Enemas and sexual submissiveness

It isn't anything new, it's just that for some reason I'm becoming more consciously aware of how often an enema pairs with my sexual submissiveness. Lying there letting the water flow into me is one of the most submissive things I ever do. It can be pleasant and thrilling or uncomfortable and debilitating, but it lives in the same corner of my brain that treasures the joy of utter sexual submissiveness to my husband. And it can happen with my husband's participation or solo.

It's a head-trip thing. Does anybody else find themselves slipping into profound psychological submissiveness while the bag is emptying and the tummy filling?

That's the whole thing for me. I'm not overly fond of enemas which is maybe why I also find it very submissive. It is closely related to spanking, you have to position yourself and hold still, it requires your cooperation. In my case it was always combined with a spanking. Sometimes she would put me over her knee for a session with both the bulb and the hairbrush, alternating them until I convinced her I was going to be a good boy. “You're getting an enema” had pretty much the same effect as “You're getting a spanking.”

OMG! Sirensong and I both experience the erotic feelings that come when I submit to her, or her to me. I find it wonderfully humiliating and incredibly erotic for her to know how much I enjoy the enema play in our relationship. I am turned on (even now at 9:30am!) by the thought of her looking at my asshole, touching it, penetrating it, and filling it so tenderly. And I dearly love it when she gets on her hands and knees in front of me, and I get to spread her cheeks and look at her beautiful anus. It turns me on to take control of her like that. I love sliding my fingers into her hot little hole, and feeling the heat that radiates from it, and feeling the throb (I like to call it ‘bottom-kisses’) when I massage it, stretch it, and make love to it while she moans in ecstacy. @azdiane , we both experience the beautiful arousal that comes from submitting to one another in that way, but I think for us, the real excitement is best when one's lover participates.

I gave @sirensong a wonder enema on Thursday night, and then followed it with anal intercourse after. We have this really cool enema nozzle that looks just like a cock, that's what I used on her, and she was such a good girl and took the whole bag…… I have been on the receiving end of that nozzle several times, and would love to have @sirensong pleasure me, and fill me with it again, sometime soon…… maybe a belated Easter present??

Oh yes! - I'm most submissive to my bulging full enema bag hanging high above me! It does place me in a most submissive mood…

OMG! Sirensong and I both experience the erotic feelings that come when I submit to her, or her to me. I find it wonderfully humiliating and incredibly erotic for her to know how much I enjoy the enema play in our relationship. I am turned on (even now at 9:30am!) by the thought of her looking at my asshole, touching it, penetrating it, and filling it so tenderly. And I dearly love it when she gets on her hands and knees in front of me, and I get to spread her cheeks and look at her beautiful anus. It turns me on to take control of her like that. I love sliding my fingers into her hot little hole, and feeling the heat that radiates from it, and feeling the throb (I like to call it ‘bottom-kisses’) when I massage it, stretch it, and make love to it while she moans in ecstacy. @azdiane , we both experience the beautiful arousal that comes from submitting to one another in that way, but I think for us, the real excitement is best when one's lover participates.

I gave @sirensong a wonder enema on Thursday night, and then followed it with anal intercourse after. We have this really cool enema nozzle that looks just like a cock, that's what I used on her, and she was such a good girl and took the whole bag…… I have been on the receiving end of that nozzle several times, and would love to have @sirensong pleasure me, and fill me with it again, sometime soon…… maybe a belated Easter present??

@geminitom I've seen pics of sirensong and think she's a very beautiful, older mature woman with lovely tidbits. 😜 You're a very lucky man to have someone like her who both enjoy each others kinks and love. 😉

Maybe that's the reason we have moved away from enemas in foreplay. What I do is not really so much submissive as it is offering myself to him in love and respect! I mean, yes, I let him have what he wants, but it's not so much submissive as it is, “My gift to you, take what you want. The rest will still be there!”

I love the feeling of being totally not in control of my bowels. When I take a large (3+ quart) enema I force myself to get in a “subspace" to relax enough to take the entire enema.

I have to admit that I have sometimes lost all sense of time and space during a large enema. Found myself on the toilet wondering how I got there.

Absolutely! Someone giving me an enema is effectively taking control of my bowels, and my body in general. Being told “you have to take a little more…" or “you have to hold it a little longer for it to work…”, and the thought of possibly losing control is SOO embarrassing!

Getting an enema form another is a submissive act for the recipient. You have given up control of an incredibly intimate act to another. If it is a hard to hold enema you will probably promise anything or do most anything to get relief. Nothing can reduce a grown man or woman to a child begging than a hard enema. If it is an easy one it is still submissive. After all you are naked and at some point you ill have the strong urge to go and the other person is causing those feelings But in the submission comes the great pleasure of giving up control and for A personalities it is cathartic in a way

Having your bottom bared is pretty submissive, since one is surrendering to something being done.

I think the act of receiving an enema is an act of submission. Especially when you're nude and force to spread out and be completely exposed. You're at the mercy of the person controlling the flow and number of enemas you're taking. Then once you've taken your enema, your force to wait t to relive yourself.

When I'm doing an enema solo. I like to make sure my butt is raised in the air. Like I'm getting ready to receive a punishment. My legs are spread out and my genitals are swing in the cool air. Half the fun of the enema is the little things like being submissive while taking one.

I've given and have received several exams in the past. For me, receiving an enema is about being very submissive. I have not received spankings during or while holding an enema, but have received them before the enema has started!

While giving the enema, I feel I am dominate at those times. But, I always make sure the receiver is comfortable.

