Did mom know the psychological impact of giving you enemas?

I have always wondered if moms back in the fifties were aware of the psychological impact that giving their boys enemas would have on their later lives? How could they not see the effect that inserting fingers and nozzles into young naked bottoms would have.

After all these years, I still wonder if mom was driven in part by her own childhood experiences, and the gratification that came with repeating the ritual on her own child?

Regardless of her motivation, after decades of enema use, I still regard my childhood enema memories with great pleasure.

I would imagine that my mom would nave not thought much about those small erections when they popped up during enemas very early on when I was five or six, figuring it was something that just happened to occur. Back then there were many stimuli that would cause a hardon for me.

My guess is that by age seven or eight, when it happened and she had gradually learned other signals in me that showed my growing pleasure and enjoyment of my enemas, she began to put two and two together.

In addition to the rock hard penis, I know I probably moaned, whimpered, twitched, pushed back on the nozzle, etc. while receiving her finger or the nozzle that it would have become pretty obvious. Even later, when my sneaking enemas became more evident, she knew exactly what was going on and why.

My mother knew well the effect on me but giving me enemas had NOTHING to do with constipation or my need it had every thing to do with her control . and it was never mom or mommy it was yes mother or no mother .

My mom was a nurse and just gave them because she thought we needed them or were sick and it was a common thing back then. In addition my grandmother gave her kids an enema every week and thought they had health benefits. It didn't make it right though and they did make me into the kinky devil I am today. Still no excuse and there are members here that still do it which I consider abuse. My opinion,not shared by all.

It didn't make it right though and they did make me into the kinky devil I am today. Still no excuse and there are members here that still do it which I consider abuse. My opinion,not shared by all.

@Moppys_jalopy Just because you disagree with a parents' style or choices does not make them wrong, if the outcome of such actions by said parents proves to be positive and, or beneficial. Just because the manner in which YOUR parents handled matters left you damaged or scared, well, sincerely sorry about that, but that's you, your parents and your problem. Blaming your parents for your self-labeled, being a "kinky devil today"? Sorry, that's like saying, "The bartender made me an alcoholic"! That dog don't hunt, as my friends from down south would say. What made you a "kinky devil" are the behaviors, predispositions, genetics, and choices YOU made and continue to make. If you don't want to be a "kinky devil" or think it is wrong, then you can change it through cognitive and behavioral therapy, since you think it's so wrong of your parents "having made you into this". The key factor there is that you WANT to change it which I don't see any presentation or indication that you do. So, stop blaming your parents for a choice YOU consciously have and are still making and purveying your circumstance as if it is reprehensible to you and cannot be changed.

To opine is one thing. Giving an opinion would be to say, "I disagree with this practice". But, you are judging! By saying the practice is an abuse to the children is making a character judgment based on your experience and placing that judgment upon others. When you say that a parent who chooses to give their child enemas in a caring and sensitive manner, with the child's acceptance and understanding at an age appropriate level is abuse, is a judgment and an accusation of criminal and morally reprehensible behavior.

Just wanted to set the record straight on the difference between opining and judging and offer some words of solace to you about there being hope for the behaviors that have manifested in you that seem to be "your parents fault".

Word!!! Rebecca !! We all have grown up to be adults and can make choices. I never got one I didn't need those were the times. If there is a need you gotta do what you have to fix the situation. Sooooo tired of people cherry picking what they like and don't like and bringing judgement on others!!! We are all here for a reason just live and enjoy???

My mother gave us enemas when the pediatrician told her to. There was nothing nefarious about them. While we may not have liked them initially, there was nothing traumatic about them that could generate anything like PTSD.

Some people just have to blame someone else for their bad behavior sometimes...

@efun42 , I am going to let your last comment slide on the grounds that you made it a general comment and did not directly point fingers. I also SOMEWHAT agree with it .

However I am going to address @beccarnmommy yet once again. As always you seem to twist words and try to manipulate your views onto others by claiming your giving of enemas to your family is that of a need . To maintain proper health ? I dont want to take things out of context here or misinterpret your intentions.

Giving enemas to children/young adults on a schedule is NOT a proven medical necessity nor cure nor remedy or anything else you might want to claim to be true.

YOU use it as an excuse to get off on reading/writing about children/young adults getting things shoved up their asses !

For all of you that agree with her, do some background reading of her posts.

Want to tell me I am judging or nitpicking ? So be it . Again , read her posts . It does not take a rocket scientist to see through her farce. And frankly it disgusts me.

