Women who are more into anal instead of vaginal.

Finding a woman who is more (even better exclusively) into anal activity with their partner - how rare is this? Would a man finding this out about a gal he is dating stop seeing her?

Finding a woman who is more (even better exclusively) into anal activity with their partner - how rare is this? Would a man finding this out about a gal he is dating stop seeing her?

@reddevil It didn't stop me!!

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Finding a woman who is more (even better exclusively) into anal activity with their partner - how rare is this? Would a man finding this out about a gal he is dating stop seeing her?

“Would a man finding this out about a gal stop seeing her”

Hang on & I'll scrape myself off the floor

“Come right in darlin . . allow me to introduce myself . .my name is TA . .pray tell m'lady & what is your name ?. . Oh that is a lovely ! . . . can I get you an alcoholic refreshment or 10 . . .here let me relieve you of your jacket . . (wry smile, while thinkin perhaps I can relieve you of your sweet panties later’), now tell me all about yourself”

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This sounds sooo cliche, but i swear the truth. I once dated an adorable young woman who happened to be what people around here call, “born again" and she honestly believed that somewhere in the bible it said that a young woman would remained a virgin if she only had anal sex, i certainly was not going to argue at least not for awhile.

Her best friend was even more messed up, she would not swallow her husbands cum because she though she would be swallowing thousands of unborn babies. they were an interesting lot. Both cute as bugs. The wont-swallow girl had legs that just would not stop, i fully understand why her husband put up with her.

Not this cowboy.

You would feel different if you had seen those legs.

I would do exclusively anal if I could, but for some reason I’ve found partners are on board with liking anal “too,” but weird about liking anal exclusively. I’ve therefore had to put up with a lot of penis in vagina over the years.

@Blue55 I would do exclusively anal if I could, but for some reason I’ve found partners are on board with liking anal “too,” but weird about liking anal exclusively.

Wow! A dream come true - but from what I've found, the more something is withheld (in this case vag sex) the more it becomes something desired.

Wow! A dream come true - but from what I've found, the more something is withheld (in this case vag sex) the more it becomes something desired.

Yeah I don’t refuse it now, I generally just explain “I’m not a fan of vaginal, but if you insist, then fine I guess we can do it.“ Most partners go ahead and insist - which I think is weird! I really don’t understand the appeal of having sex with someone who finds it to be an unappealing chore.

@Blue55 This is fascinating. It's the converse of how certain males pressure women who aren't fans of anal sex into having anal sex.

@Blue55 said:

I would do exclusively anal if I could, but for some reason I’ve found partners are on board with liking anal “too,” but weird about liking anal exclusively. I’ve therefore had to put up with a lot of penis in vagina over the years.

Vaginal sex is not a terrible thing to “have to put up with”!! 😄

Yeah I don’t refuse it now, I generally just explain “I’m not a fan of vaginal, but if you insist, then fine I guess we can do it.“ Most partners go ahead and insist - which I think is weird! I really don’t understand the appeal of having sex with someone who finds it to be an unappealing chore.

That sounds like it might kill the mood - isn't it more some of the “compromises” couples make that were talked about earlier here? We really enjoyed anal sex and anal play - incorporating some form of anal in almost (98%) of our sex. Quite often we would progress form vaginal sex with some anal fingering to straight anal - sometimes (but not often) not. We still enjoyed vaginal sex. The OP said:

Finding a woman who is more (even better exclusively) into anal activity with their partner - how rare is this? Would a man finding this out about a gal he is dating stop seeing her?

I don't think it's rare to find a woman who is into anal activity. Exclusively anal may be a little harder to find, but I don't see that as a deal breaker.

PS - JUST TO PUT THE RECORD STRAIGHT!!! When I first read the post I was referencing I thought it was written by a guy - not a female. From a male perspective, I thought that post to be selfish and somewhat passive aggressive. Viewing that post from a female perspective, I understand her points and that she's not a fan of vaginal. Just like some women (and men) don't want to receive anal, it's perfectly fine not to prefer vaginal.

@Rigel

Re vaginal being terrible: It depends on the woman. For me there’s no physical pleasure that comes of it - I don’t like the way it feels. If it’s messy or uncomfortable, which it sometimes is, then I’d say terrible. Otherwise I’d just say unappealing and chore :-)

Re kill the mood: that’s what I mean - I would think it SHOULD kill the mood! But far and away the majority of my male partners have said oh good and proceeded to perform vaginal sex anyway.

Re dealbreaker: I’ve found it to be an effective dealbreaker in that I haven’t found partners to be accepting of it. They whine, or pressure, or try to somehow convince me that vaginal is good, until I acquiesce. If I stood firm on anal exclusivity, I think I would have a hard time retaining male partners. Who knows though - maybe someday I’ll get lucky!

That’s me as well. I can’t say I refuse vag, it’s just not exciting in that ”this is kinky” kind of way. I know, I’m a dream come true😉

@Blue55 I was wrong, initially I thought you were a guy. 😘 You have every right to have control over your body. I just got it wrong and didn't pick up that you were female.

@Rigel Ha no worries - yup, I’m an anal-preferring female over here! 🍑❤️🍑

Can You tell us why you prefer it?

Can You tell us why you prefer it?

I physically enjoy the feel of it, whereas I don’t physically enjoy the feel of vaginal.

