After years of working with men and having many very confidential and intimate conversations and encounters with men in my life and in my massage practice, and med fet encounters, I conclude that sexuality it a black box and on a continuum each person falls in his/her own unique spot. We never know whats in that box or are able to label it. But I have found great joy in turning men on to anally eroticism and satisfying their curiousness about it on their level. Men are curious about new ways to get off and how to experience orgasm in more sophisticated ways i.e., with anal or prostate stimulation, which is the male version of a clitoris as far as eroticism goes. I am going to say here that a prostate massage is not necessarily a gay thing but it is a guy thing. In going massage, I found that the whole lower back and pelvic region is where most men carry a lot of tension, and is an area where men don't get touched even at massage parlors. I was a nurse and learned a lot about the body.
How far will men go? When provided with a safe, clean, discreet environment where they can relax with a person who they can trust, who gives them permission to go into whatever area they want to go, men will almost always want to experience anal pleasure / penetration but not a penis or fucking. Most of my clients being very straight, macho guys, do not want me to be naked, touch me in any reciprocal way. They want to be administered to, touched, be submissive, or cared for in some way. They are getting needs taken care of where they feel safe enough to give themselves permission to go there. 100% will get into a prostate massage, with hand job. Anal and prostate work usually begins with taking a rectal temperature, because that is something I enjoy doing and gently starts to awaken and relax the anus. No objections. I have got into rimming and giving head on request , verbal or nonverbally. The body speaks to you. A few have wanted to try giving a BJ and feeling my dick. Some like smaller toys, or on rare occassion want me to fuck them with condom. But now I decline that and just stick to toys.
I accept that my male massage clients and friends are by their admission, heterosexual, and there is NO reciprocation from them, no kissing etc. they are just anally erotic and enjoy the extreme pleasures of prostate work that I offer. I am into men when it comes to anal play.
These days, I don't charge for appts so if anything sounds good to you then we should talk about giving you a session.