A Surprise Yesterday

Got home from working nights,shower and to sleep. Got woke up early afternoon with a supprise. Wife said I have something to make you feel better. She went into bathroom and came back with enema bag in one hand and nozzle in other. Roll over and put it in air. She give me 3 4-qt. enemas for a good cleaning. To say the least, it felt great. Looking forward for to the next time.

I've been wanting my wife to wake me up like that for some time, but little kids, oh well. Glad it was as great, lucky.

You were very lucky to have such a wonderful surprise. Have you returned the favor?

Hi Slow,

Did you give any hints of wanting this, have there been any discussions before or was this truly out of the blue.

Slow, I think we all would be interested in the story of what led up to this event for you...can you share it?

A few years ago I came home from work one evening and was met at the door by my wife in the buff with a jar of suppositories. She told me to bend over the chair and I got a healthy dose of suppositories. We had a fun night.

One of the most pleasant surprises that occurred me was when my wife requested me that it applied him an enema for his constipation. It was a feeling inolvidable.

A while back she gave me enemas for constipation and I told he how good I felt after. Then she gave me another later,told her how relaxed and good I felt after. All I have to do now is tell her need to get rid of some stress an it will happen soon.

GoCat,

She might like the smell of a peppermint castile soap, like Dr. Bronners. If you have any health food store or GNC Nutritional, you should be able to find castile soap.

Wow ! I'd love to wake up like that , not sure if my wife would try it .

My husband will often mention be awakened by a BJ in progress when we are in the midst of the current one, because he knows we do not have sex as often as I want to. Lately, though I have been giving some serious thought to waking him with the douche nozzle up his butt, for the prostate massage, you know 😉

That is a wonderful surprise. I will keep hoping that happens to me! Thanks for sharing

Lady Di

What a wonderful idea both for the prostate and the colon!!

Lady Di,

Just do it. I'm sure he'll be surprised and will probably like it. Let us know.

Well, he was here when I got home from work this morning because school is out for the summer. I knew he would be here, because I saw him at Grange last night and he came home,as I was driving off the work. I suggestively said, you will probably still be in bed when I come home tomorrow morning, won't you?, He says,no no, I'll be up and out shopping for supplies for the summer. So I repeated myself a little louder for effect, and this time he says, well ,maybe. So I get home this morning and he is still sleeping, so far, so good. I get cleaned up and brush my teeth and slip into bed beside him and start rubbing his chest and down his side and over his hip. He awakens and acknowledges me and goes back to sleep. Keep in mind, we have not been in the same bed at the same time for weeks now. So I relax and go to sleep for a bit, then I wake up a little later and see he is awake,so I start the rubbing again and snuggle up to his back and he turns his head over his shoulder for a kiss and turns back. And thats it. I have made up my mind I am not going to make any overt moves only to be rejected again. It has been weeks and I don't mean just 2, several! Shouldn't he want to as much as I do? I know he is NOT getting any elsewhere, but DAMN! why cant I get some when we have the time and the opportunity?

Di,

When the next opportunity arises, it might be good to 'take it up a notch'. Continue with your approach (heck, it would sure work for me!), but also get down to his penis with your rubbing and stroking and whisper 'it's time'. If he's boneheaded (no pun intended), and doesn't pick up on your lead, it's time for a talk. Maybe he's having performance anxiety, maybe he wants to try something new in which case, you both win.

Well you shouldn't haveto "hit him over the head" with it, its possible that he may have other issues. Its time for a very frank dicussion about where both of you are sexualy. Be willing to listen, often we take things that our mates say as an attack and imeadiatly start defending..... try to avoid that.... instead of working on your reply as he is talking which we all do.... listen to what he is saying and make your reply in a calm measured way. But he also has to have the courtsey to listen to you and respect your feeling as well. At least the cards will be on the table and you both will feel better about that. Take the issues one at a time and resolve them. Looking at all of them at once is like looking at a mountain. You will get discouraged before you start. One at a time is better. Good luck kid

Well, I do thank you all for the thoughtful responses. He knows that I want to have sex alot more than he does, but he won't meet me halfway, and it is the partner who wants less who has the control after all. As far as a meaningful and frank discussion, I don't know what to say. What can I say to him about it that won't emasulate him further and just add to the problem? Any ideas?

I am sure if you did surprise him this way he would really enjoy it. I know I would.

I sure would like to get a suprise like that

Lady Di - My late wife and I had some of the same problems .They can be worked out , you need to be able to talk to each other . Talking comes in many forms spoken word ,Written word .Sometimes written word was almost glued to your face so you would be sure to see it.

I assume that he is near your age ,his desires may be slowing down and find it hard to admit it even to himself . My late wife her sex drive was at least twice as strong as mine .I was 9 years older than her .

