Losing desire for pain after orgasm

A reader said he enjoyed ball crushing but wanted to get it off as soon as he had an orgasm. I also found that whatever I've been doing--self-spanking, looking at porn, CBT--the intense desire to engage in the fetish activity stops immediately after orgasm. I just pack up my 'stuff' and resume normal activities.

Do other readers have the same experience? If you don't stop (or your top doesn't stop spanking) how does it feel after orgasm as opposed to before? If your top won't stop do you want the top to stop or continue anyway?

My wife Pam and I both love sex with me on top while she swats my backside, (lower back, butt, and backs of my thighs), with a little flogger, or uses a riding crop on me. When I'm inside her and she swats me, I feel a little sting of pain, but my reflex to jump and pump hard into her instantly converts that little sting into several seconds of far more intense pleasure. Pam loves my jump reflex with each swat, and I feel her jump too and gasp with pleasure, which makes her want to swat me again.

Pam can use her flogger to make me cum faster, or not let me cum at all if she wants. She does this by controlling the force of her swats on my backside. Hard enough swats prevent me from having an orgasm because I feel too much pain, but there is still enough pleasure with each swat that I can't help but continue fucking her.

Pam can make me fuck her faster or slower by varying the frequency of her swats. With faster swats, I fuck her faster. With slower swats, I fuck her slower.

If Pam hits me just hard enough and just fast enough, she can make me fuck her furiously for half and hour, giving her all the orgasms she wants. She slows me down with slower swats after she has an orgasm, and then she speeds me up again with faster swats for her next orgasm, over and over again. When I'm almost completely exhausted and becoming physically unable to respond to her swats, Pam can make me cum when all my energy is gone with a rapid series of many soft swats.

There have been times when Pam has continued to whip me after my orgasm. That makes me scream in pain. It's amazing how the same soft swat that feels so good right before my orgasm can suddenly become a terrible pain right afterward.

There have been other times when Pam flogged me and we were both surprised to see the damage she did. One time she drew blood and covered my butt with bright red stripes, but I don't remember any pain at all and she thought she was just flogging me normally. She must use feedback from my reaction to gauge how hard to swat me, and that day for some reason I was reacting differently.

I saw a meme about that, saying something like, "When you finish and see what it was you got off to". I've often had that experience.

I defiantly loose the desire for any punishment to be applied after orgasm, especially to my balls. Having said that, I am a complete hedonist, I look for pleasure over the long run and if going through some pain to obtain greater pleasure I am willing to do that. I am also masochist by nature so I will allow myself to be subjected to pain to that leads to the ultimate outcome, pleasure.

I discovered early in my life that spanking is a sexual act, at least for me. That is why am so opposed to corporal punishment for children, I consider it sex abuse. The threat of a paddling only does one thing for me, turn me on. The spanking usually leads to a climax. I really enjoy that but there are pleasures beyond that.

If I am told either in advance or during the spanking that I will subjected to further punishment post climax, that heightens the excitement and the dread. I must say that the dread of punishment is a big turn-on for me.

The the time comes(no pun intended), for that climax just before the real punishment starts, I try every thing to hold back, I want the climax but I hate and dread what will happen to my butt next. As I have said in other post, when they push you out the door over the drop zone there is no going back, the fall is so pleasurable but you know the ground is coming up and that case to not be very pleasurable when parachute technology was primitive. I would give anything to take back that ejaculation but that is impossibe.

So there I am ass our or ass up awaiting the dreaded impact of the paddle. I am going to use the paddle for this discussion for an instrument of punishment any other will do. Then wham! I would give anything for my ass to be anywhere else or belong to anyone else. If not restrained or on something for support it is almost impossible to remain in position. The people I have trained to deliver this type of punishment are vey good at not counting that stroke or giving extra and extra had licks for too much movement.

When this ordeal is finally over, it can and usually goes on for quiet a long period, I am left with nothing but a burning ass and usually a painful ride if I am visiting the dom. Some where on that ride a feeling of peace and tranquility emerges for me. By the time I am back to where ever I am staying, I am back to being stimulate again and relived that the punishment spanking over . It is as if some burden has been lifted and my mood is greatly improve and stays that way for a long time. It is a great feeling to know I have suffered real punishment and that is the pleasure that I mentioned in the first paragraph.

It must be an endorphin thing because I get a similar feeling from a long endurance event, I have done up to 50 mile races, 4 mile swims, ling bicycle races. I have pain after those but I feel great having done them.

I am not trying to convince anyone to do this or to condemn me for putting pain in the equation to obtain a far greater pleasure than an orgasm.

Thanks;

Rob