Enemas, need or a want?

I've been wondering about determining whether I really NEED an enema, or if I just really WANT one.

I don't normally have problems with constipation. My colon typically functions well whether I'm binging on the bag, taking routine bi-weekly enemas, or if I'm on an extended enema hiatus. As much as I like the maintenance effects of some herbal enemas, I know that most of my fetish revolves around the sheer pleasure I get throughout each enema process. In any event, I found I was beginning to justify some enema sessions by suggesting to myself that I need one for simple little stomach upsets and senses of intestinal fullness. I'm even thinking some of those slight discomforts were even psychosomatic. Maybe I'm starting to develop a wee penchant for some medfet???

This week however, I had a bout with true constipation. (I've been eating A LOT of cheese.) I felt the full gut coming on in the past few days even though my bowels were moving well. I started in the train of thinking I might need an enema, but I wondered if I was simply justifying making the time for a pleasure session. I knew that wasn't the case when I had a rough time passing a couple of boulders at work this morning and I could tell I still had an even bigger backup in there. The enema session I squeezed in before dinner really did the trick. Another one tonight will finish the job. Ahhhh...relief commences! The real thing is clarifying my thinking on this quite a bit.

Are you straight up with yourself all the time in deciding on having an enema session for relief of discomfort versus one purely for pleasure, or do the lines sometimes get blurred for you too?

I'm wondering about others thoughts as it relates to any aspect of this topic.

Interesting. As I've mentioned in several other posts, I have very slow moving bowels. I've recently increased my intake of fiber, fruits, and water and started doing some cardio exercise. Even with this new regiment - after having a coffee enema on Saturday, I just finally had a natural bowel movement tonight (Wednesday). While I produced a good amount of crap - I still feel like my bowels are pretty full - and if I were to take an enema I would clear a lot of solids.

If I abstain from enemas, I'm guessing I will have to go again Friday or Saturday and that I will maintain this feeling of being full the entire time. I don't know if this qualifies as constipation as this has been my cycle for as long as I can remember. I don't have any difficulty going poop once the time arrives.

Since starting enemas 5 months ago - I originally decided I would make Friday nights my regular enema night - any other enemas over the weekend would be for play - and the rest of the week, I would let nature take it's course. It consistently takes 4 or 5 days before I feel I can actually sit down and poop.

As it turns out, I rarely have the patience to go more than a day or two without one. I do go without one on occasion just to insure that things still work on their own if left alone.

So do I really need the frequent enemas or am I just justifying them in my mind because I like them so much?

I think Cleanbean may have posed an impossible question for SOME of us to answer. For others, I'm sure it will be a no brainer.

Are desires less important in the larger context of the whole person??

I am not constipated and can go regularly- usually at least once a day and often twice a day. So my system tends to be fast moving and does not create problems. But when I do enemas, I do feel the lightness feeling and the calming effects in my bowels- everything seems to kind of go quiet down there for a day or so before my system cycles back up to its regular routine. So the physical effects of doing enemas are quite beneficial at least in terms of how they make me feel. I am not really doing enemas because I need to do them but because they do produce a added physical effect.

Now add in the erotic effects to the physical and that is really the main reason why I love doing enemas. I certainly don't need to justify my enemas for constipation reasons. I really do them for erotic pleasure. Maybe in a way that can be described as psychological need which I fill on a regular basis.

So do I need to do enemas, maybe so!

I live in NW Suburbs and am looking for a enema companion/mate. I am married, wife will never understand or participate. I have been doing enemas for a number of years solo, now its time to branch out with a sincere companion. I am professional, have plenty of time to meet etc. Let me know if you feel we may be a fit. Thx

For me, the desire comes first. Then the need arises to satisfy the desire.

Some time ago I posted thoughts on this on my blog. Needs and wants need not be mutually exclusive because if I want an enema it might be more emotional than physiological, but doesn't that also constitute a need?

If it satisfies a need then conversely the desire is also taken care of....Sometimes you simply don't NEED a reason.

If i am constipated ... i WANT an enema ... if i need some time to myself ... i WANT an enema ... if i am feeling sexual ... i WANT an enema ... ... i think i have given up the 'excuse' of NEEDING an enema ... they are physcically necessary sometimes ... but ... mostly i WANT an enema ... they are just part of who i am ...

I haven't looked it up in the OED but in the context of this thread and other erotic threads, a desire is something wanted.

A need implies a craving which will not ebb until it is filled.

When I need an enema it's not much fun. It's more of a chore or bother when I need one. When I don't "need" one it can be highly erotic. The slow insertion and the warm water filling is sensual and erotic, especially when being performed by a woman.

Gibby: You have done it again...read my mind and expressed my thoughts/feelings exactly. Thank You.

Jerry, you are right in a medical context

I am right in an erotic context

English is so delightfully and magnicently undisciplined and confusing.

Almost every enema I take is for sheer pleasure. I enjoy the preparations, the enema, and the feeling of well-being afterwards. I don't usually think of needing an enema unless maybe for a bad cold or flu.

Blithebrn--The OED says that "desire" is a "transitive verb meaning to have a strong wish for, to long for, covet, or crave." Curiously, it does not give a meaning for desire as a noun.

