SwSusie, let me explain. Marriage is a bond between two people which form a family. Children are one of it's goals. No child should ever be deprived of his family because of someones lust. Every child has a right to have his mom and dad living together in peace and love, taking care of their grandchildren and helping their kids. That's marriage, and it produces many many good things. If, of course, is taken seriously from both man and wife.
Now, I do know that USA is known to be the worst country in the word regarding that issue. Divorce rates are just unbelievable, which shows that it's citizens obviously don't know what they're doing, and they don't understand what marriage or family is. Do not ask me for proofs, just ask someone who is outside US, -who has the most psychiatrists or lawyers in the world? You don't need them for nothing, right? Ok.
My solutions are so religious and it turns you off. Well, that really explains why no one should listen to your advices at all. If religion promotes good things, such as love, understanding, tolerance, peace, family, happiness, then I am discussing this subject with completely wrong person. You asked why should a man suffer with such wife? Well, many of us who love their wives are willing to turn things to better so that we could BOTH enjoy what we like. For example - me. I had a wife who didn't understand my fetish for latex gloves. And no matter how I explained to her, she just didn't care. Just like you don't care about changing air in your car's tires every day. It was very hard to wait for her to realize that those little things are extremely important to me. Until one day I found a solution. Before that I did everything what I said earlier that should be done prior to considering an awful thing such is a divorce. All that helped ME to love my wife beyond her non-understanding, and it gave me a positive view of my marriage without that fetish part in it. And then I made a right move - I told her that I am about to give up my fetishes because I can't wait anymore for her, and I can't be frustrated all my life. Told her that she is much more worthy to me than some kink that I have and that I need a few weeks to let go of it completely, so that I won't be in agony anymore. One week has past after that, and she realized what she has (hasn't) done, so she came to me and changed my life for the better π Much much better π Now we enjoy what I always wanted - all the kinks and fetishes PLUS love and affection. Yeah baby, that is the best combination of all π
So, it's not what you want, it's what you can. I can stop smoking, I can stop watching porn for countless hours, I can give up some things that are not worthy, I can change my life for the better.
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You mentioned that guy's wife - yeah she sounds like a Bitch, but that's manageable. Every bitch can be taken down with tools that you probably don't know they even exist. Again, my example, I loved that one girl long ago, but she was a Bitch. So I told her (I'm a strong man with attitude and muscles, so that you don't get me wrong on this one) - "whatever bad you do to me, I will beat you with me being good to you. I will show you that you are an idiot with only being more and more nicer to you." -that's what you do when you really care for someone, and I enjoyed every moment of it, watching harsh bitch turning ashamed with every move that I made. I just used her weapons against her in a manner she never expected. In no time I had both kitten and a bitch in same person, which is just right combination for me. Boy did we had a great time back then π
So, everyone wants to do things that are important to him/her, just they need to be taught how their world can look like if they actually do those things.
I think that you and I don't have anything in common, especially when I see how you present your husband in that last two sentences. Your life reminds me of an orgasm, it's wonderful but it quickly fades away just as it came. My "religious" views include love, and that's something you must work your ass for, so it can last and give for all your life.
All the best,
dilu