Request for relief in hospital.

I hope PRIVATEPARTS comes to New York some day. I look forward to selling him a bridge I own in Brooklyn.

I hope PRIVATEPARTS comes to New York some day. I look forward to selling him a bridge I own in Brooklyn.

You can't sell that bridge.. It's been in my family for YEARS!

If you make the "will you masturbate me to relieve me?" request with a smile you both might have a good laugh over it.

@roscoe Uh, No one is ENTITLED to sexual gratification!! While many feel it is a requirement for life, it is not. And if someone is injured enough to break both arms, do they really get that horny? I bet the rest of their body is pretty injured too!

Thx @Mashie and @drgiggles for bringing this post back to reality. Doesn't anyone understand that a JOB is a JOB, even to healthcare workers?? They work hard to help people recover. They don't give a crap about our kinks!!

For CJ1999 and the others mentioned here. Either you did not read my post or are very uncaring people. I am talking about "paralyzed" young people in nursing homes NOT someone who has a broken arm that is going to heal in time. These young ones were old enough to have known the pleasure of sex and will no longer be able to enjoy that unless a caretaker will do something for them. They are prisoners in their own bodies until Morpheus comes to claim them. Would you really like to be about 18 facing a possibly long life with no pleasure at all? I feel quite certain their desires didn't suddenly vanish just because they became unable to help themselves.

roscoe said

For CJ1999 and the others mentioned here. Either you did not read my post or are very uncaring people. I am talking about "paralyzed" young people in nursing homes NOT someone who has a broken arm that is going to heal in time. These young ones were old enough to have known the pleasure of sex and will no longer be able to enjoy that unless a caretaker will do something for them. They are prisoners in their own bodies until Morpheus comes to claim them. Would you really like to be about 18 facing a possibly long life with no pleasure at all? I feel quite certain their desires didn't suddenly vanish just because they became unable to help themselves.

I know what you are saying. While masturbating a patient could be thought of as a therapeutic procedure and the patient would benefit emotionally from it while stuck in a hospital, our society is too hung up to consider it. It's a slippery slope. If I knew I wouldn't get in trouble for doing it, I would do it for an incapacitated patient.

I am talking about "paralyzed" young people in nursing homes NOT someone who has a broken arm that is going to heal in time.

@roscoe Wow, somehow I missed the word "paralyzed" in your post. My bad. But... same answer actually. It's not a nurses job to provide sexual relief. If it was, that would mean male nurses too, right? And 60 yr old white haired grandmother nurses?

After a bit of reading it seems like quadriplegics can/may have some sexual function/pleasure, but it would take a lot of time and a loving partner to do it. It's not as easy as a 5 minute wank of a healthy person.

The original post didn't say anything about being paralyzed. But even if you are, I think it's kinda insulting to put a professional nurse/doctor/aide/whatever in the role of being a sex provider regardless of the situation. And where do you draw the line, if someone did masturbate me, next time would I ask for a prostate massage? I have close family friends and I wouldn't ask them for a favor like that while visiting in the hospital...... that's just me.

Susie

If you would do it, would you do it for any patient? 18 year old jock with a big dick? 75 year old with Parkinsons and incontinence?

. . . . Susie

If you would do it, would you do it for any patient? 18 year old jock with a big dick? 75 year old with Parkinsons and incontinence?

If there were no rules against it or repercussions I would do it for any patient that requested it--but not all day long. I have other patients to treat. The fact is very few people, especially if they are really ill, are interested in being "relieved."

Why does the size of their penis make a difference to you?

DON'T LIE TO ME.

If it didn't make a difference, you would not have asked.

Nurses are there to care for you, not provide you with sexual relief!

Off topic, I came in front of a doctor during a prostate exam and he didn’t take any notice whatsoever. He said it was normal. Umm.. yeah.. okay.. sure.

If there weren't biased feelings against a nurse helping you out, how would this be different from getting you an additional blanket, helping a weak patient to the bathroom or getting you a new cold pitcher of water?

Why does the size of their penis make a difference to you?

I thought giving a hand job to a young hot guy would be more appealing than an older shriveled up fat guy. Some people associate virility with penis size - not me of course, it would damage my ego.

If there weren't biased feelings against a nurse helping you out, how would this be different from getting you an additional blanket, helping a weak patient to the bathroom or getting you a new cold pitcher of water?

I think I understand where you're coming from if there is some therapeutic value and it's good for the patient - but where do you draw the line? If there weren't biases, how would this be different than getting a bottle of water, or giving an erotic enema, blow job, or rim job?

