What did you find surprising when you first started having sex?

For me:

1. The vulva and women's bodies in general were smaller than I had imagined (i.e., I didn't fully appreciate the size difference between a man's and a woman's body)

2. I had never fantasized about rear entry, but the first time a woman presented herself to me to be taken from the rear was like a revelation -- the glistening pink labia, the triangle of dark hair and the smooth buttocks

3. In the woman on top position, the feeling of vaginal fluid trickling down my scrotum was unanticipated and delightful.

We were snuggling on the couch. She had her PJs on. She grabbed my hand and put it down between her legs. She was so wet and slippery.

That lasted as long as I did. And the feeling of her vagina contracting around mt penis as she orgasmed.

Quite how much mess is made, big damp patch under my butt from us both and leaking cum for a little while after.

The very first time I ejaculated inside a woman's vagina and a few minutes later she giggled and said 'Your stuff is all coming out again!' It was something we hadn't thought about, blood on the sheet perhaps as she was a virgin, but we were both naive as to the semen leaking onto the sheet.

So many things.

1) That the pussy is kinda soft. I mean on the outside too. I imagined the labia majora would be firmer somehow.

2) That i lasted so long, way too long. I was first proud of myself, them disappointed i never experienced excitement so large i'd cum from it alone. I learned about death grip later.

3) How little mess we made. I read all about the mess we should expect. She was very wet, i could barely feel anything. And i came inside. But i don't think we made a wet spot on the sheets at all. Even after fucking all night (with breaks of course).

4) When i came inside and pulled out, her pussy stayed open and i could see a small dark hole with a pool of my cum along the bottom. I've never seen anything like that in porn, before or after.

5) It's exhausting. So much more work than just moving my hand.

6) The girl is not wet just because i am hard. I entered her again after we woke up in the middle of the night and it hurt us both a little.

7) The first thrust felt way better for her with my foreskin already retracted.

8 ) Oral is way better than sex. For me anyway.

That it is a lot of work and that it can be rather messy. That the images from movies and books that the beds stay clean and neat was all so untrue. Yet despite all the things that may make sex messy, I still wanted more and more of it!

First time with a guy: there is no way that is going to fit! It did, somehow. Also, I expected it to super painful, bloody, and I did not expect to cum. I was wrong on all three counts. There was some pain, but I lucked out and he was an excellent lover. We were together for years after that.

First time with a woman (never went back to a man again, LOL): I remember going down on her for the first time and thinking 1. “I don’t know what the fuck I’m doing, but she’s making good sounds, so I guess I’m doing okay….” 2. “Yep, I’m definitely a lesbian!” 3. How did I ever let men, marketing, or media convince me that pussies were gross, stinky, fishy, etc. Fuck no….that shit was/is better than ice cream, and I love me some ice cream.

Great topic, btw!

That girls like it as much as guys, and some are multi orgasmic.

Being a little bit of a late bloomer not much surprised me except that it was better than i ever imagined.

Since I am primarily interested in sex with men, I'll say that when I was actively having sex with the opposite sex I was surprised by how naturally all my parts worked. lol I was 16 when a girl wanted to fool around with me and as soon as her panties came off, I was as hard as a rock. I loved the smell of the vagina when I spread it open and started licking it. I couldn't get enough of the taste of her. I didn't penetrate the first time around, I just rubbed my penis against her labia and I *exploded*. It took some practice before I could control how quickly I climaxed after going in.

I love the warm cum inside but it started to smell over time.

There were no lightning bolts from the sky coming at me.

The most surprising thing for me was that there was finally a girl who let me have sex with her. And even more surprising wanted to do it again.

I had previously read so much about sex, natural and unusual and fetishistic sex and so on so much, that theoretically I seem to have been well prepared for the practicalities and not too surprised at much.

But getting 'permission'. That was the surprising thing.

Being a little bit of a late bloomer not much surprised me except that it was better than i ever imagined.

@Amene1111 that is something that I learned. Especially when my sub and I got more in tune to what pleasured both of us.

That a penis thrusting in and out of my vagina wasn’t “the most incredible experience” that it’s made out to be.

The gentle naughty playing and exploring that my bff and I used to do was still more satisfying. But I felt guilty for years because fucking didn’t make me happy. I still hope to enjoy it with the right person one day but I’m no longer complexed about it.

I was with a Woman that was very controlling the first time, I was scared to death, I had been enjoying suckling her large milk filled breasts and all of a sudden she push me down and straddled me that is when I wished I was home, as she reached around grabbed my little guy and as she pushed into between her lips where it was hot and dripping wet and I was only semi, and she said now! Yes I lost control. She finished by rubbing her clit into what she called mine. After this for some reason she would call me to come over, many times it happen. I still don't know why....

I learned a lot!

Women take longer to warm up than a man. We are ready to get hard and stick it in on a moment's notice. She may be receptive to the "let's do it NOW" but maybe doesn't get as much out of it as the guy does. But, given ample play time to warm up and get into the moment, I was truly surprised at how wet she got and how messy the result was.

Most women need more than your dick in their pussy to be done. Playing with their breasts and lots of oral can make her day.

Most of us were not good at sex when we started, but hopefully we learned along the way. That goes for her too.

That a penis thrusting in and out of my vagina wasn’t “the most incredible experience” that it’s made out to be.

