Partner's presence at examinations

My lady has had numerous health problems , especially gyno problems and gyno surgery . The first time her gyno did a smear , after her surgery , he wanted me to stay in the room .The main reason , is he needed a chaperone and did not want to get his nurse , due to the fact that his office was very busy and he had knowledge of my medical training .

I've been to a few of my wife's regular gynecology exams. I've always sat to the side and not able to see ,ugh but have enjoyed being there.

Sadly haven't had that experience yet with a partner butt fingers crossed 🤞one day I will

Normally, when I go to the doctor, my partner comes in with me. Sometimes doctors have had a problem, asking him to leave, to step outside a curtain, etc. But it is generally as simple as me telling them I wanted him to stay and they always let him, even if they really didn't want to. It's for my comfort.

This man, meaning my hubs, has been through many doctors appointments, gynecological and obstetrical exams, foley bulb dialations, caths, c-sections, and so much more with me.

I have been present a several of my wife's exams. Sometime the practitioner is fine about it, other times although they don't say anything they show their annoyance in their attitude towards me.

I've been present at several of my wife's exams, when she was pregnant. Always sitting to the side and couldn't really see much of anything, unfortunately.

I've been to some of my wife's exams, both during pregnancy and when she was not pregnant.

I don't think the doctor did anything differently because I was there.

I typically sat to the side so I had a great view of the breast exams but not much of the pelvic exam.

I did observe a couple trans-vaginal ultrasounds. One time the tech inserted the wand into my wife's vagina; the other time my wife did it herself.

My wife and I have been going to the same male primary doctor for 30 years and we go to each others exams annually, although not on the same day. He doesn’t care as we have seen other couples doing the same thing. The nurse does the ekg then the doctor comes in for the exam. My wife is in a gown and he listens to her heart over the gown, but then opens it for the breast and abdominal exam and then he closes it back up. After my exam, I’m shirtless and he does the exam until the penis exam. At that point, I usually take off my shorts and pants and stand nude in front of him for the penis exam and then bend over for the rectal exam. Once that is done, I clean up then get dressed all while chatting with my wife and doctor.

I don’t see a problem with it. I personally haven’t ever had any intimate medical exams and don’t have a partner. I’ve only had my mom with me when I was a kid because I haven’t been to the doctor in 10 years and it was just for middle school shots when I was there last. Now I did get to go to my moms gyno exam and the doctor who delivered me was still alive and was her doctor still he didn’t have a problem with it. He actually joked about how I “came out like a fly ball in baseball and he yelled woah kid I didn’t bring my baseball glove today” lol. He also shook my hand at the beginning too. The nurse on the other hand was like he needs to leave my mom is like no his dad had to work today and his sister is out with her friends and I will not be examined alone or with you present so i got to stay plus I was there for a reason anyway and that was to help her dress and undress and hold the pee cup as she had carpal tunnel surgery and couldn’t hardly do anything on her own with just her left hand. At her doctor the nurse doesn’t stay in the room she just does all the pre exam stuff and hands her the pee cup and gown and that’s it. She is like so you are absolutely ok with him being present here and she said yes absolutely and I will get up and leave if he can’t stay. We did get some weird looks in the waiting room.

I also went with my sister for her first exam along with my mom too. They both agreed to let me stay in the room. She was pregnant and wanted me and my mom there for her comfort but she wasn’t expecting a full exam either and when she heard she was getting one she was really uncomfortable then the nurse pointed at me and is like you gotta get out dude. My mom is like i would like him to stay to learn some more and looked at my sister and asked if she was comfortable and she agreed to let me be present for the exam as I was there for her support too. The nurse at this place did stay in the room for the exam and the whole time she gave me a dirty look. The female doctor didn’t seem to care she said it’s patients choice and we have to respect that and that’s why their are chairs in the room. The nurse kept making smart remarks to my sister after the exam too and so my sister eventually decided to find a different doctor.

Now I do agree I probably really shouldn’t have been there for either of their exams but it is what it is they wanted me there so I was there. And nobody forced me to go either they told me both before we left the house if I wasn’t comfortable I didn’t have to go just they would prefer my presence. And for my moms exam she said if I didn’t go she would have to reschedule and they were scheduling 7 months out so she would have to wait that long. And I did it because I knew they wanted me there. Of course my sister didn’t know she would be getting a full exam that day either.

Hopefully one day I’ll have a partner who will let me go with her. And if not I’d respect it too. I would let them go with me but I don’t really go to doctors so the chances of that are slim.

My husband attended the scan appointments and births of our children, but otherwise has not attended my medical appointments unless required for transportation (or the one time I saw him as a doctor, but that was before we were together). Beyond the pregnancies, he’s never attended an appointment where I received a gyn exam. I think both my doctor and my husband would probably find that awkward- I’ve never seen anyone else there with a spouse for an exam… And I probably wouldn’t want him there either. We keep the med play and the actual medicine pretty separate.