Now as far as what moppy has stated, that you seem to have a hard on for him and continue to try to pick hin apart, ( I actually could care less, however when I read such bullshit I just cant seem to let it go) Dont you think there is enough proof here on Zity alone that in fact some members here have been turned into kilsmos from recieving enemas as children? Thats not blaming parents for their fetishes, its fact ! I am in no means stating that every child that recieved an enema later turned into a kilsmo, that would be just as ridiculous for me to state as it was you stating the flipside.

One more point I am going to make here, there are many members here, as well as anywhere else that DO have some baggage they carry from their childhood that was imprinted on them by the hands of their caretakers ( whether it be parents, relatives, teachers, coaches, etc) some was outright sexual/physical, mental abuse, some sheer ignorance but it happens and it happens all too frequently. If you deny that then you too are part of the problem.

I was only given enemas when sick , or had a fever that was up. Usually at the advice of the doctor after a house call. Also got a few for simple things , constipation , etc at mom's discrestion. They were routine when I grew up.

When you say that a parent who chooses to give their child enemas in a caring and sensitive manner, with the child's acceptance and understanding at an age appropriate level is abuse, is a judgment and an accusation of criminal and morally reprehensible behavior.

@beccarnmommy It doesnt matter if its ‘caring and sensitive’, or if the child ‘accepts or understands’, the issue is WHY is the child getting an enema? Is there truly a medical need? Granted there are some people with medical disorders with their bowel that requires intervention, be it medication or enemas, but thats pretty rare and not what we’re talking about here. Neither I nor my sibling ever needed one. My own kids had 1 total - when my 2 yr old son was crying ‘poopy hurts.’ I just can’t see how so many children NEED an enema - they haven’t had 50 yrs of crappy eating to screw up their digestive system! And think about the coincidence that some child, that ‘really’ needs an enema, just happens to have a klismophile as a parent!?!! Wow, what are the odds!?

IMO no normal functioning person NEEDS a scheduled enema. If an adult likes them for whatever reason, have fun! But parents who insist on giving their children frequent enemas have some alternative agenda. If they enjoy giving their child enemas, THATS ABUSE! If they are doing it so the child will learn to receive sexual feelings from them, THATS ABUSE! If they like making their child get naked and expose their buttocks and anus to them, THATS ABUSE! If they are giving them enemas because THEY enjoy them, sexually or otherwise, THATS ABUSE! They should stop getting their jollies off of their CHILDREN!

Basically they wouldn’t be giving them enemas, if they weren’t a part of THEIR own lives. And that’s just WRONG. Let the child develop their OWN sexuality!

@CJ1999 I refer you to the same advice and counsel I have to Moppy. In as much as you are saying some parents allow giving enemas to become abuse because of their upbringing, I think you are showing that you too have some deep rooted issues that should be addressed. Not judging (unlike perhaps you), not even being critical. Just opining, professionally at that. It seems interesting to me that the people here who are also the ones, in most cases to post their "anal" med play likes while denouncing the use of enemas. And CJ, on what basis and educational criteria are you defining your medical need? Medical need is based in part on 2 factors depending in some cases on the providers' analysis, training, and at times even instinct. Those are preventative and curative. If some people, as I do, believe that enemas can be preventative as well as curative, I think there is substantially enough empirical evidence to make the case. I also think that the posts made on this site of the widespread and literally wholesale use of Fleet's and such type enemas also bears witness to the fact that enemas are becoming again accepted, not to mention the popularity and again educated basis to the use of "specialized" enema treatments such as coffee, yogurt, mineral, herbal and probiotic.

While I respect the fact that you are a parent and chose not to take this holistic and naturalistic approach, and sadly just because your parents damaged you, does not mean that every parent/child enema given is a perversion nor is it an abuse. The perversion CJ1999 is a machination of your own apparent victimization that you should deal with and not transfer onto persons who are indeed responsible, loving and caring, successful parents who are and have raised healthy, well adjusted and successful offspring.

Play safe!

Becca

I think mom don't care about about sexual engagement in enema cause they was a medical necessity. But never happened that she put more that the finger tip inside.

My only response to what many of us have labeled, "the members of the bully brigade" is this. Think what you want. My post takes a purely clinical and analytical approach to the subject. Yours, on the other hand directly equates receipt of enemas with sexuality, and yours sexsualizes the procedure. So, one is led to ask who is associating enemas, sex, and children? Not I.

If they had, I don't think they would have done some of the things they did. Or teachers and school administrators either.

Prisons only do some of the things they do because they are stuck in a belief system that is contrary to what is known about human psychology now.

