Do you feel awkward discussing medical exams with outside medfet community?

I always find it difficult to discuss the one thing I find such a turn on with anyone outside of the medfet community. I wonder if this just happens to me, or do others find it at all awkward IRL?

I had to have a pre employment medical exam once. Months later a female colleague asked wbat my medical was like, she openly began discribing hers. I found it a bit awkward initially, even to say words like stethoscopes etc. It seems strange, as on here, or Skype and on kik i happily discuss any kind of exam.

Just curious to hear from others about their experiences.

I guess there are many hidden contexts, protocols, etc., that people don't want to break or distract from. The atmosphere needs to be a relaxed one, for a start. If l were being introduced to the Queen, l don't suppose that l would start telling her about my hernia scar. With friends, though (e.g., on Zity!), it can be easy enough to do. Even exciting! It can lead to mention or discussion of more intimate matters without seeming to strain to introduce them!

- Ken

I always find it difficult to discuss the one thing I find such a turn on with anyone outside of the medfet community. I wonder if this just happens to me, or do others find it at all awkward IRL?

I had to have a pre employment medical exam once. Months later a female colleague asked wbat my medical was like, she openly began discribing hers. I found it a bit awkward initially, even to say words like stethoscopes etc. It seems strange, as on here, or Skype and on kik i happily discuss any kind of exam.

Just curious to hear from others about their experiences.

Words like stethoscope embarrassed you??????????????

What is embarrassing about the doctor listening to your heart????????

Paul David (post #1 ) is clearly self-conscious about his stethoscope fetish, Switchable (post #3 ). He needs to accept it as perfectly natural - like fetishes generally, and most else - and then just enjoy it. I call all fetishes 'God-given' (for want of another term), and doing that may instantly absolve the fetishist of guilt-type feelings!

- Ken

I agree totally. I also think that there are distinct differences in what men feel okay to discuss compared to women who are more at ease with just about any topic. I think for guys, there is the inclination to boast or sound "stud-like" about a doctor visit while avoiding how one truly felt. I don't recall ever really saying much to my buds. Half the time one never knew that a friend had a physical. Those of us who received physicals at school saw plenty of what took place, yet said next to nothing about how it felt to be standing in front of the doc naked! Inside our heads, most of us were hopeful that the penis didn't disappear!

Having this site allows us to be honest while enjoying a measure of privacy and support. Good to unwind!

Yes terribly! I am afraid to mention it to most people because I'm worried they might think it's super weird and judge or make fun of me, but I've been into it for a bit and glad I found a place to chat about it.

I always find it difficult to discuss the one thing I find such a turn on with anyone outside of the medfet community. I wonder if this just happens to me, or do others find it at all awkward IRL?....Months later a female colleague asked what my medical was like, she openly began describing hers....

Just curious to hear from others about their experiences.

I am typically very reluctant to discuss medical exams with anyone outside of online. Unless someone were to mention about theirs, or perhaps ask specific questions about mine. Once I know it's a topic that interests them and that they are curious what happens in mine, only then would i share.

I would think your exhibitionists would tend to be more open about it.

Words like stethoscope embarrassed you??????????????

What is embarrassing about the doctor listening to your heart????????

Well, people are wired differently, aren't they. Lots of auscultation fans find it difficult to talk about their own exams, myself included. Obviously there's nothing embarrassing about the doctor listening to somebody's heart - if you're not a cardiophile. But if you are, chances are your emotional response to such things is different.

I wonder if people who like to wear nappies, or others, who enjoy giving or receiving enemas, or others yet who get pleasure out of being restrained, have similarly 'unusual' responses to usual things. I bet they do.

Regards

I find it very awkward to discuss anything regarding exams with those outside the medfet community. I'm always worried that I'll ask too many questions or say something that isn't quite right that would make the other person suspicious.

I also find it difficult but im happy and excited when a discussion comes up and i can talk about it 😃

I don’t find it weird; I guess I’ve always been really open about anything, so if people ask a question, I just answer it.

I wouldn’t bring up the medfet part outside of spaces like this. But medical exams in general depends on the person and the context. I have a friend who deals with an auto-immune disorder, and so medical stuff comes up pretty frequently because she spends a fair bit of time at doctors offices. Talking with friends who have kids it will come up when they have gotten sick and had to take them in for a sick visit. That’s another time it’s not awkward, just part of the conversation we might be having.

Unfortunately, I have not found any of my friends that have any remote interest in the subject matter. Fortunately, and somewhat randomly, I stumbled across Zity while searching for the subject of medical exams and the sexual side/interest in them . This fetish, my intense interest in auscultation, and being authorized to undress/ stripped naked (CMNM) ... all came together on this site!

