Afraid of losing your MEDFET?

Is anyone afraid that your medfet will diminish from lack of fulfilment or from over-exposure (I.e. too many play exams)?

At first I was ashamed and embarrassed to have a medfet, but now I actually enjoy the feelings of exhilaration and excitement. However, I'm worried that it will someday diminish because of lack of fulfilment (i.e. If your partner is not into it, why torture yourself thinking about something you will never really get to enjoy)? Alternatively, I could see some people's medfet diminishing because of overexposure: I.e. not getting excited after too many play exams.

Has anyone felt this way, and if so, has your medfet increased or waned over the years?

My medfet has only increased over the years. In fact, it has widened as well - thanks to Zity. When I joined here, I was only interested in injections. Now I fantasize about a whole lot more. Gyno exams, enemas, diapers, the works! The trajectory of my fetish seems to indicate that I will still be hooked even after I die! Who knows? Maybe there is a heaven for us Medfetters! Maybe I could be hanging around as a ghost and play doctor with other like-minded souls! I hardly think medfet will either wane or disappear - for me at least!

I wrote down a bunch of ideas for play exams on another thread, which should keep it interesting for a while. I'm very creative and have a vivid imagination, and I really enjoy realistic exams that are still exciting and erotic. I'm very responsive to my patient's needs, and I always want her to look forward to play exams. I can only hope it gets more intense over time, and that sharing stories and ideas on this forum will make it even better...

Dr Stiffler.

Being responsive to your patient's needs is a most commendable and essential quality. Knowing your patient is enjoying the anticipation of her forthcoming examination has a very positive effect, certainly in my case.

I can say that it does become more intense when both parties have a clear understanding of each others needs.

I'm always a bit concerned about losing interest in any fetish but I suppose it can and will happen. My interest in medfet has increased in recent years but, like other fetishes, I try not to overdo it. If anything becomes too commonplace it may no longer be interesting and exciting.

I never thought about losing interest, but I guess it could happen. I think partly because there are few opportunities with a busy life. my interest had only increased

As a role playing med fet examiner. I find this incredibly erotic for both patient and I. Butt, losing interest I have found is due to a sudden illness, or your mate no longer wants to engage in your happiness. Many of my subs are married frustrated women. They finally admit their spouses no longer want to role play or as one incredible lady put it. They're simply not interested in you anymore. Sad but true. Either way one its up to you to continue moving forward and keep that kinky erotic fire going.

My spouse was never into medfet herself...but allowed me from time to time the joy of examing her. Now that she is older and suffers from a back condition...she has lost most desire for sex itself..let alone and medfet play. if it wasn't for this site and the people on it willing to share ....I would have given it up a long time ago. I appreciate the friends and people I have been able to talk to and become friends with.So...for right now...my kink is alive and well.

We must not be afraid to loose it. Life takes its natural course. Only happens what must happen and what is natural

I have been interested and excited by it since very young age. For me, it is part of me, and I will never loose interest in it. There are periods, due to other life priorities, in which I give it less attention. But it always comes back!

I guess for me, overexposure wouldn't diminish my medfet, as I'm very creative and can come up with an endless number of play scenarios. However, not being able to find someone with a similar interest, or not being able to act out any ideas, would cause my medfet to burn out, similar to a candle deprived of oxygen. Why think of fantasies that will never be actualized? .

Why think of fantasies that will never be actualized? .

I'd say turn this idea around: if there are things that may never be actualized, then all you can is fantasize about them. And you might as well enjoy that. So why not fantasize if that's all you're ever going to get anyway? Why deprive yourself of at least that?

I might even be a party pooper and say that once you've tried something out, it hardly ever turns out to be as great as the fantasy itself. So why not just stick to the fantasy? No let-downs this way.

Are you the agracier that used to host 'speculum pages'?

I didn't host, but was part of the 'team' of few.

And them days were the days ... it was all so new then, getting so many stories from all around the world.

I didn't host, but was part of the 'team' of few.

And them days were the days ...

Brilliant, I didn't realize that was you sir. I spent many a happy hour reading those stories. Thank you.

I'm afraid my candle is burning out. Despite my creative ideas, just having sex with my wife is difficuly enough already, nevermind getting her to share medfet. I feel there are so few people interested in erotic and realistic obgyn exams, even on this site. Gynecology questions will go unanswered for days here, while enema and rectal temp questions are answered within hours. The few women here that are interested in obgyn exams usually reject any friendship offers because they only want to talk to other women. I'm beginning to realize that it's futile to wish for something that will never be actualized, and perhaps I'm better off focusing my energy on something that will be more fulfilling...

Gynecology questions will go unanswered for days here, while enema and rectal temp questions are answered within hours.

I'd venture that gyn questions go unanswered for longer because these need genuine medical expertise and knowledge. It isn't just a question of relating a personal experience of what kind of lubricant anyone uses or what kind of enema solution or simple thing like that. These last issues, rt and enemas, are within just about anyone's reach and don't really require that much 'study' ...

But with gynecology matters, things are much more complicated and moreover, giving incorrect advice to others can have more serious consequences. I would never venture talking about this for fear of being flat-out wrong. This kind of thing is best left to experts ... doctors and nurses ....

I have a 1,000+ page manual and the internet for any technical questions, and I did make friends with someone on this site who has medical experience. Most of the questions I have asked were experiental questions for women, and I am only asking the question to make play exams more realistic. My general impression is that there are more people into rectal temps, enemas, etc than realistic play ob-gyn exams. There are a few people who share the same medfet, it's just tough finding them.

