Butt Plug won't stay in

As motivation to clean my home I am wearing a butt plug, as punishment for the mess, all day except if I'm cleaning. I am having trouble getting the Butt Plug to stay in. I have tried putting the plug in with no lubricant and wearing tight jeans but it is still able to work it's way out.

Looking for suggestions. I'm looking for ideas of something that might be in my home to use until I find something to purchase as a permanent solution.

It won't stay in - even with no lube - because it's shape is not adequate. The plug to be worn comfortably has to have a slim long neck and a bulbous "head". The base should be T shaped or oval. The shorter the neck the more you're going to feel it as it keeps your sphincter stretched and if the head isn't substantially thicker than the stem, it's coming out. Take a look at Core plugs - those are really comfy to wear and do not pop out no matter what. Similar are Njoy plugs in stainless steel and Icicles No. 14 (or the Prisms Devi) in glass.

As for the cleaning motivation - plug wearing is a great one! Although I sometimes intentionally wear a plug that is difficult to keep in as it takes my mind off the boring things more than a comfortable one.

Happy plugging!

I agree with @afternine @EnemaNewbie, but while you don't get one that stays in you may use some panties to hold it in. Good play to you!

Plugged and pantied while having to do house work is a great pinishment

I don't know what kind of re-inforced kevlar fiber your panties are made of, but if a butt plug won't stay in, there aren't any panties I own that will keep in a butt plug.

You need a better butt plug.

Yep. Look for at least a half inch difference in size between the neck and the body, and a neck that is over an inch long. A short neck pulls the body of the plug up against the internal sphincter and encourages it to relax and be held open. Once the plug body gets into your anal canal it is very hard to keep it in.

I don't think most people on here would consider a butt plug to be punishment, unless maybe you lubed it with Vicks or something that burns. Maybe wear it only while cleaning as an encouragement?

They do also make harnesses that hold a plug in. You might look into those if you want something even more secure.

I don't think most people on here would consider a butt plug to be punishment, unless maybe you lubed it with Vicks or something that burns.

Vicks makes it more enjoyable! BenGay etc....may make it more uncomfortable!

WARNING:

Do not use BEN-GAY as an anal/rectal lubricant unless you know how it feels on other tender skin first because it takes time to work and once it does, you will not be able to wash it off--even with repeated enemas.

People who say to use it have not tried it themselves.

I had a friend in college who rubbed ben gay on his balls as a dare. NOT pretty. He was in a lot of pain for about an hour before it started to wear off.

I like an nJoy plug in one inch. It is stainless steel with a narrow handle that fits between the cheeks and tapers down from the head so it stays seated nicely. Your plug is too small or too narrow to stay in properly and if I had to guess is probably one of those narrow beginners plugs. The nJoy is pricey but well worth the money if you want to go out in public and not have an embarrassing launch. I would tie a shoestring on the handles and hang it out the back of Petals pants and give it a tug once in awhile while out in public. We never had it come out but watching her expression was priceless.

I once made the mistake of putting on some muscle rub - Ben Gay or Tiger Balm or similar - then forgetting to wash my hands before I went pee. Never came anywhere close to making that mistake again. Don't think I'm anywhere near trying either on my anus either.

I once made the mistake of putting on some muscle rub - Ben Gay or Tiger Balm or similar - then forgetting to wash my hands before I went pee.

I did the same thing after making some jalepeno poppers. Not as bad as Ben Gay - but you only make it worse by trying to wash it off!! Also rubbed my eye - OUCH!

Hi, Enemanewbie: I've been doing anal play for quite a while and, since stumbling into Zity, I've taken an interest in depth penetration. I do something in that regard most days, often more than once, but I never had a butt plug.

Yesterday I visited a store and bought a "Cockplug" sevn inches long and about 1-1/2 thick with what I thought was a nice looking neck. I tried it last night and couldn't get it all the way in, so it kept sliding out. I'm small and the toy is obviously longer than my rectum. Considering this, I don't see any way it's going to stay in, It will make a nice pussy toy. 😃

Today, following what happened, I bought a regular medium butt plug and just got home to try it. After a good 18 inch deep washout, I tried it and it stayed in as I walked around. I removed and replaced it several times and found that on pulling it out, it was just at the point of hurting a bit. I finally put it back in and I still have it in as I write this.

