First time telling another person

Telling another person has always been precarious for me. I was expecting a positive reaction from it, but instead, received a much different response, which typically ended with me being labeled as gay, perverted, weird, a loser. So, from that point on, I only share these intimate discussions with other members on this forum, which is the only place that I feel comfortable doing so. My standing joke is: " How do you scare someone away ? Just tell them that you take your temperature up the ass." Unfortunately, there's an element of truth to that.

I told a close friend recently. Very positive response.

After 10 years of marriage I gathered the courage to ask for what I had been fantasizing about for seems like a lifetime.

She actually went along with the idea to please me. Despite her telling me there was nothing wrong with my kink, she has never done it again on her own knowing my various kinks I've shared, prostate play etc. I know something changed since that experience. I'm sad as I would do anything for her she asks to satisfy any fantasy, but she either has none, or has issues of her own that prevent exploration and joy of fetish. Although I know it's not me, and I'm glad I had the courage to finally state and ask for what I wanted, I suppose the result was less than optimal. I am in envy of those on this site who have found partners that trust, enjoy, and be joyful exploring with each other.

The first person I confessed my love of enema to was my first wife - suffice it to say she thought my love of enemas was perverted. I mentioned elsewhere how I had pretended for some time, to have a constipation problem that required my nightly use of an enema..

The only people who know are a few women who I dated longterm. And I never brought it up until we'd crossed that line about playing intimately with each other's bottoms, which of course I mean: looking at, exploring, touching, penetrating each other's anus. And then talking about these moments and desires in detail. Only at this point was I comfortable saying "I want you to take my temperature in my bottom". They were very excited and aroused to hear this question, fortunately!

It's definitely not a casual topic. Beyond desire, trust is the key.

I agree with @RichardAsni. Given the unusual (and intimate) nature of the RT fetish, you never know how a partner will react, so better to establish trust in the relationship before bringing it up. If she likes the idea, all the better. If she doesn’t, then you focus on other aspects of the relationship that have hopefully already been established.

I learned the hard way that it's best to bring it up before getting married... I mistakenly though my 1st wife was into enemas. After we were married and I mentioned it, wow! was I wrong... she thought my enema interests were perverted! So for the ten-year duration of that marriage I had to tip-toe around with my love of enemas.. First thing I did when I began the next relationship following that marriage was to mention my love of enemas - that worked out well. As did doing the same when I met my present wife..

I "came out" to my bride when we were dating. She was surprised and interested although she'd never had any interest or experience of her own. We play with spanking and RT more than anything to please me though she's kinda of warmed to it herself. Fair play being the best rule, I likewise accommodate her kinks as well. 15 years married and the happiest 15 years of my life.😀