Question: How to go about telling him...

I like this kind of stuff:

- bare bottom spankings - rectal thermometer - enemas - diaper humiliation

- roleplay - age play - light bondage

I've gotten a couple signs that he's kinky. Like when he's angry, he'll swat my butt, always just barely below my right butt cheek. He already administers my enemas (medical) and checks me with rectal thermometers because I lie to him, but I want it real. I want him to be my daddy, to pick me up under his arm, turn my bare bottom pink and then shiny red, check my temperature and hold me down for an enema. At the best, I want him to, after the enema, diaper me and make me poop in the diaper. I really need to come out, and get him to play along, and he's seen my butt cheeks facing him and spread while over his lap before. I just don't know how to convey what I want. 😳

Amy

Perhaps one way to open a dialogue would be to get a DVD that contains some of the things you would like to try and get him to watch it with you. That might open the door. If not, good luck. I hope something works it's frustrating when your partner does'nt really enjoy your brand of kink.

I think the best way is to let him know how much you want these things. I enjoy doing just what you described to my wife on occassion. She was in a diaper when I came home from work one day. You might try that.

Hope this doesn't sound too rude, but show him this site...

Doc.

He may go a long way towards your goal, but it will take time. It will also be important that he remains comfortable as your play gets more involved.

Have the two of you ever attended a munch in your community or an adjoining city?

That would be an opportunity to meet like-minded couples with some fascinating conversation. OR 😃 You may find the conversations are about painting a bedroom or how to stuff a turkey for the holidays. The first time at such a gathering be observant and listen to what people are saying. You will soon feel welcomed and included.

Arthur

You have to ease him into this a litle at a time. if he is an erotic person, he will get it quickly, if not, you will becomd unhappy with him anyway, so look for another enema-oriented man. your level of esxual enjoyment will double with enemas being involved, so it is worth finding the right man. take care and here's to good orgasnms.

I have been married for 16 years and I just now found this site. I have told my husband about it and hope I can get him to enjoy the benifits from it also. I plan to introduce it all slowly to him and make him enjoy every step. Then build up to him giving me an enema. Hopefully he will see the pleasure it can bring to me and he will follow suit!

My guess would be that you are not alone with this problem... try

showing interest, by exposing him to this things...

Well, my boyfriend would love to have anal sex with me. until now i didn't allow him to put anything in my anus but one of his fingers. i really like this feeling and i am curious to try anal sex. the tought of having anal sex is so erotic because it is "forbidden" and its such an intimate experience. so we will try it soon.

maybe one day i will buy an enema bag and have an enema before anal sex. and this is how i plan to get my boyfriend into this stuff: maybe i will just leave the enema bag in the bathroom "accidentially" so that he will notice it. if he asks me about the bag i would say that i took one to be clean there in my colon. but if he ignores the bag, i would wait until we go to the bathroom together (maybe to take a shower together after having sex). then i would look at the bag and act embarrassed, mumbling something like "uups, took one to be clean back there and left the bag hanging here".

maybe i will even be a bit more direct and prepare an enema at the time i suppose my boyfriend to come home so that he sees the full bag hanging there and me half-naked, ready to take the enema. perhaps i would even start the enema already. when he shows up, i would of course act like i didn't expect him to come home at this time already. as before, i would act a bit embarrassed, explaining him that i want to be clean back there before having anal sex. of course i would allow him to stay and if he reacts well i would ask him to help me with the enema. this way the enemea is quite close to be integrated in our foreplay.

but that's just phantasy. i really don't know if i will dare something like that...

Theresa, think you are on the right track, a number of good ideas to introduce him to watering your rear. Since he wants to try anal sex, something to the effect of, "Could you help me get all nice and cleaned out for you?" before you try anal might do it, it would be a win-win: You get your enema and he gets his penis up your bum. Remember also (and mention this to him too!) that a nice warm enema or two help you relax "back there" and make it easier for you to handle his penis.

