THis fetish is rooted in the deepest origins of our psyches identity. I believe it can be adjusted to overtime if you go through a process of self recognition, patienceand honesty. First of all it is a phnomenon so you are not a freak. secondly try and achieve a healthy balance with it. Do not swear them off. Your only setting yourself u for self loathing. A counselor recomended to me a small lockable chest where I could lock them away the lock acting as a internal mechanism of my mind seperating the "little" me from the art of myself that has to live in the real world. I believe a person could "get rid of it" if they whole heartedly wanted too. But truthfully we do it because it provides with benefits on some deep level. I view it like the patroneous charm that Harry Potter used on the dementors. Only for our mind. When life gets a little overbearing we project a shield out. We dwell on the shield which we understand... rether than life which is much less familiar. I also did quite a bit of thinking about what the origins of the desiress were... and what they have developed into. I'm not condemning the guys who post videos of them taking a dump in their diaper online. But it seems obvious to me that they are reaching out in a time of severe mental distress. I understand the sentiment associated with act and that its origins have significant correlation to shame and control over their environment. But am turned off of the behavior as a whole when I see such displays. I never had a mother and was the one cousin diapered at nights u until he was ten. I reached out as I got older to so many girls...very timidly at first. And found my first love when I realized that my artner didn't judge me for it. However she was firm about not wanting anything to do with it...and I am convinced that is the best aproach. Our inner child... like most real childrne need boundaries and a symathetic partner is an open door for years of reressed desires to emmerge. Very quickly you stop making love with that generous and kind hearted soul. And you use them to relive it over and over. You may not ask.. but you hope every time she throws you a bone and volunteers to be your caretaker. I regret this very much on more than one occasion. I may share the knowledge with the person under the right situation nowadays. But I am no longer comfortable involving another non abdl person with it. And I'm sick of ab girls who want a daddy and a pretend world.. and never to recirocate. Its a coping mechanism.. And an effective one. But it must be ket in check. I believe it is rooted in an attempt to simulate a form of nurturing we lack. It is litterally an infantile state that will never fully mature. But We are large and contain multitudes. Develop your own inner parent. Realize the desire is a signal that your looking that coping mechanism. Find an aproriate time and manner to do so... and love yourself enough to achnowledge your struggling very hard and its okay. Forget about what the outside world would think if they knew. You have the right to have the issue and keep it private. And if you do not let it become the driving force in your life....(meaning your handling your real problems) you deserve to be proud of yourself. He who makes a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man. Just dont sell too much of yourself to aease it. Love the little you. a little AND THE REST OF YOU MORE. you are not a retarded man baby. Your a man who is striving to live a well rounded existance... and dont feel ashamed for one second. ..Micah...P.S. It had been a while so I indulged this ast few days... but as I'm finishing the cycle out...I'm forcing myself to continue to browse even after the climax... and yeah it gives you a little bit of that what the hell is this? in your mind. Which I find helps me realize I am definately gonna ut the lock back on the chest and focus on what I need to get back to in the real world... sorry I'm a windbag
Careful what you wish for! There may be a genie in there who interprets your desire to be something you are not in a different way than do you. While I often crave a simpler life and have tried to grow out of the baby inside, I've had no real success. The more meaningful I've been able to make my life the less I've cared about the little details like being a AB/DL and the less I've needed the security and comfort. But even when life rocks I still find comfort there. It occurs to me that we may be looking in the wrong place for this answer. Anyone who has "kicked the habit" will have stopped participating and will not be represented here.
I love wearing diapers a lot but on the other hand having to sneak around to do it and the hurt it might cause you or a loved one kinda makes me wish I could stop it but I would miss it and i feel like noe the urges are to much to resist also it is a big stress reliever and gives a sence of security. I think instead of turning it off, maybe just be able to control the urges better
Bieng that I will be 64 in a week, I find most of what i find on tv crap and mosty reality tv and American Idol or So You Think You Can Dance and real boring music, the only enjoyment I have is my cloth diapers and plastic panties and my fantasy of bieng a toddler/baby.There is no way I am giving that up
I don't think I would want to get rid of it. Even if only in my dream, it provides that safe place for me to return to that has been there since I was six. It's my safe haven, my retrete if you were. Besides that, it's a large part of who I am as a person, and it helps define who I am, and personally, I am more than fine with that.Mashie
Being IC I came here to try to accept what was forced on me.Now after all these years and tears and anger I find myself needing them. Not just physically but psychologically.It is my security blanket that is wrapped around my waist. Even if I could be cured I don't think I could give them up. And I'm at peace with that.A note to Dr J,I also thought about asking God about a lot of things. Then I realized by the time I get there none of it will matter.