Are older men more interested in being Bisexual

I don't think the desire to have sex with another man changes over time. What changes is the willingness to fulfill the desire.

This! And as I've never had that desire I don't expect to want a man just because I'm over 50.

I'm 63 been thinking about guy guy sex for decades. Still a virgin there. I'm now more willing cause time is running out. Hesitant because I have a normal size cock but I think it's small. Also married happily. That slows me down. Wouldn't want to get caught.

I have such erotical fantasies and have some similarities with you, but it doesn't change with time.

I'm 63 been thinking about guy guy sex for decades.

And that's it mostly I think most guys get to the point of saying f---k it I am going to do what I want, I a, told sexuality can be fluid but in general I think older guys who want gay sex already had desire for it before. I could be wrong but unless some says I never had any interest but now I can't stop thinking about it I remain skeptical. Although I know of one straight man who took medication that turned him into a gay slut he won a lot of money in some court case.

Although I know of one straight man who took medication that turned him into a gay slut he won a lot of money in some court case.

Really? Now that sounds like something I'd be skeptical about. Essentially that medication could then be considered to have aphrodisiac effects, in effect a gold mine for whatever company manufactured it.

And changing sexual orientation by chemical means - which is what medication essentially is - seems very drastic. So, I suppose that's a side effect that would infuriate the Religious Right, a pill that can turn you gay ... ha ha ha.

Still, seriously, sounds a bit far-fetched. There must be more to the story than heightening sexual desire and changing sexual orientation.

Http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2240249/Didier-Jambart-said-Parkinsons-drug-gay-sex-addict-awarded-160k-French-court.html

Not saying that he's honest but he got a large pay out.

Http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2240249/Didier-Jambart-said-Parkinsons-drug-gay-sex-addict-awarded-160k-French-court.html

Not saying that he's honest but he got a large pay out.

Holy Shit! When I read @Canuck_Brat first post my BS meter was running high. No way a drug makes someone a 'gay slut.' Implausible if not impossible. But hearing that's it's a Parkinson's drug?! A real friend of mine, worked with him for years, played on sports teams with him, was a consummate family man, wife, 3 kids, genuinely a great guy. He also Parkinson's in his 30s, tried some medication, and almost gambled his entire life away. Had never gambled in his life before. Suddenly he's an addict who spent every dime, raided his 401k and retirement. God it was awful.

So I believe this addiction story, with gambling and sex addiction. Although I do think the guy is lying about his persuasion. Becoming unable to control an addiction would not change who you want to fuck. IMO he always was attracted to men and hid it, and then this drug made him unable to control it.

I have my serious doubts of his total heterosexuality but I will entertain it as I have known personally one lesbian transexual who upon her operation being complete soon became a gay man....and has been for close to 20 years. This is unusual as most people transition and are very comfortable in their new sex as a heterosexual person. But I have heard of this happening far too often to know it as a very rare thing. When you mess around with the hormones in the body anything can happen. So while I doubt he was ever 100% straight I will entertain the idea since I have known 100% lesbians to turn into 100% gay men. Again i attribute it to hormone change but as one young man said after their change started said: "I became so obsessed with what I wanted my penis to be like I became attracted to them," at this point he looked very masculine and bearish but still had yet to have bottom surgery and was sit wearing a false penis in his pants. And some never do get bottom surgery but live as a gay man the porn star Buck Angel who is hot as H#LL to me but his vagina is a turn off for me... I know he had a couple wives but now it seems he is living as a gay male just with a vagina (although perhaps that is just his job, like the gay for pay men you read about).

Yes. It's amazing how strong the desire is. But I'm so very married. I may never get to suck a cock. Sad about it. Need a guy friend with benefits.

I find my self attracted to male penises ( hard) now that I am older and can no longer get hard! I have always been BI curious, but more and more I want to be a sissy cock sucker. Do other men have this fantasy much more often in older age?

