Constant Cravings

I am 33 years old, married for ten years, and a mother of two, a boy who is 7 and a girl who is 3. I want to spice up my sex life and see if I can get out of the doldrums my husband and I are in because of our young family and keeping up with things. I have known my husband since 4th grade and we were no stranger to exploring and really took it to the limit many times but not all of the way. But I also did some exploration with another girl that I grew up with, too.

We knew from the beginning we would someday make it permanent, but until that was to happen, we did go out with other people. I did not lose my virginity to him, and he wasn't even the second or third guy I slept with after I got out of high school and he went overseas. But before he went overseas I knew it was a high probability I wouldn't see him again, and I did him without thinking twice.

Since he and I were not engaged or romantically involved other than having grown up together, I was pretty adventurous in college with other guys and I did my best to sample as much of life, and men, as I could. I know he did the same when he was away, too, but when he came back and I was through with college, we got serious about each other and decided to get married.

He turns me on like no other guy, but kids, bills, jobs, and what-have-you, made it hard to find time for us. We are needing more, and I am needing more. Although I consider myself as straight, I have always wondered what it would be like to be with another woman. When I was in high school I did the usual exploring with a girlfriend that didn't go much beyond kissing and fondling each other with the insertion of a finger or two. She was the family friend who I grew up with and who spent an awful lot of time in the principal's office or being separated to separate sides of the class room to keep us from talking in class.

We also got our new boobs at about the same time and were not afraid to show each other how fast our pubic hair was changing from 'peach fuzz' to the real deal. Likewise we both started our periods about the same time and never ever believed all that stuff about it being a blessing and all that other propaganda that was written by some guy. But she moved away and went to a different college and we both got busy with our lives and living them.

There is a song by k d lang called, "Constant Craving" that has been going through my head for quite awhile now. And for those who read my profile, I am "Straight" because there isn't a "Bi-Curious" or "Heteroflexible-Wannabe" category. I can also be a bitch.

Something has to change with my sex life and I want my husband to be a major part of that. It's been pretty vanilla for us whenever we can spare the time, but I'm getting selfish and I want more. If I can get more, then I can give more. And I think I'm looking early enough to head off divorce-court and get back that magic. I want to explore with him and find a "her" to possibly explore with, too. I need him to buy into this little need of mine, too, because he really is a sexy guy, a good husband, and a great Dad who has finally been trained to put the toilet seat down.

For right now, I am the one feeling this need the most and that is why I am here. And like @Ms_Lila said:

My husband and I are beginning our own sexual evolution and feel our renewed sexuality melding with our souls.

And I want him to see our need to get out of the rut we are in, and get our time for ourselves back so we both can be happy.

I guess I will make this "my thread" and see where this takes me. I am going to do like others who write here do, such as @Ms_Lila, and see what tips I can pick up from here.

Hi Dahiana...seems to me you are asking all the right questions and this could be the place to get them answered. This site is full of curious people and many have feelings that you have expressed. I'm sure you'll get interesting comments. If I were in your position, I'd talk my mate into joining the clothes free scene. While that claims to be non bxtkpsexual, I believe you and hubby could find new friends with whom you can explore. I bet he'll love it and I think you will too. Good luck!

I will probably have more time to answer this in depth later.

I understand your situation completely, and I'm a bi (lesbian leaning) female. I was married twice to men.

Men are really one trick ponies, and it gets tiring. Playing with another woman might do the trick. Women are multi-dimentional, and ready for a lot more in their lives.

You mention making your husband part of this. If I may suggest-

Play 1on1 with a woman first. Trying to satisfy two people is much harder. Your husband will invariably pay more attention to the new one in bed, and that can cause a lot of resentment. Find out if it works with two of you, and that scratches your itches first. Then think about adding a third.

Next- You can find a woman for some girl-girl play this afternoon. Finding one of the seven or so women in the United States that enjoys a threesome will be much, much more difficult.

Have you and your husband considered swinging? Foursomes (or two twosomes) are much easier to handle. There's enough of everything to go around. Most women into swinging love to play with another woman. There are groups, and clubs everywhere, even small towns.

Good luck!

@Dahiana

Something has to change with my sex life and I want my husband to be a major part of that. It's been pretty vanilla for us whenever we can spare the time, but I'm getting selfish and I want more. If I can get more, then I can give more.

I wanted that too and I got it with the full help and support of my husband. 😃 I was in a long term relationship with another woman who was a friend but more than a friend and he was OK with it and didn't say much about it. If you want you can read about that on my thread.

You want to improve things with both yours and your husband's sex live and also want to be with another woman. And you want to do all of that while raising a young family and doing the day to day things that take up a lot of time. Starting up an affair or experimenting with another woman while trying to do all of that is a recipe for disaster. You're my daughter's age and she also has a family of her own, so I know about time constraints and making decisions on where to spend what little time you have. I've been there and done that and it wasn't easy.

My motherly advice to you is to get your husband on board with trying new things with you first. My husband and I never did much anal because of cleanliness concerns on both our parts. But we both wanted to try spice up our bedroom too, and those few times we tried anal I saw how interested he was. So we thought, why not? And before the 'big event' I would do one of those small Fleet enemas to get ready for anal sex. I did it in the bathroom and when I was done I went in and we played around. That was a very good start but I got the idea, 'why not do the enema with him watching'? I was afraid it would gross him out but it did not, and it turned out he liked watching me put the enema tip into my bum and he seemed to be harder when he watched.

Then we started putting other things into my bum and he liked that. Things like the handles of spoons from the kitchen, a pencil, and I started actually just randomly putting things in there. A spoon from the kitchen, well why not do it when I'm in the kitchen and not wait to be in the bedroom?

I would masturbate with him there and he would watch and I asked him to watch. That alone involved him in my 'fantasy' and I would walk around the house bottomless, which I know probably isn't an option for you.

