Men posing as women on zity

Hi all- I've wondered how many "female" participants are actually men on this forum...first, fetishism is more common amongst men than women, and second, some of the posts seem suspiciously masculine or otherwise clueless about female anatomy/psychology/physiology.

thanks for your thoughts!

I'd beg to differ on heavy periods, I didn't know what was considered heavy until I was in my 30s, and I had highly symptomatic iron deficiency anemia from them. The reason was period cramps and just feeling yucky on it were dismissed at home as it is what it is. It wasn't until a medical assistant got cross with me when I said I didn't know that I found out that yes I actually do have a heavy flow. A gyn visit to address it was never brought up because the expectation was this was normal and I didn't know any better. I like the way PT phrases it, just because it's common doesn't mean it's normal. While it's managed better on supplemental progesterone and iron, I've had 3 practitioners of different specialties all highly suspicious there's more going on.

At one time I moderated a fetish chat and it was *extremely* common for men interested in it to pose as women. Their goal seemed to be private discussion at an intimate level with men who thought they were women, presumably while they both masturbated.

Our attempts to weed out the fakes were futile, but like you, we found a lot of "women" to be utterly clueless about things all women know. I remember one member telling me "she" was really stacked and wore a size 50LLL bra. At the high-end retailers, you can get a 50 band size, and an L cup, but there is no LLL. A fifty-inch band suggests quite a large lady as well, but this person also claimed to weigh 125.

Sad but its true, it happens on many sites.

So just so I understand it correctly, you're a man yourself, but you think you can judge the correct answer a woman would give to invasive personal questions?

I mean, I knew why I didn't like "practising doctors" before, but thanks again for the confirmation I guess.

Hi sien kleines-

Sorry! wasn’t trying to “mansplain”!

It’s just that I have literally spoken with thousands (tens of thousands?) of women about their periods etc and this person’s responses just seemed very off, like a man thinking he understood women’s physiology in a very simplistic way. I certainly wasn’t trying to imply that I somehow have some special insight into women that they themselves don’t have! Sorry if it came across that way.

I have an account on Fetlife and have already called out a guy on there who, most likely, poses as a woman here on Zity. If they are an enema lovin woman who is also mature, I would be suspicious.

People are strange... 🤷🏼‍♂️

Ive had it happen to me a few times

I think men posing as females is still quite common. Personally I have no clue what their motivation is. Especially when those "women" are on hook-up sites.

As for spotting them, I think it is pretty easy in many cases. Some examples given by @tedhe are maybe not the best, especially one regarding "strong periods".

Such qualifiers are very subjective. Both from personal and 'local' perspective. For example, since I will use male anatomy, since I am male - to not trigger @sein_Kleines - in my teens I though that my penis was small, then thanks to some research and feedback from sexual partners I begun to think I was "slightly above average". Then I moved to UK, and I moved to "well endowed" category. Now, living in US, I am back to "slightly above".

So just so I understand it correctly, you're a man yourself, but you think you can judge the correct answer a woman would give to invasive personal questions?.

The easiest way to tell a man pretending to be a woman is to ask question related to female physiology and anatomy. Knowledge from biology lessons and some insights gained by living with female partner is enough. Even for a male.

Makes me wonder if any females register as males to avoid getting hit on.

It's a problem on most sites. The bigger the site the bigger the issue. Think male accounts draw the most interest from Males pretending to be females. But from experience it happens the other way round. Sorry to say, a female throwing herself at me is generally a guy. But heard a fair few stories from my guy friends having issues with males pretending to be females. One that even went all the way to meeting up.

Saw another thread relating to the rude responses on Fet. Learnt the majority of the rudeness comes from having their fingers burnt by fake accounts of some description. I don’t play on line and avoid chat rooms etc in part because of fakes. For myself accounts that males acting as females, are not my biggest concern or threat, but then I not guy guessing if it’s a regular issue it sucks.

Interesting thread. I never gave this a lot of thought.

Makes me wonder if any females register as males to avoid getting hit on.

I doubt it happens here on zity...

I knew a girl that was very keen on creating male accounts, especially on gay sites...

But that was specifically to get attention.

It happens , there have been a few here I suspected over the years. Sometimes I wear panties that's as close as I come

There’s really no way to tell who’s who in cyberspace, but there are generally some subtle nuances in how each gender communicates . From what I’ve seen, it seems like the majority of posts come from men. I’ve discussed things like rectal temps and anal sex with close female friends, and they thought it was perverted and inappropriate. If there are women out there who get turned on by it, I would love to hear from them.

