Loss of Interest After Orgasm

I found that after cumming I briefly lose interest in my enema kink and being in a submissive role. That loss of interest passes fairly quickly, but it almost always does occur. For the record I'm not a lifestyle submissive. I want to briefly give up control. I find that cathartic. What happens to you other guys, and gals, after you have an orgasm?

Me, too at age 65. Most of my life I'd lose interest in sexual stimulation, enemas, rubber, usually any sex or kink play for a while after having an orgasm. After a normal male post-orgasm rest or nap or cuddle, my enema gets drained, kink clothes come off and put away and I'm not interested until the next orgasm desire shows up. The loss of interest lasted for various times, pretty short when in my 20's, much longer now. These days I'm interested in the next orgasm or kink play about a day or two after an orgasm. Rarely, these days I'll be so stimulated from not orgasming for a long time that I'll manage two orgasms in a day.

Eric

I absolutely lose interest after an orgasm. Interestingly, nowadays I seem to not lose interest as completely as I used to. When playing I enjoy continuing with enemas or whatever I was focused on to a much greater degree than heretofore. Of course I shoot for the orgasm as the climax of the event (I'm not sure I tried for the puns but they did work out well, didn't they) but sometimes my timing is a bit off.

This same topic has come up in other Zity.Biz forums

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It seems that after an orgasm, most people are just DONE.

I have essentially no control over when my orgasm occurs during an enema, even if very aroused before filling. It can come anywhere from nozzle insertion/inflation to filling to retention to even during emptying. I think it has a lot to do with how I'm reacting to that particular enema depending on size and solution type. If it's really arousing I make an effort to try and hold out until retention, but I never really know. Up until I climax, I'm seriously interested in pushing my kink limits (real Domme or fantasy Domme during real enema) and enjoying the intense arousal from nozzle, enema, rubber, sneakers, submission/humiliation and restraint as much as possible. If I'm enjoying it all and get so aroused that the climax occurs before I planned it, that's nice too. At 65, after the climax I usually lose further interest and go empty and put away my kink clothes/props, but every now and then I'll be able to stay aroused, add or extend the kinks and eventually orgasm again, which at my age is a real treat.

Eric

Just curious Susie,

This same topic has come up in other Zity.Biz forums................

It seems that after an orgasm, most people are just DONE.

For me, male, I'm usually done with kink interest after one orgasm since at 65 my refractory period is usually a day or two. Thus, I'll empty my enema, take off my rubber clothes and sneakers and wait till next time having lost all interest in kink until then. If I'm (rarely) with a Domme partner who's interested in prolonging the session or trying to force another orgasm out of me, or if I'm especially extremely aroused that day, I may wait a bit then continue on with more kink until my second orgasm hits (unusual; lucky me).

For you gals, is it correct that you're DONE after just one orgasm, or multiple, or does it depend on how many orgasms your body is used to?

Eric

For women, it depends.

Some are done after one orgasm, some like a few.

There are no rules on this. Every woman is different and they may not want the same thing each time as far as the number of orgasms is concerned.

An orgasm usually ends the enema session for me. And hour later I am ready to go again.

I'll echo what others have said about being one-and-done. But I'll take it a step further and say that many times I go straight from orgasm to guilt. Guilt over masturbation. Guilt over the fantasies I masturbate to.

The guilty feelings never last more than a few minutes, but it's an odd experience to say the least.

Yes I find I do have a loss of Interest once I have had an Orgasm,however I am now 59 and I would say since in my 30"s started to get into Enemas alot more which made me have Orgasms sooner or should I say at different stages (depending on mood) insertion,retention,or expel.What I do (actually Friend with benefits)we both when together get into Humiliation part of our sexual interests.I find it 1st really brings out the submissive side of me ,and the different types of sex done to me such as (spanking,use of Butt plug/Dildo,another Enema right away)Pretty well what happens if/when either one of us Orgasm and loss interest we just Do Not Stop we both enjoy mild -medium S & M.Were both Divorced both ex's disgusted with even word ENEMA ,we were Boyfriend/Girlfriend in High School and met one another 12-13 yr ago after both divorced,but neither one want to move-in ,works fine now.Not hurting Anyone.Been called a few Nasty Names when I have made Her EXPEL herself in LIVING ROOM in a PAIL (5 gal) as I watch sports sitting on couch holding roll of Toilet Paper making her ask when she thinks she's done .

I can orgasm and still continue enema play without loss of intrest. i think part of it may i do not get to do it as often as i would like so i just keep on going just my 2 Cents

I posted a response to this topic not too long ago on another thread. That said, I think the drop in interest after orgasm is a biological response. We are driven by a sex drive from hormones and once we achieve our goal of consummating the sexual act our bodies and brain are fulfilled and satiated. All the excitement surrounding our kinks and want for sex temporarily subside until our bodies begin to rebound and the cycle begins again. This period of loss of sexual interest sexual varies by individual.

I for one feel much better after I have had sex either with a partner or solo. I like to observe myself after I have had sex and notice when my desires for my kinks and want for more sex begins to creep back into my thoughts. I begin thinking about sex sometimes very soon after- less than an hour after orgasm. While sometimes it might stretch out to the next day.

If I am horny and don't give myself an orgasm, then my brain is constantly reminding me to think about sex until I give it what it wants.