It was the little things that we did together or in each others presence that whetted our desires and I asked him to masturbate for me so I could watch him ejaculate. I was curious at how far his ejaculate could go because it always felt so strong when he would cum in me. He was hesitant at first but I insisted and it was fascinating to watch.

Along the way we made a deal with each other that we would be 'on demand' for each other no matter what. By that I mean that if he wanted to see me put something in my bum, I would do it, not ask why, it was enough that he wanted it. I got the same from him and we just built on that and are still building on that.

The match that lit our fuses on our sexual 'adventures' was the common enema bag. 😃 I was Luke warm about them to begin with and they were a means to an end, pun intended, but they took on a life of their own. Now I like them and so does he.

Start with your husband first Dahiana and get back into rhythm with him first before you go outside to get what you need. If you get him in sync with yourself then anything is possible.

Good luck! 🌹

@Dahiana

My motherly advice to you is to get your husband on board with trying new things with you first.

... @Ms_Lila knows what she is talking about ... 😃

Especially @Ms_Lila when she suggests ...

Along the way we made a deal with each other that we would be 'on demand' for each other no matter what. By that I mean that if he wanted to see me put something in my bum, I would do it, not ask why, it was enough that he wanted it. I got the same from him and we just built on that and are still building on that.

Letting your husband know that ... you will be his little whore 😈 ... slut ... or fuck toy ... whenever, wherever, however ... he wants you will get his imagination to start working. Follow through with that ... and somewhere down the line ... or maybe right away ... he will return the favor.

You are his wife ... the mother of his children ... which is all nice and good, but he needs a slut 😈 ... and it might as well be you. 😉 You are right @Dan2

...seems to me you are asking all the right questions and this could be the place to get them answered.

Make passes at him ... remind him who has the cock and where he can put it. 😉

As long as you get what you give ... 😃

I hope it works out for you ... you're young and it could be the start of a wild ride for both of you. 🌹

@Ms_Lila

My motherly advice to you is to get your husband on board with trying new things with you first.

and @gibby

You are his wife ... the mother of his children ... which is all nice and good, but he needs a slut 😈 ... and it might as well be you. 😉

If I didn't know better and closed my eyes I would swear you both are like my mother. I mean that as a compliment and I have been very surprised by her and her being so supportive of what I want to do.

As a matter of fact, a few years ago I suspected that my Mom was going through some problems or trials in her own marriage with my Dad. She wasn't her old happy self and seemed to be mopey and withdrawn and like she was keeping secrets. Dad was the same way and I could tell that, while they loved each other, there was just something out of line. I was right and I also noticed that and I felt like Mom was in the same boat that I was in and we were drifting apart. Well not really drifting apart, but not as close as we used to be. She was bitchy and short tempered even though I was so kind, understanding, and always positive. 🙄 (That's me lying.)

But in just the past few months, and especially the past couple of days I have seen her in a totally new light and it is nothing short of awesome! She's been very supportive of me exploring ways to get my husband convinced to try some new things and is giving me some pointers and ideas just as I am seeing here.

I told her about wanting to do something with another woman and she suggested my childhood girlfriend, but I told her how that probably wouldn't work. The only thing she has been discouraging me from going after right now is my wanting to try something more in-depth with another woman. Her lack of enthusiasm about either of the two women I am interested in kind of put a wet-blanket on things for me. She tells me, like I'm told by you two here, that I should first get my husband up to speed and get that going good before adding to our sex life, or my sex life. I think a lot of her reluctance has to do with the fact that the women I would be interested in are both older than me.

Aside from that, I am astonished at just how much she has opened up to me and me to her over the past couple of days! It has been amazing for me and what I am learning about her and from her is showing me how very complex of a woman she is. I'm just barely getting to know her as someone other than my Mom and that she is much more of a woman than I ever dreamed.

So, in a way, just concentrating on getting my husband interested in playing more and getting to know my Mom in ways most daughters never get to do, I think I've got enough to do for now.

I can understand your mother's reluctance @Dahiana

She tells me, like I'm told by you two here, that I should first get my husband up to speed and get that going good before adding to our sex life, or my sex life. I think a lot of her reluctance has to do with the fact that the women I would be interested in are both older than me.

There are several things I would need to know before I could really comment on this.

[1] How do you think your husband would react to your being with another woman? Even if you are just exploring?

[2] How much older than you are these two women you would be interested in?

[3] Do these older women know you are interested in them sexually?

[4] Are you just wanting to experiment with either of them or would you want something more?

[5] Does your husband know either of these women?

[6] How long have you known these women and are they friends or do they have your best interest at heart?

[7] What makes you think that either of these women would be interested in having a sexual relationship with another woman? Especially a younger woman?

[8] Does or has your mother ever been involved with another woman? If so, are either of these women currently involved with your mother?

[9] How far or how willing are you to submit to either of these women 'teaching' you the way to be with her and satisfy her IF she consented to have you?

Wouldn't it make a lot more sense to put your efforts towards getting your husband fully involved with your budding sexual appetite? Wouldn't it be something if you could BOTH catch fire together and then invite others to join you if that is what you BOTH want?

You are about my daughter's age @Dahiana and if she wanted to explore sex with another woman, an older woman, I would hope that my daughter would be emotionally ready for that, unless it is her just wanting some cheap little fling just to see what it would be like. From what I am reading about you @Dahiana I don't think you would be happy with just a quick fling.

I'm just asking. 😃

@Dahiana ... I totally agree with @Ms_Lila and all of the questions she has raised below. The few women I have been with ... I've known them for quite awhile ... and shared myself with them intimately for awhile before even taking them to bed ... or ... being taken to bed by them. 😃 The women that I had sex with ... am having sex with ... were first friends and ... then ... lovers ... and we all shared at least one interest ... enemas ... which was a starting point for our relationship.

My first ... real ... lover / mentor ... Gail ... was older than me but we started out as friends and then gradually worked up to sharing intimate thoughts ... then enemas ... and then a bed. But I never once ... ever ... thought she was just someone to fuck and then move on.

