I stopped having a parent with me once I turned 13. If there was anything the dr needed to tell them, he could do that after the exam. I dont Typically like to “yuck someone’s yum”, but the focus on parents and siblings that pops up in the fetish is very bizarre to me.I can kind of understand it. At that young age, a parent or sibling is often the ONLY person that someone can have that level of trust, comfort, and psuedo-intimacy with. For a lot of youngins', a detailed physical exam is a defining moment and a rite of passage, as it's often their first intimate physical experience with someone of the opposite gender.In all honesty, I have to wonder what it was REALLY like for males who were been examined by a female doctor in the presence of their moms and / or sisters. Do they look back on the experience fondly, or does the whole thing make them shudder?
I agree with both of you (@ILuvLadyDocs & @Patient_dr ). There are three sides to every story. Privacy in that intimate setting is desired in some people but not in others. Some are comfortable in the setting of a medical exam while others (may have been through traumatic events or else wise) feel comfortable with a family member present in such an intimate setting. I believe that it's the patient's desire but in the same regard, I feel like many adolescents are more apt to divulge more personal information in a one-on-one environment as opposed to a relative being present.
being naked and vulnerable in front of a parental figure who's NOT a blood relation had to be surreal and bizarre.I've never really understood why blood relations get the benefit of the doubt and a sort of de facto OK to witness embarrassing things about other family members.I much prefer strangers being present when undergoing a naked exam or other medical examinations. I couldn't stand the idea of my father being present (luckily he never was) because of his need to be overbearingly rough and tough masculine. My mother acted like every time a doctor examined me she would hear news about a terminal disease and my siblings could never be trusted not to be snide, sneaky and uncharitable.Blood relations carried no weight with me. Hated the thought of them being present. After all, once the exam was over, these relations would still be in your life, while a stranger wouldn't. Just a ship passing in the dark should anything embarrassing happen during the exam.With family you get the 'familiarity breeds contempt' effect or the telling of cute, embarrassing family stories during family gatherings, the worst kind of gossip. And with family, it is as if one were constantly being judged.
Whenever the boy is no longer comfortable with her being there, OR he turns 18, whichever comes first- that's when he's too old.As always- local laws, individual hospital policy, and family dynamics may apply.I agree. There is no one answer that covers everyone's circumstances.
IIn all honesty, I have to wonder what it was REALLY like for males who were been examined by a female doctor in the presence of their moms and / or sisters. Do they look back on the experience fondly, or does the whole thing make them shudder?Having had that experience well into my teenage years, and in the presence of an aunt who was not even technically a blood relation (she had been married to my dad's brother), I can only speak for myself, but I do not look back on those experiences fondly. It's been over 40 years since the last one, and it can still make me blush.That having been said, I know it had to be what led me here, so it shaped who I became and I live with that. But I still would not wish the experience on anyone else.
My mum sat in with me at the GP until I was about 9 years old. Once a year my mum would need an injection on her arm or in her buttock for allergies and we would often share an appointment.From aged 9 till 11 my mum went with me but stayed in the waiting room. From 12 years on, at all but one occasion I went to the GP alone and my father picked me up after the appointment.When I had gynaecomastia at about 14 the doctor examined me and then called my mum in to look at my man boobs.