Yes after orgasm i do lose interest for a short period of time,but it comes back rather fast and i once again start to think about enemas

This is why I hold off on an orgasm until I've finished filling myself with the last bag (or canister) that I plan to take during this enema "play time". Once I climax, the erection subsides, and the desire to continue with the enema, or more enemas, simply goes away at this point. Depending on the situation, and free time I have, the urge to do more enemas may come back in an hour or two, but at the very moment, the desire is over.

It has also happened to me at times.

Even though I usually lose interest in enemas or more other kinks as soon as I orgasm (or right after the post-orgasmic nap), up until then all bets are off or should I say all kinks are on. The whole time I'm experiencing an enema, from finding equipment to mixing solution to bag filling all the way to emptying, my goal is to get to (at least one) orgasm. So during the enema, no matter how much kink I've included up to then, if no orgasm so far then I'm constantly a) enjoying the enema and b) thinking about adding even more kink to ramp up my stimulation to help stimulate an orgasm. I might take advantage of any of my kinks to get more and more arousal as I'm lying there filling or holding. That might be pulling on a rubber hood and/or rubber gloves in addition to my rubber shirt I'm already wearing, pulling on a pair of rubber pants or neoprene sweatpants over my diaper, reaching down (if my belly isn't too big) to put on a heavier pair of sneakers or tie my feet together, adding some intense rubber aroma from a gas mask or sneaker over my face, or just fantasizing more intensely about what my fantasy Domme is making me do or listen to.

Once the orgasm finally hits, except in exceptional cases of arousal, my desire for all that kink activity rapidly goes away and I empty and put all the kink items away. However, up until then, the more kink and arousal the better.

Eric

Pretty much have to get all Enemas & kink done before orgasims.

Pacing one self is needed for full day of fun and games!

I think that we are like most couples in that orgasms are pretty variable inintesity and timing. We enjoy what comes and when but what we both enjoy is snuggling and touching after wards, The closeness seems to complete things.

In Japan, especially among net geeks, it is called as "KENJA TIME" which means "wise men's time".

My sub loses interest after he has an orgasm. Even if he asks for something to be done to him afterwards. He was just getting pushed towards the orgasm.

Concerning whether I am done after one orgasm - it depends on how horny I am. Ocassionally it takes more than one to "poop" me out.

MissStress,

My sub loses interest after he has an orgasm. Even if he asks for something to be done to him afterwards. He was just getting pushed towards the orgasm.

Clarify? If he asks for something more after his orgasm, like what, another enema or butt plugging? He's just looking for a second orgasm? I'll usually be done after one orgasm, but occasionally I'm still horny and aroused enough to ask for more kink and stimulation to have a second one. Thanks,

Eric

I can orgasm and still continue enema play without loss of intrest. i think part of it may i do not get to do it as often as i would like so i just keep on going just my 2 Cents

Ahh, the pleasures and joys of "youth!" I remember it well. More power (and enema water) to you, my friend. I can only do as you say here on rare lucky occasions. ??

Eric

KC Patient,

I'll echo what others have said about being one-and-done. But I'll take it a step further and say that many times I go straight from orgasm to guilt. Guilt over masturbation. Guilt over the fantasies I masturbate to.

The guilty feelings never last more than a few minutes, but it's an odd experience to say the least.

Sorry to hear about the guilt experiences. Is that something mostly associated for you with kink thoughts or activities, or more widespread? I don't recall reading about that from you before. Thanks,

Eric

That's why I try to get everything done before the big release. Less guilt afterwards...

Susie, just curious as usual.

"For women, it depends.

Some are done after one orgasm, some like a few.

There are no rules on this. Every woman is different and they may not want the same thing each time as far as the number of orgasms is concerned."

From your prior descriptions of some prolonged sessions you do with your husband ("FMJ" et. al.), I would gather at least sometimes he's not done after one orgasm?

Eric

From your prior descriptions of some prolonged sessions you do with your husband ("FMJ" et. al.), I would gather at least sometimes he's not done after one orgasm?

Eric

You think we let him have an orgasm is Full Metal Jacket???

WRONG! 😁 😁 😁

He was mine and my two friends to play with, tease and annoy while he was mummified.

I even asked my two friends who assisted me in the scene if they played with his penis and they said they left that for me. I got him hard, hot and bothered but never let him have an orgasm. The whole point of his being mummified for 48 hours was DISCIPLINE.

He is temporarily done after an orgasm for about an hour. If I want to fuck him again he will do it after a waiting period of about 10-15 minutes for round two (no rapid round three--that was gone when he hit his early 30s) but he won't have the same enthusiasm and vigor compared to waiting an hour or more.

My mistake. Got it.

Eric

When younger there was a very little lost of interest after orgasm could take enema orgasm agian older it took longer time to want to play\ agiam .For a while wife gave me enemas to get me going and after orgasm with her I was good for the night . NOw at 69 afrter a good orgasm iam good for a day or two

When I was young I could take enemas all day.

After 6 or 7 I knew I had stop and the only I could stop was to masturbate. After the climax I was ready to through all my equipment away but knew that there as another day coming when I would want them for the next session.

That means the orgasm WORKED!

It got your rocks off at least for a while