I posted this advice to another thread, but it applies here too: Second biggie is to use a position where you control the penetration. For first timers I like spoon, both on your sides with him behind you. You move back onto his penis, going only as far and as fast as you feel comfortable with. If it starts to hurt, STOP and wait until you relax more and can proceed without pain. Good luck, and let us know how it goes.

Possibly you could be naughty and pout. Then hand him all the equipment you want used on yourself. Pout some more and wiggle your tits at him for a start.

I am into a lot of different fetishes... well over the past year or so I have become more and more interested in enemas... my other half is also part of same fetishes... but he doesn't know of interest in enemas... and I’m not sure how to go about telling him... I enjoy doing them to myself.... I have never been given one by another... so I’m a little worried about telling him about this... he is very understanding and willing try new things... but I’m finding myself to be a little it embarrassed about liking enemas.. Is this something that is normal?? Does it ever go away?? Does anyone have any suggestions as to how to overcome this feeling??

I would really appreciate any and all feedback

Thanks,

flamebrat

I got my wife to like enemas by faking a stomach ache and telling her that the doctor had perscribed an enema. I asked her if she would give it tome me and after much hesitation said "yes". I went to the drugstore, got the stuff and came back. Together we opened the box, talked about it, as she had never had an enema or even knew what they were, and then coached her on giving me one. After expelling and telling her how good it felt and how much better I felt, I asked her if she wanted one. She initially said "no", but later (2 days) I asked her to give me another one. This time when I offered to also give her one she said "yes". Since then, enemas have been a big part of our sex life.

SB

I was with a lady for a few years and she came home all grumpy one day. I finally got her to spill the beans and she said she had her annual check up and the doctor wanted her start having annual proctoscopic exams because of her family history. She went on to say how laxatives usually made her throw up. I asked her if she would try enemas and she got that sudden deer in the headlights look. She asked if I thought they would work and I told her that's what my doc had me use. She said "By all means if you give them to me."

She was very anally erotic and after a quart of water with Ivory soap and a rinse she said: "Tonight we play!" Well her doc complimented her on being well preped and that night we did play. While we were together about once a week she would say "Lets get ready for bed early tonight." That was her cue she wanted an enema or two and for me to play with her ending in anal sex. She is the only woman I have known who was comfortable enough to ask me to "Please put yourself in my rectum." which I always thought was cute.

I would just talk to him about how much it excites you. If he seems turned off by your interests, maybe a trip to the E-fest ALONE would be an alterative.

Or you could try something my wife and I sometimes do when bringing up sensitive subjects or those which might cause a disagreement. It sounds silly, but we write each other notes and letters. It lets the writer organize his or her thoughts and make sure that they are complete, and the reader can digest the whole thing before discussion starts... On this topic, we are just experiencing a renewal of our sexual relationship after some years kind of in the doldrums, and I just gave her a note reminding her of one time when she played my enema nurse, and suggesting that I would be really happy to do it again... often!

God i only wish i could fins a girl to do this with

tell him openly that u like this if he loves you and trusts you he will do it

Just tell him your interest and push the agenda gently.

If your boyfriend is adventurous and, like most guys, he's interested in exploring anal sex with his girlfriend, you may need to be somewhat creative in getting him started. Dressing in his favorite lingerie and positioning your body in a certain way you can certainly create a very strong image in his mind for anal play leading to anal intercourse. Before he enters you, the need for an enema (maybe using a scented enema solution) can be suggested. You can tell him that you want your ass to be pristine for him. Guide him gently in how to give you a thorough enema but leave him in control. When he finds himself in the deliciously dominating role and, more importantly, sees your sexual reaction to the whole enema experience (preparation, nozzle insertion, tummy rubbing, ass-up position, your submissiveness), he will want to do this to you much more frequently. Then, little by little, you can introduce him to the other activities on your list. That's how I was introduced and I progress from that point to an enema lover.

