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We were both virgins on our wedding night and so we were learning together. There were lots of surprises.
I thought I knew so much because I had read "Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex, But Were Afraid to Ask" but that didn't prepare me at all.
I worked for a guy in high school and four years later just before I got married, I sat down with his wife and asked her what to do on the wedding night.
In 45 minutes, she gave me the following instructions:
- Bring our our bath towel to place under my wife so any blood would be
on our towel and not on the sheets or towels of the hotel.
- Bring KY Jelly which in the late 1970s was pretty gooey and sticky and
not as slick as they lubricants of today.
- Warm up my wife by rubbing her clit for at least 30 minutes
- Go at my wife's pace because I would be ready immediately but she
would need a long warmup period.
- Know that I would not feel any pain, but my wife would.
Surprises?
My wife was surprised at how big my penis got during an erection and that that was going inside of her vagina where only small tampons had been inserted. I'm not claiming to be big--I think I'm about average at 14 inches (36 cm)--oh, wait. That's my forearm.. I was just big for my wife, especially when erect.
I was surprised at how warm, wet, and wonderful her vagina felt on my penis compared to my hand when masturbating.
We both knew there would be pain for her, but we were both surprised at how much pain she felt the first time.
The first time, she felt quite a bit of pain when we did it in the afternoon after the wedding and before the reception. She let me keep going because she knew she needed to get through the pain. I just wanted to get through the hymen.
There was still some pain the second time we had sex right after the reception.
The third time was maybe an hour later and if there was any pain, she didn't notice it because she was really turned on. We were still at the hotel. I was in the bathroom and she was on the bed. She called out, "You better get in here, Mister. I'm ready for you and I'm gonna have an orgasm. I can feel it and you better hurry." I got there very quickly and she was indeed ready and she did cum, as she predicted.
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