Is a boy ever too old to have his mom sit in?

Moms like to sit in on their children's exams.

Is a boy ever too old to have his mom come in with him for his physical exam?

Does your mom go in with you?

Moms like to sit in on their children's exams.

Is a boy ever too old to have his mom come in with him for his physical exam?

Does your mom go in with you?

If you have an illness and your mother is there to take notes or make sure all questions were answered that would be appropriate.

It would NOT BE APPROPRIATE to have her come in to watch the physician check out your balls.

Were you really serious about this question? You couldn't figure that out?

If you are a boy I would say ok. Maybe if there was an illness to take notes or ask a question etc. If your over 16 I think you can handle your own exam. At a point you are not a little boy your are a teen. If you can drive you don't need a parent with you at the doctor.

This is interesting. I agree that if you're a teen, one ought to be able to see the doctor alone for important reasons. Personal questions or concerns are more easily addressed or there is an opportunity for that to take place. I would assume that for a male, it would be better for mom to wait outside the exam room by the time you don't want her to see you having to show all of your parts! For most of us, male or female, it is around the age of 11 on and surely by teen years.

If my son asked, I would go with him. The reason or age wouldn't matter. Two can be better to understand what the doctor is saying. If there are any physical exams, I would step out if he wanted.

Sometimes it is just knowing I am spending time with him. The memories we have, because of our time together, is priceless. Even if it is because of a medical issue.

I think my Mom would have jumped at the chance . She always took us to the doctor and would come in the exam room. she would help me undress, same with my sister. She was there during the exam , no matter hoe intrusive it was . She would talk with the Doctor, and the nurse. Sometimes this got very embarrassing. I was about 13 when Mom said to the nurse, I know he will be starting puberty , is there anything I should know about that, I have no experience with young boys, I grew up with 3 sisters, so I don't know what to expect with boys. They were talking like to ladies at tea, like I was not in the room. The nurse said well there might be wet dreams , so have check his sheets, sometimes they are to embarrassed to say anything. I said MOM !!. they looked at me and laughed. It's OK I have to know about this.

Not a problem for me. My first exam was the army physical and she certainly wasn't invited.

If a son at any age wants his mom to be present I think it's great. It's a compliment to a mom. I was delighted that my mom wanted to be with me and I was glad to give her the chance to enjoy watching the doctor lower my underpants and allow her to see him examining and handling my penis and testicles and for her to see each year how nicely my boy parts were developing. She especially appreciated that I was comfortable with her being there once I entered puberty. It gave her immense satisfaction that I allowed her to see my maturing penis and testicles with hair around them and especially when my penis got erect. Why are we so afraid these days of nudity? Our bodies are beautiful. Let's enjoy being human again.

Work as a healthcare professional and do not see an issue with it. If a boy is more comfortable with his mom present do not see any problem with it.

I'd say yes. Once a child reaches and is starting to go through puberty, mom should stay in the waiting room, and then be invited into the exam room when physical is finished. Then doctor, nurse and mom can discuss all the details in private. Depending how rapid the male developes, I'd say around ages eleven to thirteen, that mom should remain in the waiting room.

When I was a kid and went to a pediatrician... the doctor wouldn't talk to the parent alone. He didn't want private conversations and wanted the kids involved in their care. Seen him till I was 15. During physicals he would ask my mom to step out of the room. Thank god!!!

My mom always went with me when I was growing up. Even into my teens. I never thought anything of it, because she was always there.

I think the answer to your question is different for everyone. It doesn’t seem like there’s really a hard and fast rule on it. I’d say if you like your mom sitting in, go for it. If at some point you’d prefer more privacy, nothing wrong with that either ?

My mom always wanted to come in with me until the 16. Soon as i turned 17 i was allowed to Go Alone.

I *think* its best that a parent stops going in the exam room once the son turns 12-13yrs old or when puberty starts. That wasn't the case for me as my mother was in the exam room watching all the way up until I was 18yrs old. It was very embarrassing since I would get an erection and ejaculate often at the exams and the doctor spoke to my mother as if I was just a "test" subject. It wasn't the most comfortable, I kind of got use to it overtime.

I was 15 the last time my mother was in the examination room, so neither an adult or a little boy anymore! My mother would have waited outside but the doctor invited her in. I had stomach pains and the doctor examined me suspecting a hernia, which of course means exposing the genitals completely. My mother was more than happy to 'watch closely' as the doctor examined me.

My mom stopped going in with me when I was about 12 or 13. Ironically, the first time she didn't go in with me was when the doctor diagnosed my testicular cyst. So after I was dressed, we all went back to the doctor's office and he explained in detail to my mom and me what my cyst was and went over pediatric urologic options with her.

So my first exam that I wasn't supposed to have my mom sit in on turned out to be the most embarrassing one of all! Oh, the irony.

Thankfully, she didn't ask to be in the exam room for any of my appointments with the pediatric urologist.

Wow, this topic is so laser-focused on experiences I actually had. My mother came in with me to EVERY pediatric exam, until I was transitioned to a family doctor at 15. She knew the two nurses that worked there since I was a small boy, so it was literally as if I had no say. I was routinely given a rectal temperature with my mother present and also at the time, per her preference for me. I realize it was a far different era, but I also can relate that I was shy, and embarrassed.

