Men: Would you prefer a Surprise exam or expect it?

I would rather know in advance,if i got into the surgery and the doctor said i want to examine you i would be thinking,what does he think is wrong

with me,think my blood pressure would go.

I would like to know but also be surprised to some of it too ?

I was working a job for 3 days when my boss said I had to go to the company nurses office immediately for my pre employment physical saying she was on vacation when I was hired. I was kind of surprised to hear this but I went to her office and she led me to a room and said take everything off and put this gown on. I would rather have known beforehand but it was actually kind of different.

I need to know in advance. That gives me time to mentally prepare. I’m not a fan of surprises.

I need to know in advance, a surprise exam where I have no clue what is coming will put my heart rate through the roof.

My heart rate goes up i medical settings regardless. I try and keep focused a breathe (key to life lol). I try not to display my anticipation/anxiety...

I think I would like to know in advance as that builds anticipation

Preferable to have the patient anticipate what will happen; apprehension is a strong sensation and should enhance the actual event.

I would prefer to know a long time in advance so I can mentally prepare myself for it. When I was waiting to be told when I would have my testicular ultrasound scan, I got a phone call saying my appointment was the next day. I told them that it was not suitable and they made me another one 2 weeks later. This gave me time to mentally prepare for it. They still phoned me the day before it to confirm I still was going to attend and to check I didn’t have any covid symptoms.

I would like to know in advance ... anticipation is everything!

I would like a little of both, the anticipation of an intimate examination coming up and getting mentally prepared for it but also a few surprises thrown in during the examination to add to the embarrassment.

I would like to know what is going to happen but would also like to have some surprises

I've always preferred to know what's going to happen, especially if it's going to be a complete physical. My doctor I've been seeing for a few years now is a female in her late 30s. I'm always nervous for a couple days right before she gives me a physical. The first time she checked my prostate I was extremely nervous. The exam itself isn't that bad. She tries her best not to embarrass her male patients, her finger is only mildly uncomfortable and it only takes a few seconds. I don't dread having this done like I use to. I prefer letting a woman check me out below the belt than having some dude messing around there.