@Ms_Lila makes a powerful point

Wouldn't it make a lot more sense to put your efforts towards getting your husband fully involved with your budding sexual appetite? Wouldn't it be something if you could BOTH catch fire together and then invite others to join you if that is what you BOTH want?

And I'm enjoying that now ... 🌹

I hope you don't mind all these questions ... but you sound like a very nice woman and I'd like to see you get your wishes. 😃

@Ms_Lila and @gibby, I really do appreciate your comments and your thought provoking questions. I have given them a lot of thought and things are changing with my husband and my sex life a little faster than I could have hoped for. Your very excellent advice of:

Wouldn't it make a lot more sense to put your efforts towards getting your husband fully involved with your budding sexual appetite? Wouldn't it be something if you could BOTH catch fire together and then invite others to join you if that is what you BOTH want?

That is very good advice and I did hear that from my Mom, too, so there must be something to it. 😉 And although I'm far from being a kid, and even more far removed from being remotely considered a virgin, your thoughts were good for me to read. Luckily for me and my husband, we are both young enough and very active, to both realize we need to do something to keep our sex lives where we want them to be. All it is taking is that he and I communicate with each other, and my saying something to him broke the ice for him and I found out he was thinking much the same thing as I was. I think being of a younger generation, and his and my past history of basically being childhood sweethearts, is going to make it easier for us explore our options. 😃

I found out my husband has been thinking along these lines, too, for probably as long as I have, maybe longer, but he figured I was just too busy to bring up the subject. He's a lunk-head at times and leaves the toilet seat up too often, but he is a great Dad, and really is considerate, but not all that articulate. Then again, being articulate wasn't high on my list of what attracted me to him. 😉 Likewise, he works his ass off all of the time and I don't even have to ask him to feed the kids, or do what needs to be done with them, and he makes time to get them to appointments, school, or day-care when I can't do it. We were both giving each other a lot of space, too much space, and not giving each other credit for either of us wanting to know when the other wanted something, like sex, from the other. I'm guilty of that and he is, too, and I think we are both a little surprised that it is a good thing to be a little selfish and let the other know when we have a need for something.

SO, while we work this out between ourselves, I'm going to suggest that we may need to go so far as to tell each other something like, "I need to be fucked, or, I want you to fuck me." Or, "Let's fuck." As I write this I am thinking things through, and that is something Mom says helps her works things out.

Right at this moment, with things changing the way they are and so fast, I am finding out I don't need a "mother figure" or an older woman that can teach me how to screw another woman. I already have a Mom and she is very human, warts and all, and pretty wise, herself. 🌹 And since my husband and I have "discovered" we are both pretty much at the same realization about needing to change-up our sex lives and communicate with each other that maybe Zity.Biz wasn't where I need to be. HOWEVER, that little thought came and went as fast as I thought it.

This isn't just a porn site with sex stories, pictures, gratuitous sex talk and a meat-market. Not hardly and even I, a younger woman, have to tip my hat to some of the older people here at just how honest and heart-felt you are in talking about your own sexual needs. I am blown away at just how honest people are here with each other and with "young" people like me.

I had found this place a few months back and read some of the posts here as a guest and I was impressed with it. Now, I've been a member here, officially, for two or three days, and I can hardly believe at how complex this place is. The chat rooms, the seeing "behind the scenes", the information, the comments, and on and on, is way beyond what I expected in a good way.

To wrap this up, I do have a lot to learn. If my husband wants to go "balls deep" in my ass and it takes an enema to make him comfortable, that's what I will do.

Thanks for the suggestions!

More power to you, @Dahiana Here's wishing you success with everything that is about to transpire.

@Dahiana I am happy for you and your husband that you are both of the same mind. 😃

We were both giving each other a lot of space, too much space, and not giving each other credit for either of us wanting to know when the other wanted something, like sex, from the other. I'm guilty of that and he is, too, and I think we are both a little surprised that it is a good thing to be a little selfish and let the other know when we have a need for something.

That was where my husband and I were not that long ago. It is good that younger couples find out this and commit themselves to making things work out for their marriage and themselves. I think you'll find enemas aren't half bad at all. 😉

Good luck to you and your husband. 🌹

@Dahiana ...

Right at this moment, with things changing the way they are and so fast, I am finding out I don't need a "mother figure" or an older woman that can teach me how to screw another woman.

... normally I would probably comment with something like ... 'bitch' ... 😄 ... but you have to love ...

I already have a Mom and she is very human, warts and all, and pretty wise, herself. 🌹

That relationship with your mother ... and the communication you will develop with your husband ... will get you where you need to go ... have fun and enjoy! 🌹

My husband and I have been having some serious talks about anal intercourse. To my surprise, he seems to be fairly open to anal sex, with me, AND, from me. 😃 I have been reading extensively here about the use of enemas for getting clean enough for anal sex and today, or tonight, rather, I am going to let him give me an enema to see how it feels.

I have a couple of Fleet enemas in the past, they weren't anything, and there wasn't anything sexy about either of them. I gave them to myself to soften up my stool because I was straining too hard and that was all I could think of to help out.

But tonight, or in a couple of hours, I am going to take my clothes off and let my husband give me an enema with an enema bag we recently got, today as a matter of fact. I have to admit that the idea of letting anyone, even my husband, put something into my ass is a little new to me. He is the only one I have ever tried anal sex with, and that has been quite awhile ago.

So, we shall see how this goes.

I'm not really sure what I am feeling right now.

@Dahiana

But tonight, or in a couple of hours, I am going to take my clothes off and let my husband give me an enema with an enema bag we recently got, today as a matter of fact. I have to admit that the idea of letting anyone, even my husband, put something into my ass is a little new to me. He is the only one I have ever tried anal sex with, and that has been quite awhile ago.

My first real anal sex was with my husband and I had been using those little Fleet enemas before we played around back there. Then I started doing them in front of him before we 'got busy' and it turned him on to watch me give myself an enema. I think I've talked about that over on my thread, so I won't go into it again. I will say that it wasn't long before I asked him to give me the enemas and by that time I had figured out that a Fleet enema wasn't the best for my body. So he and I did some research and I had a friend who I knew did enemas.