Yeah I'm sure it happens on all sites. I know for a FACT several guys posing as women have been banned on here, and good thing. I'm sure they do it to get their jollies or rocks off. 😡

The easiest way to tell a man pretending to be a woman is to ask question related to female physiology and anatomy. Knowledge from biology lessons and some insights gained by living with female partner is enough. Even for a male.

I still don’t get it. You say you as a man could spot the right answer by having knowledge and insights. But another man couldn’t possibly GIVE the right answer because.. he can’t have the same knowledge and insights?

I have the same suspicion for a few female accounts that messaged me. Usually I got the feeling pretty fast that something was off. It was just the way they talked about certain things.

But I could imagine that it is possible to fake being a woman in a not so obvious way pretty easily. I've chatted to quite a few men on here that had a lot of knowledge about female anatomy and physiology. Much more than I have😅

I still don’t get it. You say you as a man could spot the right answer by having knowledge and insights. But another man couldn’t possibly GIVE the right answer because.. he can’t have the same knowledge and insights?

People are not born equal, some are more clever, some are less, and some are just dumb.

@tedhe you seem to think you know how a female would answer? Well if you ask me my favourite brand of lip gloss, I would not know brand either, because I don't really care, neither do I care for flavour, I rarely wear make up, and if I do, it is usually because I like the colour.

Periods? Well I have not really asked many other women about their periods, so I would not know if mine are heavy or not in comparison to " normal"

Yes there probably are males here pretending to be females, but is that not the " beauty" of the Internet? The fact you are anonymous?

Some members are "open books" others keep the truth much closer to their chest.

Most men posing as women expose themselves pretty quickly when one talks about gynecology. Very few men know the procedure as well as a woman does.

And, frankly, if a man poses as a women and I don't notice, why would I care, and how could I care? I would need to mistrust everybody I am talking to.

I know there are many, I encounter some but to be honest if you ask me the brand of the lip gloss I wore when I was young ... I must say I don't remember or much care, ask me the brand of fondation I use and I will reply.

As for period... Well a woman can tell you she doesn't know because she has never compared her period probably. But yeah most of us know how to describe it and the pain and the duration and everything else quite well. If we don't we are either sport-champion which means our period is so messed up we often skip it, or we do have problem. Or yes maybe the person talking to you is a man which means they never fully experience the whole "wonderful joy and annoyance" of period...

The rules of Zity.biz say this about members posing as the opposite sex...

DO NOT

• Do not pretend to be of the opposite sex.

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=sip;ox=rules

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Moderation would like to ask members to please report, with the evidence they have, any member(s) that they believe are not who they say they are. It helps moderators to keep the forum free from this type of confusion. It helps get members, and issues, dealt with sooner so that an issue does not spread.

Reporting any issue that is breaking the rules helps moderation keep the forum the best it can be. This is possible with help from our members.

As moderators, we do not ignore such reports as might happen on other platforms. Here on Zity, we are actually proactive in dealing with these issues. Indeed there are currently two accounts in particular that I suspect are fake females, and they are on borrowed time...

I have the same suspicion for a few female accounts that messaged me. Usually I got the feeling pretty fast that something was off. It was just the way they talked about certain things.

I talked to a female somewhat recently who wanted a lot of personal info, I was highly sus and thought I was getting pumped for information.

A "female" who I was talking to a long time ago was actually a guy and was banned. He came back and made anther account and was banned again. Moderators took care of it quickly.

Just in case anyone is worried about me, there are two people on this website who can verify that I am in fact a girl 😁

I talked to a female somewhat recently who wanted a lot of personal info, I was highly sus and thought I was getting pumped for information.

A "female" who I was talking to a long time ago was actually a guy and was banned. He came back and made anther account and was banned again. Moderators took care of it quickly.

@Allie80 - Thanks for giving us the information. And I've actually had the same individual banned a further 12 times since then.

@Allie80 - Thanks for giving us the information. And I've actually had the same individual banned a further 12 times since then.

🤦🏼‍♀️ Why does that not surprise me?

Thank you for your service @DrZ

There are certainly people here who I’ve had my suspicions about but I kind of start with the premise that everything on the internet is fake and then work from there. If, over time, people are consistent and aren’t spouting nonsense I’ll grant they may be what they claim but my default is people are lying. OTOH I’m not here to meet anyone IRL and I don’t like chat sex so it’s not something that’s directly affected me

@Nurse_Phillips I kind of start with the premise that everything on the internet is fake and then work from there.

Along that line, it's why I start my profile by saying - Please take what I say in my many posts with a grain of salt; actually with a whole box of salt - I sometimes embellish when I'm horny....

"The Internet, where men are men, women are men, and little children are FBI agents", they used to say.