Physical exam with father present?

@carrie_behave

He is an abusive narcissistic sociopath.

Yeah but other than that…..

@Fawkes , I totally understand, I celebrated when my bio mother's sorry excuse of a husband died.

I am sorry that he failed to be anything like a father should. I don't hide the fact I came from an incredibly abusive and fucked up childhood so know a little bit about it.

I'll provide the cake and balloons for the celebration when it comes.

Growing up in a single parent household, my father was in the exam room during several of my physicals. This was very common until I reached the age where I could drive.

At the time, he and I shared the one and only bathroom. Therefore, nudity was very common between us and his presence made my exams a little more comfortable. I never saw my father examined but I did receive my pre-college physical from my father's doctor. My dad was not in attendance but being completely naked as the exam concluded … having my first EKG … and first DRE at this particular exam certainly knocked my med-fet tendancies up a notch.

It was normal for me since I grew up with my dad

Usually my mother took me to exams, but I remember one particular event when I was 13-14yo.

My father took me downtown to some kind of institute. We came into a waiting room without other persons present and that looked totally empty of furniture. It looked like they waited for me and only I was the patient of attention that day.

We then were let into another room that also looked totally empty except an examination table that I had to lay on. I think I was naked, but I cannot remember for sure. I remember one doctor and my father present.

Then followed an exam that I remember rook a very long time. Because of the long time it took I was sure they found something wrong with me and I would be hospitalized.

I wagely remember that the attention was pointed at my lower body, but except from this I cannot remember any detail from the exam. I also wagely remember there was a door from the room into a third room and noises from that room telling that something got prepared there, like instruments being laid out made ready.

It all begun and ended with me laying on the same table, with the same doctor and my father sitting in a chair. The doctor said that he did not find any wrong. When going home I had feelings in my anus and irethra as something had been done there, but I did not got me to think much about it, as if I was drugged in some way.

The fact that I remember so little is exceptional and points to me being put in general anesthesia and that the bulk of the exam was carried out in another room, but I do not remember how the anesthesia was given either. I strongly suspect that what happened in that other room was a pelvic exam with endoscopic instruments.

I had some symptoms as kid that made such exams logical.

I have an isolated picture in my memory of me being placed in something like an intensive care unit with breathing tube, catheter and a tube coming from a machine, going down between my legs and into my anus.

Perhaps this picture is from that exam, and I stayed overnight in that unit, and what happened in that unit was an analyses of my body functions.

Retrospectally it looks like the beginning and the end of the exam was in a room with very little to see and hear and that I got anesthesia and went out of anesthesia in that room.

The event is bizarre, not because of what I remember, but because I remember so little and because the rooms I remember being in seemed so void of furniture and equipment.

It was normal for me since I grew up with my dad

@patientin_Jacqui when did you start to go solo/ have him wait out in the waiting room?

Early actually, first time I was in alone I was 9

Usually my mother was present, I only remember two situations as my father came.

I never had a physical exam at the same time as my father did, but at the end of my senior year my father took me to his doctor for my college physical exam. My father's doctor had been an Army doctor - there were many of them around at the time because of the Korean and Vietnam wars - and those guys were known for not caring about modesty and for being very thorough. I stripped down to my boxer shorts but the doctor had me remove them right at the start. My dad had seen me nude at home many times but this felt different, especially when the doctor was examining my genitals and checking me for a hernia. And then - big surprise - I got my first rectal exam standing there right in front of my father!

After that dad would take me to his doctor for my physicals and he always came into the room with me.

The only time my dad was present for my exams that I can remember was when I was 11 and 12…..cause 13 was when the first time I went into by myself without him.

Sooo I don’t remember much but I do remember being so embarrassed having to be in my underwear with my dad just sitting there hanging out.

My Dad did not go to yearly physical exams with us. Only my Mom and only until about 5th grade.

Never had a physical exam at the same time with my dad. For one physical exam he took me to the appointment but didn't go in the exam room.

Both my parents were present for my physicals at ages 11, 12, and 13. I was taken in as a foster child and shortly after I moved in I had a complete physical with a new pediatrician. My FPs along with my diving coach were concerned about my health issues. Although my diving skills were improving I was still underweight and I suffer from asthma. My FPs, doctor and coach wanted me to become stronger and more confident. I didn't mind my FPs sitting in on my exams. It was a little uncomfortable at times but time and again they made it abundantly clear they were truly concerned about me. In the back of my mind I understood why they were present. A few years later I was capable of doing a handstand on the diving platform. At 14 I started seeing the doctor alone.

I don't have any specific memories of my dad being present for a general physical (he took me to the appointment that resulted in my first rectal exam, but wasn't in the room).

But I absolutely preferred him to go with me to the orthopedic surgeon. He and my dad were about the same age and were being very "bro"-ish. It was oddly comforting in a way as they were discussing serious surgeries. The "ortho bro" memes are real.

My dad only took me to a few exams. Usually only when my mom absolutely couldn’t for some reason. The one that I remember well was one where I got a boner during the pants down part of the visit. Obviously embarrassing since I was about 12 or 13.

I think it was the first time I had ever had a hernia check. Usually I would be laying down for the penis check but I guess since this was a sports physical it was different, idk. Anyway, I remember being a little slow to get up and take my pants off since I was already a little hard from the palpating section of the exam. My dad said something like “don’t waste the doctors time” and “at least it’s me here and not your mom” in a kind of we are all guys here kind of way. He loved pulling that anytime I acted prudish.

So I ended up getting off the table and dropping my pants with my penis already standing up a little. The doctor made a comment like “looks like it’s working” to my dad who just laughed and agreed with him. I know I was red in the ears and face. The doctor did his best to do it quickly with the whole turn and cough thing. I remember feeling uncomfortable and embarrassed by the whole thing.

In retrospect, I am glad it was my dad and not my mom, and glad he found it humorous more than anything.

Mom always took me. Dad worked.

The presence of either parent at any of my childhood - especially adolescent/teen - physicals makes the memory of it more intense, even if I did not like it at the time.

My dad was in the room with me often when I went to my pediatrician for my yearly check ups. Always seeing me in my underwear while I was being examined. When I was 15 or 16 I had to go for a physical and my dad stayed in the room with me again. I was a lot more self conscious then and I was definitely more embarrassed having him seeing me in my underwear. The most embarrassing part was the genital exam. I got fully erect and my dad saw everything. He talked to me about it on the way home saying that I should not be embarrassed and that it happened to him as well.

Generally my dad only took me when I was sick. My dad always saw me naked when he punished me, but it was more embarrassing when I had to be naked with him and the doctor as it was hard to hide an erection.