I liked the fact that I pretty much 'gave myself over' to my husband when he was giving me an enema. I was 'submitting' to him and allowing him to put something into my rectum and lay there and let it happen. I liked it.

What is it that has you uncertain? I guess I am at a loss as to what you are asking or saying.

@Dahiana I have tried other positions for anal sex but really I know that doing it in the doggy position is right for me. I think it just makes me a bit more opened up really. When we do it it just happens and we have not taken any time thinking about it. We have been doing it like that since I was 17 and I always enjoy it.

@Ms_Lila I'm going to just take some advice I got in a PM not long ago. 😉

You fill up your enema bag - you take your clothes off, you lay down or whatever, he puts the tube in your ass, and you take the enema. 😉 It's not rocket science - he'll love doing it, maybe have cold hands 😉 but it's an enema. Take it slow - talk him through it, and let him watch, then rinse and repeat! 😈

I was told I think too much. 😉

Actually, this ought to be a lot of fun and this will be my first "real" enema with a goal of more than just to soften my stool. It should be fun. 😉

@Dahiana I have tried other positions for anal sex but really I know that doing it in the doggy position is right for me. I think it just makes me a bit more opened up really. When we do it it just happens and we have not taken any time thinking about it. We have been doing it like that since I was 17 and I always enjoy it.

@Amethyst that's how I tried it before with my husband but we didn't really know what we were doing and it was rushed. We tried a couple of times before we were married and it was interesting. We did it with a condom those times, because of wanting to be clean, and it worked for the most part.

Tonight, and it will be tonight because we will be doing the enemas on me and doggy style is definitely going to be our starting position. We've got a ton of lubrication and I am looking forward to it, and so is he. 😃

@Dahiana I like this advice that @Amethyst wrote,

When we do it it just happens and we have not taken any time thinking about it. We have been doing it like that since I was 17 and I always enjoy it.

Other than you getting enemas from your husband, just let things happen and don't really put a whole lot of thought into just doing it. It's you and your husband and you have both tried anal sex before. Now you have added something new, the enemas, to the mix and you both just need to go for it. 😄

I wasn't a big fan of enemas, not because I didn't like them, I just never really thought about them as anything more than something to clear the way. It turns out they are good foreplay all by themselves. 😉

Just go for it and as @Lora_C must have told you

Think less - fuck more, how hard is that?

How can you argue with that? 😁 😁 😁

@Dahiana Could you please let us know how your evening went? Thanks, Mike

I really don't know what to think, and that's not a bad thing, it's just that I don't know. 🙄 I did cheat and give myself an enema before my husband got home, just to be on the safe side. I did not want to have an accident and explode all over myself, my husband, the ceiling fan, and the cat. There is no comparison with that first enema I gave myself and those little Fleet enemas I used years ago. I did not know what to expect, but I definitely did not mind putting the nozzle in at all. I liked that, and I used the douche nozzle and not that little rinky-dink enema nozzle. But I really did like the feel of it as I pushed it into my ass.

Then I opened up the clamp, it sounded like a garden hose spitting like one does when you first turn it on, and I bet I wasn't a minute into the water running in me before I felt a very definite urge to purge. I barely made it up off of the bathroom floor and onto the toilet, and some pretty foul stuff came out of me like a shot. The smell wasn't as bad as some of the diapers my kids filled up when they were still wearing them, but I definitely had issues. 😶

I used to play a lot of sports, volley ball, soft ball, tennis, and that old adage of, "try, try, and try again", was in the works for me. Getting rid of that little bit of an enema was explosive, noisy, and, as I said, fragrant. I was going great guns for a little while and then I think I ran out of water. I flushed, got up, cleaned off my rear-end and looked at my brand new enema bag. I hardly put a dent in it! So, down on the floor and the towel covered rug, and I grabbed the douche nozzle and lined it up with me again. I had to clean it off after I pulled it out of me that first time because, I was full of shit. I began to slip it up in there again but it was pretty tough going and not sliding it like that first time after I had put some lube on it. I appears that I had scoured that away from getting rid of that first little bit of enema I did.

So, back to the KY, a very generous dollop on the end of the douche nozzle and, zip, right in and no problem. I opened up the clam on the enema tubing, I had hung the bag on the shower rod, and this time I felt the streams of water spurting out of the little holes and it was one strange sensation. I looked up at the bag as it was emptying into me, and it had been going fast and then started to slow down and that was when I really started to feel the urge again. I shut the clamp down like I've read here, but that pressure wasn't going way and I started to get a little bit of a cramp. My bag wasn't even halfway done when I had to make another dash for the toilet. I'm glad no one was home to hear all of that farting, splashing, grunting, let alone the fragrance. It was pretty intense.

I stayed on the toilet, flushing a couple of times while I was filling it up, just to keep down the smell. Right about this time I'm thinking that enemas aren't that romantic. But I let it all out, cleaned myself up again, wiped off that douche nozzle, and put some more KY on it again because I figure the lubrication had been shot straight out of my ass and directly into the sewer. But as I was doing this, I could feel my stomach and lower down, just churning and gurgling away. Another dash to the toilet and last years BBQ crash landed in the commode! 😮 Oh yeah, this is so romantic! Not!

I'm not even half way done with emptying my enema bag! And I'm too damned OCD or "anal retentive" to stop there, because my goal was to take the whole bag. Some more KY, I get back down on the floor, line it up, and in it goes. I liked the feeling of that douche nozzle. 😃 So, I played with it in my ass for awhile. I was stalling.

I opened the clamp up again and I really felt the spray from the little hose hitting me inside. This time the bag emptied pretty fast and I did cramp a little bit but it passed pretty quick when I shut the clamp or just pinched the hose and waited it out. I felt the water running way up there, and then I heard the bag make a little "sucking" sound when it went totally flat. It sounded exactly like someone sucking on a straw for the last bit of chocolate shake at the bottom of the cup. When I heard that, I had to laugh because I've been told that my ass sucks wind sometimes. Today, it did!

