Women's approach to husband's vasectomy

When a man has a vasectomy he doesn't actually lose his fertility or his sex-drive. His balls still produce millions of sperms as per normal but they just can't get out during ejaculation. Apparently they are re-absorbed but I'm not sure how that works.

I have a friend who had a vasectomy after two children. That was enough for them apparently.

But then, surprise, surprise, they had a third anyway, despite the vasectomy. He didn't seem all that despondent as I would have been. Moreover, there was no compensation for a botched vasectomy.

I don't know how this would work in other countries, but apparently you're out of luck compensation wise if you're stuck with an unwanted child after a vasectomy.

I have a friend who had a vasectomy after two children. That was enough for them apparently.

But then, surprise, surprise, they had a third anyway, despite the vasectomy. He didn't seem all that despondent as I would have been. Moreover, there was no compensation for a botched vasectomy.

I don't know how this would work in other countries, but apparently you're out of luck compensation wise if you're stuck with an unwanted child after a vasectomy.

I suppose it would depend on who the child looks like.😈

I suppose it would depend on who the child looks like.😈

I never asked if they had a paternity test done. Hard to tell how people might take such a question.

I proposed vasectomy to my wife. She told me it was not worth it—she'd go with a hormonal IUD anyway, because the hormonal IUD also suppresses periods, which is a big plus for her.

A female doctor told me that most of her medical colleagues have hormonal IUDs simply to stop the inconvenience of periods, making surgery, an effectively permanent but neither certain nor risk free option, a pretty dated choice now.

I don’t know if there’s a known failure rate on vasectomy, but I’d be very curious to read the exact language of the consent form they signed. I’m also curious about the outcomes of any suits filed for compensation for pregnancy after vasectomy.

Eric

I don’t know if there’s a known failure rate on vasectomy,

A quick search gave a 1 to 2 in 1000 failures for vasectomies.

A female doctor told me that most of her medical colleagues have hormonal IUDs simply to stop the inconvenience of periods, making surgery, an effectively permanent but neither certain nor risk free option, a pretty dated choice now.

Be aware that hormonal birth control can cause problems in some women. Not to rule it out, but don't assume that it always is a first choice.

I'd hardly consider vasectomy "mutilation". Mine was pretty much on the order of a filling at the dentist. Interesting to see how things go together though.

I don’t know if there’s a known failure rate on vasectomy, but I’d be very curious to read the exact language of the consent form they signed. I’m also curious about the outcomes of any of suits filed for compensation for pregnancy after vasectomy.

Eric

Mine is cauterized, clipped, and about 1cm of vas removed. You wait a couple of weeks and then they test to make sure there are no viable sperm in the semen. If there is any question they can test again later, not to mention that you can physically feel it - with the clips the ends of the vas are pretty obvious.

I need to consider doing this...

I have a friend who had a vasectomy after two children. That was enough for them apparently.

But then, surprise, surprise, they had a third anyway, despite the vasectomy. He didn't seem all that despondent as I would have been. Moreover, there was no compensation for a botched vasectomy.

I don't know how this would work in other countries, but apparently you're out of luck compensation wise if you're stuck with an unwanted child after a vasectomy.

@agracier,

I’m glad your friend was able to accept the unexpected child better than you might have expected. Just curious if you don’t mind my asking this. Do you have any knowledge of when your friends had the baby after the vasectomy? Did he/they tell you much about how he was tested before being told sex was safe again without contraception? If it’s too personal, no problem at all. Thank you,

Eric

The topic discussion is all nonsense. I had a vasectomy and my wife agreed it was a good thing to do. Our two beautiful baby girls were a delight and I wanted to keep it that way. The procedure was no big deal although having nurse tell me to raise my "dress" (my medical gown) was disarming but her shaving technique was awesome. After the procedure the doctor scheduled a return visit about two months later to check that I was firing "blanks" -no sperm in the ejaculation. Near the end of the two months my wife's period was late and now what? And of course my wife had mentioned these events to a lady neighbor. So the lady neighbor offered to come over an help me provide a sample for the jar... And damned not only did my wife let the neighbor lady obtain the sample but this overall experience led me to my medfet obsession!

I’m glad your friend was able to accept the unexpected child better than you might have expected. Just curious if you don’t mind my asking this. Do you have any knowledge of when your friends had the baby after the vasectomy? Did he/they tell you much about how he was tested before being told sex was safe again without contraception? If it’s too personal, no problem at all. Thank you,

I don't really have any of that info. I asked if he was certain about the third child and all, you know, politely hinting around. But I didn't get any real info of a personal nature.

In the United States you can’t claim damages for an unwanted pregnancy as a matter of law as a pregnancy is not an injury. Agree/disagree doesn’t matter. That’s what it is.

In the United States you can’t claim damages for an unwanted pregnancy as a matter of law as a pregnancy is not an injury. Agree/disagree doesn’t matter. That’s what it is.

It is probably the same here where my friend lives.

But boy oh boy, it can certainly turn out to be a huge unwanted financial burden and responsibility you wished to avoid by having a vasectomy in the first place. I've heard of more frivolous reasons for suing than this.

