Men posing as women on zity

For the most part the people who set up and operate this site can only do so much to try to ensure women are women and men are men......

If this were A pay site they possibly could identify who the men were and who the women were but that's not even a guarantee in itself..........

they do have m2f............ that's what the individual fills out when they're creating their profile to let people now what the intention is........

you think It would be kind of foolish.......... for A man to parade around acting to be a woman............ and then get a hook up with a man believing he's actually going to be with a biological woman................. things could get really dangerous really fast................

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I know I'd be a little bit upset after I got her pants off and found out she had a pecker bigger than mine............

especially when you're looking for the hole not a pole..........

Goodness what an active topic.... I just come from the old line of "dont' trust anyone online" and that's worked for me a very long time. I don't meet up with people, share picutres of myself (well, sometimes, but heavily cropped out), I don't share personal details that contain data that could be used to "out" me as it were in real life. Not knocking anyone that makes friends and meets people while online, just not for me... This side of me is very private from most everyone that knows me in real life and I intend to keep it that way.. so, in regards to one gender pretending the to be the other, it's not really an issue for me I suppose since it doesn't directly affect me.

I guess we'll never know but it's annoyed me since the dawn of the internet that people I'm chatting with are skeptic of my gender and want me to "prove" it somehow, usually through graphic photos.

@CajunOkie that sounds like dirty old men looking for photos to get their Jolly's from. They know your female and just want pictures to jack off to. Shame on them.

@CajunOkie that sounds like dirty old men looking for photos to get their Jolly's from. They know your female and just want pictures to jack off to. Shame on them.

I bet if the reply was "sure, I'll send you a cute pic" then you send them some pictures of the worst STD and yeast infections known to human kind that would stop it cold.

There is only one reason that I would ask a woman to send a naked photo. If we had been talking online for an extended period and decided to meet, I would ask to talk by phone, to be sure she is a woman. If she did not want to do that, then I would ask her to send a picture showing her genitals, with a card showing TODAY'S date as proof of gender. It would not need to be a whole body photo, just of the genitals. I once flew a long distance across country to meet a woman, only to find myself greeted by a pre-op TG. (Despite my profile clearly stating I am straight.) Once burned, twice careful! Frankly, I am appalled and disgusted by people who lie about their gender, no matter the reason. I think that they should be banned.

This is an interesting post with interesting answers.

Regarding posting responses on the general board, to me it does not matter if they are posing as the opposite sex they claim to be. I am more interested in their views and opinion of the topic that is being discussed.

I have had limited contact via chat or email with other members. Usually that person is just asking a question to clarify information that I included in my comment. I have contacted other members to ask questions about the country they live in when making travel plans. I am not here to meet to hook up or meet other people.

I would be very cautious regarding meeting people on this site or any other site. Its a shame that some people need to disguise who or what they are on a site where everyone is anonymous if they want to be.

If a person is careful, after several Zity and perhaps email exchanges, it is possible to actually meet some wonderful people who truly share your interests. I alone, or together with my wife, have had some great interactions, and never any really bad ones.

But there's an additional step to ensure honesty when meeting someone from the Internet: a phone call. It need not be a long conversation, but I highly recommend it.

It was years ago when my wife and I connected on-line with a lovely woman, who shared our kinky interests, as well as several other things including a general philosophy on life. After several exchanges, we suggested talking on the phone, but "Monica" said that was impossible given her home situation. We thought about alternative ways to connect via telephone, but none could work for her. Okay, we thought and continued to exchange messages, eventually leading to a mutual decision to actually meet. She lived in a nearby state, and we agreed to pay for a hotel room in her area and spend the night. All parties were looking forward to the rendezvous, even though of course it didn't included a commitment to do anything physical (although that was a possibility).

On the big day, shortly before we were to take off on a three hour drive, we received a message from Monica who said she was so looking forward to our meeting and to please drive carefully. Then there was a p.s.: "I hope you don't mind if I'm a man and not a woman."

