Language used to initiate genital exam

Don't think I'd like a female doctor (young or old) examining my genitals. Would probably excuse myself, leave and make another appointment to see a male doctor. That's a patients prerogative!

My pediatrician never said anything. He would go from abdominal exam to pulling down waist band of underwear.

At my last physical around six months ago, my doctor said something to the affect of we'll finish off with the hernia check which was an indicator of the included testicle exam. As he was grabbing the exam gloves he asked if I'd like a rectal exam as well. I said yes, as he proceeded to pull the gloves over his hands.

When I was younger, she just said to my mom: undress all naked please. was performing the chest without saying anything and start examining my down part. Was humillatin because mom was present. No wise that an exam was in that manner. I was shocked be nude in the medical table few minutes

“Okay, let’s get you to slide right down to the end of the table...” — between the gown and table paper, about the most awkward shimmy you can imagine.

That sounds like a great degrading exam of the penis! I have never experienced a doctor shining a light at the meatus. Was it a pocket light or did he use the one from the otoscope on the wall?

What the hell is a meatus? The head? Makes me want to go make a bologna sandwich or something.

What the hell is a meatus? The head? Makes me want to go make a bologna sandwich or something.

Google is easy enough to use.

It's a natural body opening. In this case the opening of the urethra on the glans ...

What the hell is a meatus? The head? Makes me want to go make a bologna sandwich or something.

Lol I remember the first time I saw this word I thought it was pronounced “meet-us”

I'll try to recall in order all the ones I can remember...

First sports physical was at an old man doctor in an old house converted into his office. This was the official school sponsored exam where kids are lined up out to the sidewalk and walk through the office going from station to station. I had NO IDEA what to expect. I get to the last station and the doctor is sitting there and tells me to stand directly in front of him and pull my pants down to my knees. I do. Doctor is putting on gloves and looks up at me and says, "Underwear too, don't be shy."

Sports physical, female pediatrician, me in only my underwear. Doesn't say a word, just sticks her hand in my underwear while I was laying down after she finished abdominal exam. After feeling a bit she grabs hold of my underwear and pulls it out and down and just looks at my genitals for awhile.

Sports physical, male doctor, me sitting on the table in my underwear. "Stand up and pull down your underwear. I need to do a hernia exam." Those are the only words I remember him saying the whole exam.

Pre-employement exam, male doctor, me in jeans with my shirt off. I was laying down and he just finished abdominal exam. "Stand up and drop 'em." As he's putting on his gloves, "I need to do a hernia exam."

Pre-employement exam, female NP, me wearing my underwear underneath a gown. She just finished watching me walk back and forth, stand on toes, and things like that while she was sitting on the stool. She wheels over to a drawer, opens it up and pulls out some gloves. "Ok, we're almost done. I just need to do a hernia exam." It was the first time I wore a gown and didn't exactly know what the protocol was (do I lift the gown, does she, do I take it off, ...???). Plus I was standing in a weird spot of the exam room after doing my walking exam, so I ask where she wants me. "Right there is fine. I just need you to lower your underwear for me." By the way, she raised the gown.

Vasectomy consultation, male urologist. The doctor, my wife, and I just finished talking about everything. "OK, I'm going to do a quick exam on you. Just come over to the table and lower your pants and underwear to about here." He shows me on his legs about mid thigh. "Have a seat on the table and lay back."

Physical exam (2 days ago), male doctor, me fully clothed sitting on exam table. He just finished tapping my knees and ankles with rubber hammer, I think exam is finished and almost start to climb off table and go sit in chair. "Ok, I need to do a hernia evaluation on you. Come all the way down and stand right over here facing this way." It was a small office so he has me stand just off to the side of the door facing away. As I'm pulling down my pants, he goes and gets gloves and says, "I'm just going to grab this chair." He's sitting right in front of me and starts putting on his gloves while he starts asking about me about doing self testicular exams. After he finished examining my penis and testicles, "Look this way and give me a good hard cough. Ok, now look that way and cough." He stands up and turns around. I again thought he was done and pulled up my pants. He steps over to the end of the exam table turns and looks at me and says, "I'm going to go ahead and check your prostate too while we're at it." He then explains and shows me the exact position he wants me in. "It's easiest to just lean over the table, feet apart, and point your toes inward a bit."

I'll try to recall in order all the ones I can remember.

Excellent post BenDover!

“I need to check your penis and testicles.” Followed by the lowering of my underwear to my knees as I lay on the exam table. “Have you been having any issues down here?” The doctor would begin feeling my testicles. “Does it ever hurt to pull back your foreskin?” The doctor would roll down foreskin. “Have you started ejaculating?” Doctor looked at tip of penis. “Any trouble with erections?” Doctor palpated shaft.

For my sister… “I’m going to check your private parts.” He would take her underwear to her ankles. “Spread your legs for me. Like a butterfly.” Doctor would put her in butterfly position, knees bent and legs open wide. “Any pain in your private area?” Doctor would palpate her labia, then spread her lips and look at her hole. “You’ve started getting discharge.” Doctor would palpate her labia again but higher, then point at the top of her slit. “I need to check this right here. It will only take a moment.” Doctor would feel around my sister’s clitoris. My sister would gasp and she would jump. “Everything is okay.” Doctor would smile, then lift her legs and spread her cheeks to check her bottom.

Current - “scoot down to the end of the table….set your feet in the stirrups…let your knees fall open…take a deep breath and relax….You’ll feel my touch.”

