Anal training

I have my eye on a remote controlled butt plug (Hush), but first will need to stretch myself a bit more before I can take it. I’ve tried the set of 5 graduated plugs to help work my way open, but I still feel a difficult increase when trying the next size.

Similar to the ribbed cone that @OldKinkyGuy showed, I’m considering a smooth cone made by Tantus.

https://www.tantusinc.com/products/cone-small?_pos=6&_sid=6ecea0355&_ss=r

Can anyone share their experienses with either of these two cones? What do you think the pros and cons are of using a smooth one vs a ribbed one?

Does one's anus really stretch, becoming bigger; or is it more a matter of it simply becoming desensitized and more relaxed?

Does one's anus really stretch, becoming bigger; or is it more a matter of it simply becoming desensitized and more relaxed?

I feel that after I relax my sphincter muscle (both of them) using touch and massage, it can be gently opened up to my current limit. By gently pushing up against this limit day after day I hope to slowly increase my limit.

I don’t feel there is any desensitizing happening.

I always assumed one could increase the range of the sphincter muscle like the muscles one stretches when doing yoga. Yoga stretching may be a combination of muscles and tendons, but the idea is the same.

Does anyone here have specific knowledge of sphincter muscles and how they change their opening range?

Does one's anus really stretch, becoming bigger; or is it more a matter of it simply becoming desensitized and more relaxed?

Perhaps a better word be ‘elastic’. It's not so much that these muscles stretch (and then remain so) but that have become accustomed to being stretched and then returning to their unstretched condition.

Think of it like being able to touch your toes by bending over. If you keep at it by exercising, you can eventually get there. But your body itself will not become longer or more stretched out.

(Not talking here about reaching incontinence, which seems highly harmful.)

My impression is that you can train yourself not to have reflex contraction of the anus during penetration. You “get used to it”. Those reflex contractions are what make lubricated anal sex painful (unlubricated sex is painful for other reasons)

I can only speak for myself. I put a long butt plug like toy in my butt everyday. Its in my butt right now and Im sitting on it as I type this. I haven't noticed my butt hole any looser. The toy is black plastic, the end flared wide, then tapers down with a small suction cup on the end. The part sticking out is not that wide. Nice thing about the shape, its stays in as I walk around and the wide end thats deep in my butt wiggles my prostate. Feels really nice! Helps me cum everyday. I still have to work it in every time I put it in my butt. So I think my butthole still has a good grip on things, haha.

Can anyone share their experienses with either of these two cones? What do you think the pros and cons are of using a smooth one vs a ribbed one?

i don't have experience with these particular cones, but to me, cones in general are more for short term insertion and have to be held in in some way vs a plug or devise that is made to stay put. Plugs are designed to stay in place because of the convex portion. If training a more open hole, progressively larger plugs seems to work better in my opinion because they can be kept in one place for long periods of time. i suppose a chastity belt or some other method could be used to keep the cone in place, but it seems more designed for sliding in and out than for retention. Retention, to me, seems to have more long term (permanent) opening effect, and “ribbed” seems more conducive to retention?

i know of a D/s couple where the D would insert a hollow plug into His sub at bed time. There was a lot of psychological dynamic to it, the sub had ‘accidents’ and his Dom had to clean him up in the morning, it eventually led to diapering. A hollow butt plug can be useful for training on a hole lot of different levels.

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i don't have experience with these particular cones, but to me, cones in general are more for short term insertion and have to be held in in some way ….

Yes. I would agree and expect that. The cone is something I would plan to push in and out, holding it against my limit, keeping the pressure at just the right level. Very hands-on.

For long term wear I use a plug with a narrow neck that my sphincter can close down on and hold in place.

I never tried anal before. I just had just a finger in my butt and I remember I felt the urge to push it out. Anyway, I d like to try anal but I would like to train my butt a bit before to ease the first penetration. Have you any suggestion about? What should I do? How does it feel?

I never tried anal before. I just had just a finger in my butt and I remember I felt the urge to push it out. Anyway, I d like to try anal but I would like to train my butt a bit before to ease the first penetration. Have you any suggestion about? What should I do? How does it feel?

If you have a very careful guy you might not have much training before you try real anal sex. Its more important that you are relaxed and very well lubed, and that you keep the control of insertion. May be you need more than one approach. Try it only if you really want it.

Sofia, I'd go out and buy some small butt plugs. Perhaps a small vibrator or dildo. Youre about to open a whole new world for yourself. Enjoy. Get a bulb enema too. That will help things a along more comfortably for you.

@sofia6969 ..If you were to read the entire thread you'll find some fairly sound recommendations.

Not mentioned at this point is the Dr Young's Dilators or the current day equivalent as Dr Young has long checked out.

They are normally supplied as a set of 5 , and were / are genuine medicinal rectal Dilators….Or alternatively the Doc Johnson range of Dildo's as they are flexible & can be purchased through Amazon.

Start at the bottom & work your way up 😁…with plenty of WB lube.

