Did a parental role model influence you to become a dominant or a submissive?

Did a parental role model or lack of one cause you develop your preferences for Domination and Submission regarding your becoming the dominant or submissive partner either in your "day to day real life" or sexual play roles of D&S"?

Growing up, my parents were pretty equal in the family. My older brother on the other hand played a bigger role in my deciding to be dominant.

As many of you may have experienced, older siblings can sometimes wreak havoc with younger ones of the opposite sex. When we were younger, up to his being ten and I being about six, I would get teased sometimes, but as I got older, I realized that I didn't want to accept that any more, so I became more assertive and finally he and I became more equal, although there were a few times he would try to get me. Even in college we would have these little twits with each other. (When he was younger, he didn't realize that he could have dated my friends and I could have made it happen.)

I guess my wanting to be more dominant was one of the things that made me interested in tying up my friends to the furniture with my jump ropes when I was 12 and older. I got good at it, and my parents did question me a few times about what went on when they caught me in the act. It's nice to be the boss!

In my family now, my husband and I switch because I got tired of always being the dominatrix and I taught him to be dominant so I could relax (if you can call it that) and submit.

I haven't seen this thread in a while and don't know why it hasn't gotten more attention.

I'm pretty certain my older daughter's walking in on my husband and myself five years ago played a role in her interest in S&M, tying up her boyfriend, among other things.

Oh i was totally brought up to be a 'Sissy' by my adoptive mother.

But it was never anything abusive/traumatic she used to work as 'Avon Lady' so i had access to lipstick and perfume.

Oh and frilly satins which felt so lovely

Cannot say it affected me one way or another. Both parents on an equal footing in my view.

Not my parents, but my ex wife.

She was very dominant and made me be submissive to her towards the end of our marriage... She liked me naked in the house most of the time, including when she had her friends round to visit or for drinks.

It just became normal and I was used to it.

Not a parent but my identical twin. Out of the two of us I'm the quieter shy one. Never a leader always the one who would follow. I'm definitely the submissive one.

Are you sure you're a GENETICALLY identical twin and not just look the same?

Yes, we are genetically identical. Had a DNA test , just after birth and a few more since . We both have Cystic Fibrosis too and have the same faulty genes .

I gave birth to genetically identical twin girls too , but one became an angel shortly after birth.

I adored my dad and followed in his footsteps so much that he even joked that I was his second son. Since he was my sole role model (no mother) I guess I became dominant from him.

My mother was a very domineering woman. I don't recall any sexual comment or act. She never said anything of a sexual nature. I know she liked sex as she bore 9 children to my father. She spanked, washed out my mouth with soap. Forced me to wear a diaper and put in on herself. She used a Woden spoon to spank. But the thing that got my attention and forced to comply was the administration of enemas on a regular basis.

I was required to go in the bathroom and remove all clothing. She made me kneel and place my head on the floor. She made me look at the two qt red bag. I had to hold my butt cheeks apart while she lubed my anus. She would then make me stay still while she started the flow. After I had taken the entire amount I was required to stay in that position until she told me I could move to the toilet and expell.

I learned to love being told to get ready. Whenever I was alone in the house I would do enemas. I was careful to but every thing back and make everything was clean and smelled good. I knew to follow exactly as I would be spanked in addition to the enema.

I think that mummy's interest in spanking definitely lead to my submissive nature.

Mummy spanked me until I left home for university at 18. Blush if count holidays 21. She would invent reasons such as 'Having a small weewee' which I would climb obediently over her lap for a spanking.

When I first met mummy jade (not her real name shes uk chinese) and her interest in 'littling' me. Well my desire to 'please mummy' came right back. So yes I've been blessed with a love for loving punishment and as she grows plumper and more matronly I desire to please her more.

Absolutely not. That said, who really knows what 'normal' parenting as practiced in our lives actually molded us in unexpected ways.

On the flip side for me. I saw my parents treat each other as equals even though they came up through an era when gender stereotypes were much more defined and enforced than now. They were born into the roaring '20s.

I have most enjoyed meeting my sexual partners on equal footing. Sharing mutual pleasures at the same time and serially. As much as that is my main trajectory, I'm curious about playing in dominant and submissive roles. I'm sure I would enjoy aspects of both, perhaps only slightly more so the submissive. I don't know if curiosity about those ventures lie in my psychological upbringing or if it's simply because I'm kinky.

Because of my finding their porn magazines with bondage and SM plays I could know about this from early, maybe first time around 10, and it could definitely awaken my interest for being a sub woman. I had the very strong arousal from looking at them and always wished I could be alone and look more, but could only do some times. But anyway I could see the pics from my memory and imagine I'm in those positions.

Growing up I was more submissive in how I dealt with people in life. I'd do what I was told, when I was told. I was a good girl, studied hard, worked hard. My Mom ran the house. If she was happy we all were happy.

As I've aged, I hear my mother come out of my mouth more and more. I'm to the point in life, I don't need to put up with the BS. I'm going to enjoy the life I and my sub have. I don't care what others think or say. What we do together isn't hurting anyone else. I don't like being told what to do or what I can't do. I prefer to be the one doing the telling.