I got enema number two in with a lot easier time and I only had to stop a little under half way through the bag. When I hooked myself up to it again, I took the rest of the bag with just a little difficulty. The "results" were still pretty fragrant but it was a lighter shade of who the hell knows what color in the toilet bowl. There had to be some old taco shells up in there from college.

I figured one more enema and I would feel comfortable with letting my husband give me the enemas when he got home. The one thing I liked from the beginning about the enema, is that feeling of putting the douche nozzle into my ass. That feeling didn't go away and I was feeling a lot more comfortable about having my husbands cock poking around back there. I have to admit, that, strictly from the anal sex play point of view, enemas do make you feel more confident about what goes on back there. 😃 Strictly speaking from the cleanliness standpoint. 😉

I debated about a fourth enema before my husband got home, but I was too busy airing out the bathroom, and cleaning up any stray blasts from my ass. I even cleaned the toilet bowl again and I cleaned up my enema bag, too. I took a shower and I also put my clothes back on because my husband likes to take them off. 😄

It's getting late, so I'd better wind this down, and I can see why some people take a long time to tell about what has happened.

So, let's see, my husband gets home, and grandma has the kids until we call for them or they get on her last nerve, whichever comes first. My husband was as nervous as he was when we first "did it" back in school and I had him follow me into our bathroom where I had hung another full enema bag. He thought the candles were a nice touch, and I let him think that I was going for the romance angle in this little experiment of ours. 😉

I asked him if he wanted to do this, and he just nodded his head and I stepped close for him to start unbuttoning my blouse or something. His eyes were glued on the enema bag hanging from the shower rod by a piece of cord. Yes, I had figured out I had hung my enema bag too, high. Rookie mistake, so sue me! 😳

So I just did like I had read here, and I undid my pants and pulled them off and then stepped out of my panties. Finally he notices and he got that smirk on his face that I read as he approved of my outfit. I asked him if he wanted me naked or "bottomless"? He took my blouse and bra off and I padded over to the rug and the two clean bath towels covering a run and a beach towel covering them. I smoothed on some KY and he was watching like there was no tomorrow. 😉 He was looking me over like everything and I liked what I was seeing because he really hadn't looked at me like that for quite awhile.

He still had all of his clothes on and I felt really strange or sexy when I laid down on the rug pretty much at his feet. On my way down, I accidentally let my breasts brush the front of his jeans and he was putting his zipper to the test. 😁 I was down in position and waiting while he got the douche nozzle from the little hook, and then got down on his knees behind me. We were both looking right into each other's faces and eyes and we were both thinking, "This just got real!" 😎

I am very tired right now and I'm going to crawl into bed with my husband. No, we did not do anal on me tonight for a couple of reasons. One was that BOTH of us were so turned on with him putting the douche nozzle in my ass that we were surprised at how "erotic" that was. It was a totally different feeling for me having him put the nozzle into my ass than me doing it on myself. I really don't know how to describe it, and I'm too tired to try to think it through, but it was way more than either one of us imagined. I was able to take the full bag on the first enema he gave me and he did step out when I got rid of it.

We were getting me into position for the second enema he was going to give me, but we were just blown aways by the whole thing, that he took me right there on the bathroom floor. That was intense all by itself and it had been way too long for us and we both came in a very short time. We caught our breath and rolled me onto my side and I started getting horny again when I felt him slide the douche nozzle into me again. I was still hot and he was playing with the nozzle in my ass the whole time we were giving me that second enema by him.

I had a lot to clean up when I got up to get rid of the enema and his contribution to our play.

The third enema was over-the-top as we tried it on my back and, bingo! We both wondered what it would be like if we had sex while I had an enema going on. We, at least were smart enough, to wait for us to cum before starting the water, but that second time we had sex, well, we actually just fucked! Then we gave me the enema as we caught our breath. That was my sixth enema and the second time he ravaged me.

Right now I'm going to shut this computer down and crawl back in bed with my very own "hose monster" and maybe in the morning we can plan a little better. We didn't get around to the anal, I think I said that, because grandma only had one nerve and our kids were walking all over it. I have say she did hold out for a long time, though. 😉

Tomorrow, or later today, since it is tomorrow, my husband and I will work out a better plan, but I think he's liking the giving me enemas. I'm not sure if I really like the actual enema or what they lead up to.

I just don't know how to think about enemas. I had a good time, and felt more confident, but can these things really be that erotic or were we just horny as hell?

Night. 🌹

Congratulations, @Dahiana. I'm mightily impressed at so many aspects of this, not least of which being your progression, in just your first attempt, from enema virgin to accomplished klismo. 6 bags in a session, no matter whether they were taken, as with your first, a bit at a time or both quarts in one shot, is quite a feat. Be sure to stay hydrated (Gatorade is your friend) and here's wishing you and your husband everlasting fun in the adventures to come now that the enama door, and your back door have been opened to this wonderfully, somewhat deviant, land of sexual opportunity.

@Dahiana

I just don't know how to think about enemas. I had a good time, and felt more confident, but can these things really be that erotic or were we just horny as hell?

That is pretty much how my husband and I started out with our own brand of 'exploration' except you invited him at the beginning to give you an enema. So in that respect you are ahead of the game and I hope you two keep the communication going with each other.

You may have overdone the enemas but I get why you did those three before your husband joined in. Especially how you described the sights, sounds, and 'fragrance' of just getting cleaned out that first time. Believe me I started paying a little more attention to what I ate after my first few enemas. 😉

Like you, I wasn't real sure I liked the whole enema thing but I was mainly doing it so that I could relax more and not worry when my husband penetrated my bum. They feel strange at first and they do enhance my masturbation and after awhile I came to like an enema for just the sake of having an enema and while I masturbate. 😃

I know what you mean when you said

He still had all of his clothes on and I felt really strange or sexy when I laid down on the rug pretty much at his feet. On my way down, I accidentally let my breasts brush the front of his jeans and he was putting his zipper to the test. 😁 I was down in position and waiting while he got the douche nozzle from the little hook, and then got down on his knees behind me. We were both looking right into each other's faces and eyes and we were both thinking, "This just got real!" 😎

Just remember it more fun when it is a two way street at giving and getting what you both want out of your sex life. It really just boils down to communication and making time to be a pervert with each other.

