At the end of your orgasm do you ever feel like the stimulation needs to stop?

Yes, after orgasm, there is almost always a period in which continued stimulation is unpleasant.

No way do I want him to stop until orgasm is finished

@Turkey1

Overstimulation can hurt.” You don't say!😈

@Nurse_Phillips

On occasion I’ve been stimulated beyond that point in a BDSM scene and it’s more unpleasant than pleasant. I’m Cumming sure but it’s painful and had brought me to tears.

Ever hear of dacryphilia? Academic question, thats all. The painful orgasmic spasms of the muscles over the gut and stomach after a dozen or so cums are also enjoyable to induce in the right dynamic.

@Turkey1

“Overstimulation can hurt.” You don't say!😈

@Nurse_Phillips

“On occasion I’ve been stimulated beyond that point in a BDSM scene and it’s more unpleasant than pleasant. I’m Cumming sure but it’s painful and had brought me to tears.”

Ever hear of dacryphilia? Academic question, thats all. The painful orgasmic spasms of the muscles over the gut and stomach after a dozen or so cums are also enjoyable to induce in the right dynamic.

I just saw this. Yes I’m familiar with dacryphilia. I don’t get aroused from crying. My husband gets aroused from me crying. Because of that I happily let him bring me to tears in a session even when I don’t enjoy what’s going on per se. Because I gift him with my tears he doesn’t abuse the privilege.

I don’t generally share the harder BDSM things we engage in here. I don’t go to Suzy extremes but we play hard sometimes.

I have experienced both side of the coin with different women. Some find they are too sensitive in that area directly after orgasm, but I have come across quite a few who were very happy for me to continue to stimulate them through to two or three more orgasms, which I was always happy to do.

If a woman is sucking me to orgasm I quite enjoy them to keep sucking after I have come. I find it very soothing. Back in my younger days I enjoyed that to the extent that I would get an erection again and would be good to go a second time.(those were the days). I am happy now with just the pleasant feeling after orgasm. On the other hand, if I am masturbated manually, I don't want a lot of extra handling after coming unless it is done gently.

As for P in V, once I have come I pretty much lose my erection fairly quickly (diabetes). So it becomes a non issue really. I will continue to grind my pubis against the woman's clit if that works for her to get her off.

Going back to @reddevil 's comment about loss of libido directly after orgasm. I personally think it might go back to the cave man days where preservation dictated that as soon as you were done, it was wise to get the fuck out of there before something came along and ate you. Not in a nice way. 😃

I've always thought that's both males and females need at least a short brake from stimulation following orgasm but it's generally less than a minute.

Just a slight variation on this theme….My ladylove frequently experiences long orgasms ,,,and it is quite evident from her moans/screams (yes, she really is a screamer!!). When I sense that she has reached her endpoint I will (most times,,,chuckle) cease my ministrations and let her gradually drift down from the ceiling. More than once, however, despite my backing off completely, she has gone into “hyperdrive” and continued climaxing (orgasmining is too difficult to say…lol) for long enough that it scares me!! I have, at times, resorted to physically shaking her to bring her out of it. It usually takes her a minute or two to catch her breath, and she has never complained…truly amazing…and I'm REALLY jealous!!!

Great questions. as a man, when its over, its over!! My patient (gf) cums like a man!!!! Strong and hard. I love it.

For me, much more stimulation after the last of the orgasm is like scratching something that doesn't itch any more.

I know exactly what you are talking about. As a male, when someone is sucking me and I am feeling an orgasm build and build it is all good and the actual orgasm is wonderful. However at the very end I want them to stop immediately as it is actually painful just after. Then nice to just lay still and bask in the afterglow for a few minuets. Then the loving can start again. As I get older the recovery time is longer too.

There are light orgasms and strong orgasms. Light orgasms last for like 10 seconds and under, and I usually get them when the sexual stimulation is of a frenzied or hurried nature, like when I have a compulsion to push myself to cum. I can have several light orgasms in a row until I get tired of them. They are similar in quality to the orgasms I had as a child by squeezing my legs tightly together.