Having been submissive to my Mom , I prefer dom, but still enjoy recieving

Not in the least. I became a Top as a result of exposure to the lifestyle via a lover. Mine was a learned behavior well past the formative years.

All my relatives lead traditional lives, very straight laced. Even the gay cousin of my mother ( who was never acknowledged as a homosexual) was conventional for the times. There were stern relatives but other than watching my Ps and Qs around them, didn't make an impression.

Enemas are another story.

I had a very dominate father so it was easy to become a sub and my wife jumped on that a couple 2rs into the marriage and when I became incontinent she had me go back to diapers to keep everything dry.She is more dominate person than me so now more sissy than alfa male.

I can only speak for myself. All of us are born with personality traits and for me having a very dominant mother had an influence on me. I had a feisty, resistance side especially when it came to being given enemas. Resistance and complaining resulted in being spanked into submission and my mother and red enema bag prevailed.

I see our daughter is following in my foot steps. If she has something to say she says it. It's odd to hear myself come out of her young mouth. She isn't waiting as long as I did to be more outspoken about how she actually feels.

For sure.

I had a dominant father who kept his kids in line with spankings.

His father did it and so did he. I am sure a life time of spankings is what has formed my brain into liking them. As I have said before they still hurt but I want more. God only knows why.

I had a therapist tell me one time that I was acting up as a teen just to get spanked because it was a form of me getting my dads attention.

Definitely.

My mother was very strict and ruled over the household with an iron fist. She would completely control our schedueles, outings and exposure to the internet. Whatever she said was law to all who lived under the roof of the house.

Any resistance was not tolerated and we all follwed the 1,2,3 finger rule. When she issued us a command, she would put up 1 finger which means obey. 2 fingers mean you will be receiving punishment and 3 fingers meant a spanking on top of the punishment.

She also believes there is no age limit for being disciplined, unless they are older then her.

This situation probably led me to really like dominating people like how I was dominated by my mum. In a way, it gives me a nice control high. My mothers treatment also led me to find out I like receiving pain and punsihment just as much as I like giving it. As when i'd feel home sick, submitting to someone completely would remind me of home.

My Mom brought me up to be submissive. I was always her little boy. She gave me my bath until I was almost 13 and still helped sometime after that. I got my college physical in front of her and was spanked until I was 23. Spankings were given in my room waiting in my underwear. She always told me why I was being spanked as she pulled my underwear down. Then it was over her lap or bent over the side of my bed about mid teens. She had no problems spanking me in front of others including her church lady friends.

She had no problems spanking me in front of others including her church lady friends.

Seriously? They must have been a bunch of hypocritical perverts if that really happened.

My Dad spanked and beat us when I was growing up, and I'm pretty sure that was a factor in me becoming a masochist. It was abusive by the standards of the day e.g. punishment for very minor things, and sometimes injuries. It was like walking on eggshells when Dad was home. My Mum was also fairly submissive (in the non-sexual sense) to Dad, so maybe I modelled some behaviour on her.

Dad also didn't seem to like me (or my sister). In my 20s I tried to reconnect, but Dad did not seem to want a relationship with me. I think I'm craving the caring father figure I didn't have.

Growing up with both parents from the South (Louisiana), spankings or "tannings" were common for the five of us. I don't really know if they influenced my desire to be spanked. I do remember asking my mother to continue spanking me, instead of grounding as a teenager. Looking back, I was probably one of the few high school girls who still got spanked, except for some foreign born teens my age.

As a girl I was good at school, polite and I do not remember corporal punishment from my parents. However, because of my lazy bowel, I often risked a loud scolding if I refused to take my enema. Usually it was the grandmother who accepted with replies, if it was necessary I had to do it without complaints. This family situation, I believe, has made me subservient, first to my relatives (mother and grandmother) and then to my husband. They did not do it on purpose, but only because I needed it ... but it is likely that they influenced my character.

When it comes to getting an enema, must say that I'm submissive.

I grew up living with a foster aunt and uncle and it was my aunt who was always took the lead. Certainly when she found an excuse to introduce me her enema fetish. She was firm and dominant and very soon, though I was always protesting, I would have to submit to her enema procedures. Something that continued for the many years I lived there. She knew well about the discipline of the enema. Much and all as I dreaded her enemas, through the years the best enema for me is when I'm forced to be submissive to a Mature Aunty figure who really knows how to give an enema that I love to hate.

Growing up in the 1940s and 1950s, you can bet your sore butt my brothers and I got spanked when we misbehaved. My older brother, however, was the child that always did as he was told and rarely ever was spanked. My younger brother, the baby of the family, once told me in our adult years he simply watched what I did and knew he should NOT follow suit as I regularly got spanked for doing something I wasn't supposed to do. My father was strict and a disciplinarian; but, I believe he simply had very high expectations for his children and believed corporal punishment was the way to get us to meet those expectations. What nobody in those days knew was I had a raging case of ADD (not a diagnosed condition back then) which caused me to be somewhat of a "wild child." I was never in trouble with the law - just my parents.

Anyway, I suspect his strict ways are likely why, if I were in a D/s relationship, I would be the submissive. I have no desire to be dominant over anyone.