From teen years on, slowly and progressively developed a shy bladder. Found it increasingly difficult to use public restrooms, and I could not go if anyone was next to or in back of me. Would have to use stalls, but tricky if next stall occupied - embarrassment of thinking about the person wondering what I was doing standing would cause me to stop and start, and knowing that could be heard, would stop me altogether.
Just when I thought I mastered using a stall, I found that when I tried to stop and put it back, I would dribble out of fear of wetting my pants - and a little dribble would become more as realization of wetting became apparent.
Prior to all the pads on the market, I would use paper towels, but once all the incontinent pads became available I began using them.
I suspect my problem relates to some kind fear of male authority, and it's like my mind is working against me. So, if my mind is working against me, I decided to turn the tables and, in short, began wearing women's full-cut nylon briefs and control panties to keep feminine bladder control pads in place, such as Poise and Serenity.
The use of women's panties and pads, has not solved my problem or fears - but I find like wearing them - so at least I can get some pleasure from my problem.