It i easy to forget that the 1990s were truly the "decade of the brain," and more was learned about human psychology just in that decade than had been learned in all of human history up to that point. and new knowledge has been gained since, just at a slower rate.

I really think most of the moms of the era did what they thought was right, and they could not have known!!!

My only response to what many of us have labeled, "the members of the bully brigade" is this. Think what you want. My post takes a purely clinical and analytical approach to the subject. Yours, on the other hand directly equates receipt of enemas with sexuality, and yours sexsualizes the procedure. So, one is led to ask who is associating enemas, sex, and children? Not I.

I never got enemas on a weekly schedule. In spite of the occasional enema I was still deeply imprinted for life. My only point, and one in which I never mentioned you by name is that giving enemas for no good reason once a week can imprint them for life and that this site is littered with people whose mom (call it what you want, abuse, holistic great health practices,general health supplements, preventive medicine,pedophilia) gave them enemas at an early age. Your continuing stories about how you played on cross country trips, with nursing partners and much more just tell me that I'm right. You are a klismo and you have BULLIED your kids into enemas their whole life. If you don't think they have developed sexual aspects from this you aren't as smart as you think you are.

I have come to Jesus about my kink and while I regret it happened by well intentioned adults who were a product of the times I am at peace with the fact it did happen and this site has allowed me to explore things that I never could before and I don't regret it or being here. It has been some of the most rewarding times of my life. You on the other hand do know better and are developing the next generation of zity members. I have never mentioned you by name (and still haven't) while you targeted me for my beliefs which I have a right to as much as you have yours. You're the bully here, anyone that doesn't share your opinion is wrong.

LisaK said

If they had, I don't think they would have done some of the things they did. Or teachers and school administrators either.

Prisons only do some of the things they do because they are stuck in a belief system that is contrary to what is known about human psychology now.

It i easy to forget that the 1990s were truly the "decade of the brain," and more was learned about human psychology just in that decade than had been learned in all of human history up to that point. and new knowledge has been gained since, just at a slower rate.

I really think most of the moms of the era did what they thought was right, and they could not have known!!!

I don't know what teachers, school administrators and the prison system have to do with this. I will say that what you said is exactly what a clinical psychologist who has inside knowledge of university administrative policies and what the prison system might say about consent issues regarding sexuality and enemas.

Who called the 1990s the "decade of the brain"? Shrinks?

Likewise, most of the moms and single FATHERS did what they thought was right because it didn't occur to them that they were turning their children into klismos.

@CJ1999 I refer you to the same advice and counsel I have to Moppy. In as much as you are saying some parents allow giving enemas to become abuse because of their upbringing, I think you are showing that you too have some deep rooted issues that should be addressed. Not judging (unlike perhaps you), not even being critical. Just opining, professionally at that.

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Play safe!

Becca

@beccarnmommy LOL!!! Oh my, if you want to start ‘armchairing,’ you will have a better chance of quarterbacking in the Super Bowl than you do of ‘diagnosing’ me. I won’t even bother replying to that garbage. But a few points I will make :

- “It seems interesting to me that the people here who are also the ones, in most cases to post their "anal" med play likes while denouncing the use of enemas.”

I’m not denouncing the use of enemas. I love giving and getting them! I’m denouncing giving enemas to children who dont need them, because the parent has a fetish. I’m denouncing parents who take pleasure in giving their children enemas, exposing their children, maybe embarrassing their children, steering their children towards their own identified kinks. And yes, I WILL judge if someone is getting off on things they do to their own or any children!

- “If some people, as I do, believe that enemas can be preventative as well as curative, I think there is substantially enough empirical evidence to make the case.”

Please point to the peer reviewed, scientific study that presents and proves this theory.

- “I also think that the posts made on this site of the widespread and literally wholesale use of Fleet's and such type enemas also bears witness to the fact that enemas are becoming again accepted,“

A kinky anal medical website is PROOF that enemas are becoming more acccepted in the general population? Really??

- “While I respect the fact that you are a parent and chose not to take this holistic and naturalistic approach”

There is nothing ‘natural’ about putting water up your ass.

Becca, from your posts you seem to be WAY too interested in what you and other parents do to their children regarding enemas. Your posts are littered with it, and the one where you called Harvard and instructed a nurse to administer weekly enemas to your adult daughter was absolutely laughable! Apparently the ‘bully brigade’ is quite large because many, many people called you out on that!

- ”Play safe! Becca”

Thank you Beccca, yes I do... I just don’t do it with my children.

PS I pre-apologize to the mods if any of my post is deemed to need deletion.

Good post @Moppys_jalopy!

