Did a parental role model influence you to become a dominant or a submissive?

I think it may have had something to do with it. I grew up in the 70's and 80's and I was spanked by my parents. When my mom spanked me, I laughed. When my dad did it, I did not laugh. He didn't necessarily do it hard, but the fear and anticipation was worse than the little bit of pain. I think I cried more out of fear than I did out of pain. As I got older, somewhere along the way, I found it to be exciting. And it has stuck with me ever since.

My stepfather came into my life when I was 11 and he believed in bare bottom spankings. If I tried to fight I would only get it worse. Looking back I can see that he was probably doing it for his enjoyment more than to discipline me. I learned to be submissive because of him.

My Mom was a very fine but authoritarian RN and gave me vanishingly few enemas, only for severe constipation or occasionally abdominal pain/stomachache. I always loved them, even as a child, so yes she might have influenced me to love enemas and to be a switch, enjoying both roles. My favorite is when my ex-wife or the ex-GF just before her gave me large enemas and made me hold them until we'd both had orgasms.

Eric

My mother was authoritarian and dominant over my step father and I and everybody she could. My sister is close to the same way. In my “real” life I don't like strong women, in my private life and sexual world the stronger the better. I would have no problem in a FLR with a woman who understands the needs and makes it a real relationship.

Ever since I can remember my stepdad has made me remove my clothes to be punished. It has always been a humiliating process to remove everything and then stand in front of him with my hands behind my head while he lectures me and tells me how many strokes with his belt I’m going to get. I started becoming aroused being humiliated in my early teens and have been submissive in all my relationships I believe because of this.

My mother was 6 years older than my father mostly due to the fact her age group had been killed in ww2 so only younger males were left unmarried. So i would say she was the most dominant in relationships and it was down to her to take care of any misbehavior of myself and younger sister, also taking care of me due to my severe asthma. So i got used to being told what to do by strong forceful women. As in hospital all nurses and ward sisters were women to be taking rectal temps and giving enemas and injections & I got used to being bossed about by females

I was spanked pretty aggressively as a child after being caught masturbating more than once. I guess I’m enough of a classical behaviorist to conclude that’s why I like a little pain with my arousal and that I’m sub sexually. God knows I’m not the least bit sub outside the bedroom.

When my Mother and Step Father moved north for work, I moved back with my Father and step mother. She was a nurse and i would always see her dressed before and after work in her uniform and regularly masturbated thinking about her. My Father was strict and occasionally spanked me and this humiliation in front of my Step Mother was embarrassing at the time. One being spanked as a teenager but also pants down.

My father worked out of town and was only home on the weekends. So I was always with my mom and older sister. Sometimes the neighbor lady who was really pretty would look after me. I was always around females. I liked it.

I think so. I never had a dad just a mom and two sisters. I was always made to listen do do as I'm told. Now I just know my wife is my better and she controls what is done with and to my body.

My Mom, Step dad, Aunt, and Uncle were all role models. All of them were Spanko's so I picked up a little from each one of them. I received a lot of naughty bare bottom spankings from all of them so I was able to mimic a lot of their actions and words.

So today at age 77 I've become a Switch, leaning toward the sub side. Butt I still like to make a naughty bare bottom red.

I believe so. I was oldest of three children and the only boy. My dad worked and traveled a lot and was gone during the week so I was surrounded be girls all the time and my mom always treated me as her favorite, giving me so much attention and affection. As luck would have it I was quite slow to potty train, and had to wear diapers until I was in the first grade and continued to wet my bed well past puberty, until I finally stopped in the 12th grade. And this was in the 50's and early 60's when mom only used cloth pin on diapers and rubber pants for all of us. Also mom nursed each of us until we were 3 or

Interesting question

I suppose it could well have done. I loved and respected my dad but I was brought up to listen and obey only speak when spoken to and what dad said, went. No space to argue or suggest an alternative.

I think that is how I am as a sub. ( although my Dom might challenge this)

When I feel submissive, I will agree to things I might not normally agree with and often may answer questions with the answer I think he might like to hear.

But my Dom knows me well enough to be able to have this level of control, and before anyone raises any concerns, yes I would use our agreed safety action should I need to.

I have always been dominant in everything I do. I have been submissive only a few times, and that took lots of curiosity, some liquor and some high level of letting go.

