Addressing a Spanking Fetish with Family

I was also ritualistically spanked by my stepdad from 11 to 18 and that’s why I moved out and moved away. At times I feel like I want to go back and confront him for what he did to me and what I saw him do to my stepsister and brother but then I get scared and chicken out.

I even reported him for abuse but my Mom took his side when it went to court and it was dismissed.

At this point, I don’t have any plans on speaking with him again.

Hi Jess, I have come back to this thread to reach out to you with a huge internet sort of hug. What you are going through no one should ever have to face. My heart is with you.

One thing I have found in life is that closure only comes from within. No matter what happens to others, no matter what they might say or not say, there is no magic bullet until the wronged person is able to put the wrong in a closet, lock it away, and move on.

Your parents have in many ways ruined your life, much of it, until now. God only knows how you'd have the strength to do it but if you can decide you can stop them from ruining your life going forward buy putting the past into a double construction grade garbage bag and locking it in the closet, I am sure that will be the best way to put the brakes on this.

Many prayers, Linda

As children, we look for justice and fairness. But when we grown up to be adults we should come to realize that none of us are perfect. In the pioneer times, children were often savagely punished taken to the woodshed and whipping with a horse whip. Very painful. Terrible spankings were very common. Today, we are progressive in how we raise our children. My parents spanked me because their parents spanked them and so forth.

In the pioneer times, children were often savagely punished taken to the woodshed and whipping with a horse whip. Very painful. Terrible spankings were very common.

Those kinds of punishments were still common not all that long ago. We needn't go back as far as 'pioneer times'. And many people still think this is a correct way of doing things and long for it to be common practise again.

The main difference being that since few people keep horses anymore, the beatings are done with other implements.

First of all, I do admit that I have a spanking fetish. I was spanked pretty often by only my mom and lust a couple times by my grandmother. I was quite a handful as mom has said, but never really got into any serious trouble. I guess you might just call me pretty adventuresome, independent, curious, and well quite a handful. lol. Spankings were never done in anger only with a great deal of love from my mom and strange as it might seem, I always felt closer her to her after her giving me a spanking…always over her knee and on my bare bottom. My misdeeds were carefully explained to me and she was always made sure my misdeeds were understood before a spanking began. After my spanking, she would hold me on her lap, telling me how much she loved me and expressed hope that I have learned my lesson so I would not have to be spanked again for my misdeed. I did learn my lesson (more times than not) but sometimes it was just too tempting, or fun, to repeat my offense thinking she would not find out……wrong thing to do as repeated misdeeds would bring out the dreaded hairbrush or paddle. I knew this would happen for repeat offenses,but the same love, patience, and kindness by mother was always there. So NO, I would not confront her about being spanked and me ending up with a spanking fetish as even to this day, I feel so close to my mom and am grateful to the way I was raised.

I meant to add the following:

While my husband and I both enjoy a strictly consensual and erotic spankings fetish (including an occasional punishment spanking) in same loving manner that my mother gave me spankings, we are very careful that our daughters know nothing of these strictly private moments together. None of them are nearly as “adventuresome” as I was at a young age (well still am for that matter!!) and I think the threat of taking away their cell phone is much more effective than a spanking would be. So very lovingly, their rare misdeeds are first discussed in a calm and loving way and then explained that I need to take their cell phone away for a period commensurate with the severity of the misdeed. They will all have to discover a spanking fetish (if it is in their genes or whatever) on their own and hopefully if they do, it will be consensual and loving like my own. My mom has totally respected our decision on this matter and both my mom and dad have agreed to never mention that I was spanked as a child.