Have you allowed yourself to be tied up the first time you met someone in person ?

my 2 trusted friends took me into the woods over by the river and tied my arms and legs separately to 4 trees and then took off laughing. Shortly a man came by and I begged him to release me he laughed and undid my belt and dumped a can of earthworms down my pants! … So he unbuttoned my shirt and pulled my pants and underwear down to the ropes at my ankles,my dick was in full view! I was embarrassed ! … then he jacked me off. After I came he untied my arms and left me to undo my legs while he took off.

@codjer was this a key incident in the development of your eventual sexual interests ?

To JTMac from Codjer I was interested in sex many years before that incident, however the embarrassment was the part that got me mad.

Not sure I would allow anyone to tie me up first time we met.

I am trying to remember if I was tied up the first time I had a play session with the Dom I used to have. If it wasn’t the first time, it would have been the second. I trusted him because a friend of mine had referred him to me. She was good at educating me on the do’s and don’ts of kinky stuff. I trusted her to send me to someone safe. I love being tied up, wrists and ankles. I am not into harder things like my boobs being tied. I found that very uncomfortable.

My answer is no. But then I'm a top.

I play consensually with a negotiated scene. This means that everything thats going to happen will at least be touched on. Consent can be withdrawn any time for any reason by either partner. There are safe words. Both the top and the bottom can safe word.

I have tied, in my inexpert fashion, women our first time together. In general, however, the rule is not to let someone tie you the first time. I will do what I can to get what I want. So will every other top.

Be direct if you don't want something. Consent doesn't mean ‘oh…all right, I guess…’ Nothing less then enthusiastic consent is acceptable. Most people know about SSC, but there are RACK, PRICK, and CCCC as well. Make your choice and use it!

@Switchablesuzie makes the very good point that you are trusting someone who ties you up with your life.

@demure makes the good point that you can do much more with unfamiliar people in a dungeon.

@ccm93 makes very crucial points about what can go wrong. It can happen to YOU not just someone else.

@Moppys_jalopy Makes a strong argument about the need for negotiations and safe words and explores personal responsibility issues.

@Nurse_Phillips outlines the safest course. Perhaps not as exciting but safe and smart.

@Breaze writes a knowledgeable counter argument to Nurse Phillips.

People vary however if I ask for something and you decline even if I ask several times it doesn't mean I lose interest in you if I had genuine interest to begin with. Tops, in general, respect their partners and value them greatly. Without subs all a top is is a person with some toys and a huge hole inside them.

In the end you need to live with the person looking at you in the mirror for a long time, you should try to take good care of them!

@Nurse_Phillips has really good advice on the Safeword Thread: Applies here as well -before you let someone new tie you up….ead her post.

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=1182257

The first time meeting someone, absolutely not. Once we get to know each other and trust is established, yes.

When i created this topic about 5 years ago, i had recently become bi curious….as well as bondage curious too. I had been looking to spice up my sex life, which is why I considered broadening my sexual playing field to include mature men. And I had always had a lot of fantasies where one or more “authority figures” would have me tied up, so they could have fun dominating my body that was vulnerable to their touch, which would make me want to ejaculate.

With that, when checking out men online, i tended to look into who was into bondage, either experienced, looking for men into it, or also curious. And then i couldn't help but think of the fact I didn't know them, that they'd be complete strangers to me, where anyone could say anything online, but be completely different in person. Coupled with the fact that there are crazies out in the world that people have been too naive and have fallen for, only to suffer negative consequences.

So i initiated this discussion to see what other people's experiences were, their level of trust, etc. 2 years later, I went to visit a man who was in like his mid 70's. I had been there since sometime in the morning when i arrived, and I had become comfortable with him. It got to be early evening, and i hadn't cum yet. I had noticed straps on the tall bed posts at the foot of his bed. I thought if he tied my ankles with them, the anchoring would help me to cum. So I said something, indicating I'd like to try it. What I didn't realize that i hadn't seen, probably because they had slipped lower on the head posts and also with me facing away from the head posts, was that there were more straps on the head posts that he proceeded to use on my wrists. I wasn't scared. If anything, feeling tied down to the bed gave my cock a resurgence.

Other than that, I've only been tied up by a few other men. Which would usually happen on the 2nd play date, with them beforehand prefacing it with a “Now that we've gotten to know each other…” One of them, we had been chatting online about bondage extensively, so i saw it coming. Another one who was into it which I never saw coming, and he had instructions for me to walk into his place, go up to the top of the stairs, and put on a blindfold that was left there for me….

Smiling I’m not telling lol

Smiling I’m not telling lol

@toshe63 You just spilled the beans, you little devil !!! 😄

I've never been a fan of bondage. I much prefer the mental aspect of “don't move or you will be punished”.

This can be as simple as don't get off the bed, or as difficult as don't pull away when being spanked or tickled.