When you are the giver, what arouses you the most about how the receiver prepares?

The fact that I am controlling his bowels by pumping a quantity of Hot Soapy water while he might enjoy the feeling initial, will soon feel the cramping pains as his bowels fill; and only I know that very soon he'll be pleading for me to stop and will feel relieved when I do and remove the nozzle. But this soon replaced by an inflatable Butt Plug and he is told that his enema is not yet finished and will continue in few minutes I then deliver a Hard spanking on his rounded cheeks and his inner things stopping only when his cries lead to tears. And then refilling the bowl, continue his enema adding to his already full bowels.

I am in control of how it is given. I control the cramps. I like to look at the tiny hole. Then slide a well-lubed finger in slowly. Then have them turn onto their back if they aren't already. Now I am in control of the flow and their orgasm. I swear I get so wet doing it. I love to watch the receiver get undressed because it is usually slower than normal. Then how they push back on your lubed finger and how they push back on the nozzle.

@Tabitha32 Do you make them watch the preparation of their enema?

Love this discussion and reading what a "giver" (to me, that would be a "Top") wants/needs. Reading a lot of the answers, i find as a "receiver" (bottom), i want/need Who and how He is and the exchange becomes symbiotic, even though One is in control and the other is controlled.

For mre the facial response and utterances of the woman to my douche bulb enemas would be most erotic.

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I have never had to make them watch. They do it on their own.

Love to make the recipient stand next to me naked as I prepare her enema. I tell her exactly what will be happening in humiliating detail. When the bag is ready. I march her into the bedroom where she assumes the knee chest position with her feet hanging over the end of the bed. I then hang the bag and and pull a chair up between her legs. A front row seat to all of her modesty. I will take my time playing with and lubricating her anus as I continue to coach her on being cooperative and taking all of the enema. I love to watch the nozzle slide in to her waiting anus. During her enema I will play witht the nozzle keeping all of her attention on her anus.

Love that control!!!

@draino14 Sounds like you very much want a young lady to be obedient?

I am most into erotic enemas (rather than, for example BDSM), so my favorite parts as a giver would be...

* seeing her very wet vagina as I spread her cheeks and insert a well-lubricated finger in her bottom to prepare her for insertion

* hearing a little gasp or moan as the nozzle enters her and slides home

* watching her rub her clit or use a vibrator to enhance the pleasures of her enema

* watching her (tempory) frustration as I coach her to hold back her orgasm and stay on the edge as the enema continues to slowly fill her (I use a start / stop technique to minimize cramping)

* (most of all) watching her have an intense orgasm as the last bit of the enema drains into her and that faint sucking sound is heard

@Moe nice posting. I too am for erotic and pleasurable enemas. Not into "punishment" ones at all. A little cramping though is nice!!!

@MaryJo, absolutely!

The quiver of her anxious hips and the faint blush of her arousal are reward enough.

I do love being the giver. Since I was in college and exchanging enemas with an older woman, a nurse.

Now I’m a play doctor and I have a couple of enemates who come prepared for enema sessions every time they come to town.

My next adventure as a play doc will be examining the wife of a couple I met here.

She wants to experience her first enemas in the hands of an experienced play doc.

I will join her and her husband at their vacation home.

As the lady’s exam begins, her husband will be with us listening and watching to our exchange of information and her exam as it progresses from EEN to heart rhythms, breast exam, stomach exam, and vaginal and rectal exams. I’ll have a rectal thermometer and vaginal speculum for this part of the well woman exam.

When I prescribe suppositories and a series of enemas, he will leave the exam room, giving his wife some privacy.

Up until this point, I’ve played the role of doctor wearing a lab coat, using a stethoscope and wearing and exchanging exam gloves.

When her husband leaves at her request, I will become more erotic in the things I ask her to do, the positions I ask her to assume and the amount of time I spend with my hands attending to her lady parts. I’ll essentially repeat her vaginal-rectal exam, take her rectal temperature again and spend a lot of time leisurely inspecting her clitoris and her urethra.

As I see her wetness and arousal, I’ll examine her glands and the fluid gushing forth. I’ll be prepared to insert several glycine suppositories deeply into her rectum. I’ll take my time playing with her anus and rectum.

When I feel the suppos melting, it will be time to prepare her first ever warm soapy enema. I’ll have her standing at the bathroom sink naked watching the clear bag fill with two quarts of water and peppermint soap.

She may not be able to hold the whole enema, but she will be very aroused and ready to feel the douche nozzle exploring her rectum and bowel. I’ll have a stand to hang the bag on as I get her into the knee-chest position.

Of course I will need (actually want) to lubricate and massage her rectum and sphincter muscles while I talk about the insertion and watch her clitoris swell and the wetness of her labia.

She’ll have a small vibrator in her hand and I will be encouraging her to use it on her clitoris as I insert the nozzle, twist it around, remove it and reinsert it several times before I seat in at the entrance of her sigmoid.

Then the clamp will be opened to a slow flow. The bag will be hanging where she can see it emptying into her bowel.

This will continue with a second soapy enema and a warm water rinse.

As I have enjoyed every minute of her exam and enemas, I will begin to satisfy myself by inserting a couple of Preparation H suppositories to comfort her hiney that might be a little sore.

She is bringing her dildos and vibrators to show me how she uses them and I will have a couple of new ones to demonstrate on her. One will be a butt plug, which she hasn’t used before.

It will be virtually impossible to say which part of this I will enjoy the most.

It might sound silly, but times when my husband argued with me about his need for an enema, I rather enjoyed those exchanges.

There was one occasion when he had been in bed sick for a couple of days and I needed to go to work in the morning. I told him before I left that I would be home to fix lunch, and if he had not been to the bathroom, he was going to get an enema.

I was meeting with a client that morning, and funny thing, I was sitting there thinking about the enema I might be giving my husband, even looking forward to it.