I had one surprise exam scheduled by my wife several years ago due to myself not having a primary care physician at the time. I had been complaining of fatigue and other numerous ailments for a period of time and unbeknownst to me she had set me up with her physician at the time. I standardly take a shower each evening before bed and put on fresh underpants so previsit protocols were already in place when i arose the morning of the afternoon visit for my soon to be unexpected encounter. We had both recently retired so day and time for this visit was easily attained by my spouse. After a couple of hours my wife suggested we go for a ride with nothing else on agenda for the day. Once on site of her medical practice i asked if she was coming to do any scheduled labs i wasnt aware of and looking at me said "You`re the patient today honey". Now totally unexpectedly bewildered i began to protest that this was not needed and to return home. Her response was "yes it is needed since you haven`t been seen by a care giver in at least a year or longer and the physician seeing you is very good and you were a work-in today by her". "HER" i exclaimed defiantly . She has male patients as clients because iv'e seen them during my visit's here and you are going to this appointment most definately regardless. Seeing i was in a no win position agreed to uphold her wishes thrust upon myself. I asked what time my appointment was to take place and was told within 20 min. but we needed to go in within 5 min. For the initial paperwork etc. due to this being my initial visit to a new provider. As we walked to enter the complex the feelings of anxiety and anticipation began to encompass myself. My wife and i proceded to the check-in desk and she relayed to the receptionist of my appointment and with whom. I glanced about the waiting area only to see no other male`s present it now adding to my ongoing dispair. Forms were given to me for filling out and we took seating for the dreaded wait. After completing my forms i began to return them as a adjoining door opened and a scrub's clad nurse called out my name with the entire waiting room of ladies taking notice instantly and i could sense a flushed blushing warmth over my body as she greeted me and my accompanying wife which totally surprised me and after asking as to this she said"I'm with you for support and also as chaperone if needed". The nurse began my regimen with weight,height,and eye chart for vision in the backroom hallway mixed with small chatter with my wife whom she was familiar with from her visits. We next were led to my examining room which was very spacious and large with at least two seats in place within. My wife became seated in her`s which faced the front of the exam table in the center middle of the room. Told to hop onto the table my blood pressure,oral temp.etc. were done followed by various questions asked health matters and my reasons for this visit. My meds. scripts etc. were next discussed ending all the pre-lims needed. The nurse next opened a cabinet drawer and presented me a knee length exam gown and she and my wife had a brief glance together ,the nurse then telling me " remove everything but your underpants and socks and Dr. ... will be in within a few minutes and i may if needed return later. Immediately my wife asked if i had worn clean underpants and i sharply responded "Yes!!!". Beginning to undress my anxiety began to increase even more , my wife sensing it also. I returned to the tabletop with my wife assisting me with putting on my somewhat feminine gown due to it,s patterns and faint colors . " Aren`t you a cute thing" my wife said with a bit of laughter , a bit of humiliation now becoming present along with all the other malady`s i was experiencing currently although i also began to feel a certain sense of arousal from these festivities progressing onward. This is a embarassing experience for me whether you know it or not i exclaimed to my accomplice and again she replied" As i told you in the car she is familiar with examining men and you are`t going to present anything to her she hasn`t seen or examined before , no more from you is needed you understand? I now knew my stance was over and ceased outgoing frustration. " I feel like a girl with this gown on i next retorted to her upon which she responded " be glad that you aren`t because she could be seeing you with your fanny hanging off the table end and your feet and legs in those table stirrups although it could still happen it depending on her discretion with you. Just like that came a knock on my room door and my wife`s answer before i could respond and my exam was about to begin finally. With my back to the door i next had a hand on my knee and the present white coat sleeve of my examiner who also began conversation with my wife also a patient of her`s. After intro.. to me she became seated on the swivel stool and began going over my chart and as to why i was there today and when i began in answer to somewhat stutter my wife interjected with a full responsive answer to the questions put to me. After all this was resolved i was next told " it appears you need a full work-up along with labs before you leave so lets begin Mr. ... I started complying with her directives step-by-step first being the chest,lung portion with the steth... and onward with the stomach,abdomen area and earlier the eyes,nose and throat. After all pre-lims were done she excused herself and went to the door partially opening it and leaning outward for a moment as i was intently watching her suddenly she and her nurse whom i saw initially at the start were both present . I looked forward toward my wife who now had a appearance of intentiveness and interest knowing as well as myself the intimate portions were about to occur to me. I was instructed to stand on the floor in front of the table and also my mate who exhibited a sly grin and eyebrow raise that to me appeared to be that of enjoyment at the proceedings. The Dr. on stool was now before me as i glanced to my left seeing said nurse getting gloves and a large tube of k-y jelly lube which she brought and placed on the exam table now behind me. The nurse donned her gloves and passed a set to her charge who when donning her`s asked her assistant to raise my gown upward and in a instant my tighty whities were snatched downward to my knees and i heard a sudden brief moment of laughter across the room from guess who. The hernia exam next began also with the handling of my testicles for lumps etc. I was asked about my urination habits inc. nightime frequency and after my response it does occur at times she instructed me to turn around and lay down on the end of the exam table on my elbows with feet spread apart as much as possible for a rectal and prostate examination she felt was needed due to my age. I obliged and got into position as i heard a new set of gloves being applied and the dreaded sound of the glove stretching and then the familiar snap and pop of them knowing you`re about to be penetrated by fingers after the outer anus visual and feeling of touch is completed. After this in tandem the nurse applied the greasy lube gel to my Dr`s fingers her to my right now again in tandem my bottom cheeks were parted and spread by the nurse and the Dr. responded she would be gentle as possible and i may feel the feelings of a needed bm and once upon my prostate a frontal feeling of a needed release from that region. Next came the intrusion of her finger which was rather large and long and instantly she was upon my prostate manipulating it very thoroughly as the described sensations of needed release began to begin and i had a dribble of pre-cum ejaculate from my penis exit , my gown now stuck in place at that area and i remained facing forward until my care givers exited. Once i turned around my wife instantly noticed the gown drawn to the region that it was and asked if i had ejaculated or urinated and i said somewhat and she laughed . I asked if she enjoyed the show she witnessed and she said she often wondered what a male physical exam entailed no pun intended. She still brings this up periodically. Fretter

I would prefer a surprise exam, but it is not often possible. At my GP, the only surprise is knowing if I would remain fully dressed, if I had to take my shirt off or if I would be in my underwear. A bigger surprise would be asked to take my briefs off, which never happened. If I did a full check-up in a specialized center, I would have a list of the exams that are done.

Surprise is fine as long as I get to take a shower first ?

I would rather know in advance to allow me to mentally prepare I believe. A surprise one might be heart rate and blood pressure overload!!

Not sure which I would prefer.

Well the first time I experienced an enema, sigmoidscope, and anoscope, all in the same day, they were a surprise. I went in after seeing a bit of blood in the toilet. I guess I really didn’t think through how a doctor would check for that. But if I had known ahead of time, I would have been anxious and nervous all day. Maybe a last minute surprise is better?

In real life I would want to be expecting it. To make sure I do the things I need to in my health. But it is a fun and hot idea for in play to have surprise required exams with a playdoc or something

I only had surprise exams as a kid. The first time was when I was five and had been taken to the docs as I was unwell. I'd been expecting to just take my shirt off for the doc to listen to me but he said to my mother "right I want to give him a bit of a check up so could you strip him to his underpants for me please?". I hadn't expected to be down to my white briefs in front of my mother and my big brother who was there also. After that when I went to the docs I never knew if I would just be taking my top off or would be down to my briefs/boxers and being checked out.

There is nothing more intense than a surprise exam which is very much like being seen by a new doctor. Both contain uncertainty which adds to one's anxiety and possible arousal. What will happen? How will the process proceed? How undressed am I going to be by the middle to end of the exam? Will there be a shot? Will I experience arousal? How bad will that be? All of this and more happens when you are not allowed to be prepared.