My conclusion: It may take you 2, 3 or 4 different plugs, but find one that fits you comfortably. I'm enjoying sitting on mine right now.

Lucy.

Finding the perfect butt plug is hard, but the whole search process is so fun, keep on searching ... and ask advise ...

Personally, I think Doc Johnson plugs, the round ones tend to stay in well. It looks like a trailer hitch ball. you have work hard to pull it back out (not painful pulling) but that is just my suggestion.

"Finding the perfect butt plug is hard"...too true Anne. But it can be so much fun!

@EnemaNewbie - I agree that finding the right plug can be challenging! I found the nJoy #2 to be comfy, and easy to clean, as it is made of stainless steel. The base is flattened and ring shaped, so it does not chafe your butt cheeks, and it's shape is such that I've never had a problem with "fallout". They're NOT cheap, but I've seen them on Amazon (yeah, if you cannot find something on Amazon, it probably doesn't exist) for as little as $47.95.

It's the wrong plug (shape, size, or both). A properly sized plug isn't going anywhere.

If a butt plug won't stay in, you probably don't have the widest part of the bulge fully inserted past the sphincter.

You need to ask my sister. We always joke with her swearing that she uses super glue. We only say that, don't try it.

Don’t know what size you’ve tried but I would recommend the Njoy Pure Plug 2.0. It is stainless steel and has a nice full head which slides in easily when properly lubed and once it pops into place will not come out until you force it to!

Small butt plugs don't work for me, either. As soon as I walk a few steps, it begins to work its way out. As others have said, you are almost certainly using too small a size.

I found a larger size (1 - 7/8" at the widest point), with a decent neck worked perfectly for me. It hurts just a bit getting past the widest point, but once I overcome that temporary discomfort and it slips inside, my sphincter clamps down on the neck and the feeling is simply amazing - nothing but pleasure and a profound feeling of fullness. I can walk around and do anything for hours, and that puppy isn't going anywhere until I work at pulling / pushing it out.

As others have said, you are not wearing the right plug, and it is probably too small.

You need to experiment and try various plugs until you find your favourite. Different styles can be worn for different reasons.

As others have said for doing housework or walking, and all day wear, you will need something with a larger bulb and longer neck so that your sphincter will hold it in place. It might be a little more difficult to insert at first until you get used to it, but remember to use plenty of lube and relax when you insert it.

I regularly wear a jeweled plug to work when I am in the office, and generally have no problems. Sometimes I have to re lube a couple of times but not always.

Just as an added precaution, and more for my own peace of mind more than anything, I usually wear a tight fitting thong with the back pulled up between my bum cheeks and the sides pulled high up on my hips, just for additional security, but it would only give you a short time of extra security, as if a plug wants to come out, it will come out, nothing really will hold it in.

As others have said, it's not the right size. I have a few different types of plugs based on "need"... For sitting at my desk i like the ones with a larger neck to keep it stretched for larger toy play later (for gaping sessions).

If i'm looking to be going out or not sitting all day, I go for the very skinny neck and more of an "ace of spaces" shape.

Good luck!!!

I’ve found butt plug harnesses can work well but if the plug isn’t the right fit in the first place the only way a harness will work is if you tighten it to almost painful levels. As most have already said, get a plug with a narrower and longer neck. As you develop you’ll be able to use wider necked plugs. Have fun!

Get a wider butt plug! It's not rocket science. It's anal science. LOL!

@ddell2

This is exactly the solution.

There has been far too much written about it

and it's not even a science.

;-)

If you want to give a butt plug the chance to stay safely and comfortably inside, in order to enjoy long term anal pleasure, think next time you purchase a plug, of the size differential from the bulb to the neck, this ratio factor is very important for the portability of a butt plug. A little longer and thinner neck will help the sphincter to close without stress around it and keep safely in place the inner much larger bulb of the plug for endless hours of anal delight and joy.

I have a Doc Johnson plug that is 4.5 inches long, 1.4 inches at its widest point and about 3/4 inches at the neck. Occasionally, it will pop out. To stop that, I wear a men’s girdle, made by LEO, which keeps everything in place!

@afternine I want a butt plug that stays in but is not comfortable. A comfortable Butt Plug wouldn't be much of a punishment.