Zity has enabled me to hook up with a "doctor" for an exam that ended with me actually ejaculating. Additionally, it has provided me with an outlet to discuss a subject that my friends most likely would think is taboo.

Yes. It does bother me outside the madfet community

My circle of friends include mostly people who are in their 60's or older. Most are open a out discussing procedures they have had. It's a totally helpful to hear what they went through and then know what to expect if I ever need to have a similar problem addressed.

Ive been in locker rooms and saunas where guys start is discussing health issues and what they went through.

What is there to be embarrassed about discussing a physical exam?????

I'll discuss any part of the body as easily as talking about breathing, eating, walking, shopping, etc.

The body is nothing more than a conglomeration of different cuts of meat.

I've only discussed a medical exam with friends once, and it was when a friend was talking about his hot young doctor who gave such thorough genital exams. As he described it, I realized that I had the same doctor as him. When he was done telling his story, he asked if any of us had experienced anything like that, and that's when I said I think we had the same doctor. The friend then went on to say that he got an erection when the doctor retracted his foreskin, and he asked if the same thing happened to me. I totally dodged the question by answering that I'm circumcised. But the reality is that I indeed did get an erection when that doctor examined me. So you can mark me down for awkward, because when I had the opportunity to talk about my fetish, I went out of my way to avoid it.

What is there to be embarrassed about discussing a physical exam?????

@SwitchableSusie that's more of a question for all the folks NOT on zity. Although spbb IS on zity, he admits not wanting to discuss his fetish. And that's because we don't share our fetishes with just anybody. Zity outsiders go beyond that, and won't divulge things about their health or their bodies with just anybody

I find i never talk about it with others outside of this circle. It’s quite a niche interest and if you get it, you get it. But if you don’t, I don’t think it’s a topic of conversation for the dinner table with friends.

Yes, I find it hard to talk about exams, procedures outside this community, because I feel I'm understood here.

I can discuss medical stuff with non-Zity people no problem, if it’s real life medical issues. Then it’s straightforward, factual.

What I cannot do is admit to my medical fetish and erotic desire to examine, be examined, and so on. Only on Zity am I totally open to others. I never brought it up with certain women I dated. But with some girlfriends, I got the courage up and told them. They were all accepting, a few even wanted to take it a step further, meaning to play doctor.

One odd experience was chatting with a colleague’s wife who I know pretty well about some boring medical issue, and suddenly she said something like “it’s not fun like playing doctor!” No kidding, her face really lighted up. I was a bit unsure, like was it just a comment? Or she wanted to chat about playing doctor? Or was she wanting to play doctor? I assumed it was just a comment and anyway didn’t have the courage to pursue it. Always wondered if she liked being the doctor or the patient.

I never brought it up with certain women I dated. But with some girlfriends, I got the courage up and told them. They were all accepting, a few even wanted to take it a step further, meaning to play doctor.

@RichardAsni Were the ones you never brought it up with, ones you met before being on zity, or before a certain point of you accepting the medfet you have. And then the others that you did have the courage to tell, were they post zity or post you accepting of your medfet ? Or was it more about the type of women where you decided it wouldn't be appropriate to discuss it?

I have no problem to explain my medical exam, not only here but in general

Contrary to appearances, this is a difficult question. There are people on this forum who also don't want to talk about everything. Someone talks about their experiences, but does not want to hear /read about mine and this must be respected. When I was young, I couldn't imagine talking about my medical examination. I was ashamed of it and was amazed to hear so many people talking about their medical examination which was very intimate.

Over time, I saw that there were people to talk to about it, and I was no longer ashamed of it.

I have some close non medfet friends that are very open with medical discussions. I’ve shared with them too. I often wish I could ask them to actually give or receive exams but it is hard to make the leap from just a discussion to actually doing an exam.

I have no problem, but I am a medical lab tech so I discuss medical things all the time.

Honestly, no. I can hide the interest pretty well and talk about it on an educated, in-depth level. If someone asks how I know so much, I just say I've researched it myself.

It depends on who I’m speaking with, but yes it is always a bit awkward speaking about exams with non medfet friends. But...at least I can always use the excuse of having a biology degree if I act like I know too much. 😉

I'm not uncomfortable talking about medical issues with others. I don't normally offer it up or start a conversation about my last Doctor visit or procedure. While I'm ok with discussing medical issues, some of my medical history/condition is private and I don't want to share it. In a lot of cases it's really none of their business. I have a neighbor who is a retired nurse and very nosy. I don't tell her anything. Other neighbors and friends who ask or bring something medical up in a conversation, no problem. It's not an issue of embarrassment but they don't need to know everything - just respect my privacy and I'll respect theirs.

@JTMac, sorry I don't understand your question in post 22.