Heteroflexible vs bi

Most of my posts on this topic have been in reaction to other posts. I've never really answered the question about ratio of hetero to same sex experiences.

Obviously during the homophobic period of my life, 100% of my sexual encounters were hetero.Since being "driven" to become bi, driven due to a combo of lack of interest on the part of the opposite gender to want to have sex with me and the interest men were taking in me once I became open to the idea, the ratio shifted to 100% same sex.

I'm still searching for opportunities for opposite sex... sex. But take the naughty seniors hook up website for example. I'm there for..."naughty seniors". But if you look at a lot of the women's profiles, despite whatever kinks they have, they're looking for love and a relationship. When I tell them up front I'm in it for fun, happiness and good times, but not love and a relationship (& i come right out up front and say I'm married), i usually stop hearing from them.

Because for fun, happiness, and good times, men are much more amenable; women seemingly not so much.

Obviously during the homophobic period of my life, 100% of my sexual encounters were hetero.Since being "driven" to become bi, driven due to a combo of lack of interest on the part of the opposite gender to want to have sex with me and the interest men were taking in me once I became open to the idea, the ratio shifted to 100% same sex.

I wouldn't say I had a homophobic period but more of a total disinterest in it and could in no way understand the appeal of it all. I too was driven into by being in a situation where I couldn't easily have female company round as it was a room share. My room mate was in the same situation and totally out of the blue suggested we do it.

We didn't stop with one encounter either but it was a shock later in life to find out ladies aren't as ameliable as guys though.

Obviously during the homophobic period of my life, 100% of my sexual encounters were hetero.

When/why were you afraid of homosexuals?

When/why were you afraid of homosexuals?

I was creeped out by what I witnessed of the ones that were out, between what I saw on TV and what I saw in NYC. What i saw fed into the stereotype of what they were. I also thought sexual activity between 2 men was gross and disgusting. Especially the anal sex portion of the program. I was never comfortable with being touched by a man either. And of course being raised catholic didn't help matters any. Attending a homophobic high school, where one of the worst things you could call someone was a queer or a fag. Worse if it was believed someone actually was. Any you'd hear it all the time, whether in jest, or mocking one's behavior. It was the last thing you'd wanna be, and the last thing you'd wanna be thought of.

@JTMac: I enjoyed reading your post below and can relate. Reading your profile after is interesting the way you changed... I was like you wrote below... creeped out by anything M to M.. and my background is the same about religion and the worst thing called. I married first wife young, not because I had to, but because I was so horny for have gal to have lots of sex with.. So what happened to change me -- two things: My love of enemas was first, then my love of women wearing girdles and 1950's style underwear. For now, I'll discuss the first - my love of enemas, and the need to have someone, especially someone not into kink watch me take them... the embarrassment of having another person know that I liked taking an enema we sexually very exciting. The more the other person was a stranger to me, the better it was! So, simply having my wife know was good, but not as good as if a "normal" stranger did it. Since, as a child I received all my enemas from my father, the natural choice was to find a man who would give and watch..

I was creeped out by what I witnessed of the ones that were out, between what I saw on TV and what I saw in NYC. What i saw fed into the stereotype of what they were. I also thought sexual activity between 2 men was gross and disgusting.

M2M sex has been given a certain sort of coverage in the media of many years I'm sure, which doesn't tally with people real life experiences if they actually have them. The idea and reality can be very different as I found out.

For my own the difference between heteroflexible and bi is feeling love or not. I call myself heteroflexible; I'm hetero, but also interested in few adventures with other guys. This has only a sexual kick; I love women and would never kiss a guy. If I would call me bisexual, I had to open my total love-including feeling to both genders, kiss girls and guys.

For my own the difference between heteroflexible and bi is feeling love or not. I call myself heteroflexible; I'm hetero, but also interested in few adventures with other guys. This has only a sexual kick; I love women and would never kiss a guy. If I would call me bisexual, I had to open my total love-including feeling to both genders, kiss girls and guys.

Being heteroflexible or bisexual doesn't necessarily have anything to do with love.

https://www.quora.com/Is-heteroflexibility-a-part-of-bisexuality?share=1

Heteroflexible means the same as bisexual: both of them mean being open to being sexual with someone of more than one gender in the future, in the right circumstances for that person (eg only within/outside a relationship etc). Most people who identify as heteroflexible do so to avoid that nasty word bisexual which they want to avoid being identified with.

https://wikidiff.com/heteroflexible/bisexual

Heteroflexible is a hyponym of bisexual.

As adjectives the difference between heteroflexible and bisexual is that heteroflexible is primarily heterosexual, but open to taking part in a limited amount of homosexual activity while bisexual is sexually attracted to members of either sex.

Heteroflexible is just a fancier way of saying bisexual

Heteroflexible is just a fancier way of saying bisexual

That’s what I said. You were just much more succinct! 😀😜😀

Googling I found …. difference between heteroflexible and bisexual is that heteroflexible is primarily heterosexual, but open to taking part in a limited amount of homosexual activity while bisexual is (sexuality|of humans or other animals) sexually attracted to members of either sex.

To quote Saber Nero of Type Moon "If it is beautiful I want it" I will go with the definition of Bi sexuality attracting both sexes . It does seem to work that way. That would make Hetroflexable a choice rather tham a genetic state. I wonder if there are Bisexuals that just desire the opposite sex and keep being hit on by same sex pepole? That would be really messed up for them. I tend to go with Saber Nero on this one. Sort of sums up the whole being Bi and enjoying it to the fullest.

I has never had the desire to be with a man. I had the same Catholic upbringing as detailed here in other posts. I think this thread discusses this is a sane and enlightening way and just wanted to pass kudos on to everyone participating. Really great job! I am really enjoying it.

Soooo…. since we're labeling stuf.. Is there a thing like “homoflexable” ? or am I bI? - and who cares? (I am writing this for the fun of it)

I had a 6 years relationship with a man whom I liked, but no chemistry etc. and I didn't love him, but the sex was good. He always tried to please me in all the ways that I prefffered. but i only fall in love with women. though, I sometimes, if single and horny.. probably drunk, had some ok sex with 2 guys. I'm that cliche of a drunk woman having sex lol… but the sex with men is just mechanichal, but with women it's… all the body, mind and heart and.. totally different. and I'm , for years now, declaring myself as a lesbian. but as it happends, I can fuck some men if there are no women in my life.. sex just for sex.. so, by definition unknown to me (lol) am I BI or… ?

just have to add that I'm not that into labels at all, I wrote this cause I was inspired by some posts here.. but at the end of the day, whatever name we put on one or ourselves, I go by my name, not my sexual orientation.

Why bother with labels, just accept whatever you like doing for what it is. I enjoy engaging in sexual activities with men and women. I have never fall in love with man, but I have loved women. I have a regulars male buddy, he and I masturbate together, perform oral etc. I am also married to a woman, and have had many female sexual partners in my life as well. So call it what you want but why bother with labeling anything

Love making is visceral. Touch, feel, smell, taste, sound. To deny that is to deny yourself. I love everything about a woman. Men, not so much. How can I blame a woman for not feeling the same things.