Women's approach to husband's vasectomy

Many times I have seen films on the Internet showing married couples who decided to have a vasectomy. The men tried to hide their fears of the procedure. However, their wives were overjoyed and did not hide it at all. I understand that they may have been pleased that the problem of family planning would be radically solved. The joy of these women, however, was a little inappropriate. They seemed to enjoy the fact that the man would be mutilated. If, in a similar situation, a man laughed at the fact that his wife was going to have surgery, everyone would condemn him. Write what you think about it, especially people who have dealt with this procedure, both men and their wives.

Mutilated?!? Lmaooo We have our whole body destroyed to give him children and all we ask in return is that he gets a procedure that basically equates to a paper cut.

Mutilated?!? Lmaooo We have our whole body destroyed to give him children and all we ask in return is that he gets a procedure that basically equates to a paper cut.

I don't know English very well so maybe I'm not using the words correctly. However, the procedure after which a man loses fertility is more than cutting paper. I don't mean to compare the pain of a woman and the pain of a man. Only women's reactions to a man's surgery,

Kind of hard to comment without seeing a specific instance of what you describe.

As to comparing surgeries: a vasectomy is done in a doctors office under local anesthesia and doesn’t require breaching the abdominal wall. A Tubal Ligation is done in a surgical suite under general anesthesia and requires breaching the abdominal wall. While a vasectomy isn’t a paper cut, it’s not on par with any equivalent a woman needs to undergo.

The amusement the wives are demonstrating might be due to the fact that many men are babies about any form of reproductive procedure. The average woman puts up with a LOT more in the way of medical procedure. A little schadenfreude isn’t surprising.

The "loss of fertility" is intentional and the whole point of the procedure. Both the man and woman should be happy to enjoy the sexual freedom it gives!

Some men (and possibly some women) equate men’s loss of fertility with loss of masculinity. That’s ridiculous, it’s not like getting castrated! Maybe that’s why some think it’s funny!

I've had a vasectomy and I can tell you quite honestly that it is a very very minor procedure, there is certainly no mutilation involved. They make a tiny incision at the front of the scrotum, no stitches required, hook each sperm tube out in turn and create a small lump with a heat device that effectively blocks it so no sperm can escape. It takes around 10 minutes, probably less. I would most certainly recommend it for men of a certain age in a relationship where the family is complete. It's an ideal situation in these cases and at the end of the day it is the man's choice whether to have it done or not...

I, too, have had a vasectomy. It's simple, minor and certainly much easier for the male species than having a woman go through a tubal ligation. When a couple decides that more children is not in their future, that's the procedure of choice. And you can have unrestrained sex any time without the fear of pregnancy.

Very minor procedure, especially compared to what a woman goes through to be sterilized. Would never have asked a wife of mine to go through that operation when it was so easy for me to be "cut and shut".

I hardly think a vasectomy could be described as a “mutilation”! It is very minor by all accounts here and elsewhere. On the opposite hand I have heard men describing a wife’s “tube tying” as if it is a simple procedure. It is not at all simple for the wife involved, particularly if is done as a separate operation apart from labor and delivery. Speaking of labor and delivery I understand that can be a “mutilating” experience only made better with a long awaited baby in a ones life. Some men can be such whimps! (I am blessed to have a husband who reports being near death whenever he has a COLD so you are probably not going to get much for sympathy from me!)

My gf has been talking about a tubal ligation, while I'm looking at a vasectomy myself. We both are not interested in having children, either together or at all. I have small concerns about it, but this topic definitely helped me to feel more comfortable about it.

Have any women here found a tubal ligation affects their weight?

Have any women here found a tubal ligation affects their weight?

I had one after my 3rd baby. 0 effect on weight. My first husband was too much of a wimp to get done and my doctor advised me not to get pregnant again (preeclampsia).

Current husband got the Big V during his first marriage. It’s telling that the 2 of us were the ones to take charge of our own fertility and not our first spouses.

I had known a few guys who had it done in the morning and went back to work in the afternoon so I decided to get one. It was not what I expected. He said I should shave but my wife wasn't willing to do that so I did the best I could by myself. It wasn't good enough so he called in his receptionist to do it to his liking. She had been a high school classmate of mine. He numbed me up and began what felt like someone cutting a loop of rope with a dull jack knife. I thought about offering to get the wire cutters from my truck for him. By the time he got to the other side I had to ask for more numbing.

When I got home I went to bed with my nuts laying on a pillow. They were all black and blue and quite swollen. I couldn't stand to have a sheet on top so I was laying there facing the bedroom door with my nuts and penis on display. My wife's friends (all girls) came over to console her. As they showed up she would send them up to console me by looking at me over my swollen balls. This parade included her 14 year old sister who wanted a good close look at what the doctor did with her approval.