Enjoy!

@Dahiana ...

I was told I think too much.

... nah! Not you! 🙄

I'll try this again.

I am going to have to make myself some humble pie, a big one. 😳 I also should have spoken a little more sweetly because I am having to eat my words, too, and have to admit that maybe, just maybe, I didn't know what I was talking about. Since late Tuesday on the 22nd until late last night, I've given myself a total of 5 enemas and my husband has given me 20! 😮 I know, it is super rookie of me to keep count of my enemas, but this is blowing my mind over what these things have done for our sex life.

When I wrote my last post here back on Tuesday, really early on Wednesday, my husband and I were reconnecting with our sex life after our regular life kept getting in the way. Kids, his jobs, my jobs, his family 😮 , my family :-\\ , getting our oldest lined up for school, chasing a 3 year old all over the house and things like that.

One thing these enemas has shown me, and my husband, is that he is a butt freak! I knew he always liked my ass and would check me out if I was wearing some shorts or those pants he likes, but he is really getting into giving me enemas. Like I said a while back, I gave myself enemas to get ready for us to try anal sex and he didn't hesitate much when I asked him if he wanted to give me an enema those first times. 😉 I noticed that he seemed harder when we fucked that night even though we didn't get to the anal part until later on the 23rd.

We got my Mom to babysit the kids and that evil old woman knew that something was going on. She said she would watch the kids for as long as we needed but their bed time is 8 p.m. This time my husband and I were going to go for the anal right off and he wanted to give me an enema, which I thought was a good idea because it had been a few hours since he gave me my last enema.

There is a world of difference in my opinion, of me giving myself an enema, and him giving me an enema. That first enema he gave me was when he was wearing his clothes and I was totally naked right down there at his feet. I don't know what it was about it, but that turned me on all by itself but when he got down behind me, I was feeling all sorts of sensations, and being vulnerable was one of them.

I did ask him to keep his clothes on while I got naked and got the enema bag ready. I wanted to see if I felt the same way I did the night before when he gave me that first enema from him. I usually don't like being vulnerable or whatever, but this was different and I'm not real sure why. I had said something earlier about how different it is when I gave myself those enema than when my husband gave me those enemas. Maybe it was because he was calling the shots and I was just there for the ride, or having to trust him to do it right, or being his "sex object" or all of it. I don't really know right now, but when he put that douche nozzle into my ass it felt great. Not too big, and not too small, and I could definitely tell that something was being slid into my ass. I wasn't in control of it and I guess what I was feeling was the fact that I was totally on the receiving end of what he was doing to me.

It was like that for the other two enemas he gave me that first time, or during that first "session" (?) For this particular "session" where we both wanted to get to the anal sex part, we were pretty comfortable with him giving me the enema. I was still pretty cleaned out from that earlier time that day, and he gave me the enema without much problem. We had figured out how to control the flow better and I hardly cramped at all. I got rid of that enema and we decided to give me one more before we got into the anal and he was straining at the zipper. He wanted to get his pants off to relieve the pressure his hard-on was giving him but, I wanted him to keep his clothes on because I was liking it. 😈 So, he did. 😉

He felt a lot more comfortable putting the KY up my butt and then the nozzle. I almost felt sorry for his dick behind that zipper but not really. 😉 This was my 8th enema and the 5th one from him. I know. I know. It is so rookie of me keeping count like this. 😳 But there I was laying bare-assed naked right down there on the floor at his feet as he stood over me holding my enema bag. He had to stand up, he said, because kneeling down behind him really put him in a "bind" with his erection. 😄 I like to talk and I kept asking him what he was feeling when he was giving me an enema. He has a great way with words and basically just shrugged his shoulders and grinned. His eyes were fixated on my ass with that enema hose in it and his jeans were really tight right behind his zipper.

I got rid of that enema and we walked around the house for a little bit because I have found that not all of the enema comes out that first time. He kept his clothes on, because I wanted him to, and I walked around for him to keep him interested. There was a little more enema to get out and when that was done it was time for us to try that anal on me.

When he took off his jeans he was rock hard as could be and I was down on my knees helping him to step out of them. I've only gone down on him a couple of times and we were both basically three sheets in the wind when I did it. I didn't swallow back then but I couldn't resist putting his dick into my mouth. I was totally sober, unlike the last times, and having his dick in my mouth was "interesting" and surprising at how hot it felt and now he smelled. I liked that and the whole thing and his balls hanging down there. I took my time and really looked at his "package" and the veins and his ball sack, the hair, and really how hard his dick was. It does something to me when I think about it being ME that makes him so hard and I was tempted to suck on him while I had him in my mouth. Well, I did suck a couple of times, but we were going to go for anal and not a blow job.

So now he's naked and stoked up and we're feeling all sorts of possibilities for us, and now it's time to "do me" in my ass, like we wanted to try. All by themselves, these enemas were doing wonders for our sex life, probably because it is new, but I tell you, our imaginations are starting to run wild.

But back to our first real anal. 😉 Once again he gets behind me and I am on all fours and then I went into what I've seen here as "boobs down - butt up" and I hand him the KY. I told him to start out with one finger and I would let him know when he could do two, and then three, and so on. It's my ass and my pussy (I can't believe I'm talking like this 😉 ) and I start feeling at his mercy again. The douche enema nozzle was no big deal when I was getting an enema and so his finger with KY on it wasn't that much bigger. Even though he had KY on it, I could feel some of the callous on his finger when he put it in my ass. It was not a bad feeling at all and it was so cool having him do that back there. I know I was getting wet while he did his job. Then I gave him the go-ahead to try the other finger in me and he put some more KY on and started.