If there weren't biased feelings against a nurse helping you out, how would this be different from getting you an additional blanket, helping a weak patient to the bathroom or getting you a new cold pitcher of water?

@SwitchableSusie Uh... because its a sex act... and that makes it different? I can ask my daughter to get me water, my mother to get a blanket, my sister to help me get into the bathroom if I am unable. But asking them to jack me off?? Are you kidding me? It’s not BIASED feelings against nurses, its common decency to not ask nurses to become sex workers!

. . . . I think I understand where you're coming from if there is some therapeutic value and it's good for the patient - but where do you draw the line? If there weren't biases, how would this be different than getting a bottle of water, or giving an erotic enema, blow job, or rim job?

Sometimes you just have to use your judgement and do what feels comfortable to you. If I didn't want to jerk or suck you off or give an erotic enema, you could ask another nurse if she would do that for you. I suppose if you couldn't find someone to do it for you, you would just be out of luck. The healing arts are part science and part empathy. Most patients appreciate a good bedside manner.

It's a slippery slope.

Hello double entendre.

These young ones were old enough to have known the pleasure of sex and will no longer be able to enjoy that unless a caretaker will do something for them. They are prisoners in their own bodies until.

i think this is an interesting thought, but i think it presumes stuff that isn't necessarily true. For instance, i saw an ad on CL (more than once) posted by a young guy who lived in a skilled nursing facility (SNF) looking for another guy to have sex with. He explained his challenges and and was very open about his needs.

Having physical challenges does not equal an inability to get sex similarly to the way others do, i.e., the person may be a prisoner of their own body to some degree, but that doesn't mean they are a prisoner and their caretaker is their only resource. i think it would be presumptuous to expect the duty of sexual relief to fall to the caregiver, nurse or otherwise, unless it was a pre arranged agreement (sex worker is not in any healthcare scope of practice that i am aware of).

Like others here (prolly most lol), i think we are all affected, to some degree, by cultural standards we may disagree with. i think it would be unreasonable to expect nurses to add sex worker their scope of practice, but i think an argument could be made for having such services available in hospital provided by people who have chosen that as a profession.

So when your S/O not too happily finds out you jacked or sucked off a patient you can tell them “ hey , its all part of my job description “????

Ummm NOOOO !

There are things that are considered theraputic and good for a patients well being, but anything sexual is a whole other ballgame and should be left to other “ professionals “ .

As an aside, Re those who think they are alone and pleasuring their self undercover and in the privacy of their own room, keep in mind we might notice through other ways. i work in critical care and all our patients wear cardiac telemetry. We can all see when your heart starts to race ;-).

As an aside, Re those who think they are alone and pleasuring their self undercover and in the privacy of their own room, keep in mind we might notice through other ways. i work in critical care and all our patients wear cardiac telemetry. We can all see when your heart starts to race ;-).

That's no different from being sent home with a halter and told they want you to have sex while you wear it.

That's no different from being sent home with a halter and told they want you to have sex while you wear it.

lmao. We see one particular 'rhythm' fairly frequently on telemetry and generally figure the patient is brushing their teeth or indulging in a bit of pleasantry. It's one we have to check on the patient for though because it looks like V tach. We've interrupted more than a few in the process.

Just some statistics on this thread.

This topic started out 8 years ago, March 2010. Within a week, only 4 posts.

Then 2 months ago & 8 years later, this topic got picked up again, and led to another 20 posts.

Within the last 24 hours or so, an additional 25 posts precipitated, which collectively seems like a heated debate that intensified, where it almost seems like folks are overthinking this.

What may one day happen is some patient might get out of line with a nurse, and someone following this thread is going to spark up the conversation "We had a discussion about this..."

Within the last 24 hours or so, an additional 25 posts precipitated, which collectively seems like a heated debate that intensified, where it almost seems like folks are overthinking this.

Your statistics are correct, your inferences are not.

@JTMAC

And your point is??

Your statistics are correct, your inferences are not.

@SwitchableSusie Was there even an inference? I didnt see one.

As I said below, this is a SEX ACT! If you are convalescing at home, and you wouldnt ask your MOTHER to do something for you, don't ask your nurse!! It's that simple. Nurses are not there to relieve your sexual tensions. As @bridgette says, if I married a nurse, should I have to ask how many patients she jacked off that day?? Catch any cum in your mouth?? Nurses didnt go to school for years, putting up with all sorts of stress and difficult situations, cleaning up the most disgusting human conditions... to be relegated to jack off horny patients. That's just insulting.