Strong orgasms last for like, half a minute, and my clit becomes too sensitive after only one orgasm. I get strong orgasms if I am unhurried and allow myself to relax and let the arousal build gradually, or if the foreplay was good or if I'm super horny from not having sex in a while. These are the orgasms that send you into another world.

An interesting topic for sure. When I discovered the pleasures of masturbation at the age of 11, I experienced dry orgasms for about 15 months before the 1st evidence of semen began to appear. Those dry orgasms were very intense and once the orgasm peaked I found that additional stimulation on my penis actually hurt. Over time and experimentation I found that if I stopped stroking for about 12 to 15 seconds I could resume stroking again without it hurting and achieve another dry orgasm in only about 20 seconds of additional stroking! After the 1st appearance of semen, the nature of the orgasms changed and I was now experiencing several pelvic contractions vs. only one long full body contraction and the ability to continue stroking (after a brief pause) and orgasming over and over (I usually had 4 or 5 dry orgasms in a masturbation session back then - - all VERY intense) quickly vanished. The other thing that changed is that I was able to continue stroking through the orgasm as there was no longer the extreme sensitivity after the orgasm peaked. That lack of extreme sensitivity after orgasming has continued throughout the rest of my life.

Now that I am in my 80s my refractory/recovery period continues to lengthen. In my early 60s I was still able to have multiple ejaculations in a 24 hour period, occasionally as many as 3. By my late 60s I was content to have one orgasm per day. In my 70s that desire/libido decreased to an orgasm every other day. Now, having an orgasm about every 4th day seems to be what I desire. Of course. these figures are an average and sometimes the length of time between orgasms shortens or lengthens depending on outside stimulation.

As a male, very quickly after orgasm there is a period of time where continued stimulation is way too intense or unpleasant for me, and I need to push way from continued sexual touch. It often times takes 15 or 20 minutes before (assuming I am in the mood) where I am ready for stimulation again. I know this isn't the case for everyone, but at least in my experience this is common and not some pathological sex avoidance condition or anything.

Might be controversial but I don't get them easily and usually don't seek them. When I do get one it's usually alone after going over it all in my head and adding a lot of fantasies to what actually happened.

Can't really recall the last time I was overstimulated and just wanted it to stop, even with a partner. I usually ask for other stuff, he can finish up.. I often finish later but he gives me enough material to do it. when I finish with him, in the moment, it's again not from penetration but from other things, so this problem just doesn't come up.

Maybe guys have a similar thing? Here's a question for the guys, if a woman is, let's say sucking you off to orgasm, can she continue sucking after ejaculation without stopping? Is it too much at some point? Does that just feel good and you can enjoy it?

Sometimes after I orgasm continued stimulation is too much and I want it to stop. In the past, not so much while fucking - vaginal or anal - I could keep going as long I remained erect and hopefully brought my wife to orgasm. But with oral or a handjob continued stimulation after orgasm is usually too much and drives me through the roof. In a BDSM scene while restrained, it would be tortuous to recieve continued manual stimulation after orgasm where I had no control over it - fortunately my wife never thought of that!!!! On the other hand, she occasionallty had multiple orgasms via PIV or masturbating each other while waiting for me to complete. We usuallty stopped after we both got off.

If she’s performing oral on me, often there’s a lingering shudder throughout my body, and if I try hard enough by tensing my ass, I can make the sensation go on, almost as if manually pushing myself over the edge again. It’s intense, but never to the point where I feel I have to stop.

It's different for everyone...it's about reading your partner and communicating constantly... everyone's aftercare is different and being able to tap into each others emotional space is crucial to a positive sexual experience. I'm quite emotional and I communicate with my partners that this might happen... communication is so important

After orgasm, my glans is so sensitive it's actually too painful to touch ir even to reinsert.

Yeah, both of us. She comments saying that her clit becomes too sensitive even to the slightest touch after orgasim, almost in a defensive manner.

I, too. But I think because she gets a sense of power over my reaction to the sensitivity after ejaculation. She tells me she loves seeing my reaction to the slightests lick of her beautiful tongue.

