What is worse, the embarrassment or the spanking?

I had to take the spanking in front of all my Dom's friends.

As a small child, the pain was definitely the worst and only thing I was worried about. The older I got the more embarrassing it was to be spanked and it started to outweigh the pain aspect around 10; that is until it actually was going on, then pain overrode everything for the few short minutes it went on, and I stopped caring about all the other factors. But then, once it was over, it was embarrassing again, and I would wonder if the neighbors heard or (if I was in the wrong place) saw anything.

I would agree with what is written here. I was also afraid of pain at first. From about the age of 10, a feeling of embarrassment appeared. I remember the feeling when my mom decided I was going to get spanked. I remember how embarrassed I was when she told me to take my pants off and my underwear down. After the spanking, there was the awareness that the neighbors heard my screams.

Anticipation and other pre-punishment rituals like scolding and the process of bottom-baring certainly enhance a spanking. My experience (on both sides) is that the prelude is wonderful but pale in comparison to the intensity of the actual spanking action.

I also agree with these words. The embarrassment before punishment was always great. But the spanking itself was worse. Therefore, it is difficult to say which is worse, pain or embarrassment, especially since one is connected with the other.I was very ashamed that my mother used to spank me until I was 15. I felt like a little child. I was embarrassed to prepare for spanking - baring my buttocks and assuming spanking positions. But it was also embarrassing to be spanked, to be punished like that. It was embarrassing that my mother and neighbors hear my cries of pain.

I always found that the embarrassment when receiving a spanking was quickly pushed into the background by the pain you soon experienced from it! A sort of trade off I suppose; albeit an involuntary one! Lol

The embarrassment. Mom didn’t play around . You keep pushing her buttons . Arguing with her. She would go get the belt

It was a bare ass spanking no modesty in our home.

For me the anticipation of dad's anger and stripping me naked. Spanking was bad but standing naked in corner so anyone walked by my room could see my red butt and me crying.

For me the anticipation of dad's anger and stripping me naked.

Until what age did you get spanking? Always naked?

Sometimes i wonder if mom derived sexual gratifcation from spanking me before my enemas causing my embarresment and erections during the process?

Definitely the embarrassment. The embarrassment of being found guilty of some wrongdoing and being lectured about it, having my bottom bared like a naughty girl, possibly having my anus and genitals exposed, being made to stand in the corner. All the kids of details together make the spanking the least of my concerns.

My partner has a spanking fetish, she says that she needs it and craves to be humiliated and left with marks and welt stripes from the cane!

Sometimes I'm quite surprised at how much pain she needs before begging me to stop.

The embarrassment, hands down! My mind goes a mile a minute; I'm wondering what I did to deserve said punishment and I'm utterly embarrassed by my behavior. I should be a good girl but I'm naughty and it's my naughtiness that brings on the embarrassment.

My home spankings stopped fairly early and were never more than the odd smack and I don't really have much memory of how I felt about them at the time, probably because they didn't really make much of a lasting impression.

I got the slipper/gym shoe at school a couple of times. My primary emotion at the time was fear of the punishment to come rather than embarrassment. The second of those punishments was carried out over my underpants so, possibly there was a degree of embarrassment, but the pain of the punishment was of a different dimension.

Same now when I get disciplined. Yes, it is embarrassing lowering or removing clothing and showing myself but, again, it's the pain that is the bit that I really really don't like. Of course, as an adult, it is consensual so there are certain expectations/agreements but, for me, it's not a spanking if it doesn't hurt a lot.

I always found that the embarrassment when receiving a spanking was quickly pushed into the background by the pain you soon experienced from it!

There's a lot of truth in this. But different emotions can intertwine. I remember that when I was a teenager and I was threatened with corporal punishment, I felt a mixture of fear and shame. I felt ashamed of being punished like a little child. The closer the spanking came, the more these feelings grew. During the spanking, I mainly felt pain. However, when the spanking ended, I first felt relief. Then I felt ashamed. That's why I think shame was the most dominant. I consider myself lucky because the shame could have been greater. I think I would be more embarrassed if I was spanked in front of other people.

I had just returned home from the army and was visiting a friend when his wife got a phone call and whispered in his ear. He jumped out of his chair and dragged his 14 yo daughter out of the shower in where we were sitting and turned her ass red then made her stand next to him dripping wet and of course naked while he lectured her for several minutes. I could see everything and she was a very pretty girl. I'm quite sure the embarrassment was worse than the redness for her with me present.

I had just returned home from the army and was visiting a friend when his wife got a phone call and whispered in his ear. He jumped out of his chair and dragged his 14 yo daughter out of the shower in where we were sitting and turned her ass red then made her stand next to him dripping wet and of course naked while he lectured her for several minutes.

Sounds like the father was someone with poor impulse control. He couldn't have waited until you were gone or she had finished her shower before handing out a punishment?

I have to wonder what kind of behavior on the daughter's part warranted such swift punishment and humiliation?

I would be suspicious of the father's motives for carrying out a spanking in this manner.

What is worse, the embarrassment or the spanking? Hmm....I would have to say that would depend on how hard a spanking it would be. For sure, it is embarrassing to have your bottom exposed but once a hard spanking is started, I know that I forget all about the embarrassment as the spanking gets my full attention particularly if it is for a more than minor transgression. Denise

If my hub is feeling very loving and in the mood (and we have time), he will spank me. It is never a punishment. It is a true expression of love between us.

Up until age 10-11 the spanking was worse than the embarrassment. After that embarrassment was worse. The embarrassment of earning/needing a spanking greatly exceeded the embarrassment of being spanked bare or naked.

For me, definitely the embarrassment of being exposed in front of someone is worse than the actual spanking.