I am curious as to when approximately in your lives you knew that you were inclined to be Dom or sub or a switch for that matter? I've always been interested in it. Leaning more to sub but also liking to Domme at times. I've got a couple of people offering to teach me. But I'm finding it hard to take that plunge. I often fantasize about dark things that make me cum like crazy when masturbating but if faced with those situations in real life might find it sooo intense that it shuts me down.
Plus I love to experience other kinds of sex as well. I like variety and changing things up. Does that mean that I'm not serious about trying this realm because at this point I cannot live it full time (have a family and a vanilla hubs with no sex drive)?