Love the OP's original question and comments.

i'm a gay guy who was married to a woman for many years before i got free of religious conditioning against being gay. That said, i got pretty good at pleasuring my wife. i started out very ignorant, but early in our marriage she cried when she didn't orgasm, so i learned how to do it. i had no resistance to tears when i see them as real. Giving her orgasm was pretty much our sex life together and our experience was definitely like the OP notes. She'd have multiple orgasm and get to a place of overstimulation and tell me to stop, and i would. One thing she'd do pretty consistently was when i was stimulating her using oral or my fingers, or both, and she'd orgasm, she was never satisfied to end that way. She'd reach a point where she'd literally grab and shove my penis inside of her, begging for "big ones." Then i'd have to be careful because apparently i'd also hit her cervix if i went too deep and that would cause her pain. But penetration was the only way she wanted to finish.

From my standpoint now as a single gay total bottom, i can actually relate in some ways.... i always want my Tops orgasm and seed in me... and i experience those as two distinct things, though connected. i don't get overstimulated anally. i don't like my penis stimulated with the idea of having an orgasm that way. i want my Tops orgasm to be my orgasm. But i do love when my Top enjoys owning and controlling my orgasm. i honestly relate to my penis is more like a clitoris than a penis. I.e., it's sexual, but not penetrative. i think it's really hot and feels very possessed when my Top uses my penis to help develop an aversion towards orgasm that way by overstimulating me using it. Ideally, i love when He uses it to give me a ruined orgasm, or bring me close, and then plants His orgasm inside of me instead... because we both want to share His orgasm.

Yes. I sometimes take an hour or two to stimulate myself (wearing layers of bra/merry widow/stockings) bondage (leather restraints, testicles tied, ropes) spanking, Foley catheter or external catheter, looking at erotic pictures or videos. Finally I get the orgasm. Then I lose all interest in everything I've put on. No more spanking my butt or penis. I rapidly take off restraints, layers of lingerie and take a shower. A couple times I tried continuing wearing everything and spanking, but it just wasn't any fun & it never lasted more than a couple minutes.

I certainly have experienced that. I also have a more moderate case of POIS [post orgasmic illness syndrome] which started when I hit puberty and has been with me ever since. If I reach orgasm, I feel sick - weak, nauseated etc. Unlike some folks with POIS it passes relatively quickly - in my case usually a few hours. It is annoying but not debilitating. But, it was enough to discourage me from proceeding to full climax - encouraged me to enjoy edging and orgasm denial. In addition, if I get fully erect I experience pain from a way too tight / botched circumcision done when I was 4 months old. So, avoid both erections and avoiding orgasm are 'good things' for me, always have been and I arranged my life around that. Medication [side effects] help a lot. As well, having an asexual wife is a plus.

Yes, but sometimes I'm having a series of mini O's and those I just love to keep going through. Once that massive one hits then I do need to pause. It's hard to know until I'm in the moment so that's why my relationship with the other person, the trust, is so important.

I feel like @GraceT sometimes I have little orgasms and I want to keep going (e.g. it happens what I rub my clit against something like a pillow). But when I get my clit rubbed directly and I came I have to stop because keep rubbing it it’s unpleasant

Absolutely yes.

Once a man ejaculates he most of his desire to continue doing whatever he was doing.

My experience with this came from Jeannine, a woman I met online. She wanted to be a dominate female and I relented to making myself available for her learning the role of a dominate. She was very much into anal play so she m

messaged my anus and stroked my cock. It felt wonderful, little did I realize this was the fun part. I came a lot, I thought it was over. She continued to jack my penis.

Ok Ok , i'm done you can stop now. She kept going until I came a second time.

She continued. It was becoming painful, not at all enjoyable.

I came a third time. My erection was fading, and it was a very painful experience, I complained, so she started slapping my ass. She continued I could not stop her I was being controlled by her aggressive behavior. A butt plug was inserted and the spanking intensified, I became a weak mass of humanity.

She stopped, thank God.

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When I have a really long, very intense orgasm, I am done. Any additional simulation, especially to my clit, has to stop. It is just too intense/painful.