My mom was a nurse and just gave them because she thought we needed them or were sick and it was a common thing back then. In addition my grandmother gave her kids an enema every week and thought they had health benefits. It didn't make it right though and they did make me into the kinky devil I am today. Still no excuse and there are members here that still do it which I consider abuse. My opinion,not shared by all.

and also this -

I have come to Jesus about my kink and while I regret it happened by well intentioned adults who were a product of the times I am at peace with the fact it did happen and this site has allowed me to explore things that I never could before and I don't regret it or being here. It has been some of the most rewarding times of my life. You on the other hand do know better and are developing the next generation of zity members. I have never mentioned you by name (and still haven't) while you targeted me for my beliefs which I have a right to as much as you have yours. You're the bully here, anyone that doesn't share your opinion is wrong.

I'm fucking a guy here - who for all intents and purposes could have written what you wrote @Moppys_jalopy and probably has in some form. He came to realize - that His enemas were sexual in nature for Him and He never gave any of His kids an enema, or allowed them to be given. I think you are soooo right - @Moppys_jalopy about not passing on your kink to a kid and those who know and feel the sexuality enemas have no business imprinting another generation. It is abuse.

I doubt it but it certainly had an impact. I think moms thought it more for health than the sexual and other affects it would have as you got older

I have never mentioned you by name (and still haven't) while you targeted me for my beliefs which I have a right to as much as you have yours.

@Moppys_jalopy

@beccarnmommy

Can you hear the applause of my agreement here?

There is absolutely no need to make a difference of opinion become a personal attack. I wish people could understand that ADULTS can make an informed choice, however biased their opinion may be on matters. That is completely up to an individual's own preference. However, there is a very real line which states that CHILDREN who are minors are not assumed to have the same choices. It is up to the adults in their lives to do everything possible to raise them so that one day the child (now turned adult) is cognitively capable of making his/her individual choices on a wide variety of topics including kink. (Admittedly, this is not a chore for the faint hearted!)

. . . and please, if you wish to start a dialogue of disagreement with me by using my name, have the courtesy to address me directly so we can talk privately. BTW There is the capability to do that right here on Zity using private messages. 😃

MY perspective of this whole thing is that our parents where just acting out what their parents did to them, when they were small children. I really don't think they knew the psychological aspects they were having on the children. My Mother's Mother lived with us when I was growing up she was from Scotland and I think she taught my Mother a lot of the Traditions that she was brought up on. She also had Colon Cancer and had a operation in 1956 to remove it so I think my Grandmother had a lot to do with our enemas also, because my Mom was afraid that if we didn't have clean colons we would get colon cancer too. So I don't think my Mom knew about the psychological impact they had on us.

Frankly, boys and girls, I see a tempest in a teapot brewing. I presume that all respondents here are klismos to some degree or other. I certainly am, and consider myself a successful, constructive, contributing member of society. Yes, we got A LOT of enemas growing up. Yes, looking back, our mom and aunt, and their mother, our grandmother were doubtless klismos. They were also closet nudists, and bisexual. So what? I believe the enemas were healthy for us, so the reason that we got them is immaterial. Yes, we both became klismos at early ages. BUT, was that because of the frequent enemas, or is there a genetic vector to the making of a klismo? Is it a mental illness? There are those who brand any behavior which is outside the "norm" (whatever that is) as a mental disorder. On the other hand, although the most common ice creams bought are vanilla, chocolate, and strawberry, does that mean a guy who buys, say, cherry vanilla isn't "normal"?

OK, we like enemas, and most who are honest about it (I pity the ones whose guilt makes them lie to themselves) admit that they get some sexual gratification from them. As long as we are not injuring ourselves or others, and are not forcing others to receive enemas against their will, what difference does it make as to the why of it? Corollary to that, what about people who got enemas as children, and never developed klismaphilia? I am not endorsing forcing children to take enemas that they do not need, just saying that I do NOT believe it causes psychological scars that leave them somehow crippled for life.

I never gave my children enemas unless their pediatrician recommended it. (Yes, I'm old enough to have lived in the days when doctors and nurses still saw medical value in enemas.) One became a klismo, the other did not. They both became successful, productive members of society. I am just surprised at the number of members here who obviously see their kink as a defect in their personality. As long as it isn't impacting your day-to-day life, why not just accept it and go on living?

I am sorry to have to say this and I am not mentioning names.

When you post something, you should stand behind what you wrote and be prepared to receive and accept criticism to it in the forum -- or don't post it.

@SwitchableSusie , AMEN !!