"Need" lists several obsolete meanings, but the one of interest to us in number 10 "a condition marked by the lack or want of some necessary thing, or requiring some extraneous aid or addition."

hankb

The verb is "to desire". It is only a verb. There is no noun "desire."

Lately there has been a tremendous trend toward "verbification" of nouns, like the noun "trend" forming the verb "trending" "to trend" being the infinitive, and the noun "gift" into the verb "to gift" something. They are of course, examples of incorrect usage. Also incorrect is the "nounification" of some verbs like "desire" and "wish."

When you say, "it is my desire to fuck you in the ass," "desire" is a verb, not a noun. The same can be said about the word "wish." It is ONLY a verb.

"NEED" on the other hand is a noun as well as the verb, "to need".

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To confuse matters a little more, when I need an enema, I want one as well. In those terms, I can only remember really needing an enema once in my life. The rest of the time I just wanted one and I needed to get busy having one. No doubt I get sexual pleasure from both giving and receiving and, thank goodness, I've enjoyed my share of female enemates over the years. Now, I don't worry one way or the other. I need what I want and I want what I need. Hope you could all follow that. Lol.

The verb is "to desire". It is only a verb. There is no noun "desire."

Lately there has been a tremendous trend toward "verbification" of nouns, like the noun "trend" forming the verb "trending" "to trend" being the infinitive, and the noun "gift" into the verb "to gift" something. They are of course, examples of incorrect usage. Also incorrect is the "nounification" of some verbs like "desire" and "wish."

When you say, "it is my desire to fuck you in the ass," "desire" is a verb, not a noun. The same can be said about the word "wish." It is ONLY a verb.

"NEED" on the other hand is a noun as well as the verb, "to need".

Suzy is well-informed on many matters. English usage is not one of those matters. Nobody should be scared of using any of those words as they are used to doing.

Desire is both a verb and a noun. Wish is both a verb and a noun. Want is both a verb and a noun. Need is both a verb and a noun. This is neither ‘verbing’ nor ‘nouning’: all of these words have been both verbs and nouns for centuries.

Checking this in a dictionary is left as an exercise for anybody interested 😉

When you say, "it is my desire to fuck you in the ass," "desire" is a verb, not a noun. The same can be said about the word "wish." It is ONLY a verb.

susie-- you contradicted yourself. If you look at the construction of your sentence, you will realize that "desire" is in the predicate nominative case. You could also write the sentence, "My desire is to fuck you in the ass" in which case it is the subject of the sentence, also a nominative construction.

Case closed.

hankb

All I can say is to look up the words in a real dictionary like the Oxford, NOT the "urban dictionary" or a dictionary that changes every ten minutes. Desire is only a verb.

HANKB--

. . . .susie-- you contradicted yourself. If you look at the construction of your sentence, you will realize that "desire" is in the predicate nominative case. You could also write the sentence, "My desire is to fuck you in the ass" in which case it is the subject of the sentence, also a nominative construction.

I agree with you about desire being a verb, not a noun. When I formed the sentence, "it is my desire to fuck you in the ass," that was actually incorrect. The sentence should have been "I desire to fuck you in the ass" which correctly uses desire as a verb.

In recent years there has been a trend toward making nouns into verbs and verbs into nouns in vernacular speech and writing.

De·sire

dəˈzī(ə)r

noun

1. a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen.

"a desire to work in the dirt with your bare hands"

synonyms: wish, want, aspiration, fancy, inclination, impulse;

Forget the dictionaries. They cannot keep up.

Take the new phrase: "He needs killing"

Doesn't mean that he wants to be killed. As used it means he ought to be killed or I have desire to see him gone.

But, "He needs a car" obviously means he can't get to Walmart easily.

Another:

After a guy steals a kiss, he says' "I needed that" which means he had a craving which could not be satisfied until he did and it signals to the girl that he really adores her (or that he is a self-centered nut, depending on her view of him).

After a guy downs a beer....same thing but without the romance.

After a guy returns a wrench to a buddy.....no craving, he just needed a 7/8" wrench.

Modern use changes and nuances and means change wildly and context counts. Dictionaries try to keep up and doctrinarians more to France.

Don't believe me? Think about how the word gay went from meaning careless frolic to...... Only took a couple of generations if that.

Most of the phrases you use as examples are slang or vernacular, not proper English. I know they are in common use but that doesn't make it good.

Another of my pet peevs is bad punctuation. Look at the phrase "eats shoots and leaves". Where would we be without commas???

I can't help it. I like static language with RULES that are followed.

We should be talking like Henry Higgins and Hugh Pickering (with new words as needed for technology and some idioms are fine) but the lowest common denominator of the population seems to drive how language changes rather than the better educated people. 😞 😞 😞

LONG LIVE THE GRAMMARIANS!

^^^U mean lyk dis ?? (Like this)

Really not a lot of reason to over-think need vs. want. It's there, it's easy, and it sure feels good while filling and preparing and anticipating what's going to happen ---

Who cares!!! Enjoy the enema!!! LOL!!!

Growing up my mother would ask either "Wes, do you need an enema?" or "Do you want an enema?" In neither case did I really have any choice, but with the latter I the typical answer would be "no". So I guess there is a difference, as if it matters much.