Keep the communication open and if all fails then attack . Preform or else . sneak in and give him a warm soapy ,at least that will get his attention

He is 14 years older than I, but we have been together for 21 years. He had just turned 40 when we got together and he has always been this way. I have tried many different approaches, but nothing seems to make him want to initiate the next time. In the afterglow he says he will come back for more, more often, and then that falls by the wayside.

From a man's perspective, Do you really think perform or else will work? I am always afraid of being too blunt about it and put him off even trying if I make him feel emasculated like he doesn't measure up.

This really has nothing to do with his age, he was like this when I met him at 40.By the time I realized it was always going to be this way, I was in love and I thought I could live with it or (I should know better) change him. My second husband was 64 and I was 22 when we married and for a long time the sex was the only thing that kept me with him. Okay, now as for this TALK, what am I going to say? Please, help me out here.

Lady Di,

I can relate to your situation only in reverse. I am 14 yrs. older than my wife. We used to have rip roaring times in the sack and I can't think of a thing that we didn't do or try. Somewhere along the way, sheen faded away to what sometimes became indifference. And you know what, I came to accept this as a matter of fact. How indifferent am I?

Oh we engage in straight sex occasionally and it is almost perfunctory. Yeh it feels good, well, that's over. And as far as my e-fetish goes, I am on my own. Oh, she has done me a couple of times but that this the extent of it.

We are gong away this weekend to celebrae our anniversary. Let's see what develops.

I am sorry that I don't have any proven words of success to offer you Lady Di. I am still searching for a few of my own. I wouldn't mind keeping in touch with you and fellow soulmates with similar problems.

On a different note, I read the correspondence on "plump, physiques, etc". Remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it is what is beneath the skin that is most important. Personally I treasure a warm loving personality (how did I end up in my current situation?), an open mind, and a willingness to love, learn and grow together. /Leser

It is indeed a shame that you can't get him to communicate to find out what the problem is.

I know, speaking of shame, I have often wondered if that had anything to do with it, because it has always seemed to me that he holds out for as long as he can in between. And I don't mean the duration of lovemaking sessions.

Lady Di - Long past time for talk . Time for action .

Being typical male and I am one of them .He don't listen , only hears what he wants , and doesn't believe any thing .

First suggest a visit to doctor for checkup .Heart and prostate problems ,diabetic will all affect sex drive .Any type of medication will cause problems . I suggest doctor and some tests .You go with him on report day from Doctor or he will come and say every thing fine .

If that is the case tell the doctor you want Viagra or some of the others . Then he can preform .

I think that he should be told that you are not getting en ought and want more from him , if not you will be making other arrangements .

Will probably get his attention , I know it got mine .

Sometimes has to be said . If nothing wrong then be strong .

Hope you are good to her!

I'm the one giving in the morning. try to catch her when she is still half dreaming.

Lady Di,

Because I'm older myself and beginning to slow down, I really appreciate my wife treating my body as hers to enjoy and to cherish. Of course, I return the compliment. We still spend at least twenty minutes every morning cuddling, kissing and using our hands and mouths wherever it will feel good. And you did mention being in love, did you not? We never fail to tell each other so in imaginative ways every day, and especially then! And of course, my now-reluctant penis gets done over enough to get the juices flowing!

Even St. Paul (whom most folks think of as a sexual cold shower!) says that your body belongs to your husband, AND HIS TO YOU. He also says it isn't right for either of us to deny the other sex, btw. So love him with all of you (hands, eyes, voice, lips, arms, legs), and love all of him, especially the bits between his legs.

HOw good is your communication. Can you say, "Move your leg, I want to get my hand in there."? Or could you just get permission to 'claim his body' for ten minutes? It needn't be especially sexy the first time, but it should allow you to touch him all over with fingers that say, "I love you, and this is my gift to you." Believe me, this is seriously arousing when it is genuine giving on your part. And if he liked the first installment, next time you can turn the heat up a little.

Please don't hear me preaching - I really want to help. And btw, we don't have it all together as a couple, either. I am scared of failing to satisfy her when we do make love, and my erections aren't as firm as I'd like. I battle to ejaculate, too, but haven't YET failed. But she knows all this. She doesn't share my enema passion and doesn't want to be involved. But at least it's no secret between us - we can talk about it.

Johnny

Johnny, I appreciate everything you have said, and I have tried it. If I reach for him, he actually rolls away or tucks under, so I cant.

I'll bet your wife does not see any of your slowing down as any kind of "failure". And speaking of the less firm erections, I like those just as well, because even if you cant push it in, you can rub around the outside, which is where all the fun is anyway. I like it best when it is warm, wet and squishy and feels like tongue. Take that into consideration.

Any ladies care to back me up on this?