to what a normal sex worker would charge in a store-front brothel (around 50 euros per 15 min).

https://dutchreview.com/culture/relationships/sex-care-in-the-netherlands-helping-the-disabled-find-intimacy/

That's what urban myths are - stories told so often, with no verifiable evidence they are factual, that some folks believe them.

No doubt, there is the occasional nurse, aide, or other hospital employee willing to lend a hand, so to speak, but that would be a personal choice on the part of the hand lender. 😂

Nurses in the US are licensed and CNAs are certified. One would risk losing their license or certification and their job if they were caught providing any type of sexual or inappropriate service to a patient. For a nurse, this could result in tossing years of training and job opportunities down the drain. The medical facilities themselves could face fines and/or loss of certification if they did not address improper behaviors by their staff. If a patient request a sexual favor - that could be construed as sexual harassment and reported.

If it does happen, my guess it is extremely rare - and not at all professional.

I didn't get relief.

Didn't ask for it.

Not claiming she was trying to do it.

Not my fault I got erect.

It is what it is.