This saga is a continuous one in almost every board that I look at. She is, he isn't or he is, she isn't, or. The solution -- pardon my bad English -- "there ain't one" short of breaking the relationship or going outside of it. I think most of us love our spouses or mates, but some things just don't click for them. Again I repeat what has been said before and that's why we have these forums to discuss and somewhat satisfy our needs or make new friends for whatever. At least we now have a tool to use to communicate openly which wasn't at all available when I was younger. What a waste of many years for many of us that could have been far more fun!!
Unfortunately, like so many have already said, you have lost your chance. She most certainly was intimidated by the equipment, who wouldn't be........except for a die hard enema enthusiast. Do you remember your first enemas?, I somehow doubt you started out with a 3 or 4 qt bag and nozzles. I began slowly, using a bulb syringe, much less scarey, easily inserted and user friendly. I know it was not done intentionally, but alas she took one look and bailed. Now envision a much simpler scenario, 1 bulb syringe and a tube of lube. She gets an enema from a none threatening/scarey device and you get to not only introduce her to a passion of yours, you also get the added bonus of inserting numerous times, playing and arousing her anus / bottom.Baby Steps, always Baby Steps unless your partner indicates they have experience.
Like anything new, you have to start off slowly. You scared her off. You should have started with a nice bulb, given over your lap as you caress her bottom and gradually graduated onto bigger and better things.It was too much too soon.
Be very patient,don't bring up the subject for a while the begin to question why she fears enemas. also start with a small bulb and work uo from there
Guys, not to criticize you, as men we get too carried away by our exuberance of the idea that our wife or significant other might try anal intercourse or enemas.We've got to stop thinking with our "unit" and use our brains.I can't think of anything that would frighten even a willing novice more than showing up with a 6-qt bag, a huge double balloon rectal catheter, ten feet of tubing and four gallons of water stuffed under our arms. As others have so aptly observed, perhaps your partner was thinking little and you arrived with something that would make her feel like an overfilled water balloon.Your exuberance is a mistake we all make. I hope that you've taken some of the advice to heart.It makes no sense to spend so much time trying to persuade your woman to try giving you a little head when you have deep throat in mind. Same for enemas and/or anal sex.Don't worry, though. If you continue trying to do things your way first, there will be all the more opportunity for the rest of us.
Haven't been here in a long time. Suddenly last night she wanted to talk about enemas. Her bad body images and feelings of inadequacy still prevent participation, but she feels badly about my having been disappointed for so many years.Meanwhile we have accomplished some important things individually and as a couple.I explained how at first enemas were so frightening to me. When I was very young a tropical medicine specialist had to treat two different conditions. This was in the 1940's (yes I am that old) and doctors didn't explain much especially to kids. I had other less exotic experiences later in the 50's and they were scary too. I got past scary with puberty. Suddenly they were sexy.We. Talked a lot last night. The good thing is that she brought it up. Also she acknowledged my hurt.So, we will see.
My wife has had a couple of enemas as a result of childbirth or in a few instances as a last resort for constipation. I think her last was 20 years ago and she hates anything anal. NO fingers,nozzles or penises for her. I gave up decades ago.
I am so sorry you are frustrated! I WISH my husband would give me an enema! Just the idea makes me wet! But- I don’t know how much that would turn him off...