Now, (attempting to stay on topic) there are a few key words here that show what is really the question: penises ( hard), no longer get hard, sissy cock sucker, older age. Ok, key phrases.

Lets start with "sissy cock sucker" as I have some personal experience. The evolution from experimenting with panties to wearing panties and much more I wanted to share that with someone, finding a woman that likes to see men dressed in woman's clothes is rare (maybe not this site). So I turned to places wear I could dress. Most of the places were 95% male. There I saw allot of hard cocks and at first I was an admirer, one thing led to another and years later I'm on my knees dressed like a sissy servicing men.

"can no longer get hard", Penis envy' was Freud's Theory that as part of their psychosexual development women develop this condition when it occurs to them that they don't have and will never have a phallus. I find this reaction to "can no longer get hard" quite similar along with what I've mentioned above, I see this as natural progression along with the situation (that has been mentioned before) of a wife who no longer has interest in sex. I think you can connect the dots.

A man's ability to get aroused with another is mans directly related to- stimulus>response.

A man in his twenties- Stimulus= 4 beers. Response= Sure you can blow me, but I won't blow you back.

A man at forty- Stimulus= two glasses of pinot. Response= Let's blow each other!

A man fifty+ Stimulus= A compliment. Response= Take a viagra, wait twenty minutes, and fuck like animals.

IMHO, and from lots of anecdotal research, bisexuality lurks just below the surface in most men. It needs to be coaxed out. As a man ages, he feels less societal pressure to 'be normal' and can enjoy the sexuality he has held repressed for so long.

My two cents.

@Buttwoman said

IMHO, and from lots of anecdotal research, bisexuality lurks just below the surface in most men. It needs to be coaxed out. As a man ages, he feels less societal pressure to 'be normal' and can enjoy the sexuality he has held repressed for so long.

Most? That might be true for those men you personally encounter, but I would suggest that your particular small sample is skewed and not representative of men in general.

Ok. An awful lot. AND I mentioned anecdotal, things that might apply in MY group, but are not representing the population as a whole.

Are you feeling a little insecure?

Ok. An awful lot. AND I mentioned anecdotal, things that might apply in MY group, but are not representing the population as a whole.

Are you feeling a little insecure?

Not insecure. I'm pointing out personal observations, in particular observations of the behaviour of people under the influence of alcohol, which is something you suggest you have studied to arrive at your views, unless that part of your post was said in jest. I have the displeasure of seeing plenty of drunken people myself, and I still see a greater proportion of drunken males making advances towards drunken females than they do other drunken males.

Canuck Brat: "When you mess around with the hormones in the body anything can happen."

Having first been diagnosed with prostate cancer nearly eighteen years ago, I am now likely weeks away from when my oncologist will decide the time has come for my first ADT (hormonal) treatment, a moment I have long been dreading. I am already familiar with the likely resultant symptoms, mostly similar to those of women reaching menopause: mood changes, hot flashes, loss of bone mass, etc., plus breast development and with one good feature being possible reversal of hair loss. As with any former misadventure, once it occurs, I face it in stride and deal with it in good spirit, perhaps even searching for any benefit (as with my earlier medical need for diaper use). I'd be happy to know what any of our male members might have experienced in dealing with their own ADT.

I discovered my fascination with anal eroticism in my earliest childhood years and love playing with anal toys, though have yet to experience the long-held fantasy of being dominated by a woman wearing a strap-on dildo. I now have my own and need only find the woman who will give me that pleasure I know I will love. Admittedly, it would be so much easier with another male, yet I cannot accept that a man's touch could be pleasurable.

As far as other aspects of attaining the age of seventy and a bit, yes, I've become more relaxed and more open about subjects I formerly zealously guarded about myself in earlier years: most notably sexual preferences, enema use, and the carefree pleasure associated with diaper use. Prostatic surgery has rendered it all but impossible for me to attain erections that were formerly the source of so much pleasure, yet I'm no less horny than I was at age twenty. Perhaps the hormonal changes that occur with ADT will change my outlook on pleasure.