Surprisingly, this was working out pretty good and it wasn't hurting at all, not the way he was doing it and I could feel myself stretch a little at a time. Then it was time for his third finger and this time it was feeling pretty crowded back there, but in a good way and I know I was totally wet. I kept asking him if I was clean and if there was anything left and he said that it was OK and to relax. But I could not relax because when he was working his fingers in and out of my ass, his other fingers would bump up against my pussy and I'm sure it was not "accidental" but it was totally OK with me. 😃

After awhile, we both figured it was time for the real thing and so I rolled a condom onto his dick and I smoothed on some KY and he turned me around and I got back into the "boobs down - butt up" position, he put some more KY back there and then I felt his big hands right at my hips on either side and then he pushed my head down further. It was show time! 😄

He went in a little, held it there, and then backed out a little. He went in a little more and held it there, and then backed out a little. Each time he would go in a little further, and then back out a little. After a few minutes of this back and forth and him going deeper, I felt a little "snap" or "pop" or something and then he slid his dick all of the way into me and held it there. That little snap or pop was like a ring or something giving way inside of my ass and it stung a little but his dick sliding in kept it from hurting. If that makes sense.

He's telling me he is all of the way in and I'm feeling like I've never, ever, had something that big in my ass in my life! I was feeling very full and "impaled" and we just kept still while I tried to get used to that feel. I'm not sure how to describe it, but I was feeling full and so much pressure and I guessing that the full feeling was what I felt most. He was telling me how tight I felt and that his whole dick was feeling "wrapped" up snug all of the way. I'm not sure, but I felt like I could feel his pulse through his dick or maybe that was my own heartbeat or just me throbbing from his giant dick being all the way in my ass.

We got used to that feeling and nature started taking over his body and he started moving inside of me. I was totally OK with that and it felt good having that action going on in my ass. It isn't like he is in my vagina, that kind of feeling, which is the absolute best for my money, but it was good. I don't think I could orgasm by anal alone, (I'm looking back over what we did, since we did anal two more times since that first time) but I instinctively started rubbing my "clit" while he was doing his thing back there. 😃 Him fucking my ass was a very strange feeling for me and he was doing me just like he always does when he takes me from behind vaginally, only now he was in my ass. There is a point when we are fucking that I just lose it and I'm not thinking about anything and only feeling. Rubbing my clit and him fucking me in my ass just melded into one blur and it was a good kind of blur.

My husband came and so did I but mine was from working my clit and just the whole experience in general. I'm not sure where a lot of the women I've read about can claim to having anal orgasms, but I may not be one of those women. I did get off, but it was by working my clit and him playing with my breasts, kissing the back of my neck, and generally running those fingertips all over and him knowing my "sweet spots" and where to kiss, or touch me.

This is so damn long, but I can understand why people seem to go on and on about this. This is all new to me, especially the enemas. I am very sentimental even though I sometimes come off as a total bitch. I am also very judgmental about somethings that people do with their lives and I am mostly a black and white kind of person. I am also just plain mental sometimes. 😉

I'm not sure if I will be writing a whole lot more here at zity.biz because there is only so much you can write before people get tired of hearing the same old thing. ALTHOUGH there are a few stories here I wish some people would write more about. Yes, I am sentimental. I was looking for something when I came here and I found it. I have a better understanding of why people do what they do and I'm learning how to seduce my husband all over again. I may or may not want to fuck another woman, that may still happen, but for now I've got a house to run, kids to raise, jobs to work, and a whole lot more to learn. I may even take my Mom out to lunch IF she doesn't even say, "I TOLD YOU SO!" I may be feeling sentimental right now, but that doesn't mean I'm going to take any shit. 😈

I think I'll keep my membership here, there are more pointers I can can pick up and take home. This has been an eye-opener. By the way, my husband has about 20 enemas coming before we're even. 😉 I will be collecting on them.

This was a good thing for me to do. 🌹

I think I'll keep my membership here, there are more pointers I can can pick up and take home.

Yes @Dahiana there are a lot of topics here that maybe you will find arousing and give you ideas. There are a lot of topics that make you remember things too. I have written posts after reading some that brought back memories and if I read them again in future they help me to keep remembering as well as now.

Maybe you will some times do new things that you have found extremely exciting and you could write about those.

There are a lot of topics that make you remember things too. I have written posts after reading some that brought back memories and if I read them again in future they help me to keep remembering as well as now.

@Amethyst that is something to consider and I will think about that. There are those here who have done it and I can see how that would be something for them to remember.

This has been a real trip for me and I am glad I came here. 🌹

Dahiana, I hope you decide to stay on here for the long haul. You're learning a lot in a hurry, and we are definitely not getting tired of your posts! We enjoy your innocence and your experimentation!

You go girl!

I think your hubby definitely needs to catch up with you in the enema department.

Each of us have a slightly different view on things. That's what makes this such an interesting place.

@Amethyst

Yes @Dahiana there are a lot of topics here that maybe you will find arousing and give you ideas. There are a lot of topics that make you remember things too. I have written posts after reading some that brought back memories and if I read them again in future they help me to keep remembering as well as now.

@Dahiana I haven't been here very long but I do look back at some of what I wrote when I got here. It's interesting to see how some things have changed for me and my husband just during the short time that I have been here. Unlike you, I found here after my husband and I decided to expand our sex play and experiment with different ways. But like you, we started out using enemas to be able to play 'back there' and I did most of my early enemas solo, as they are called here. I wasn't really sure how I felt about them either.