And psychologically, vaginal leaves me feeling disconnected from my partner because they’re enjoying it, and telling themselves (and me!) that I’m enjoying it, but in fact I’m not. That makes me feel invisible, like someone signed me up to be in a play but then started calling me Hamlet in my off hours too.

@Blue55 How about reciprocity? If your male partner wanted to be pegged and/or fisted, would you do that for them?

@Blue55 How about reciprocity? If your male partner wanted to be pegged and/or fisted, would you do that for them?

I’d try it, sure.

Each to thir own i suppose. for me, the more anal the better. had a short term girlfriend who wanted all the anal she could get. I got the feeling that the rare times I was welcomed into her pussy were because she thought that was expected. As we got used to each other it became aparent that we both loved anal and so I spent most of my time up her arse. I hadnt hear about pegging back then and so i have always wondered what she would be like as a pegger……

Its hard to find out if a lady likes it up the butt. I have not gone up to a lady and asked, do you like cock in your butt? haha One girl was riding me with my cock in her pussy, then she surprised me by going a little higher, she reached back,, moved my cock back to her butt hole and slowly lowered her butt down on my cock as she looked into my eyes. By the look on her face, she really was enjoying it as it went in all the way. I gave her a big cum enema after I pumped her butt for awhile. That's how I found out she was a anal lover.

Its hard to find out if a lady likes it up the butt. I have not gone up to a lady and asked, do you like cock in your butt?

Yep I hear you. Wifey has recently said thta she is ok with exploring the idea of me outsourcing my anal needs. Tricky to procede along the lines, as you say, cant just approach someone and say “do you like anal?” a conundrum

then she surprised me by going a little higher, she reached back,, moved my cock back to her butt hole and slowly lowered her butt down on my cock as she looked into my eyes.

You hit the proverbial jackpot! Lucky fellow and lucky gal as you were into it.

My boyfriend does not like anal, so we never did it. But if was single and finding someone new, I would prefere a anal kinky guy, cause I'm anal kinky by heart.

My boyfriend does not like anal, so we never did it. But if was single and finding someone new, I would prefere a anal kinky guy, cause I'm anal kinky by heart.

“Anal kinky by heart”

My my, that's some next-level kinky poetry, @Alickybombomdown. I love it!

This is what I call the holy grail of unicorns! I've loved anything to do with anal or butts since I was a kid giving and receiving. The strange thing with me. I love being pegged, and always love using toys on myself and other women, giving analingus, watching myself or objects move in and out. It makes me go wild and really excited. (If they are not vanilla and will let me.) Now a days its more of a pre requisite.

I've come to notice though over the years, when I have anal sex with a woman, however, it feels much different than a vagina to me, and probably since 2007. I haven't been able to cum or finish during anal sex. My penis just doesn't seem as stimulated there even though i want it to be. (Haven't tried it with a plug, toy, or object in myself while having sex yet but I need to.) Maybe it's the psychology of it with me, or the visuals, or scents that turn me on about it? Just wish I had a lover or lovers that were as enthusiastic about it as I am. I have more toys than a sex convention and I want to put them to good use!

@XposeHer This sounds sooo cliche, but i swear the truth. I once dated an adorable young woman who happened to be what people around here call, “born again" and she honestly believed that somewhere in the bible it said that a young woman would remained a virgin if she only had anal sex, i certainly was not going to argue at least not for awhile.

I am not certain that is written somewhere in the bible, it probably comes from a ‘sexually adventurous’ interpretation of certain texts, of the ‘if it’s not expressly forbidden, then it's ok' school of thought.

This idea is also apparently shared by adherents of other religions too. I find it to be one of the favorite excuses to hear from those who want to be strictly following rules but still cannot dispense with some good sex. I find it amusing they don't think of anal penetration as being real sex …

Personally I perceive women as anti anal sex as they think it is dirty, painful and not stimulating. I had an Asian girl friend who I gave orgasms with vaginal sex so much so that she did not resist when I gently inserted my penis slowly and patiently into a rectum. It was a glorious feeling for her as I caught a glimpse of her smile of satisfaction and for me to feel the tightness of rectum wrapped around my penis to finally ejaculate inside her. It was a loving experience that bonded us together in our relationship.

I am not certain that is written somewhere in the bible, it probably comes from a ‘sexually adventurous’ interpretation of certain texts, of the ‘if it’s not expressly forbidden, then it's ok' school of thought.

This idea is also apparently shared by adherents of other religions too. I find it to be one of the favorite excuses to hear from those who want to be strictly following rules but still cannot dispense with some good sex. I find it amusing they don't think of anal penetration as being real sex …

“There is no overt mention of anal sex in the Bible. In the account of Sodom and Gomorrah in Genesis 19, a large group of men sought to gang rape two angels who had taken the form of men. The men's homosexual lust is obvious, but again, anal sex is not mentioned. The words sodomy and sodomize come from this biblical account. Sodomy is, literally, “the sin of Sodom.””

For Muslims, Virginity is defined as a piece of anatomy, an intact hymen. Virginity in Islam is very important and should only lose virginity on her wedding night.

There have been several posts about young women preserving their virginity by only having anal sex prior to marriage. One discussion:

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=52718

My husband and I have enjoyed anal activity for many years. We plan to keep on going.

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