Parents, should I tell them I'm an AB/DL?

What I am posting is true information please read it. In the information I have read they even specifically refer to diapers as the most natural object the infant chooses. If you need more information email me.

I wrote a reply to this question on Quora.com I hope it helps you a lot. When I was 12 I was put back in diapers for medical reasons. I was scared to death and found the only people who were able to help me were DL?TBs. I am not a DL but it hurt me a lot when my DL friends told me how badly people looked down upon them. I wanted to help them and started doing research to find the answer as to why they liked diapers. What I found I posted on Quora. I hope it helps to give many of you some reassurance that there is nothing wrong with you. I hope it is okay to use urls here too.

There is a lot to this question that good child psychologists are well aware of but many others are not.

This is about what is known as the Transitional Phenomenon and the Transitional Object . This phenomenon is something that all children experience and certainly not something to be taken lightly.

I do not normally reply to posts about Adult Diaper Lovers but after thinking about this I’m thinking I should, because an adult DL is normally a child or adolescent DL first. This is not about Infantilism you are always a diaper lover first.

First let me reassure you there is not anything wrong with you. Yes this is very normal for some boys and girls, though not as prevalent in girls.

There is nothing that you should be afraid of. This is much more common than people realize.

This phenomenon happens to a child in infancy.

This is about the baby’s first personal possession the first comforting possession known as the Transitional Object that helps the child to console themselves during times of anxiety, when the mother is not there for the child, and is carried with the child all the way through adolescents. And yes a diaper can very normally be that first possession. Just as easily as a teddy bear or a blanket. This is not something to be ashamed of or afraid of. All children experience this phenomenon.

It is not unusual but not something people know much about.

Do not shun your child for this. This is about the bond between the infant, child and adolescent and the mother that is crucial to good healthy development. (This is not about regression.)

This is something very important throughout a child’s life.

Please read my reply at the following post. Please read all of it, it is very informative.

How common is it for a 12 year old to like wearing diapers?

My reply is, Why do boys become Diaper Lovers?

https://www.quora.com/How-common-is-it-for-a-12-year-old-to-like-wearing-diapers

It is a long post but try to read all of it. The last part is just as important as the first.

Some people would call this a fetish but the doctor whose paper I referenced my reply from did not feel that liking diapers in childhood nor adolescence constituted a fetish although it was possible to develop as an adult.

For a person who is a diaper lover wearing diapers is not in itself a fetish. When wearing them takes on a more aggressive nature in affect for sexual gratification that is when it becomes the fetish. When it comes to Infantilism this is a paraphillia which is a derivative of the fetish. You are always a diaper lover first.

It is important to refer to the usage note of the following url.

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It is important to notice that the term can be and is also used to imply "less mainstream sexual practices" but without necessarily negatively implying any dysfunction or 'wrongness'.

Sort to hear that was the reaction of parents no excuse at all. But why did you feel need to tell them.

It's like coming out as LBGT etc. It's a sexual fetishism within sexuality.

My parents know I am straIght don't need to know the fetish aspect we get up to.

Awful, inexcusable reaction bit honestly what was the reason you just had to tell them.

My dom told my mom.

And hell I'd already been in the mental hospital and they know I was a freak so my parents weren't surprised.

My mom was happy that He was happy to have me. They got long too damn well.

I'm fairly certain that my mom knew I liked to wear diapers and rubber pants when I was a teen. I had always been a bedwetter and she would diaper me every night before bed, even when I was a teen and past puberty. I often would get erections as she diapered me, especially since there was frequent contact with my pee-pee as she wiped and powdered it and my bottom, pinned on my diapers and pulled up my rubber pants. Often she had to hold my pee-pee and push it down as she pinned my diaper tight. Mom reassured me that it was normal for a boy my age to become excited and knew I played with myself after she left the room, and in the mornings when she unpinned my diapers and it contained fresh ejaculation fluids. She sometimes teased me about enjoying myself too much when I was diapered and finally encouraged me to stop wetting my diapers and use the potty which I finally did at 17. Even after I left for university I still wanted to wear diapers but couldn't and when I returned home for holidays, I'd wear diapers and rubber pants to bed and wet them during the night like I used to. Mom knew what I was doing and had saved all my old diapers in case i still wanted to wear them. I learned to pin my diaper on by myself because mom told me I was too old for her to continue doing it, but even then, there were nights she would come in before bed and talk with me about my university life and experiences, wanting to remain close. I think she missed had missed me when I was away and wanted me to share things with her. When she did this, she would also diaper me like she did when I was younger and still became aroused when she did. Many years later, in discussions with my sister about my being a DL, she told me that both she and mom knew I had an unusual attraction to wearing diapers and wetting my bed.

When I was in my mid to late 20s, (85 -90), I had a big desire to know I could be excepted and loved by telling friends, my mother and a couple of brothers about my ABDL side. No one rejected me and life went on. I guess I truly have good friends and family that love me, all of me.

Just trying to help.

It is never ok to hit or otherwise harm another , either physically or emotionally .

You have not mentioned your age , you should not be posting here unless you are of adult age.

However , as many others have mentioned , why did you say you liked diapers ?

In the end , you are fine , and enjoying what makes you feel “ OK ” , is ok.

Be safe and well , T.

How sad someone hit you and threatened to institutionalize you.

You're not a freak. You're just unusual. Being unusual is not necessarily a bad thing.

That being said and from what you said, maybe it's just better to keep this to yourself around your parents for the time being.

Someday you will be away and making your own way in this world. Maybe then you can tell your parents about being an AB/DL if you wish.

I hope this helps, and remember it's your life to live.

Please make the best of it.

Personally I can't think of any reason why the need to tell family or friends about their AB/DL fetish.

I'm medically incontinent and wear diapers 24/7 for over 10 years now.

To this day I have not told them about my incontinence and that I wear diapers for that purpose.

I definitely not going to tell them that I love wearing diapers after becoming a DL. Parents don't need to know everything about your life. Do you know everything about theirs?

My parents found out when I was in high school. My dad actuallly did good research into it and basically came to understand it well enough for someone who doesn't have those feelings. But both of my parents only ever thought that I needed to completely stop. Even after I did stop for 15 years, I overheard them discussing it, and it is clear to me that they think I am completely nuts. Mind you, I think they do love me. But they think I'm insane.