Well, we DID mind. We give and expect honesty from people. If Monica was trans or a cross-dresser, she never suggested that at any time, and even the p.s. didn't include such a revelation. "Monica" was just a dishonest guy. Lesson learned. Always confirm on the phone.

Richard D I have to totally agree with you on your post..........

there's a lot of really good and wonderful people here on Ziti But there's also a few dishonest....... and it's not only the men parading around being a woman.......

Sometimes you can have a man posing as a woman to get another woman to share confidences she may not with a man or can use it to disarm someone who might be more reserved if she knew she were talking to a man.

Oh yeah, I figured that was like, the main point. These dudes (no offense to men, but it's usually dudes) are typing one-handed trying to get dirty details under the guise of sharing heartfelt stories about possibly traumatic events. There have definitely been posts I've read where I just go "oh, it's a guy role-playing, lame" and if they try to talk to me I either block or grey rock them.

When it comes to that, I feel that there's definitely an element of misogyny to it; the idea that his titillation is more important than a woman's informed consent. Not to get all "women's studies" or whatever, but I think if they were honest with themselves they'd have a hard time justifying it.

TL; DR just find a role-playing forum, stop being a creep

Oh yeah, I figured that was like, the main point. These dudes (no offense to men, but it's usually dudes) are typing one-handed trying to get dirty details under the guise of sharing heartfelt stories about possibly traumatic events. There have definitely been posts I've read where I just go "oh, it's a guy role-playing, lame" and if they try to talk to me I either block or grey rock them.

When it comes to that, I feel that there's definitely an element of misogyny to it; the idea that his titillation is more important than a woman's informed consent. Not to get all "women's studies" or whatever, but I think if they were honest with themselves they'd have a hard time justifying it.

TL; DR just find a role-playing forum, stop being a creep

This is where every woman on site says, "Amen!"

If in doubt, give the lady a mobile number where she can leave a brief voicemail, if they are not ready to talk in person. That way one is able to be sure "Sultry nurse Claire from Bristol " is not a Bloke called "Dave form Colchester"

@ShimmerMist Thanks, I've just learned new vocabulary ("grey rock"; I sort of knew the practice but not this name).

@Jacana my pleasure! 😄

I agree that there are men posing as women.

I was chatting to someone the other day and who professed to being a woman and they said "both she and me wear nylon panties".

Somewhat of a giveaway, don't you think?

I was chatting to someone the other day and who professed to being a woman and they said "both she and me wear nylon panties".

Somewhat of a giveaway, don't you think?

By itself, not necessarily, as it is not unheard of for some women to have same-sex relationships.

Sometimes a bigger picture has to be assessed before arriving at the conclusion someone is not what they claim to be.

With AI and other technologies, we never know who we’re dealing with, but honestly, my stomach would turn, if I discovered that my intimate sexual fantasies, were being shared with a man. It’s always appreciated when people can be honest.

On the French-language forum, I'd say 95% of the women aren't actually women.

I think they're men who've found a way to arouse themselves through chatting, sometimes with lesbians, hoping to get intimate confessions and photos via messaging.

On the French-language forum, I'd say 95% of the women aren't actually women.

I think they're men who've found a way to arouse themselves through chatting, sometimes with lesbians, hoping to get intimate confessions and photos via messaging.

With those odds it is probably two guys, posing as lesbians, chatting with each other. 😁

This makes me glad that I'm not looking for someone!

I like to suggestions of talking on the phone and sooner rather than later. I don't know if you're aware of it, but you can get relatively inexpensive software that can do a great deal of analysis with somebody's vocal presence new.

The thing that I would do is make sure they tell you who they are. I would not begin to put any effort out until I was absolutely certain of who the person was first, last name, where they were born. That would end this nonsense.

Of course, as I said, I'm very glad that I'm not looking for someone! If I were, they would have to be local and I live in a large metropolitan area so it shouldn't be a problem to find somebody in an area of 10 million people

With those odds it is probably two guys, posing as lesbians, chatting with each other. 😁

OK, that’s really funny 🤣