Amy--

Consider whispering your desires to him in bed. Tell him what you'd like him to do. Tell him how much you'd like him to 'be the one' to treat you the way you want to be treated.

If he doesn't respond. Find a man that will.

Flamebrat,

You are a bright woman to explore with others to discern your options for getting him involved in your enema fetish.

Obviously, he has alt.sexuality interests. Why not get naked with him sometime and explore the Internet, and come upon one of your favorite enema sites, and see how he responds. Loving and/or sensual medical fetish stories have a way of attracting a partner to a new world of exploration.

Also, it might work if you introduced him to his own anal sensitivity 'very slowly', allowing him to discover that it can be a sensual experience when you are near his anal opening, or if you were to touch it and linger there for a moment or two ~ while you discern his reaction. I would almost guarantee you that if you can help him develop his own anal sensitivity, then he will want to explore yours.

Is that not a part of human sexuality; i.e., to do to a partner, that which brings us pleasure?

I wish you safe passage, and an enjoyable weekend.

SensualSwitchTx

Dear Flamebrat why don't you pretend you are sick......have your boyfrend check your temperature analy, lay over apillow with your behind as high but let him see how much you enjoy it. Then pretend you have stomach aech and suggest to him to give you an enema instead of you doing it to your self... Try to have him go and get the enema stuff!!!

That's what my girlfriend did, and got me very interested in enemas.

😃 😃 😃 😃 😃

Good luck

Flamebrat,

The next time he asks if there is anything he can do for you say well as a matter of fact there is something I would enjoy very much if you did for me. Play a little shy

and describe the whole process. Then ask him when can he give you your enema(s). He may never ask the question in private so you may have to bate him a bitand ask him if he wouldn't mind doing something for you, to make you feel really good. If you don't ask you don't get.

I suggest that you should watch a nice porn involving enema action, and ask him if he would like to give you one? Get on all fours and show your ass, if it does not work, give up either enemas or him

I don't think the existing boy friend will work out for you. most men are conditioned to think this is dirty and they cannot be changed. you can find a man who is compatible with your needs, but it will take time and patience. i would suggest to you that this is an important need, and you should not go thru life without this need being met. it will enrich your sex life to highs you cannot now believe, so be patient and good luck. if you would like to chat about this im me or e-mail me at harryv05houston@hotmail.com

Most man will appreciate their partner submitting to them. Enema is a form of submission. Letting the person take charge of your ass. Fill you up and make you to retain. And after expelling your enema, perhaps a nice anal sex is in order. Most people confuse enema with scutt because at the end expelling involved. And if you were constipated and due to a butt plug you were not allowed to get relief, your first expolsion will not be clean. But who said your partner has to watch and see it? Until it gets clean, you can expel in private. If your boyfriend/husband is into anal sex or anal play. He will enjoy giving you enemas. If he does not. I will. No strings attached.

My wife walk in on me in the center of one . After words we talk and I told her how I liked them She was alright with it .It was kind of hard to have much time to your self back then ,two young girls in the house and only one bathroom

20 years ago I was with a man who was the most amazing friend and lover I've ever had. We just fit together perfectly. Unfortunately, I let him go (yes, I was young and very stupid), but I have continued to fantasize about him for years. Now we have a chance to be together again and rekindle our relationship. I'm beyond excited on many levels. Anyway, we used to engage in anal stimulation and sex, which I enjoy immensely. I'm sure this aspect of our interests has not changed, but I'm hoping that I will be able to tell him about my secret desire to give and receive enemas. This is something that I never revealed to him before. Although we shared our fantasies and desires, I held back on the enemas. I guess I could, at the right time, suggest cleaning out before anal play, but that's going to take a lot of courage!

You might as well let him know what you want, and who knows, he might find that he enjoys it too. Otherwise you'll still be in the same place you are now

Your husband is a very lucky man and doesn'e even know it. I believe if you are open and honest with him he will be happy to please you and will find the experience very pleasuable.