I finally got back to work about 2 weeks later when my first TV service call was for the classmate who was his receptionist. After the pain subsided the whole thing was rather comical.

I heard March is the most popular month for vasectomies. The patient goes home, sits on the sofa with a bag of frozen peas stuffed in his shorts and watches basketball all day.

A true classic here by the Texan comedian, William Lee Martin, known as Cowboy Bill. The Perils of A Vasectomy. I laugh hard every time I watch it!

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Hs4R0FyFUK0

A vasectomy was thrown about for awhile but my sub just wouldn't commit. The horror stories of swollen, achy balls and loss of sexual interest was just too much for him. He never did get it done.

I would not have looked at him as any less masculine with a vasectomy. After awhile it would have made our sexual adventures less prone to worrying about pregnancy.

A true classic here by the Texan comedian, William Lee Martin, known as Cowboy Bill. The Perils of A Vasectomy.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Hs4R0FyFUK0

I've seen this before. It's hillarious.

I had a vasectomy, piece of cake.

@Fawkes Admittedly I may have lived a bit too sheltered of a life, but thanks for passing on that link - wonderfully appropriate here! i have a funny story of being a grade 3 teacher and a 3rd grade boy bringing a bag of not so frozen peas as a show and tell item of what his job had been on the weekend after his dads recent “operation” The kid gave a play by play grade 3 - 8 year old’s version of a vasectomy. I wish I had videotaped that one!

A true classic here by the Texan comedian, William Lee Martin, known as Cowboy Bill. The Perils of A Vasectomy.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Hs4R0FyFUK0

Some women worry that their spouse will lose interest in sex after a vasectomy. But it really doesn't make a vas deferens in one's sex drive.

Some women worry that their spouse will lose interest in sex after a vasectomy. But it really doesn't make a vas deferens in one's sex drive.

The loss of sexual interest was on her side not mine. The next time was 20 years later when I came home after heart bypass surgery, she jumped my bones and rode me cowgirl style. That's something I'd been trying to get her to do forever. I'm not sure if she was so happy to have me home or trying to kill me but it never happened again.

I wouldn't go so far as to say my vasectomy was a piece of cake, but it wasn't all that bad. The worst for me was yelping like a little girl when the urologist pulled on my vas deferens - I wasn't numb enough. He had the nerve to ask: "Did you feel that?" Yeah, what gave you your first clue. A couple of more doses of novacaine and I was good to go .

A weekend wearing tight, ball cupping underwear with an ice pack wedged between the legs and Monday morning I went back to work.

Oh, and you have to give them a couple of "samples" after the procedure, about a week or two apart to make sure there aren't any more "swimmers".

No difference in hornyness, my wife says that it tastes a little bit more savoury!

So she's happy to gulp it down !

Hubby had one 25 years ago and honestly he’s the horniest man I’ve ever been with so no issues there.

When a man has a vasectomy he doesn't actually lose his fertility or his sex-drive. His balls still produce millions of sperms as per normal but they just can't get out during ejaculation. Apparently they are re-absorbed but I'm not sure how that works. The tubes can sometimes be re-joined if desired but with mixed results, so it should be viewed as permanent. I had mine around 30 years ago and my sex-drive has always remained as strong as ever...

I got one in my mid 30’s after much insistence from my wife after I was fixed sex with her became none existent in less than a year and has been so since and I’m 63 now

Pretty sure it was a way to end sex for her since now she couldn’t get pregnant so I think subconsciously that equals no fun

Just sucks, and feel used

I got one in my mid 30’s after much insistence from my wife after I was fixed sex with her became none existent in less than a year and has been so since and I’m 63 now

Pretty sure it was a way to end sex for her since now she couldn’t get pregnant so I think subconsciously that equals no fun

Just sucks, and feel used

Sounds like my life. Mid 30s and the end of sex. When there's no possibility at all of pregnancy I guess she felt there was no reason for doing it.

I proposed vasectomy to my wife. She told me it was not worth it—she'd go with a hormonal IUD anyway, because the hormonal IUD also suppresses periods, which is a big plus for her.

Some women worry that their spouse will lose interest in sex after a vasectomy. But it really doesn't make a vas deferens in one's sex drive.

Wow! I’m not aware of a widely-known public award for the year’s best (or worst?) pun, like the recently awarded Mark Twain Prize for American Humor, but @Rigel I’d nominate you for that one! Glad it has little effect on libido - no good reason it should.

Eric

Wow! I’m not aware of a widely-known public award for the years best (or worst?) pun, like the recently awarded Mark Twain Prize for American Humor, but @Rigel I’d nominate you for that one! Glad it has little effect on libido - no good reason it should.

Eric

@ericmacson Wish I could take credit for that, but I adapted it from a joke I saw on the web.

I’m not that clever!