I don't think my desire and fascination for medfet ever will, but my spouse utterly hates it. But I've always felt wrong since a very early age for having med fantasies.

I don't think my desire and fascination for medfet ever will, but my spouse utterly hates it. But I've always felt wrong since a very early age for having med fantasies.

I think you're part of a sizable majority here for the last you say. I'm guessing that you are old enough to have grown up without the internet and so be deprived of at least the comfort knowing there were many many others who had the same feelings and desires. How to otherwise ever to know there is nothing especially distasteful with such inclinations?

When I was growing up in the 60's, I devoured any books I could get my hands on regarding sexual education, sexology, history of erotica and like subjects. So while I was spared having any uncharitable ideas about many bugaboos still plaguing society like the acceptance of homosexuality, pre-marital sex and other things, I never encountered anything having to do with fascinations with medical situations or specific genital procedures or anything else of the sort. Even enemas were never mentioned in those times.

So it took a long while before discovering there were many others with the same inclinations as myself. It accounted for many 'lost' years, attempts to leave it all behind and sometimes feeling guilty. What a waste all that was.

So just embrace your feelings and see how far you can go on your own. Even simply enjoying private fantasies, or just reading can be very gratifying ...

I wish my MedFet would diminish, even go away or replaced with something more main stream. I have never been with anyone that shares my MedFet, so having this site and being able to correspond with other here on Zity, has been wonderful, yet over the years it has never left me or diminished.

I don't want to sound like a traitor here (LOL). So I should add: I can't image anything being as FUN !

And I am indeed grateful, for this site and those that work so hard to bring us together.

I doubt I will ever lose my metfet. I have fetish for painful injection on my butts and medical examinations.

Injections are rare these days, let alone painful ones on mybutts. Since I rarely get sick, I rarely get injections in real life. I get medical checkups once a year. It comes with gynecological exam and rectal exam with anoscope (for polyps). That's about it.

I don't have playmates to play medfet or to give me injections. Either I am too self conscious to share about it (WHAT.????? You want me to stick needles on your butt????) Or I don't trust strangers who aren't doctors to stick anything on me.

But I stll get turned on by my medfet, still hopethat someday I get to play it regularly with someone I trust, still love to read stories about them, still go weak when there is an injection scene in thr movie, still fantasize about it and so on.

To have a metfed is not a curse. Rather, it is a very special treat. Either that, or I am a hopeless nut case. Lol

I am not afraid of losing my MEDFET. In fact I am afraid of it becoming too strong and consuming. It has gotten stronger over the years and has really ramped up since I have met others online. I was always embarrassed by it in the past but now more open to it as I find more into it. I just worry that I will think too much of it or need it to find a bond w/ someone.

I think that in my case, it would be from lack of fulfillment. In my younger years, I was always "a day late and a dollar short" when it came to living out any sort of erotic fantasies. It wasn't until I reached my mid 30s ( I'm 44 now ) that some of them came to fruition. A fantasy play exam remains elusive, however.

After reading about some of the youthful experiences of many other posters, I'm slightly jealous and feel like I've missed the boat. I just recently joined this site, and I'm going to see what happens. I'll give it a while before I end up tossing the MEDFET fantasy into the "Coulda, Shoulda, Woulda" file.

I think I'll loose mine simply due to the fact that it's inactive ie not being able to meet anyone...

I think ill loose mine simply due to the fact that it's inactive ie not being able to meet anyone...

What an odd reaction to not being able to meet anyone ... the fetish is mainly in the mind, as are practically all things connected with erotica anyway ... why throw it away when you can still enjoy other forms of pleasure derived from it? Like reading, looking at imagery and vids, imagining and conjuring up fantasies. You don't always need someone else for an activity to be pleasing and fulfilling.

You know, the real thing just might be a let down ... and then what? Another disillusion ....

I do fear losing my desire to play sometimes...not from playing too little/much but because my likes and dislikes are always changing. I fear that as I get older I may not be able to play like I have in the past and that will turn me off playing at all. I love playing now but what about 5,10, 15 years from? I would hope that my love for medfet would continue to grow but only time will till......

Why would anyone be afraid to lose their desire to do Med-Fet, or anything else for that matter?

If you lose your desire, you lose your desire. You shouldn't care.

At the present, I like playing tennis in the summer. Should I worry that I might not enjoy it any more when I'm older??? I don't think so.

I worry about losing it, as nothing has been more sexually exciting to me, but when I learned more about the topic (real ob-gyn exams) I realized that in reality it's quite boring, I.e.: actual exams are over very quickly, procedures like external exams are rarely performed, female patients are never completely nude, real male doctors never get turned on, only metal/plastic Graves/Pederson are really used, very very few female patients are excited about real exams, it's a controversial topic and it's east to offend people when discussing it (even on this forum), etc, etc.

Some people can enjoy complete fantasy, but for me there has to be some basis in reality. It's always been exciting to me, but now that I've explored it further, I almost get the feeling, "is that all there is?" . It's not like losing the desire to play tennis, as I could always pick up another physical activity. Losing your most exciting and erotic fantasy and facing vanilla sex the rest of your life is altogether different. I'm only into realistic ob-gyn exams, so it's not like I can just switch over to diapers, enemas, BDSM, etc. So for now, I'm left to use my imagination to try and breathe some life into my waning fantasy. My situation may be completely different, so to each his own; I was just wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation, and how they delt with it.

I've had such fetish since when I was very little (though it was more of an interest back then), so it's not like it's just a phase I'm going through as a teen, I don't think.I'll ever get bored of it.