Past - “let’s take a peek at your private area…Only the doctor or your parents are allowed to see and touch you here…you’ll feel me opening your privates for a check. ”

When I grew up in the 80's doctors did not ask to initiate a genital exam. Specifically when I was 13 I was in my underpants when the pediatrician grabbed by waist band and pulled down my briefs. When my head shot up to see what she was doing the doctor cooed 'Don't be alarmed ,I'm just checking your plumbing'. When I was 14 my brother and I had a joint exam,that is both of us were on the table at the same time, (we are both fairly skinny), the doctor literally asked me to 'raise your butt up' and removed my underpants while the nurse did the same for my brother. They covered us up with a drape but after the exam the doctor apologized for removing our underpants without asking. From 15 until College I was examined by a doctor who had us naked for our checkups, interestingly he always asked something like 'I am going to examine your genitals' before he touched them. The first time a doctor asked for permission was ... never. Even today when my doctor is visually inspecting my genitals she simply lifts up the gown and drape, no language.

My gyn just has me scoot to the very end of the table.

My interest explains he’s going to be doing the 2nd part of my female exam as he presses on my lower stomach, my underwear is lowered already but he explains they will need to come down and he helps me slide them to my ankles and tells me to slightly spread my legs.

Growing up? It was always lots of questions and comments. Especially when puberty started.....and they were always embarrassing questions or comments like "you're move developed here than last year", "growing hair is okay right here, nothing to be embarrassed about, based on what you have now, you'll grow more everywhere as you get older, just your armpits now" (as he ran his fingers through my pubes) "don't be embarrassed, i've seen a lot of semi and fully erection, it's okay." "any issues going to the bathroom or ejaculating?" "have you thought about trimming or fully shaving this area?" "anything going on down here that's concerning beside the normal stuff?"

Yeah and I was always exposed without warning or permission. I knew it would be coming based on what he did before but it was still embarrassing to just be fully exposed and touched without permission or warning. And if I did get any warning, it was more of a "let's see whats going on down here" or I remember one time, "let's take a look at the boys and see what's happening"

He would lift up the waistband of my underwear and say “Let’s take a peek” before looking inside at my mound.

Or “I’m going to check your private parts today” as he pulled my panties to my ankles and helped me spread my legs, followed by “you’ll feel me touching your private parts.” Very new and exciting feelings for a young girl to have a man spread open her labia and peer in closely.

Over the years I've had different instructions from different doctors, be it pcp, urologist or dermatologist, but the most common are "I need to check you down below", or "I need to check your privates now", or simply "drop your shorts for me."

simply "drop your shorts for me."

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Perfect! Sometimes, less is more.

In the 1970's and 1980's you just knew going to the Doctor's office would be an exam of sorts. Yearly physicals were standard for school and sports programs. In the exam room you were in your underwear on the exam table. The Doctor did all the usual checks mostly you saw the exam form he would go back and forth to write down the results. After the reaching and walking tests along with jumping jacks the doctor would go back to the chart and then say:

Ok, everything looks good above, now I need to check below. Strip off your shorts.

My doctor would say we’re going to do a “quick no panty.”

In The UK for my wife's exams, it is bring your together let your legs fall apart, Very quick and simple like the exam.

I had a handful of different doctors growing up and all would say different things. “Is it ok if I check Inside your underpants?” Was one of my earliest memories. From ages 10-12 my doctor more or less told me what he was going to do instead of ask my permission; “I’m just going to take a quick look inside your underwear”.

I had a handful of different doctors growing up and all would say different things. “Is it ok if I check Inside your underpants?”

I wonder if anyone ever answered 'no'? And what would have happened then?

I had a handful of different doctors growing up and all would say different things. “Is it ok if I check Inside your underpants?” Was one of my earliest memories. From ages 10-12 my doctor more or less told me what he was going to do instead of ask my permission; “I’m just going to take a quick look inside your underwear”.

Looking inside the underpants or underwear is a really hot way of describing the examination of the genitalia. I have never heard it stated as such by anyone else. What style and color of underpants did you wear at that time? Would those doctors have you pull the underwear down or would they take care of exposing you? I would also like to know whether it was just a look or if there was more done.

I wonder if anyone ever answered 'no'? And what would have happened then?

I think any "normal" doctor would either accept it or would try to explain to the patient why he thinks it is necessary to inspect the intimate area.

....now just slip your briefs right off for the rest of the examination please,

“Time to check your privates. Please open your legs.”

The doctor I had for my annual physical for 35 years just said take 'em off. All of 'em. And I sat on the exam table naked for the next 30 minutes while he went all over me. His replacement 10 years ago has never checked anything. I think she's too embarrassed to look at my genitals. I texted her once about having me naked for the upcoming exam, she replied she thought that was a good idea but only did it that one time.

I need you to scoot your bottom down a little more.

Strip down from the waist down.

Please sit your feet in the stirrups. Let your knees fall into a comfortable position

Relax

. I texted her once about having me naked for the upcoming exam, she replied she thought that was a good idea but only did it that one time.

Perhaps that's an indication that unless we specifically request to be examined that thoroughly, beneath the clothing, we won't be. When she said, "That's a good idea", she may have been in passive agreement that that's how it should be if it were up to her. As if insurance companies are really running the show, and since you actively suggested / requested being undressed, that's something that they could always use in court for their case. Versus it being a doctor's directive, and then the doctor is accused of inappropriate touching.