Over several months I trained my ass to take up to a 3 inch wide butt plug which makes my ass always ready to take on any size cock. The main thing to remember is to take it very slow working your way up. Several years ago I made the mistake of being too anxious to go bigger and I thought I ended up permanently damaging my anus. For a time if I felt I had to go I had to get to a bathroom in a hurry or risk a messy situation. I stopped doing plugs for quite a while and thankfully it all healed up. After about a year I tried taking plugs again but this time did it right and took it slow. Back then the damage was done when I rushed to 2.75". By doing it slowly I got to 2,75 then on to 3 inches with no problems whatsoever. I'm sure if I wanted to I could go well beyond 3 inches with no problem but I guess I don't want to push my luck.

Benefits of Wearing Butt Plugs

Just like yoga, butt plugs are a great hack for relieving ourselves from unwanted stress and anxiety. Not only are these sex toys great for relaxation, but they also make for additional stimulation and superb orgasms. So let’s talk a bit about why people use these rascals so much.

Fist of, anal sex isn’t quite as easy to get into. Your backdoor is a lot tighter, so if you’re not prepared well enough, you’ll probably end up injuring yourself. That is why butt plugs are important. They prepare your ass for a potential penetration that won’t feel bad and awkward for both partners.

If we add to that that stimulating your rectum leads to a more powerful orgasm, you get more than you asked for. Both men and women enjoy butt plugs, yet in different ways. Since anal sex toys act as prostate massagers, guys will get a vastly improved ejaculation. On the other hand, girls use them to up vaginal intercourse.

All in all, anal play is a great way to enrich your sex life. Body-safe anal plugs tingle your nerve receptors and make both lads and lasses go wild. Add to that the overall health benefits from sex, and we can clearly see why these bad boys are all the rage among couples all over the world.

and if you want to read more …

https://angelsdemonsandvampires.com/can-you-do-yoga-while-wearing-a-butt-plug/

Depends if I’m feeling more like stretching internally or stretching my anus. I love my inflatable butt plug for internal stretching. When I need my hole to dilate I often use my Collins speculum in a condom because it can pinch your delicate walls otherwise.

Depends if I’m feeling more like stretching internally or stretching my anus. I love my inflatable butt plug for internal stretching. When I need my hole to dilate I often use my Collins speculum in a condom because it can pinch your delicate walls otherwise.

That's a great trick, @y23. Thanks for sharing this.

@y23 thank you for that advice! I have a collins speculum that I havent used in years because the last time I tried to use it I cut myself internally and bled a decent amount. Ill have to try it again with your tip.

My ass has had advanced training. ive had a lot up there you thought couldn't fit. My soft walls have been violated to extremes

Gradual enlargement is clearly essential. I've pushed my limits over time, months and months of adding girth, but I also have to say I do have unexpected leakage especially when doing rigorous exercise; the anus does seem looser, but the pleasure of insertion tends to win out.

@Tennessee21 Thank you all so much - I really appreciate you taking the time to answer so fully, I have loads to think about!!

😄😄😄"loads to think about" - the unintended pun got me laughing 😄😄😄 Seriously, though, good luck with your anal training endeavor and wonder how it's going?

Gradual enlargement is clearly essential. I've pushed my limits over time, months and months of adding girth, but I also have to say I do have unexpected leakage especially when doing rigorous exercise; the anus does seem looser, but the pleasure of insertion tends to win out.

happy…..,

Just curious. What’s the diameter or circumference of the largest plug or dildo you tolerate and enjoy inserting in your ass? I love the stimulation too, but I’m on the low end I think. My largest comfortable plug is 2.5” diameter, but it really does the job extremely well. No need to go up any higher for now. I also love putting in a latex DBC and blowing up the balloons for masturbation even without putting an enema through it. Enemas are of course even better for me.

Eric

Depends if I’m feeling more like stretching internally or stretching my anus. I love my inflatable butt plug for internal stretching. When I need my hole to dilate I often use my Collins speculum in a condom because it can pinch your delicate walls otherwise.

I certainly agree with you on the possibility of cuts, pain, and bleeding with the Collins speculum. I purchased one and eagerly ran home to try it out. No joy at all. I thought I would try it a second time, being careful not to let it close during removal. Same disappointing results. The most joy that speculum gave me was when I used it to barter a discounted session with Mistress. She was grateful to have it in her collection. I feel that the scars from using that speculum are the reason for my inability to significantly stretch my anal sphincter to comfortably accept moderately sized toys. Lessons learned.

… and if you want to read more …

https://angelsdemonsandvampires.com/can-you-do-yoga-while-wearing-a-butt-plug/

… the link, absolutely worth to read

@sofia6969

I never tried anal before. I just had just a finger in my butt and I remember I felt the urge to push it out. Anyway, I d like to try anal but I would like to train my butt a bit before to ease the first penetration. Have you any suggestion about? What should I do? How does it feel?

... do it however you want. It's allowed whatever you like. You will not regret it.

Slow increments until you find what you like. When I first got started I thought I was interested in going for incredible girth, probably inspired by the talented buttholes we see in porn. I got a variety of the Doc Johnson Titanmen anal toys that were really great for sizing up. Got to 2.6" diameter, started working on something that was closer to 2.8-3"ish and realized that it was far too big.

at some point I had a mental shift with my ass play and realized I wanted to focus more on enjoyment + prostate stimulation rather than sizing up and dialed my toys back down to a max of 2-2.2" diameter and thats plenty filling for me. I feel like everyone has a sweet spot, but if you can take something 2" wide I'm sure you can accommodate almost anything you want to put up there short of a fist.