Now that you mention it, I'd have to say the same thing for me. I much preferred manual sex play to simple classic piv.

Of course the first times you are allowed to have vaginal sex are indeed exhilarating, because that is what society in general conditions people to think how sex should be experienced and it seems like having metaphorically hit a sexual home run. You've scored, (which is a sports metaphor that is not used in other cultures btw). Piv is the expected norm and built up to high expectations in art, literature and so on.

But once piv sex was readily available, I came to realize that manual sex to be more pleasurable. A hand can do a multitude of things a vagina can't.

So yes, I agree with this.

Many things, my first time was scary for me.

The fear of being discovered by our parents made it more intense. We started kissing and out of nowhere we were naked.

1) The feeling of someone grabbing my penis and the feeling of touching the vagina for the first time, wet and warm the smells.

2) The tightening of the vagina when penetrating,the burning when my penis felt completely tense and the heat I felt in my penis

3) The noise when putting in and taking out.

4) Her intense orgasm and mine, she was the one in charge that time and when she felt me ​​coming she hugged me with her legs and didn't let me leave.

5)But above all, when we finished seeing her vagina and all the liquid with semen and the stains

6) And the burning sensation in my penis hours later

Possibly for a lot of people it didn’t live up to their expectation about how utterly fantastic it would be. The anticipation surpassed the actual act. Depends on the partner, involvement (or lack of), fear, over excitement, phase of the moon, peer pressure, whether it was an opportunistic quickie or drawn out love making. I can’t speak for women, but I’d bet a lot were disappointed with how fast it was over!

That my bum was sore afterwards. Just kidding. Sorry couldn't resist that. lol. 😃

For sure, all of it !! - and i will never forget the girl, which was on the other side !! - maybe it was not perfect, but it was " the first time " to have and to do it !! - and so i will remember it until " the end of my day's " !!

What surprised me:

1) cocks are huge. You men all freak out about dick size but the first time I saw a real live erection I was literally a little frightened by how big it was. Like, for most of us, tampons are intimidating to put in the first few times we use one and they’re tiny compared to an erection.

2) the skin on your cock feels so soft and smooth. Yeah your cock is hard but the skin is like silk.

3) balls are squishy. I used to think they’d be like golf balls or something.

4) cum is hot when it comes out. That surprised me. The texture did too. I didn’t think it would be thick, I assumed more watery

5) just how different a tongue feels than a finger 😳🤤

What surprised me:

1) cocks are huge. You men all freak out about dick size but the first time I saw a real live erection I was literally a little frightened by how big it was. Like, for most of us, tampons are intimidating to put in the first few times we use one and they’re tiny compared to an erection.

2) the skin on your cock feels so soft and smooth. Yeah your cock is hard but the skin is like silk.

3) balls are squishy. I used to think they’d be like golf balls or something.

4) cum is hot when it comes out. That surprised me. The texture did too. I didn’t think it would be thick, I assumed more watery

5) just how different a tongue feels than a finger 😳🤤

Dear Nurse !

Many thanks for your memoried thougts of having first time intercourse with a Partner !!

Yes, for sure there are many explorations and no one would exactly know, what can be happen !!

But most important was " point 5 " in your description, as i thought !!

In germany we have a " special proverb ", that was called: nobody would know, what intercourse is only a substitute to an ordinary tongue licking " !!

Hopefully you can unterstand my words, but i am truely sure, you can, and so i will wish you and your husband greatful times in the future !!

Kindly regards from germany !!

No real surprises early on. I had rather frequent sex from the time I was about 15 and half until I was a junior in college. I always had my partner use a condom and I used a diaphragm as well. During my junior year my long-term sex buddy and I decided to dispense with always using a condom in addition to my diaphragm. I can still remember like it was just yesterday when we first had intercourse without a condom; I woke up in the middle of the night lying on a wet spot of a mixture of semen and contraceptive jelly-yuck! That was a big surprise. I suspect that one of the reasons that married women favor using condoms for contraception is that they don't have to contend with sleeping on a wet spot. Also, less probability of telltales on the sheets in the morning!

Dita

@Dita we have sex on a towel for just that reason. ❤️

What surprised me the most was that his cock was large and round and I did not think I could take it all in me. But once inside of me it seemed like I just adjusted to his size and I found myself "constricting" or "squeezing" around his shaft when he was inside of me.

The second thing that surprised me when I found the courage to examine him closer is how "spongy" the tip of his cock was. The feel of his cock in my hand was so different than when he was inside of me.

The third thing was that when he ejaculated it felt hot and a "thump" right up in there when he came.

And yes, good sex is sloppy and everything he brought to the party plus everything I donated seeped out onto the bed or wherever we fucked. I also learned to "embrace the squish" after sex and to clean up fairly soon afterwards.

I was also happy to find out that the real thing hit me harder all over than just a dildo or toy that I used.

@Dita we have sex on a towel for just that reason. ❤️

For sure, not a bad way !! - but there will be a lot of towels needed, in your both relationship, i would imagine !!

Sorry for this - maybe unpleasant " comment, but it should only be a joke !! - and so i beg your pardon !!

The third thing was that when he ejaculated it felt hot and a "thump" right up in there when he came.

Yes @TrinaStarr I thought that too, I was a bit surprised how warm it felt. I felt the squirts as well, my mum had told me I might.