For other types of exams though, partners attending might not be that unusual. It’s quite common for surgical consults, complex conditions etc. My husband is a surgeon and quite often sees patients who have family in attendance.

Incidentally, I do think it’s more usual for mothers to sometimes have young children in tow at doctor’s appointments- particularly during school holidays or when childcare is difficult. At my doctors, children usually wait outside the exam room (there is a play area actually), but I recall my mother bringing me in with her once when I was very young and I think she was pregnant with my younger sister. I sat in a chair near the head of the exam table and didn’t see anything that I recall. I just remember playing with a toy some nurse gave me. As for siblings… We often had our appointments same day but beyond very young childhood were never examined in front of one another. Just my experience though.

I often went with my wife to her family planning clinic appointments. At her first appointment the nurse chatted to both of us about the different methods of contraception, but when my wife was called in to see the doctor for her gynaecological examination and breast check I wasn't invited in, and so I sat on a chair in the corridor outside his room. If I had asked to go in with her it would most probably have been frowned on as not appropriate, so I didn't ask. But like @Brooklynne husband I did attend her scan appointments and births of our children. I remember at one scan appointment she had a sheet covering her lower body but she was half naked and most of the pubic hair on her lower abdomen was showing. And during the scan procedure one of the hospital porters wandered into the room for some reason or other and stood there looking. I thought that was rather inappropriate…

My husband doesn't go to doctors with me. He thinks that all my doctors are women and no man except him has ever seen me naked.

My female Partner has been to my urological appointments, and I have been to several of her gyn appointments. I was sadly off to the side and was not able to see the speculum insertion full on. It was still interesting as hell, listening to the doctor as she did her thing.

My partner, however had a on full view while my genital exam was done by my female urologist. I was seated in an exam chair, with my feet outstretched on the extension.

By the way, the female NP was also in the room observing.

I was just lucky enough to accompany my partner to her yearly, and let me tell you, it was about the most boring exam I've ever seen. We are currently monogamous, but have recently both had other partners. Her doctor didn't ask her any sexual history questions. She did a very brief breast exam and did the shortest pelvic I've ever seen. Just inserted a speculum, no bi-manual, and no rectal.

The second to last gyno exam I've been to, my husband was present, as is most of the time because we are very close. He managed to get some pictures on his phone, and it was certainly a turn on.Part of it may just be I enjoy being watched during an exam, however slightly embarrassing it may be. My gyno was a female, and I wonder in a real exam, how much more exciting it'd be with a male. 🤔 Our play exams have all included males.

The second to last gyno exam I've been to, my husband was present, as is most of the time because we are very close. He managed to get some pictures on his phone, and it was certainly a turn on.

Would love to see those pics @shygirl17, if you would be willing to share 😃

I’m always present for my wife’s exam. She had a vaginal and rectal exam today - not a recto-vaginal - rather a check for any masses or tumors. The doc was interactive, even looking and talking to me during the exam, and a quick statement she needed to do the rectal then poof, she did it. We’ve had so many medical issues and doctor appointments that it’s simply clinical and matter of fact, not sexy or arousing. Never had a doc question or refuse my or her presence for exams.

It was kinda funny today; after the nurse did the BP, med review etc. and got my wife ready for the exam, she asked if WE wanted a medical chaperone present for the exam.

Wow! That's terrible. My bf has always been with me. If I want him there, the dr is fine with it. Basically, the dr mostly doesn't pay any attention to him, and everything is directed toward me - talking to me and telling me what is going on and if there are any issues and all.

I always go with my wife/partner to the gyn when she asks me to. As we are a couple, we heve the right to be present with eachother’s exams. And we also use that right.

When she sais tjat it’s fine for her to go alone, then she goes alone. But most of the times, I’ve been with her during gyn exams, as well as some other exams.

Yes, I have been present for the last two annual gyno exams of my wife. We think it is important both of us are there for our medical exams. Two sets of ears and eyes are always better to catch what is going on and what is said. Also, we feel that if a dr. has a problem with a partner being present then they are not interested in working with patient on their care.

My ex girlfriend came with me to an exam and it was actually pretty fun. She was a med student and wanted to see what he was doing and how he was doing it. She held my legs open and watched him closely. She asked so many questions. After they were done and left the room she took a speculum to practice on me at home.

I would love to ask a certain friend to accompany me, as I'd love to have her watch. Haven't got up the nerve to ask yet.

Go for it @GraceT . She can only say no. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

My first wife had no problem with this and allowed me in, although it meant very little to me then, kink-wise. My second wife shut me out completely for any examination and I from that I developed a kink for gynecological examinations. Now, as an aged old man I really don't care so much. She has also now demanded that her physician be female, especially for her annual exams. Years ago I was an asshole and became very disturbed when she had her gyno exams with a male doctor. Now I think it would be interesting to have her examined intimately by a man again. How things change!