I have posted about it on another thread here, but one of my most memorable and impactful physical exams was a total surprise and it stands out in part for that reason. I was in my early teens and I was along for the ride for my younger brother's physical - I think he was about 10-11. I had been left in the waiting room when my brother and our mom and dad were taken back to the exam rooms. After waiting there a while, reading magazines and doodling, the young male physicians assistant who worked with the doctor came back into the waiting area and called my name and told me to come with him. He said that the doctor and my parents had decided that I would get a physical while I was there, too. I remember kind of whining about it, complaining, and he said something like, "yeah, it's no fun, but I'm afraid you don't really have any say in the matter."

I am torn on the answer, knowing I will having a physical is cool due to anticipation leading up to it, but being surprised by one is also cool as there is no time to react. I recently had a surprise exam. Been trying to get my blood pressure under control so been seeing the doctor every couple of weeks so he could monitor my bp and adjust my meds. At the end of one of the visits, he said he wanted to do some blood work so he was going to send a Tech in to draw it. The doctor come back a few minutes later and asks when my last physical was. (I was new to the practice as my old doctor had retired). I told him about 2 years ago and he ok let’s do a physical so the insurance company would cover the blood work. I said sure and he started in, I had no time to anticipate - and this was my first physical with him - which heightened my excitement.

I've only had surprise/unexpected exams because of a medical emergency of one kind or another, say breaking a bone, cutting off part of my finger, coughing up blood, excruciating pain from an appendix. Things like that.

Otherwise all exams have been planned or known ahead of time. I rather prefer it that way as it allows time to get cleaned up properly, dress in clean clothes, shave and groom hair, brush your teeth and all that. I think I'd be very uncomfortable with a surprise exam except if it were in grave and necessary circumstances.

So, no. I wouldn't prefer a surprise exam at all.

Liked Jake's response. same thing happened to me growing up.

The doctor come back a few minutes later and asks when my last physical was. (I was new to the practice as my old doctor had retired). I told him about 2 years ago and he ok let’s do a physical so the insurance company would cover the blood work. I said sure and he started in, I had no time to anticipate - and this was my first physical with him - which heightened my excitement.

I could not imagine how a physical could occur unexpectedly but you described a situation which I could imagine happening to many guys. I agree that some of the enjoyment of a physical exam experience comes from the agonizing anticipation that occurs so I would definitely miss that component as well. I always have heightened anxiety when I am having a physical from a doctor who has never examined me before. I am most anxious waiting to see if he will do a genital exam and how the genital exposure will be done.

I am torn on the answer, knowing I will having a physical is cool due to anticipation leading up to it, but being surprised by one is also cool as there is no time to react. I recently had a surprise exam. Been trying to get my blood pressure under control so been seeing the doctor every couple of weeks so he could monitor my bp and adjust my meds. At the end of one of the visits, he said he wanted to do some blood work so he was going to send a Tech in to draw it. The doctor come back a few minutes later and asks when my last physical was. (I was new to the practice as my old doctor had retired). I told him about 2 years ago and he ok let’s do a physical so the insurance company would cover the blood work. I said sure and he started in, I had no time to anticipate - and this was my first physical with him - which heightened my excitement.

What happened next?

Just recently, I had sprained my fingers and went to the doc's office to make sure they were not broken. He examined them and determined an x-ray would be good to obtain but then started a brief exam. He had me remove my shirt and listened with his stethoscope and eventually retrieved a glove, “Let's check you,” and had me lower my pants and underwear for a genital exam and a rectal. I was shocked!

I've written about this before on thus forum, but it's one of the biggest and strangest surprises I ever had. I worked at a big bank with its own medical department, very old school. I skipped out on a preemployment exam because they were understaffed. A year later I helped a friend celebrate her birthday and I had more than a little sake. I get back to the office and I'm called to medical for a “well-employee check.” I tried to beg off but they wouldn't hear of it. I go up, a nurse takes my blood pressure. I have an irregular heartbeat. She sends me down the hall for an EKG. Bad enough, but then the tech sends me to a doctor to interpret the EKG.

The doctor was an old guy (I was 23 I think) and he read the chart. Told me to go into the exam room and take off my shirt and tie. I sit on the table, he comes in. Reading my file he notes that I never had a physical there. “We'll do one now. Please get ready.” I tried to refuse but he was insistent and called my boss. I just sat there and he looked and laughed. “Sorry I guess you don't know the drill here. Remove all your clothes, everything off including your underwear and watch.” I was like what?

So I stripped while he watched. He took his time, doing the usual stuff. I guess he had nothing better to do. Did the hernia bit, then squeezed the boys. Slid my foreskin back and forth a couple of times. I thought we were done and went to get my underwear. “Sorry, son, one more thing, We'll check out your prostate.” He made me get on all fours and rammed his finger in without warning. I wanted to throw up. He felt around, I started to drip. He then finally told me I was in good shape and could put my clothes back on.

Definitely want to know about it