Had this happened to me, I'd probably have been so livid I'd have popped an aneurysm.

The topic discussion is all nonsense. I had a vasectomy and my wife agreed it was a good thing to do. Our two beautiful baby girls were a delight and I wanted to keep it that way. The procedure was no big deal although having nurse tell me to raise my "dress" (my medical gown) was disarming but her shaving technique was awesome.

Yeah, I have no idea why they didn't want me to shave at home. I specifically asked and the doc said "no" - then I get there and they use electric clippers. Also weird to have a doc and assistant right down between my legs, but I guess women get that frequently so I have no cause to complain. As I mentioned earlier it was interesting to see everything pulled out and dissected. My big takeaway is: MAKE SURE IT IS DEAD NUMB! "I don't feel much" is OK for the initial incision but when they get to clipping the vas it is very noticeable. I didn't scream but the loud grunt was definitely noticeable in the room.

After the procedure the doctor scheduled a return visit about two months later to check that I was firing "blanks" -no sperm in the ejaculation. Near the end of the two months my wife's period was late and now what? And of course my wife had mentioned these events to a lady neighbor. So the lady neighbor offered to come over an help me provide a sample for the jar... And damned not only did my wife let the neighbor lady obtain the sample but this overall experience led me to my medfet obsession!

Yeah. My wife had zero interest in helping with the sample. After that there was the trip to the hospital lab with it stuffed in my pants to keep it warm for the car journey, then trying to nonchalantly carry a clear specimen container of semen through the lobby area. Glad it was just one test.

@michjay Your wife let her neighborhood friend jerk you off?

@michjay Your wife let her neighborhood friend jerk you off?

And why would your wife's period being late mean a neighbour not her would need to provide the hand job? Actually, it's the one job most men can be relied upon to complete themselves.

My price was that the "clearance process" and sample collection was her business. It added a bit of interest to the process.

Yeah, I have no idea why they didn't want me to shave at home. I specifically asked and the doc said "no" - then I get there and they use electric clippers.

@moliere I think they prefer to do the shaving because of micro cuts or injury you could do with self shaving. Thus eliminating any possible infection that might occur during the procedure.

@moliere @MissStress Not unreasonable - males are used to shave their face, not their pubes.

Be aware that hormonal birth control can cause problems in some women. Not to rule it out, but don't assume that it always is a first choice.

Amen to that, it took a few tries to find a formulation that wouldn't put my mental health in the toilet. Ultra low dose combination pill, I was crying at the drop of a hat and I couldn't function. Low dose mini pill, it ramped up my PTSD significantly. Compounded hormone cream usually used for HRT, I'm staying in a reasonable headspace, but I do need to talk with PCP about a dosing adjustment in a month. If I was seeking to prevent pregnancy, then the procedural routes look very tempting, as otherwise, I'd be toast.

I got clipped after our 2nd child. For us it was a an easy decision because the procedure is so easy for a man compared to what a woman goes through. There is a prevasectomy class they wanted a couple to go to to so they knew about the surgery and that it was a permanent decision to not have kids. We did not go to the class. I was told to shave the area before hand.

On the day of the surgery I had removed my pants and the nurse was going to prep me for surgery. She saw that I had shaved all of my pubic hair. She said I shaved too much. I only needed to shave the two areas on my scrotum where the incisions was going to be made. Oh well, I guess that might have been discussed in the class we did not go to. The actual procedure was quite simple and I was back to work on my next work day.

That was the first time I had ever shaved all my pubic hair. I have done that several times since just to change things up.

"Mutilation" is incredible hyperbole. I suspect women who are happy about the idea that their husband is getting a vasectomy are not excited about the idea of a scalpel being taken to his delicate bits, but at the shared enjoyment they can have post-procedure with the worry of pregnancy gone.

"Mutilation" is incredible hyperbole. I suspect women who are happy about the idea that their husband is getting a vasectomy are not excited about the idea of a scalpel being taken to his delicate bits, but at the shared enjoyment they can have post-procedure with the worry of pregnancy gone.

It is very possible that they enjoy solving the problem. Their husbands, on the other hand, are not very cheerful, often giving the impression of fear or pretending to be fun and cheerful.

I think that my vasectomy enhanced the sex life between my wife and me. She was tired of being on the pill, and we believed our time of having babies was over. My wife definitely encouraged it, even though I wondered if I should make a deposit to a sperm bank, just in case. So the vasectomy was a good thing, although it didn't go all that smoothly. I wrote a blog post about my experience, in case you'd like to have a look.

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=blog;ox=showpage;pg=7479

A vasectomy beats using the 100% effective drug noassatall.

A vasectomy beats using the 100% effective drug noassatall.

There is also the alternative of Onliassitall ...

Any ladies here watch their husband's vasectomy?

A vasectomy beats using the 100% effective drug noassatall.

That's what my wife gave me AFTER I had the snip, snip.

Had a vasectomy 18 years ago. Highly recommended. Much less invasive than a tubal ligation.

Never felt like I was any less of a man for getting snipped. If anything, it's something to joke about with other guys.

I don't know a single guy who regrets having the procedure done.