For myself I always been bi. Did know since I was 14.

The feeling started when I was 8. Now at 69 even more so. I have been with men some. Enjoyed my self every time. Love sucking and being entered. Definitely a bottom here.

Are older men more more interested in being bisexual, I am (older)at the moment. When I was doing the bio thing I chose heteroflexible because there wasn't a pansexual box. Bisexual was available but I haven't had the practice lately on a living organism.

I spent many years married and living hetero but I never stopped thinking about sex with just about any imaginable combination of human being(s).

I definitely have my "types" and that a take off from that point. It's isn't just dick or pussy I crave its excitement.

I have thought about this for a while now. Even though I have enjoyed anal pleasure (using various toys including dildos) since a teenager, I never thought about a "real" cock until my late 30s. Also, for me at least, it isn't an attraction thing nor a sensual thing. I am not interested in hugging, or kissing, or raising cats with a dude. For me it is more about "taking cock" and the mental gratification of making a man cum with my mouth and/or ass (on top of my physical pleasure). This tells me that my bi-curiosities are submissive in nature. I have not taken "real" cock YET (but I have taken lots of strap-on peggings), so I know it is just a matter of time before I do take real.

I also believe in the Kinsey scale, and that 99% of the population (men and women) are in the 1-5 range.

So to conclude, I think many reasons cause men to think about bi sex as they age (many if not all already listed/posted):

1. Care less about labels

2. Look for other ways to have sex if/when their wives/girlfriends are less interested

3. Testosterone levels drop

4. Kink!

5. Dominant and/or submissive thoughts/feelings

6. Less taboo

7. More open minded/wiser

8. Less worried about masculinity

9. More women (at least it seems to me) are turned on by m/m play

I have no desire for any form of sexual or fetish intimacy with a man. Women are beautiful to me. Men are not.

I think as I’ve aged I’ve certainly relaxed my views on sexuality mainly due to experience. Not sexual experience, mind you, but experience of living on the planet. It’s about being more in touch with what it is to be a human that can relate to all humans—regardless of things like religion or stereotypes.

I was taught all of the labels on the playground: fag, homo, fruit, etc. without knowing what they really meant and how using them without regard for a person’s feelings can inflict a lifetime of pain.

Just as we are tagged with the “ugly American” label around the world for our predjudices and lack of knowledge of other countries and their cultures, inversely, so is the LGBT community because of the same thing. Honestly, I didnt have any gay friends until my 30’s. I started to become aware of what life is like for same sex lovers. Slowly I also became more curious about expanding my own knowledge of my sexuality.

I think thats when the wall came down. It wasn’t the knee jerk “ooh, ick, that’s revolting” feeling that had been engrained in me since childhood. Observationslly, now it was “ooh, they love each other” and to each his/her own mentality. I stopped judging—it was simple as that.

If it feels good, do it.

In the last year or so I've found myself fantasizing about sucking a dick or being fucked by a guy. I never had such thoughts before. I attribute it to heavy pegging activity that my wife and I engage in that only started a few years ago. My orgasms from pegging are so much more intense than other orgasms. It's like I've been conditioned to know that a cock (real or fake) can provide incredible pleasure. Also, about a year ago my wife shared with me that she will often fantasize about me being fucked by a guy. Sometimes when I go down on her and she has a better than normal orgasm, I'll ask her what she was thinking about when she came. She often will say it was her fantasy about me getting fucked by another guy. I am totally into anything that turns her on, especially since we're starting to get a bit older and it's not as easy as it was earlier in our relationship. So the fact that I know it's a turn on for her started me down a trail of thinking about what it would be like to be fucked by another man. I never find myself thinking of men sexually out in the real world. Also, I never have any desire to have anything intimate like kissing, hugging, etc. occur. It's simply a fantasy about being fucked by a real cock. Almost always when I fantasize about this I'm imagining my wife there to watch and perhaps stroke and suck my dick while I'm getting fucked. I don't expect that I would ever pursue something with a guy. While my wife is clearly turned on by the idea of being with another guy, it feels to me that it's very much in the fantasy realm and not something that she would embrace if I said, "hey, why don't we bring another guy into the bedroom." I think it's destined to be something that we play with as a fantasy while she pegs me (which fortunately for me, is quite often).