I'm a Family Medicine resident, and see kids as part of our program.

I'd say its really up to the kid to decide if he wants his mom in the room or not. Based on my observation, I think age 12 or 13 is about the oldest that a mom should be in the room, but, as I said, it depends on what the kid wants.

My mom came in with me to the pediatric exams until the age of about 12/13. It was my last exam before transitioning to Highschool, where it was also no longer considered appropriate for parents to sit in. That specific last exam with my mother being present, also happens to be my first physical exam that I can actually remember very well. I remember having to undress down to my briefs while my mom was chatting with the doctor about my file. Then I was measured and weighted, had to walk around the room, stand on my toes, heels, on one leg, and so on. I was a rather shy boy, but I remember that I felt some level of exitement by all this attention for my body, while having to walk around almost naked in front of two fully clothed adults, of which one (the doctor) was a total stranger to me. Then I had to come and stand before the doctor and he directed me to blow as hard as possible on the back of my hand. To my surprise (at that time), he then gently pulled down my briefs to my ankles and took a long stare at my exposed genitals. I'm not sure what exactly triggered it this first time, but while the doctor took his time watching me, my penis quickly started to uncontrollably grow to a full erection. I felt rather embarrassed but the doctor did not seem to mind and without saying a word, he gently started to feel my balls and erect penis. Luckily my mom was sitting behind me at the back of the exam room and could only see my bare bottom. When the doctor was finished, he carefully pulled up my briefs again, covering up my erection before my mom could notice. I still remember that I had to admid that it felt good when the doctor had touched my penis, and I often fatansized about it in the days/weeks after. I also liked the idea that there was this kind of 'little secret' between the doctor and me in which he had privately seen my erection without anybody else knowing.

In the years after, based on this first memory, I kind of knew what to expect at the schooldoctor and always had an erection already up front out of anticipation. I'm not sure by what I was triggered the most. Maybe it was because of having to be (almost) naked in front of a clothed stranger or maybe it was because of loving the feeling of being (intimately) touched. However, certainly at that age, it also always appeared to me that the build up of pressure in your belly when instructed to blow on your hand, somehow contributed to getting an erection. Actually, for quite some early years at the schooldoctor, I believed that the purpose of the whole thing was to get an erection such that the doctor could examine it.....only much later I was told that it actually was used as a hernia check.

My mother accompanied me during visits to the doctor until about 15 years of age. At that time it seemed very embarrassing to me. I was not ashamed of my mother only that he saw me during intimate examinations carried out by a doctor. Today, I thought it was good for me. I agree that this deepens the bond, although it is a difficult experience for a maturing boy.

In psychology healthy families like mine it only strengthened and deepened our mother/son relationship by letting my mom see me naked even after puberty.

My pediatrician's office, as a matter of policy, required a parent to be in the examining room, or at least someone over the age of 21. It might have been done for insurance or liability purposes, but it certainly was done. My Mom came to most of my exams through the age of 12. After that, my Dad was in the room for most. Sometimes, if there was a work situation and he couldn't be there, my Mom would have to come. I wasn't too happy about either one being in the room, but there was nothing I could do about it. Eventually, especially toward the end of the exam, I would be fully naked with nowhere to run or hide. Neither one of them every discussed this with me, but every time I went to the doctor I would have this uneasy feeling of either or both of them sitting there and observing everything. After going through puberty I don't think anyone really wants their parents seeing them naked.

@medexam Thanks for the great description of your exam experience. That’s great that your Doctor was nice enough to keep your erection “your little secret “ as you put it.

Don't think there is a cut off regarding age. If a boy is comfortable with his mom in the room I don't have a problem with that.

Anything after 12 seems a bit unnecessary. The doctor can always inform the parent after the exam should they find anything that need a follow-up. But getting to the meat and potatos of this question, no (99.9%) teenage boy wants their parent in the room while they’re getting their balls felt...that’s just a bit creepy.

The last exam my mom was in the room was at age 15 I think, and then she was told to step out for the physical exam portion. I think as a teen it is a little unnecessary for the patient's mom to be present for the exam portion. I agree with the previous poster that the doctor can always inform the parent about anything abnormal after the exam. This was the case for my exam experiences during teenage years. At 16 and 17 my mom would not be in the room for either the interview or the physical.

The only time I saw a doctor was when I got the measles. No need for an exam. It was "yep he's got em".

The last time my mom went to an appointment with me was at age 17 when I saw a urologist for a varicocele. The urologist kicked her out of the exam room before he examined me (thank god!). To this day I’m not sure why she even went with me. I had horrible social anxiety at the time and her being in the room during the interview kept me from being as direct and honest as I should have been.

Unfortunately, surgery wasn’t recommended and it ended up causing me to have hypogonadism at age 25.

@Adorkable with you being a Family medicine resident do you see adolescent female patients around age 12 or 13 alone in the exam room or does the female patient have their parent in the room as well. Or do you ask the parent to step out when you do the physical exam and talk to the female patient without the parent in the exam room?

My mom came with me to exams up until I was about 12 years old at which my dad would go with me as the pediatrician I went to required a parent or guardian to come with you to all exams and once I started puberty I no longer felt comfortable with my mom in the room.