The more I used enemas and the more comfortable I got with them the better I liked them. Also like you and your husband, my husband seemed to like watching me take and enema and when he got over being nervous, he liked giving me an enema. I have to say that your husband is a lot like mine when he figured out it was fun to give me an enema. 😄 For awhile he was giving me at least two enemas a day and when we had time, I got more. It all wasn't just about anal sex either. 😉 We have talked about his liking to give me an enema and he said that he just liked playing with my bum and that he thought it looked sexy with the enema tube in me. 😃 I've seen how enema tubes in other women's, and men's, bums look and it is sexy. 😉 BUT my ratio of enemas that I get from him to the number I give to him is about one and a half enemas that he gives me to every one I give to him. Right now I think your husband is running at 15:0 for you. 😉 Time to even the score and I think he will like them, too.

Please stick around and let us know how your own brand of exploration is going. It does take a little time to write about it but you will have something to look back on and there are some good memories there. 😃

@Dahiana

I think I'll keep my membership here, there are more pointers I can can pick up and take home. This has been an eye-opener. By the way, my husband has about 20 enemas coming before we're even. I will be collecting on them.

You may as well stick around - this is a good place to get ideas, and an even better place to 'keep the memories alive' while you slowly turn into a 'butt slut' or some other flavor of pervert. 😉

I liked reading about your - 'first real anal' and it sounds like you did it the right way, nice and slow, and with lots of lube. No matter how experienced you become with anal - lube it up and lube it up and lube it up. I've found that with enemas - they tend to wash away any lubrication that may or may not have been present before you started playing around back there. Believe me - I do enemas before anal, and even though I'm usually good and wet in the pussy department, an enema will take away any prior lube put there from before, then it's like being 'dry holed'. 😶 That's not a real good feeling - unless you like a little or a lot of pain, for that first penetration of your ass. I'll stay with my - warm up and generous amounts of KY applied by either myself or the guy, or gal, who will be exploring what I have to offer in the way of my ass. 😉

Right now @Dahiana - I wouldn't be too damned concerned about being 'even' with your husband as far as how many enemas you give to each other. If you want to get your sex life back into full swing - or keep the flame going on your little adventure, be available to be fucked whenever he gets a wild hair and decides to act on it. You don't sound like the type to 'play hard to get' - and with you and your young family, the fact is that it is just 'hard to get' the time, the privacy, the energy, the mood. 😧

With your husband giving you 20 enemas - I'd bet the farm that he is into your ass and likes sticking things up there, and glad to have a willing 'slut' like you to do it with. Yes - you are a fucking slut 😄 or more like his fucking slut because there is no way that a guy will give you 20 enemas and not like doing it. No @Dahiana - your husband is into your ass, pun intended, and you like that fact whether you want to admit it or not. I mean @Dahiana - 20 enemas? If you weren't liking them - or they weren't getting you what you want, I seriously doubt that you would 'allow' some guy, even your husband, to give you 20 enemas. No @Dahiana - you are a 'butt slut' and BOTH you and your husband are loving exploring it. Why the hell else - would you allow your kids to be babysat by their bat shit crazy grandmother so that you and your husband can play and get 'reaquainted'?

Just make sure you communicate - don't let him 'grunt' answers, get ahold of his cock and 'coax' answers out of him, don't either of you go into a shell. Because - sweet cheeks, not communicating is the worst thing you can do, I know, and if you want to make your marriage hot again, decide right now if you want to be his slut, then act like it for him. 😉 And maybe get your mother something special - a cruise around the world, a fancy dinner somewhere she doesn't have to cater, or a case of KY. 🌹

Have fun - SLUT! 😄 😄 😄 🌹 🌹 🌹

Where to start answering this, @Lora_C?

Right now @Dahiana - I wouldn't be too damned concerned about being 'even' with your husband as far as how many enemas you give to each other.

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With your husband giving you 20 enemas - I'd bet the farm that he is into your ass and likes sticking things up there, and glad to have a willing 'slut' like you to do it with. Yes - you are a fucking slut 😄 or more like his fucking slut because there is no way that a guy will give you 20 enemas and not like doing it.

Yes @Lora_C enemas to have their charm, that is for sure and I do like having my butt played with by my husband. The only thing with all of these enemas he's been giving me, is that we are having to read up on keeping all of those enemas from playing havoc with my system. Luckily there are some posts here that are helping me do that, like drink Gatorade, eat things with a lot of fiber, electrolytes, vitamins, and all of that. And @Lora_C my enema count stands at 26 and I've pretty much set aside playing catch up for awhile. I've got to get this enema stuff sorted out pretty quick so that I don't get those shakes like I did the night before last, and I figured it was because of all of the enemas I've been getting.

I've read something here about "recipes" for enemas to help keep your system in a little better balance. So far, I am going to be trying the "salt and soda" enema which is supposed to help with absorption. With all of the enemas, I've been having to pee about 10 times more than I used to, even when I was pregnant and had a kid sitting right on top of my bladder. I think that the "salt and soda" enema should take care of a lot of that, I hope. :-\\ The constant peeing isn't my biggest concern, though, and I need to find out how to replace whatever it is that I lose with all of these enemas as far as nutrients, vitamins, minerals, and getting a chapped ass. 😮

In just a passing note, there were some "recipes" for enemas that sounded as you, @Lora_C, said, "bat shit crazy", as far as putting something up your butt. One of the recipes, by someone, was called a "Very Rough Ride" enema. I just relocated it here at this link,

😮 https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=425330 😧

and I think my tender butt will wait a long time before I even think about trying that.

But for the last few enemas I've had, I've eaten more fiber and drank a whole lot more water than normal. This, to me, that was a little counter-intuitive because the enemas I get have been water and I would have thought I would have been hydrated more because of them, and because I had to pee so much. There are a couple of enema recipes though that I think might be worth trying, and they are the coffee enema, a chamomile tea enema, and maybe a wine enema. 😃 I've heard about coffee enemas and thought, "No way!", but I'm not thinking that is too far out there. 😉

@Lora_C, as for

And maybe get your mother something special - a cruise around the world, a fancy dinner somewhere she doesn't have to cater, or a case of KY. 🌹

It is the kids' "bat shit crazy grandmother" who should be getting me something for allowing her to babysit her grandchildren. 😁 😁 😁