In reality we human beings are bi-sexuals by birth. Its our surroundings, society and the way of life shapes us up to be straight mostly. But bi-sexuality remains as a recessive factor in our subconscious mind. For few person it becomes dominant after certain age. And those who are really open enough to enjoy, they keep on doing in a balanced way as long as they can. What I feel its more of our desire rather than age for expressing bi-sexuality.

Nola, what you have described is quite similar to what I experienced several years ago, but without the strong encouragement from my wife. She was aware of my enema interest, and even obliged me with a strapon on a couple of occasions. It was not what I wanted it to be, as she more or less went "through the motions" and really wasn't feeling it that strongly.

I don't have any emotional attraction to men, but like you I am fascinated by cocks, asses, nipples on men. I finally gave in and tried oral with another older man about six years ago, and really enjoyed it. I still have not had anal sex with a man, but I think about it every day. Given a safe opportunity, I would definitely want to try it.

If my wife had the strong fantasy of me being fucked, I think I would look for ways to make it happen. To me, her support is huge, and could turn into a wonderful sharing experience. Maybe she could help you find that right man?

Woody Alan ones asked if being bi doubled your chance for a date on Saturday night. I think the principle applies to men we’re getting older. We will take any chance we can get. Pussy, ass, cock, we’ll take whatever we can get!

Perhaps as we get older we’re not so worried about our sexuality we know we are men we just happen to like other men as well as females and that label others may put on us doesn’t bother us so much.... we’re comfortable with who and what we are....

I've always known that, under the right circumstances I could have sex with either men or women, although I identify publicly as straight and am married.

For me the age factor, I'm now 48, has been about knowing more about what I want to do and frankly what gets me off the most. I still have a very high libido and easily get and maintain erections, so that's not the shift.

The #1 desire that I couldn't let go was anal sex with me as the receiver. I've always included that as part of masturbation, but in the last 2 years have been hiring escorts (being honest here right?) who offered pegging or transsexual "tops" and I can have multiple anal non-ejaculation orgasms that are far more intense than anything I ever had with the normal male orgasm.

I have found that I like sucking cock which was a surprise but don't want anything to do with cum (yet haha)

Genitals aside, I'm only attracted to women (or very feminine/passable trans women) in terms of looks, smells, pheromones, etc.. In an earlier reply someone said we don't suddenly become bi with age but are more open to trying it which for me is definitely the case.

I don't think any man necessarily needs to identify as "bi" or "bi-curious" or "bisexual" to be specifically interested in the feelings produced by being anally penetrated by another man. If you are anally erotic, like many straight men (and specifically a lot of older men) are, what goes in your hole can be enjoyed for what it is, without the philosophical gender esoterics complicating the issue.

However, for me as a (very) straight man, receiving oral from another man is out. Completely out. Won't be able to go there, even if gay men are supposedly able to give the best BJ's in the business. Cannot wrap my straight head around that one. Not yet, anyway. Probably not old enough at this time.

But, if I ever got into a situation where I could receive anal penetration from a man it would have to be from behind - doggy style. I have no wish to look the service provider in the eye. 😉 And while you're ravaging my ass, apart from having to hold on to me while pursuing your noble endeavor, keep your hands off the rest of me! 😁 😁 😁

Not necessarily but would say it would have to be the right person and mutual! No drugs or disease for me and protection both ways! Discretion a must. Would be random casual meetings. Am married but like most older guys, our SO is not active!

The older I get , the less I am concerned with lables. I have been bi, on and off, since my 20"s. I am comfortable with going along with the mood at the time.