I learned about submissive from a lifetime of enemas. It started with enemas from my mom. Informing me she was going to give me an enema. At that point it was out of my control, if objected too much she reinforced her dominance with a spanking, I obeyed her commands of taking my pants off, and walked into the bathroom with a bulging enema bag hanging from the hook on the wall. I figured if cooperated and let her give me an enema things would be ok,

The nozzle went could the water flow deep into my body. Again, was in a helpless state. I got enemas from mom until was sixteen. My submissiveness grew over the years, so many spankings set me on the course of least resistance. I tend to strong dominate to whom am submissive

Yes I turn to jelly not knowing what solution, what volume,what temperature,what nozzle and what kind of hold time and how many enemas…

Couleur not say better! Dr strangelove

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Submissive feelings can be gratifying or gratify others. Roles blending gives interesting relationship.

Having a sexy, beautiful backside at my mercy while holding and directing an enema nozzle into the anus, along with seeing a bulging full enema bag with soap foaming over hanging high above and waiting release the clip that will force a bowel movement is very exciting!

I can see this as submissive thing for me. Solo enemas are good since I am anal erotic but submitting to an enema from someone else is whole different level for me. As a child, I was taught that you didn’t touch that area down there because it was dirty. My mom never gave me rectal temperatures or enemas growing up.

As someone is giving me an enema, I have submitted myself to them to let them see my most forbid place that I was taught that it was off limits to anyone including myself as kid. I find is sort of humiliating and wondering if it is clean down there or does it smell down there. Will they see bits of toilet paper or any other embarrassing thing. I think about what happens if I leak or make a mess! For me, I am an exhibitionist and I am anal erotic so that is extremely thrilling for me. But having to be submissive to surrender my most forbid area without warning, just makes me so vulnerable that it adds a whole layer of emotional feelings. These feelings add to the sexual excitement. It is like I am doing something taboo!

Oh yes Diane. I feel the same as you regarding submitting myself to my husband (very willingly) whenever he announces he is going to give me an enema. Being over his knee completely naked or at the very least with my bare bottom exposed as he lubes my most private spot entering his index finger and then the rather large nozzle deep into me as I gasp with pleasure. I am not sure why I get so turned on and how my mind goes bananas, as i anticipate hearing the “click” and almost immediately feel that warm water entering into me. I feel totally submissive and accepting what ever is in store for me including some playful spanking sometimes. The experience will lead to extremely pleasure moments together but not until I relieve myself completely in a private (me only) setting. Denise

@Dr_Strangelove my sentiments exactly!!

When I give myself an enema I can call the shots. I never have to take too much or hold it too long. When my girlfriend gives me an enema she is in control of my bowels and all that entails. Of course I’m submissive—being on the verge of losing everything is so embarrassing. And so exquisite!

Enemas like anal sex can be so pleasurable when one submits themselves to their partner. As a child I was submissive to my mother and uncle when they brought out enema kit and gentle inserted the nozzle deep inside my rectum. I love being submissive as a bottom to anal sex and like the feeling that my partner having great pleasure with inserting his penis inside my rectum.

When I give myself an enema I can call the shots. I never have to take too much or hold it too long. When my girlfriend gives me an enema she is in control of my bowels and all that entails. Of course I’m submissive—being on the verge of losing everything is so embarrassing. And so exquisite!

@liquidsky,

I completely agree, including it being submissive, embarrassing and exquisite. Do you have an enema-loving GF now? How often does she give you enemas? This is a great deal like my ex-wife who loved being (Switch) Domme and giving me large, long enemas and forcing me to hold it until I carried out various tasks including orgasms for her. I love submissive enemas, especially from a trusted Domme.

Eric

Enemas are definitely submissive for me as they remind me of the enemas I received as a child. I enjoy the humiliation and lack of control. I’m exposed, in a supplicant knee-chest position. I get those pre sex excited tremors as lube is introduced into my rectum. Depending on the enema, the series and the nozzle I may also wear a diaper and rubber panties to complete my submission..

Enemas are purely submissive thing for me. My first ever enema was given to me during D/s scene. I have never had one for any other reason than D/s play or cleaning out before play. Sometimes I do enemas alone, but I do feel submissive then. I think it is because, as saying goes, what goes in has to go out, only thing one can do is just submit and give up control of bodily function. Especially when it is large volume enema.

Receiving an enema can be either submissive or dominate. When told “you’re getting an enema now” it’s most likely submissive. When you want an enema and tell your partner to “give me an enema NOW” you’re most likely in control. It’s perspective and intent.

My husband is a great man and I would not trade him for anything, but he does not like getting an enema. I think part of this is he knows that once I put the nozzle in his ass, he is not in control, and he does not like situations where he has no way out. And maybe I am just like him, because when I give myself an enema, I control what solution, how much, how long, and everything else that goes with it.

Whether deliberate or subconscious, you are being submissive if you let someone give you an enema. As others have said, once the nozzle is in your ass you are not in control anymore.

Receiving an enema can be either submissive or dominate. When told “you’re getting an enema now” it’s most likely submissive. When you want an enema and tell your partner to “give me an enema NOW” you’re most likely in control. It’s perspective and intent.

@Rigel,

That’s exactly what our old member friend Susie used to say about it, too. I’d never even conceived of a Dominant enema like that before she mentioned it the first time. When she or her husband gave each other enemas, often in their SM scene roles, the receiver would appropriately feel submissive. But she also described the other scenario, when she’d be Domme and order or require her husband to give her an enema as part of her dominating him, because she loved taking them herself. My ex-wife and I were Switches and both loved giving and taking enemas from each other. When she gave them to me it was almost always acting Domme to me as her enema sub, which we both loved. As long as I was with her, we could make my enemas (including my other kinks at the same time) as embarrassing and humiliating as we liked because we trusted each other to understand our kinks and it was guaranteed perfectly confidential. I love enemas any way I get them, but adding in the submissive role for me just ramps the psychological satisfaction way up.

Eric