All the commentary about "what was wrong" seems to have overlooked the skeevy vibes of a literal rape mindset. Tied up REAL children is the ultimate anti-erotic to me. Because it scares me that some damaged soul may harm a child. Or an adult. Or themselves.. Hell- I found maybe half or so of some W&P mags so disturbing that it nauseated me. I could brain dump many of them as a form of exorcism but I 'd feel slimed by the details. Memory can be a curse..
But a recurring theme was child punishments. As therapy for us with memories to process- sorta understandable. As harmless shared RP for adults who know what's fantasy and what's not? yeah- still ok. But past MY personal comfort zones and speaking for myself alone?
Degradation and non-consent. may be erotic to some folks, but it's a drop dead turn off to many folks. Oh, there's that abovementioned tenuous zone of "Desensitization Therapy" both for abusers and abused alike. Which I find dubious to screamingly fake in many cases. Call it..weasel wording to justify abuse being rendered normative? By folks that may **NOT** Grok the difference between Fantasies safe as such or RAPE that's never acceptable. Roleplay's "safe" only if the participants have their heads firmly anchored. As to the knowing what's a fucking magazine spread and what's safe to DO. Which BtW includes UNsafe stuff-
To the credit of one magazine- the article "How and How Much" balanced safety with reality in a fashion that influences me to the present!
The prime difference between CONSENSUAL Roleplay and Rape/abuse is * Adult CONSENT* and RP's or even yeah.. all porn.. involving only Consenting Adults are a separate case from the exploitation crap. I can even see a less mentioned aspect of Desense therapy as VALIDATION for our deep seated needs. Some of us lived in and with situations that defied our childhood comprehension AkA Ability to Process.
With a fine disregard for at the times- Processing accurately - which ones were abuse or merely a medical need. They simply were a cognitive dissonance if only by sensory overload. And adding sexuality is inescapable as our memories were/ARE entangled with pre/shortly post Pubertal association formations. I could pour out.. heh- pun? a whole long thesis on the memory embeddings of enemas.as sexual awakening. Which as adults- we seek closures for. Even roleplay!ng. with the unresolved issues themselves. .
Can we call it?.. Experiences we work at processing- by such magazines giving objective validation of not being so alone. .
I thus.. even so - suspend personal judgement on ANYTHING that harms no one and makes one hurt less from past traumas. Even if it skeeves me out on several levels.