About two out of three times when I am using a vibrating dildo and my husband is suckling one of my breasts, usually the left one and/or he is rubbing my clit, I can have multiple orgasms--normally, two or three total, BUT I need about a 10-second break in between. That is, I stop the vibration on the dildo, my husband stops stimulating my breast--he just hovers, and whoever is rubbing my clit, stops rubbing my clit (that would either be me rubbing my clit or my husband rubbing my clit, not someone else).

During the 10-second pause, both of us become very aware of my rapid, intensified heart beat, my louder and stronger breathing with the accompanying rise and fall of my expanding and contracting chest and rib cage. We savor the good feelings during the pause--not as intense as the orgasms, but still savory.

Then we ramp it up again, for the second orgasm, then another break, and sometimes I go for three.

And when I am done, I am truly done. I am wiped out . . . like a wet noodle . . . a hot, wet noodle . . . a very hot, wet noodle . . . for about five minutes. During those five minutes, there is no body movement . . . except maybe for some involuntary functions like my heart beating and my lungs breathing (yeah, yeah, I know it's not the lungs doing the breathing--it's the movement of my diaphragm that draws and expels air into and out of the lungs).

So after each of one or more orgasms, the stimulation must stop and when it's all over, I am completely spent.

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After an orgasm I really need the stimulation to stop, probably for at least about 2 minutes, it's almost like the nerve endings are overloaded and I need a little time to reset. Usually I'll clamp my legs together. The best feeling is just to be held while this is happening. The "reset" can sometimes take a little longer if I've already climaxed

Yes. I'm less sensitive now than when I was younger but then once I had reached an orgasm & ejaculated I didn't want my partner touching my penis & especially not my exposed glans for a while, even breathing on it was too much for about five minutes.

Yes I have that feeling most times when I cum. Like I want as much stimulation as possible as it happeneds but after about 10 to 20 seconds the stimulation becomes to intense that it almost hurts so I will usually push my partner away or have her stop playing with it. It's hard to explain but it is a quick shift from pleasure to overstimulation and even a bit of pain but it's not an actual pain it's just too much sensation that my body can't handle it.

I think this is the best discussion I’ve ever read on Zity. I love women’s honest discussion about their orgasms and the stimulation that makes them cum, how many orgasms they can have, the different types of orgasms they can have and how long a rest they need between their orgasms.

I had a sexual relationship with two older women when I was in college. They were nurses and in their mid 30s. I was in my early 20s.

We would have threesomes and they would trade me back and forth. I’d fuck one to her orgasm and then fuck the other one to her orgasm.

My challenge was to not cum as long as possible so I could get a lot of pussy and, lucky me, a lot of anal sex. Eventually they taught me about tantric sex and I could orgasm without ejaculating.

Being nurses, they both had medical fetishes. They gave me enemas and I gave them enemas preparing for anal sex and their massaging my prostrate gland.

They would openly talk about the quality of the orgasms they were having and they got to rest for another fucking while I was fucking the other one.

The resting nurse who I had just fucked would join in by massaging my prostrate while I was fucking her friend. It was great.

When they gave me a break by eating each other, they were completely open to me fingering their anuses, playing with their tits and sucking their nipples.

We had toys too. They had various sizes of dildos, vibrators and butt plugs. Being nurses, they had speculums that they probably lifted from the hospital where they worked and they taught me to insert them into their vaginas, to give them vaginal and rectal exams, insert suppositories, tampons, etc.

The enemas were fun too. They had different size nozzles and colon tubes and we exchanged the nozzles or colon tubes with each enema - usually three or four each. I learned a lot about giving enemas and sometimes one or the other nurse would call me to come over and just give her warm soapy enemas so she could masturbate to an orgasm, sometimes two just because she was horny for an enema and wanted me to watch her masturbate.

This was the hairy 1960s and they both sported great bushes and even hairy underarms! I loved it. Sometimes I would lick their hairy underarms until the hair became soft and slick - just like their pubic hair when I was eating their hairy pussies.

I don’t know that I could have gotten a better education in class or with my nurses.