Nurses and patients are NOT on equal footing. They are not 2 separate individual consenting aduts deciding to have sex. This is why Drs/patients, lawyers/clients, bosses/subordinates are forbidden to have sex in many industries/companies. No woman I may be involved with should ever have to deal with an asshole exposing his dick and propositioning her on the job, no matter what job she has.

JTMAC, I am sorry but I fail to see the point you were trying to make on your last post .

I can tell you ( I guess its not obvious to you) that threads are often resurrected months and years after they seem to go to the zity graveyard for many reason .

New people are always joining, people take breaks, have new and different experiences; thus changing their opinions etc .

I have seen some “ heated debates” here on Zity , trust me this is far from one of them .

As far as the rest of your post ....isnt that the point of having a discussion board ?

CJ1999 said

@SwitchableSusie Was there even an inference? I didn't see one.

THIS is the inference. JTMac said it, no one implied it. He said "it seems like a heated debate. . . . "

JTMac said

Within the last 24 hours or so, an additional 25 posts precipitated, which collectively seems like a heated debate that intensified, where it almost seems like folks are overthinking this.

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Bridgette said

I can tell you ( I guess its not obvious to you [JTMac] ) that threads are often resurrected months and years after they seem to go to the zity graveyard for many reason .

You can trust me on this one. I KNOW old threads get resurrected all the time. Who do you think merges all the old threads with new ones on the identical topic with even the identical thread name because people don't bother to do a search when they start a new thread. --Little ole me!--Believe me, when it comes to topics for discussion on Zity.Biz, everything old is new again.

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Bridgette said

I have seen some “ heated debates” here on Zity , trust me this is far from one of them .

That's for sure! I think this one is pretty laid back despite having a number of different views.

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CJ1999 said

As I said below, this is a SEX ACT! If you are convalescing at home, and you wouldnt ask your MOTHER to do something for you, don't ask your nurse!!

Equal footing has nothing to do with it. If a patient asks a nurse to help them with anything, the nurse is still only providing a service.

Before you condemn me for saying I would perform a certain service for incapacitated patients, consider the other things I said:

If you make the "will you masturbate me to relieve me?" request with a smile you both might have a good laugh over it.

While masturbating a patient could be thought of as a therapeutic procedure and the patient would benefit emotionally from it while stuck in a hospital, our society is too hung up to consider it. If I knew I wouldn't get in trouble for doing it, I would do it for an incapacitated patient.

If there were no rules against it or repercussions I would do it for any patient that requested it--but not all day long. I have other patients to treat. The fact is very few people, especially if they are really ill, are interested in being "relieved."

You guys are taking a hypothetical situation much too seriously.

In my dreams....in my dreams.

But i prefer not being kicked out of the hospital prematurely so I don't try.

@CJ1999

Although I respect everyone’s right to have a different opinion I have certainly appreciated your point of view and posts on the topic.

I take the stance that a professional relationship must be maintained and this is in direct relation to my personal morals and ethics.

I have to say i'm amazed that this discussion has carried on as far as it has, anyone who thinks its even remotely possibly to ask healthcare workers of any description for sexual relief needs theyre head examined.

It shows you have no respect for the people or the profession.

So.......When did we turn Medical care facilities into Brothels ???

@CJ1999

Although I respect everyone’s right to have a different opinion I have certainly appreciated your point of view and posts on the topic.

@RedInBed Thanks for the shout out!

I've only been in hospital once, touch wood! so not much chance of a hand-job even if they were on offer, but there was an incident a little bit embarrassing. I was in my early 20's and had what they called a grumbling appendix so they decided to take it out. Back then it involved a 6 day stay and for the first few days I was feeling a bit sorry for myself, but on day four things looked brighter. On the fifth day, not long before dawn, I had a wet dream. It was very pleasurable as these thing are, but my lower belly and that general region got soaked with the semen. I tried to clean up as best I could but because of the wound couldn't get that area too wet anyway. At around 10am one of the young Irish day nurses turned up at my bed, pulled the curtains and announced she was going to take my stiches out. Well being a good catholic girl perhaps she had never encountered semen before at close quarters but I wouldn't bet on that. I don't know what she thought but although my skin had dried some, my bottoms were still wet with the stuff. Luckily I had been shaved for the op otherwise the stuff would've be in the hairs as well! ...Just part and parcel of a nurses day I guess.