Why are female enemates for mostly straight females hard to find?

Too many people want to tie enema play to sexual preference and lifestyle preferences. Like a label is the important point, being bi, gay, straight what is the difference if the relationship is only about giving or receiving enemas. Do you pick your yard man, hair stylist, or other service provider based on sexual being or orientation? Probably not, but on how well they perform the service. Thing is with enemas, it is intimate, and sexual, and fun so enjoy the moment and the great afterglow.

Ginnie you don't have to be honest in making posts here or in messages. However in your messages to me you contradict what you write here. Obviously, you are being dishonest either here or in our personal communication. You say in the latter that you could never actually give men enemas in a non professional setting, as it might ruin your fantasies. If so, I find your post here bizarre and wonder why you made up these stories about your alleged attempts to give enemas. First of all, you say that when you bring out the bag, he "starts having sex." You have no say in the matter? You just drop the bag and submit to him? You say you " have experienced this many times" and are supposedly frustrated by it. I reside nearby and wouldn't act that way. I might get erect if you brought out the bag filled with soapy water, but we wouldn't have sex (unless you forced me to do so, which would be extremely unlikely). I wouldn't cum within minutes. OFFER TO GIVE ME ONE! I am seeking what you claim to desire, not sex with you. I doubt I am the only man who feels this way.

I sent you a PM explaining my feelings on this subject. I didn't know you wanted to attack me till I read this. I presume by inability to hook up the problem is yours not mine. I have met a wonderful bunch of people on this forum . I am sorry to say you have not been one of them so let it go.

I find the last two posts to be very disturbing. It is not necessary for anyone to share their dirty laundry here or on any open forum. That is what private emails are for. I do not blame Ginny for responding at all. She was called out by name. I had someone do this to me on Facebook, (it obviously did not involve enemas) and it bothered me very much. Bostonseeker, you are out of line. I suggest you get your post deleted.

I haven't followed any of the previous comments about this below, BUT . . . .

It's my repeated observation that women on Internet dating sites (I don't bother following men's), and on several social networking sites -- including zity -- post things that are completely contradictory in very important ways. They, however, ALWAYS become FURIOUS when you point this out, or ask which they mean, or which is a lie, or why they are doing this. I don't even bother bringing it up any more.

I've learned to believe NOTHING that people say on sites like this. Many people are just playing around to see how other people will respond. With nothing better to do, it's all just a game to them.

Rosebud, have their been any developments since you last posted here two years ago?

I see you have been here, but haven't posted anything.

I have opined many times that life would be wonderful if people, individually or in a group, could enjoy personal interaction, regarding enemas, on a more regular or frequent basis. Many of us enjoy this "hobby", fetish, or addiction and would love to be able to participate/engage with others or have face to face interaction without the baggage that comes with typical dating scenarios or relationships.

This is not to minimize the various issues that likely exist. Each of us has our own tastes and desires. The sexual component is overwhelming and denial is futile. Some may be more interested in "dating" and desire a LTR. Enemas or other fetishes may just be something tolerated in a relationship.

I realize that my desires are likely nothing more than a pipe dream. I have attended some EFEST events in Vegas and had a few personal interactions. All have been very positive. The tough part is that individual expectations run the gamut of personal preferences.

That being said, we sometimes make assumptions based on the postings of others. Undoubtedly, some of us get a bit forward or might even offend others. In my case, I try not to intentionally offend. I always maintained that if one ventures little or nothing, then little is to be gained and successful interactions aren't likely to occur.

I believe that "platonic" interactions are possible, the sexual component notwithstanding. The hard part is that keeping the sexual aspect hidden is impossible.

Clean-up on aisle four!

This topic is bound to have some disagreements and differences in expectations.

Ladies and Gentlemen, please keep this civil.

Just my opinion, but it probably isn't any more difficult to find a female enemate than a male one. It is a tiny community and difficult to enter. My only advice is actively search, but be patient. If all else fails, find a professional, although, at the risk of sounding sexist, I don't think many women want to go that route.

The moderator has deleted my most recent posts. I have been censored for speaking the truth. Oh well! Maybe this post will also be deleted. ManyOohs4U fantasy is preferred to honesty.

Disagreements are fine with me. A little disagreement keeps things interesting.

Just keep them civil and no personal attacks.

Finding a female emate seems impossible but there has to be some out there

Finding a female e mate is difficult but not impossible. I understand that from a women's point of view most males are demanding and over bearing. I believe that patience and understanding is the key to finding a female.

Interesting reading I always think it is difficult to meet a women who is willing to admit she wants an enema ...sometimes I think they are not aware of how nice they can be.... I am on a spanking site and when I mention about using an enema instead of or in addition to a spanking the response is not always good and often skeptical.... but interesting once explained they seem to enjoy the idea of a nice warm enema ........too bad it wasn't more widely accepted

Once having sex with the woman on top I reached back and teased her anus. She muttered "nozzle." For whatever strange reason I didn't follow through. I guess I suspected she really wasn't "the one" for me in the long run. But then I tried it with someone else and everything came to a halt -- never saw her again. Go figure. Much easier back in the 30's, 40's and 50's. Almost every house had an enema bag. Always wondered if the Rexall stores in honeymoon locations (the Poconos, the cape) stocked up on extra enema bags in the spring time waiting for the summer rush. I guess enemas didn't seem weird back then, and almost no one would have reacted negatively to a discussion of enemas.

Yes it can be rather difficult to find a female that likes enemas. I think the 'Net has made it a bit easier thanks to online forums like this. Years ago, I corresponded via email with a woman in Canada that was into kink as well as enemas. She told me most Doms were turned off by the idea of giving her enemas. Her fantasy was to be given an enema and then made to hold it while she got whipped. I think she eventually did find someone.

I also feel many women think it is weird and gross, when if done right it can be really pleasant. Unfortunately most women IMSNHO don't understand that.

In my experience the one woman I was with that liked enemas said she enjoyed the expulsion better than the fill. And I think she did. But I think it was more of a complete relaxation thing rather than a sexual thing. Of course everyone is different. I do think there are statistically less women interested in enemas in general. With that being said if you can find someone who is into kinky sex first or at least willing to experiment with gradual nudges and hints you might be able to bring out the bag. A lot of people will try anything once as long as it not dangerous or extremely painful. Possibly rosebud should look for a woman as a special friend and then introduce anal and enemas. But then again... I am no expert by any stretch of the imagination. Good luck!