My mother gave both me and my sisters enemas on an a somewhat frequent basis when we were young (under 😎. She thought it was a healthy thing to do - probably because she was brought up that way. She didn't have a clue if there was - or wasn't - a psychological effect. I have always had an anal fetish. Not because of the enemas (my sisters have no interest in anything anal). I think it is just the way I am wired - not because I got a few enemas as a child.

You had an anal fetish before 8? You got imprinted and didn't even know it. You ever think of that?

You had an anal fetish before 8? You got imprinted and didn't even know it. You ever think of that?

I don't think a lot. My fetish came out in my teens. If it was the early age enemas, why me and not my prudish sisters? Honestly, I don't believe it was the enemas. But I can't rule it out.

I don't think a lot. My fetish came out in my teens. If it was the early age enemas, why me and not my prudish sisters? Honestly, I don't believe it was the enemas. But I can't rule it out.

Why me and not any of my siblings. I have 8 siblings. It happens,deal with it. Embrace the horror

Okay, I'm going to throw in my two-cents here.

I agree totally with @gwhap's comments. In fact, I don't even like the term "klismo" because it is just a label. Like @gwhap, I believe I was basically anal-fixated from a very early age. In fact, I'm pretty sure of it because I liked anything that stimulated my anus and rectum, be it enemas, thermometers, suppositories or whatever, for as long as I can remember. I also believe that anal-fixation is pre-wired and many people may not even be aware of it until something "triggers" a response (such as enemas, thermometers, digital rectal exams, fingering during sex, etc). I do NOT believe that enemas make anyone a so-called "klismo".

Our brain has billions of dendritic synapsis that send signals in every direction imaginable. No two brains are "wired" alike. Sensations to the anal/rectal area may very well connect to those sensations that affect our sexuality and thus we become hooked on those things that we find pleasurable.

I am gay. And believe me, I have fought it tooth and nail because it didn't fit in with my religious beliefs. In looking back at my childhood, I had an attraction that I didn't understand to other boys, not girls. The older I got, the more attracted I became to other boys. Did someone make me that way? Was I sexually abused by a male in my infant or toddler years? Did my mom take some kind of medication while I was in her womb that made me gay? Think about it. If you say that someone made you gay and you weren't born that way, you'll have the LGBT organizations breathing down your neck crying fowl! I've searched my past with a magnifying glass trying to find a reason for who I am, and no where can I find anyone who is responsible for my being the way I am today. No one to lay blame on. None! Nada! I'm anal-fixated because, like being gay, I was pre-wired that way. Perhaps I should be blaming God??

Again, I believe anal fixation is something we come pre-wired for. By no means does it mean giving someone an enema will make them a "klismo". There are adults here that never had an enema in childhood, yet as an adult they find enemas very erotic and/or enjoyable. There are, as others have said, children who have been given enemas that never developed a desire for them in adulthood. And, to my knowledge, there are no research out there that prove giving enemas to children will turn them into klismos.

As I've said before, what goes on behind closed doors between two consenting adults needs to stay behind closed doors. If you can't keep what you enjoy sexually away from your kids, you shouldn't have kids in the first place. But on the flip side of the coin, you shouldn't let what you enjoy in private get in the way of what's best for your family. And, if you are a so-called klismo and your pediatrician orders an enema for your child, there are other options such as getting another family member to do the task or hiring a private duty nurse who does house calls (my mom, an RN, did just that). But NOT to give them an enema because of how YOU feel about them, could be considered criminal by denying children the right to appropriate treatment.

There is nothing wrong with giving kids enemas if they are needed for a medical reason. It's true that enemas don't cure anything (except perhaps in very unusual or rare circumstances), but neither does aspirin or NyQuil. They are used to treat SYMPTOMS of other problems, and sometimes those symptoms can be far worse and far more damaging than the problem itself. Don't deny your family the care they need whatever it is just because of your fetishes. If you can't be responsible enough to separate what you enjoy in your bedroom from your duty as caring, responsible parents then you have a more serious problem that may need some serious counseling.

And lastly, I seriously doubt my mom (or my aunt and uncle) had any worries that giving me enemas for colic bowels (what we call IBS today) and chronic constipation, would have had any psychological impact on me. My mom was an RN and my aunt was an LPN. They both gave lots of enemas in their career to both children and adults and I doubt they ever gave it a second thought because back in those days, giving enemas was almost as common as handing out aspirin. I'm glad that I was given enemas as a child because the pain and suffering from colic bowels was far worse than the enemas, and enemas were the ONLY thing that gave me relief and put me in remission. This practice continues today.