As young boy my father used to make me take down my pants and turn away from him with my hands in the air and then cane me with a willow switch. (I was not a naughty child). He was passing on the abuse he himself endured. He was a good woodworker; he enjoyed making artful paddle boards just for my ass. But his favorite thing to do was to have me stand bottomless turned away from him. I didn’t dare look back, now I’m pretty sure he masturbated in between strikes.

As an adult I don’t mind spanking someone who wants wants it. As a matter of fact, that’s how I’ve determined why my father did it to me. It is a bit of a turn on. (I personally find no joy in pain, as you’ve likely figured out by now).

I broke the cycle by never ever hitting my own kids.

Besides being a tall strong voiced naturally dominant man, I also believe a good part of it is due to being strong enough to survive my abusive father’s poor behaviors.

Except for sexual situations, I can barely stomach subdominant people; I’m sure that stems from my cowardly mother who made no attempt to do anything to help me.

Parental roles definitely had an influence over me being dominant!

Generally both my parents were/are distant and seem practically asexual to me. Neither was more or less dominant with me or with each other.

As it is, I’m very submissive with women. With males, I have been the dominant one with two (one in high school, one after) and very happily so, but with a few other guys I dated they were a more predictable Alpha type, or so they thought 😑 (I didn’t enjoy that type of submissiveness).

Anyway, good question, maybe one for a therapist to help me with one day. I don’t find any obvious connection between my parents and my sexuality but I’m sure it’s more complex, more than I care to investigate at this stage of my life.

I would say my mother exposed me to being submissive. She was the nurturer, caregiver, disciplinarian and doctor to all us kids. That included enemas. What better example of submissiveness than having to completely undress, expose your most private areas that are usually covered , have your arse greased with Vaseline and accept a nozzle and accept a bag full of hot soapy water? Since my mother believed enemas were the cure all for all sickness and ailments we were given them frequently. To add to this scenario aunts, neighbors and friends were present which exposed me to the power play of CFNM. Hated all of this back then but in retrospect will accept an enema and embrace my submissiveness from any female and her friends. 😄

Similar upbringing as @GraceT - parents were distant on anything sexual. Little top no input from my parents. Dad was big on self control and self-discipline as character building. So i never really developed any dominant or submissive traits. I'd guess my parents didn't have any influence over my sexuality or dom/sub roles. If anything, sports taught me to be dominant - but it didn't carry over into sex or marriage.

I had a therapist starting the week before I moved out of my mom and stepdads home at age 18 and seen her until i was 21. She went through my childhood and believed that my stepfather coming into my life when I was nine and immediately taking the role of disciplinarian and requiring me to completely disrobe until I left home at 18 to receive his belt for trivial offenses and always with my mom witnessing that I learned to enjoy the whippings and the humiliation. She thought this was my way to endure them and why im submissive today.

I'm not particularly submissive in my day to day life* and wouldn't want to be permanently submissive in my relationships, but in terms of my sexual interests, my mum being so domineering definitely influenced that. There's a part of me that feels, or gets excited by, the idea of being immature and unreliable and still needing firm treatment. Her view that boys/young men couldn't be trusted or have much self control definitely fed into that.

*However, most of my bosses have been strong women. That's not sexual, as I'm gay, but there's still a pattern.

Oh, I’m sure. I only ever met my dad once, and to call it a meeting is an overstatement. I was an only child with a great mom. She was super compassionate, supportive, empathetic. Just absolutely A+. She was my mom but also my best friend. I had friends in school but moving from Maryland to the south when I was in 6th grade shook up my social life, and it took me a long time to adjust so I never really got close to that many other people. My mom was also very strict, but fair with her discipline. So, even from a young age there was always an aspect of being disciplined by her that gave me a rush and then a warm and safe feeling afterwards. I enjoyed it in a sense even though whatever was happening to me hurt, or was embarrassing, or distasteful. It’s kindof hard to explain because it seems like those things would be mutually exclusive but for me they aren’t. Her punishments always got the point across and I would genuinely try to not repeat the mistakes that lead me to that point even though I liked the attention and appreciated the process. I never experienced any sort of anger or resentment about being disciplined either. She always made a point to spend bonding time with me after I got punished too. Usually by watching a show or movie while cuddling or playing a game or something. Just spending time together. All of that combined with my natural “spanko” tendencies that were definitely present before she even started using corporal punishment on me must have just created a perfect storm for me to be drawn to a domestic discipline lifestyle and being submissive in general.