To clarify the above, I say "mostly straight," because I'm in a relationship with a man (who, sadly, abhors anything having to do with the anus/anal) and I prefer men. However, I'm not opposed to experimenting with another woman 1-on-1 (and NOT as part of a 3-some).Why are female enemates so hard to find? I'm in my early 40s, and when I was a teenager, I had close girlfriends that involved a lot of interests. For example, I had a girlfriend that I went clubbing/to bars/to concerts with. I had another girlfriend that I met up with strictly to go jogging or to do yoga/meditation. I had one who was in a book club with me - and as budding writers (she has since become a published author who you'd recognize), we'd trade stories-in-progress. And I had yet another girlfriend who was studying to be a cosmetologist - and we hung out to do nails, try facials and skin treatments and experiment with hair color, etc.As I said above, I am in a relationship with a man who IS NOT into anal sex, enemas, or anything suggestive of that part of the body. I have had an anal/enema fetish since I was a child. And oddly enough, this is the only relationship I've ever been in where I could not get....anal attention. I love the man and wouldn't think of going to another man for this, hence, thinking back to being a teen and having close girlfriends. Funny enough, I have a close friend who was trained as a nurse. She knows of my desires, and was honest in, that, "You know I'm your friend, and if you medically needed an enema or a colonic, you know I could help you, but...for the purpose of getting off...I'd feel really odd doing that with you."So....how do I find a close friend who would be into anal play and enemas -- and maybe other non-anal interests? And ideally, another woman who was married or with a man and who wanted to stay that way...but if we ended up making out or getting frisky, it wouldn't be...risky? I have tried Craigslist...but get weirdos. And men. I DON'T want to do this with another man! AdultFriendFinder is strictly a hook-up site.Does anyone "get" what I mean and am looking for? If so, any advice/thoughts?